How do u emotionally process a shitty childhood?

vandaalen · 2017-03-31T10:24:40+00:00

How much do you SQ, DL, BP?

redpill-account · 2017-03-31T12:43:54+00:00

CBT and psycho analysis

RPmatrix · 2017-03-31T10:57:48+00:00

I found it really helped to accept that, even though they fucked up plenty, my parents tried to do the best they could when raising my siblings and I.

Now I'm as old as they were and understand just how 'tricky' parenting in a dysfunctional relationship can be, I realize I made a wise decision.

parents are human and fuck up, sometimes badly and in ways that affect their kids.

Most of the time this is NOT intentional and IME had they known better or had a better way, they would've used it.

Heathcliff-- · 2017-03-31T12:43:37+00:00

Write in a diary.

Jordan Petersons self authoring suite.

mrpthrowa · 2017-03-31T11:36:22+00:00

You were a child, now you're a fucking adult. Is this shit gonna follow you for years? Swallowing the red pill should make you snap out of the victim mentality. The blue pill world goes on and on about fee fees and the perfect childhood and difficulties and what not. Do you want a teddy bear?

Man the fuck up. Children before you had their villages sacked, their mothers and sisters raped in front of them, they had all sorts of illness and viruses that are now extinct, they often grew up without any parents, yet they grew up to be MEN. Fuck, children today still have these problems.

Yes man the fuck up, stop dwelling and hamstering in your own head. that is what is holding you back.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-03-31T16:47:32+00:00

Really, the best thing to do is say to yourself "My parents did the best they could with what they knew", and move on, even if they were toxic and sucky (although if they were toxic and sucky, cut contact, etc.)

You can either choose to be happy, or you can wallow in toxic fuckery and thereby ruin your adulthood, also. Your call.

Scrubpuppy · 2017-03-31T12:51:21+00:00

I dealt with mine by not thinking about it. I was an only child. My absent father was an addict loser who didn't teach me anything. My mom was a night shift metal worker in a plant. We had a small farm and I worked that thing like a fucking slave. When I left at 18 to join the Corps, I said I was never going back and I haven't. It's been cake ever since. Dad got clean and wanted a relationship at the end of his life, and I poured all of that hatred of growing up alone into telling him to fuck off.

Put that shit in the past. Let it make you hard.

Westernhagen · 2017-03-31T13:32:06+00:00

You have read "When I Say Know, I Feel Guilty" and "No More Mr Nice Guy", right? If not, start there.

TryhardPantiesON · 2017-03-31T14:54:10+00:00

I am gonna recommend you read No more Mr. Nice Guy, he speaks about boundaries,, seeking validation, and how to overcome traumas of childhood, do it inmediately, also you might want to research what covert incest is, don't panic, it isn't what you think it is.

Risinglucian · 2017-03-31T15:00:46+00:00

Jordan Peterson's lectures are a good starting point.

RedSkeller · 2017-03-31T18:59:00+00:00

Sort it out and make peace with it and move on. I had a less than normal childhood, moved around often and had abusive people in it. Do your best to forgive and not repeat similar mistakes. If you're still having trouble see a professional who will challenge you.

throw162534 · 2017-03-31T19:24:46+00:00

You think guys 30,000 years ago gave a shit about their fucked up childhoods? I doubt it. Dad raped mom in a cave somewhere in Southern Germany then fell off a cliff when he was out fetching water. Mom died from the flu when you were 6. You were raised by the clan and lived a hard, malnourished existence that ended when you were 30 years old because you scraped your dick on a rock and got an infection.

That's how I process my childhood. Billions of other people throughout human history have had it worse.

wheresMYsteakAt · 2017-04-01T02:49:54+00:00

Read Growing Yourself Back Up and stop being a little bitch.

Title	How do u emotionally process a shitty childhood?
Author	Becherlupe
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Date	March 31, 2017 10:17 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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