How do you guys deal with beta-hate?

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-02-27T14:49:52+00:00

Winners don't feel sorry for the losers. You just played the game better than they did.

SilenceOnTheWire · 2019-02-27T16:48:06+00:00

People who are envious of you try to make you feel bad for being better. It's like they are saying, "Lower yourself for us or else", else being them turning on you. Don't do it, it's a mistake. They will just resent you and feel even contempt.

Ideally, you should be very careful when making other people envy you. It might be satisfying, but it doesn't really compensate in the long run. It just creates a ton of enemies.

You already did so the best solution is to get better friends. Or if you are particularly manipulative, you could convince them that they could be just like you only the others are holding them down, and so turn them against each other with you at the center of it. There isn't much point in this though. You are better off spending your time on more productive things.

MattyAnon · 2019-02-27T17:24:45+00:00

My only issue is feeling apologetic for my success

I feel like I deserve every win I work hard for

Do you see the conflict here?

The trick is to deserve every success, brag about it a little, but also celebrate the successes of others. Be kinder in your assessment of them and their lives, appreciate people and the things they do.

As you get better it becomes necessary to show liking of others. This is charisma. Both being successful/powerful, but also displaying liking, generosity of spirit, abundance of care, etc. If you don't do this, you become hated as a successful outsider rather than an appreciated leader of the group.

rugged79 · 2019-02-27T18:46:17+00:00

Get a new Lamborghini? It better be gray or black because "red is too much".

Lift some weights and get some muscle? "You're the same guy, you just got a new paint job."

Get some better clothes and some upgraded style? "Oh you think you're GQ model materiel now?"

Haters gonna hate. It's your job to make them hate. If you don't improve at all and no one hates you, you're not doing your job.

Just like everyone else that doesn't work hard at their job, shops at the Baby Gap for their clothes and sits on the couch with the Cheetos and ice cream.

If you never improve, go anywhere, do anything and stay perfectly still, no one will hate you. But you'll be a "nice" guy.

Title	How do you guys deal with beta-hate?
Author	goodboygod
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	February 27, 2019 2:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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