How do you handle anger?

fnordsnord · 2014-12-18T01:33:15+00:00

I'm quite the pissy bastard myself. I try to hold frame by getting cold. I still come off as butthurt, but at least I'm in control.

Intimid8d · 2014-12-19T19:59:05+00:00

As someone who deals with angry OFTEN, some due to myself getting angry at situations and other because of mental reasons, medically. But nontheless anger is there. There is nothing to STOP YOU from getting angry. Its what you do with the anger that defines who and what you are.

Look at it from a logical perspective, when you feel the rage coming on, ask yourself: What difference will it make if I get angry and irrational? Honestly if you are angry and make a rash decision, later you will most likely pay for it.

When people are pushing your buttons trying to get the best out of you, understand they are doing that to get on your nerves and make you anger make you lose frame, FORCE you out of your shell. People will attempt to get a rise out of you all the time, just because they know your rage...its your weakness, make it a strength. Let them try to poke and prod and get frustrated when you dont budge.

What I did for a long time is I made a game out of it. I played a game every time I started feeling the rage. It was pretty much, lets see if I can make them argue themselves into a corner before they get me angry. And then it became a 1 on 1 battle of the wits to make them stop talking. Once they did I had this inner glow like "I win"... If I lose then I would politely excuse myself from the conversation, use the wash or something, and then continue on with life. I think my record is 44 straight wins.

Title	How do you handle anger?
Author	supremerplurker
Upvotes	0
Comments	2
Date	December 18, 2014 1:19 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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