How do you internally validate yourself?

itsvyktbaby · 2021-05-01T02:09:55+00:00

Pick things you want to do. Evaluate yourself by how well you’ve accomplished those things, and whether it’s your fault or not. Realise others likely can’t accurately evaluate you because they don’t understand your personality and your circumstances.

Also, you’re not the voice in your head or your job. Don’t attach your sense of self to material things or emotional states, they come and go, your inner self on the other hand remains constant.

jjj2576 · 2021-05-01T03:43:21+00:00

I usually feel more validated with myself after lifting heavy things.

falconiawillfall · 2021-05-01T02:27:50+00:00

Meditation

Andrew54321 · 2021-04-30T23:57:56+00:00

Accept my strengths as my leverage. Accept my weaknesses as my to-improve or outsource list.

platoschild · 2021-05-01T00:48:23+00:00

Nobody is perfect. So whatever ideal you’re chasing, it would be best to abandon it. It’s unattainable. For your father to expect perfection is unreasonable.

Validating yourself comes from accepting who you are, flaws and all. Once you’ve done that, I promise you won’t care about anyone’s opinion but yours

TheDevilPutD · 2021-05-01T05:34:42+00:00

Realize that external validation is a social program that is always running in the back of your mind. What do we really need as men? Some shelter, a warm meal and a warm hole to put our dick in. Our evolutionary imperative is to spread our seed to as many hot women as possible. At one point in human history, people in power realized they could harness this great power and motivation men have and turn it into something productive, like accomplishing stuff and working for the good of society. Enter the Matrix. Give it hundreds of thousands of years and now there is a very simple equation in your head. Work=Sex and the only way to feel good about yourself and give yourself approval is to work, achieve, sacrifice your own needs and desires for the good of others. In your case, your dads disapproval only makes you work harder and harder and yet you are still unhappy.

Break out of the matrix my friend. Give yourself approval and permission to be confident and happy. Serve yourself own needs only. You are not really accomplishing all of these things for yourself, you only do it to move society forward. Do what you were out on earth to do. Fuck hot girls.

pepskino · 2021-05-01T17:27:06+00:00

Listen to cocky music old Kanye or anything like that in whatever type of music u listen too ...watch strong alpha movies James Bond etc Shit like that.. get your mind into frame of being alpha confident .. also watch the company u keep ,and all other things you allow your brain to absorb

Title	How do you internally validate yourself?
Author	s1t2i3
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	April 30, 2021 11:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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