How do you love yourself?

skorpion7777 · 2020-06-16T11:37:59+00:00

Thats a very deep question and no one will be able to give you a definite answer. I think the biggest factor is to find some things you enjoy.

There is no need in it to be something excessive like social media trys to tell you. It can be just going for a walk or listening to some music. Realize that at the end of the day you are alone and the most important thing is to find an inner peace such that you can be ok with that. Do that often enough, throw in some trp advice and you hopefully become more independent.

If it goes to extremes look for a person you really!!!!!! trust preferably family if you are on good terms. Otherwise a therapist can be an option, especially if its coming trough childhood. Remember, addiction is a disease, no shame in getting help and treating it.

Siyuen_Tea · 2020-06-16T17:45:10+00:00

Insanity. Literally seak attention from yourself. Sing to yourself in the mirror. Take a picture of yourself , talk shit about yourself and flirt with yourself. Give yourself attention as if it was someone else.

mikrodizels · 2020-06-16T12:11:53+00:00

You just do things that demonstrate respect towards yourself and things that make you proud.

A person, that respects himself takes care of his his mind, body and needs. You validate yourself.

Ravenanom · 2020-06-16T17:56:07+00:00

Do you know what love is? Have you ever loved someone else in your life? What did that feel like? Like you'd die for that person right?

Transfer that energy to yourself. You'd do anything for someone you love. So do it for yourself. Eat right because you love your body. Workout because you love yourself and want the best for your body that keeps you alive. Meditate because you love yourself and want a clean mind because you love yourself.

Be kind to yourself because you love yourself. Work to strive to be a better you because you fucking love yourself.

Do you love yourself?

Musicgoon · 2020-06-16T18:38:26+00:00

I'm sure you're going to get a bunch of answers. I can see how it can vary from person to person. I'm going to give you my answer.

First you have to internalize that everyone is different. You can't start comparing yourself to others. That's a recipe for disaster.

Know that you and everyone else around you has flaws. You'll never stop trying to fix them. Thats ok.

After that, identify what you want to change. People say that's hard, but deep down you know at least a few things you can work on. Make a list.

I personally wasn't happy with myself in my 20's. I was a pushover. Also I was very perverted and felt guilty for being a pervert. That really ruined my approaches and I thought I didn't deserve a decent woman. (I was stupid).

Next you have to realise that you won't love yourself overnight. In fact you may dislike or even hate yourself while you work on improvement. For example I used to be a total fat fuck. I did nothing about it but drown my sorrows in chili cheese fries and donuts.

Here's the most important and strange step: use your self hatred or disdain. For example. I got a gym membership. When I started it sucked. It wasn't fun. I started beating myself up. If it was a pain in the ass to go, good! If I was hurting or sore, good! If I looked like a moron, good! I told myself I was a loser and if I suffer, feel uncomfortable, or have a heart attack, that's what I deserve. I was a fat piece of garbage that didn't have anything going.

Same went for game and women. If I approach and get shot down, good! I deserve to feel that rejection sting.

Know that while you are not feeling good, you are moving forward. Eventually, I started getting dates, and making huge gains.

This leads to pride because you've accomplished something. The more you accomplish, the more your self worth rises. After that, start doing things for yourself. The self love will come from that. It just takes time.

DoubleConversation4 · 2020-06-16T12:01:32+00:00

Religion is the most basic way ever

"Every human being is beautiful, therefore I am too. So I'm good, I love myself"

So go for religion.

And lift, so your testosterone will get higher and you'll have more confidence automatically.

Meditate, so you will be able to cope with self-depreciation thoughts and toxic elements in your life

fakeaccount687 · 2020-06-16T15:14:26+00:00

Optimistic nihilism. Nothing matters and nobody is special, so you might as well make life easier for yourself by accepting what you're stuck with.

I dont love myself because I necessarily want to, I love myself because I have to. It was a miserable existence being so self conscious all the time.

Title	How do you love yourself?
Author	dsalkmsada
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Date	June 16, 2020 11:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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