How do you pace yourself when talking?

kenpachitz · 2017-01-15T20:59:19+00:00

Start fully pronouncing each word.

Uses pauses and repetition on key points.

Ask rhetorical questions. Breathe, and then continue.

Lower your voice intentionally on interesting parts.

Use your hands when you talk. Your hands can't move faster than your mouth.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-01-15T22:24:55+00:00

I noticed this myself, I was talking fast and spilling a lot of ideas, but I started realizing it diminished the value of what I was saying. When you tell a story, leave details out, focus instead on how you pace the revelation of the main points. I usually lose ppl in details - it's too much information and their brain turns off. So I simplify, slow down, sometimes I focus a point on one particular person, then draw back and look at everyone. You dont have to make eye contact all the time, but sweep your gaze all across the people youre talking to from time to time to gauge their level of investment.

Another thing is how to engage and start convos with ppl, ask "what/how" questions. "Whats that?" "What do you think of..." "How did you.." That way they have to elaborate on something instead of yes/no answers. Once you start doing it you become comfortable starting small conversations with people in line at the grocery store and stuff like that. Good way to practice. You'll notice most people will go along with an opener and try to be friendly - as long as they have someone who leads, they'll let themselves enter small talk situations and try to pull off a good impression. Cracks me up.

GeorgeBushIV · 2017-01-15T21:50:58+00:00

articulate and slow down

TomMorrow2 · 2017-01-15T22:36:43+00:00

Try talking at home alone with a metronome?

IVIaskerade · 2017-01-15T23:45:11+00:00

Practice. If you can do any public speaking or presenting, that will greatly help you, both with pacing (you have to ensure you're speaking slow enough for the sounds to be distinct at a reasonable distance) and with engagement (you have to look at your audience).

Officer_Dick_Johnson · 2017-01-16T12:57:09+00:00

You have anxiety.

Get more practice. Talk with real people. Whether online or real life. Sigh up for ESOL English class.

j_arbuckle2012 · 2017-01-16T18:50:31+00:00

Breathe. Enunciate clearly. Speak through your belly.

Talk slowly. So slowly that it feels like slow motion. And remember, especially with words: less is more.

Title	How do you pace yourself when talking?
Author	mrsambro
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Date	January 15, 2017 8:37 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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