Should girls be approaching you and grinding up to you or is it up to the guy to put in the work?

If girls don't warm to you when you approach is it simply because you're not attractive enough?

I find the whole process weird, dancing/approaching a girl in a dark room, I feel like some bird of paradise doing a silly strut to win over a mate. It feels unnatural. All the girls I've gotten with in college since September I've met outside the club, be it at a party or a bar. I feel like I should forget clubbing and put more work into sleeping as I go to the gym regularly. Any advice?