One of my best friends is slowly getting deep into the beta-state with his current gf. They've been together for over a year, and she has two kids from an earlier relationship (yes, i know..). I was really surprised when it first happened, because to me he didn't seem like the type of guy to fall into that trap. He moved in with her and the kids a few months ago. So a few weeks ago me and him when to grab some food, and he asked me a favour. He asked if he could stay at my place for a few days, as he and his gf "had some troubles". I of course told him that he could. I was kinda hoping their relationship would end, because he is no fun anymore now that he's with her. Like, he almost never wants to do stuff, except when it suits him, and i've experienced that before with other friends who've turned beta. He let me read on of the text messages from the girl, which was as long as a fucking NOVEL, and it was all about how she felt he "wasn't fully invested in their relationship" and she made a big deal about how much of a big step it was for her to let him into her kids life, and that he didn't give her enough attention etc etc..

It's fucking insane, dude moves in with her and the kids, she's at the age where she's slowly heading into "the wall", yet she's not satisfied with his commitment. I tried to cautiously tell him that he had invested a lot in her, and that she made no sense, but to no avail. He actually agreed that he wasn't doing enough for her. Later one day while we watched a movie, he was replying to her "novel", and i could see him write and erase his reply over and over again. Every single reply was something like "i want you to feel loved, i will do more to make this work" and stuff like that. I almost wanted to slap him and tell him what a fucking bitch he is.

Thing is, i held back at going to deep into any "trp" theories, and i didn't really make much effort to try to get him to realise his mistake. I felt like it wasn't any of my business, but at the same time he is one of my best friends. Is there any hope in trying to convince people when they have entered a girls' frame like this? How does TRP feel about lecturing others about the benefits of swallowing the pill?