"Drunk sleeping LMR" basically, the girl is drunk (or pretending to be) and just lay down in the coach or bed and starts attempting to sleep. That happened with me 2 times this weekend, in a very similar way, so something tells me they were not just tired.

FR1: Met her on the street, she was half drunk. Escalated until the kiss. Holded her hand for 20 minutes while walking her home. In the way, we talk about people and relationships, she starts to talk about rape (she is afraid that I could rape her, but it also means she is thinking about sex). Went up to her apartment, she breaks and avoid any escalation and proceed to lay in the couch. She says she has a boyfriend. After 10 minutes of frustrated escalation, I quit.

FR2: Met her walking home, built connection, got phone. Text her net day, she invites me for a party with her friends. Vibe with her whole night, dancing and kissing, SHE invites me to sleep at her place. Leave the venue, her fat female friend grabs her and talks something in her ears (probably trying to slut shame). Start walking to her place, she begins to break physical contact (probably she is thinking about having sex, anxiety breaks in, shit tests starts to pop). Went up to apartment, she breaks and avoid any escalation. She makes nuggets and brings it to me (she is still submissive). Both on the bed, I start to escalate angain, she goes to second bed. I go there escalate angain then "Ok, this is too much", she goes back to 1st bed. I try one more time, her she stops reciprocating my kiss. I quit.

I know in both cases I could just turn caveman mode, and evaluate if it was a simple LMR. But since they had the "drunk" excuse, I didnt enjoy feeling like a rapist. Both were consciouss and talking, just not the typical verbal LMR I am used to deal with.

How could we overcome that kind of LMR situation?