How to eliminate the need for validation.

Mr_Badass · 2018-05-23T21:21:40+00:00

What worked for me was to get more exposure from women. I took a yoga class full of women and as weeks went by my need for validation went away. I realized that women are human and not that special.

chazthundergut · 2018-05-23T23:16:47+00:00

First of all, that is perfectly normal. Every guy wants to fuck hot chicks, and at least 50% of the reason is for the validation that comes as a result. There is no better yardstick for a man's success and value as a Man than his ability to attract and bed beautiful women.

But yes, you must become self-validating. Here is how you do it:

Make the rest of your life your priority.

When you have an awesome career, good money, a loyal group of friends, interesting hobbies, and pursuing your life's purpose, you will not need the validation (as much).

The best way to feel like the prize is to become the prize.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-05-24T17:16:50+00:00

Sounds like you don't have an Amused Mastery attitude. Moreover you don't actually enjoy gaming women and flirting.

replicaplater · 2018-05-23T21:07:42+00:00

This is more of a mental game thing, but anyways, you just need to believe in yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. Getting laid isn't going to get rid of that need either so you're going to have to flip that mental switch regardless of whether or not you're getting laid. Some people gain this mindset through self affirmations, others get it by lifting or meditation its really just a matter of what works for you.

DrLithium · 2018-05-24T07:33:24+00:00

Stop relying on other people for validation

Title	How to eliminate the need for validation.
Author	Redpillreader22
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	May 23, 2018 8:38 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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