Before anyone bashes me let me explain. I have zero problems with getting women. Since I stopped seeing an ex I have slept with 4 women in a month and a half, that's with me telling myself to not "be a hoe," and trying to just chill because last relationship that ended I slept with over 15+ in a year. I know a lot of you guys will probably say I should enjoy Fucking randos/ forming plates but i think right now it's something I'm not okay with. I just sleep with women, use them, then drop them. But every now and then I'll find a girl that catches my interest, which is hard to do. Then when things go wrong it's like a hole forms and nothing fills it up. Not multiple women, not drugs, not keeping myself busy (which I always do, mostly self improvement activities).

I'm asking how do I stop this? I don't want the girl (in the situation now, past girls I got over but me doing this is like a repeated cycle) but I can't get her out my mind. Always happens. When the next one comes and I become attached the same thing will happen. What can I do to prevent that? Having plates or an abundance mentality doesn't work because I can have an abundance of women but women I vibe or connect with is extremely rare. Also what's a realistic way for me to look at this?

If you have any questions let me know. Thanks fellas