How to not be so alone

cero · 2015-02-05T07:09:34+00:00

If you want/need authentic friendships you must be authentic yourself and accept the fact that most people are not.

That means quality over quantity.

Accept that you will be alone for the time being. Work on yourself [redpill-style] and work on yourself in areas where you think you're not being authentic.

When you are able to be your authentic self, unencumbered by emotional issues based on self-knowledge, you will attract like-minded people.

This takes time though, but in my opinion it's one of the best investments you can make.

verus_mas · 2015-02-05T06:03:50+00:00

it's gonna be a bit tough bud, i'm working through this myself. what i am trying to do is before i go looking for a GF, i'm trying to create a group of friends first. a group of guys i can chill and roll with. replacing those old toxic friendships with a better support system. once that's in place, and i know that i have something strong to full back on, i think the GF part will just come naturally and out of a desire for playfulness and fun instead of loneliness.

G12c4 · 2015-02-09T22:39:02+00:00

"The real test for a man is how he lives with himself, alone. Precious few men ever truly allow themselves to be alone and learn real independence and self-reliance."

JarOfToothpicks · 2015-02-05T14:03:23+00:00

Do your best to socialize in your new areas of interest.

Hypothetical Joe: - Instead of hanging out with his old buddies in a basement, smoking weed and playing vidja, he's attending a full load of classes and starting recreational (insert sport) in the evening. Be regular, be mentally 'present', demonstrate improvement. (Improvement will require non-class practice/study.)

How did Ray Bradbury put it? "We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over."

Google it - studies have shown that friendships are formed...

proximity, which means being near enough to see each other or do things together;
repeatedly encountering the person informally and without making special plans to see each other;
and opportunities to share ideas and personal feelings with each other.

Title	How to not be so alone
Author	MrShakur
Upvotes	10
Comments	4
Date	February 5, 2015 5:59 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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