How to react/redirect her when she says someone else is "hot"?

HardPillToSwallow · 2014-09-08T18:30:34+00:00

"Id fuck him too"

Being comfortable saying whatever you want with the right attitude can deal with this. Things like this are an opportunity to show you're secure, whining and saying you dont like that will only devalue you.

Again you've got to tackle the underlying behaviour not the actual act. She's saying she would let another man shove himself inside her right in front of you.

You could always mirror the behaviour. Unfortunately this area is uncharted waters for me and I'll leave it to someone more insightful.

lonGterMgoalS · 2014-09-08T19:05:06+00:00

This is a shit test. My wife tried this once, years ago (I may have deserved it but it's not the point).

She said some actor was hot and I said "Have you seen who he's fucking? You think he'd be down to trade?"

I know she finds other men attractive the same way she knows I find other women attractive. We're married not dead, but there's a level of respect shown. It's different for people though. Does your wife get upset if you're looking at porn or you make comments about women?

RPstudent · 2014-09-08T18:37:59+00:00

First step, continue to blow it off. Make fun of her in a light-hearted way. If it bothers you, never let it show. Also, if it bothers you, work on getting over that. It is a shit test and she is looking to see if she can get you all butt hurt.

Second step is relentlessly elevate your value. Workout more. Take better care of your appearance. Get clothes that flatter the way you look. When you do this you show her that you can draw attention too. This is a mild application of dread.

In doing this, you flip the script. She's probing for weakness and insecurity. If you evoke feelings of uncertainty in her she will work that much harder to keep you happy

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-08T23:07:58+00:00

All Bundy on "Married With Children" taught us this one.

Bud (the uber beta teenage son) and this super Latino stud were competing on a game show for a date with a model. All the women were screaming when they showed the Latino guy and poor Bud asks the family- you would pick me over (hot Latino guy) right?

Sister: I'd pick (hot latino) over you Bud. Mom: I'd Pick (hot latino) over you Bud.

Al Bundy- Polk High all city/4 touchdowns in one game:

"I'd pick (hot latino) over Bud...AND your mother."

Soultrane9 · 2014-09-08T18:51:30+00:00

Game wise:

Do the same. Preferably to somebody who she thinks has lower SMV than her. Random butter commercial with random mom in it? Ohh so hot.

TRP wise:

On the other hand i hope you are lifting consistently. If you are not at least toned you have to bite and admit to yourself she is right. Look in the mirror and determine where does disrespect begin from her part. Yes, that swimmer is hot but if it's a common behaviour pattern from her it's massive shit testing which you should shoot down.

LS_D · 2014-09-08T22:29:47+00:00

I usually blow it off or make fun of her, but I can't help but wonder if there isn't a better way to handle it,

Not really, that's quite an appropraite response to such comments

maybe even make it work to my advantage?

You just did by maintaining your 'frame' (attitude)!

Title	How to react/redirect her when she says someone else is "hot"?
Author	fw80
Upvotes	6
Comments	24
Date	September 8, 2014 6:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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