I honestly believe people cant change and they will repeat their own character over and over again until they eventually die so whenever i hear "set your boundaries" my mind just shouts "teach her what you see as proper behaviour so she can lie more efficiently and imitate exactly what you expect till they cant hide their true nature anymore"

I just acted quite liberal in my past relationships which opened my eyes a lot and i've heard so many fucked up shit a conservative dude would never hear because girls would simply hide those from them. My current strategy is acting like an all accepting simp and find an emotional excuse to bail when red flags eventually pile up.

I dont believe in fantasies but i honestly want to have a family eventually, alsoI think my behaviour could be attracting most riled up hoes as they crave acceptance for their fucked up lives and I absolutely have no idea how to find and vet a decent woman to marry, sadly, I might have also conditioned myself to bail ship too quickly and I fear I will do something similar in the future for a decent girl because of a small slight.