I failed you TRP last night.

Archwinger · 2016-06-26T16:27:52+00:00

This is actually a really common hump.

Look, you can lie to yourself and us all you want, but you're still afraid of rejection. Shame and embarrassment are not comfortable feelings. And walking up and talking to people, especially when you're underconfident and think whatever you have to say sucks, is hard.

You're going to get rejected, blown off, laughed at, embarrassed, and a lot of your attempted conversations will trail off into awkwardness as you fumble and can't find what to say. That's just part of the learning curve. Part of life, actually. Even cool people's conversations are stupid and awkward sometimes.

It doesn't matter. Rejection doesn't matter. Once you suck it up and get rejected 1000 times, you'll be fine. It won't affect you any more. And the fact that you don't care will seriously help future attempts.

verily_rp · 2016-06-26T17:52:32+00:00

Let me tell you something, brother. You need rejection. You want rejection. And you need to practice getting rejected. Why? So that you can deal with your anxiety properly, with more experience. That's the main cause of this, whether you admit it to yourself or not. Once you understand it's not painful like you play it in your mind (or maybe it will be), it won't matter, because you won't care anymore. It'll be so numbed down that it won't even ruin your night/hour to get rejected anymore. You can just see it as 'oh, this isn't working, time to move on'. And you'll pick up on 'oh, this is just a shit test' along the way, and know when to keep going despite being 'rejected'. Trust me on this. You need to approach more.

ecosci · 2016-06-27T02:09:46+00:00

All she has to offer is a stinky ol vag you are the prize plus shes not the only game in town clear up that oneitis first then go focus on other things, thinking about her will be a distraction if you want her back take care of the problem but if not move on for good, time will only help the frustration dont burn out.

Title	I failed you TRP last night.
Author	RedNightOwl
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	June 26, 2016 4:09 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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