cannot possibly describe everything, but I'll try to explain all the important stuff.

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I'm not even sure if you can give me an advice that I didn't think of, maybe I just need some tough love/encouragment. I honestly don't have anyone that could help me with this so if someone was in a similiar situation, help would be greatly appreciated.

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Male, 29, 215 lbs, 6'1, living in Germany. I moved cities exactly a year ago mostly because of family, friends, big city and a new job (completely new field). It's nearly impossible to find an apartment in the city without paying huge rents so I found a small but totally new place through contacts in the smaller city nearby, 30 minute ride, but the job was in the city so that was good, I had access to girls. I broke up with my ltr and started dating again. I somehow had gotten my mentality in order. I watched porn, though, it somehow helped me with scarcity, but then when I got plates I had to go off it since I couldn't really perform. Anyway, things are going well for a couple of weeks, I'm plating new girls, emotional investment pretty low and then I change my job because of too much travelling. The new job is pretty chill, but it isn't in the city, so I had to travel to meet girls and I got lazy to be honest. I started hating the job, mentality got worse, I'm left with 1 plate. I'm pretty unsatisfied and later I lose the job and the plate. I get a new job where I'm even in less of a position to meet girls since it's outside the big city and I cannot almost text at all, so online shrinks dramatically and I'm left with the only possibility to meet them through weekends and I'd have to focus on it, but I have too much shit to do and am reluctant to put everything on the side to start cold approaching, maybe I'm just lazy or it's a buffer. Anyway, got a new plate in the meantime and she broke now, too. Actually, moved back to Poland but still.

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Facts now:

* my game definitely got worse

* I had a girl approach me in the club yesterday with "I'm not flirting with you" while laughing and touching me all the time and I couldn't close. just in a bad mentality, she got bored pretty fast. awful inner game

* I had a girl whose Number I got come over and I couldn't close. I just wanted to fuck without seducing her, but couldn't make her excited. same situation with another girl couple of weeks before. my game and mood in general was just awful

* I had sparks of good mentality even in this thirsty phase, but still uncosistent. for example, 1 night while out just had a goal to have fun. got drunk a bit, started making out with a hotty in public, sloppy I know, but I still couldn't close. logistics was only car and I never fucked in this small car so it got to my head while we were parked

* I cannot get it up with prostitutes

* I got on porn again, but I'm quitting

* I'm thirsty all the time. I see a girl in the gym, she obv comes nearby after eye contact and I'm just thinking about fucking her and not doing/saying anything. just in a bad mentality. I usually don't approach at the gym, but when I do, I like to do it for my own amusement while I'm feeling good, not when I just want to fuck her

* fighting with my mindset/frame consistency

* I'm trying to do it all at once and feel burnt out

* social life is ok, but was definitely much better while I was plating

* job is intense and still learning, feeling heavy after work, but I'm adapting to it

* gym still going consistent, but with low passion. had goals at the beginning of the year, now just trying to keep the numbers. I'm exhaustd from the job always tbh

* have more free time than in my last job

* diet is shit, working on it

* reading less, not doing mma for over a year now, since I got injured in bjj

* in general feel overwhelmed

* taking some mild naturally based antidepressants

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What advice would you give me? I could definitely use some therapy, but my stubborn head thinks it can go solve it on its own. I'm thinking about buying a motorcycle so when I go to the city, I still can enjoy riding, so I'm not going just for the date. I could have more parking flexibility and it would maybe solve the logistics problem with girls without moving apartments.

Other option would be to start looking for an apartment in the city and pay unreal rents with the job being farther away than now, and it would be mostly because of girls. I like this place now and have friends/family here, but the logistics is just awful.

I'm posting this because I feel like I'm missing something, like I'm trying to fake it till I make it while the real problem is deeply rooted. Maybe I should just give it time. I could just ignore girls or maybe do online and spontaneously approach here and there, but my thirst mentality fucks me up there. And I feel like I could fuck so much at the moment if my life was organized and I hate to miss on it since I'm getting older. As I've already written, I used to watch porn to help me with scarcity and as bizzare as it sounds it helped, but now I just have much less access to girls and I'm lazy when watching porn and before I could meet girls with less effort (stay in the city after work, tinder dates after work etc. etc.). I honestly just want to remove sex out of the equation again to be able to focus on other stuff.