I need help

imgonnabethegreatest · 2015-07-01T06:15:46+00:00

Did you recently catch oneitis and have your heart broken? This happened to me some time after "swallowing" the pill and it was terrible.

My advice to get out of this slump is this: start lifting and eating right. You also need to understand that the only reason you're feeling like this is because you're letting yourself. Find something that you really want to do, and do it. Make a long term goal and work towards it everyday.

machimus · 2015-07-01T08:47:59+00:00

This is just life's way of telling you you're growing and your old shell of a life doesn't fit anymore. Time to look around and expand your interests.

suloco · 2015-07-01T11:41:02+00:00

I dumped my ltr of 3 years 10 months ago and I have had some of the best months of my life after. But lately I don't know what it is. Life feels so shallow.

Don't you start thinking about going back to her. No!

NO!

That said, it seems like you're coming down from the euphoric TRP high some of us (me included) receive after the initial anger phase (sometimes even instead of it like in my case). I've been there too and it sucks, man.

Couple of things:

1) get your testosterone levels checked. You don't feel masculine, you're sad, no drive, yeah soudns like low T to me.

2) hobbies and passions. You gotta have them. Get better at them and use that as validation of your value.

3) it's hard to feel like a proper man with the feeling no woman wants you. I too have trouble with this. I still battle the feeling that in order to be happy I have to score with chicks. It's euphoric when you score and fucking miserable when you don't (your case). You need to re-evaluate the source of your validation. Improvement, not chicks.

I think a month or two of hardcore monk mode would do you good. Early to bed, early rise, work, lift, read, MOVE (walks, running etc.) and cut all drugs and alcohol. Try your best to escape the frame you put yourself in which is all way too tied to women and scoring. No bars, no clubs, no pubs, no facebook, tinder or whatever.

Depression stems from passivity. Go and do.

secret_barber · 2015-07-01T13:12:05+00:00

Set goals and achieve them.

Title	I need help
Author	pleh_deen
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	July 1, 2015 6:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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