So I’m living with my girlfriend and we have a half year old child together.

In my opinion we have a strong relationship and she brings a lot of value to my life. I mean AWALT, my frame is tested with the occasional comfort/shit test; as it should be! I keep it light hearted most of the time and fuck around with her amusing myself, she loves it.

However there is a certain type of shit test I struggle with, and a good example of that is for example we lay in bed ready to sleep; i put my phone down too hard on the nightstand or sneeze or whatever and the baby(daughter, not girlfriend :) starts complaining/crying because of the noise.

When that happens my girlfriend gets usually quite pissed and is like "wtf tjommas, be quiet/you’re so clumsy!" This makes me very annoyed in the moment because come the fuck on, shit like that happens. I usually snap back with somwthing like "shut up I’m obviously not trying to upset her!"

And just like that I entered her frame and got annoyed, defensive. Obviously it’s not the biggest deal, I mainly control the frame, but I want to perfect this shit and keeping cool when annoyed is a great skill to have, be it with my girlfriend, family, or anyone else.

What are good ways to deal with these situations?

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