been in an LTR for 7 months. ive always lacked in the communication department. often i will stonewall, ignore, etc. my girl is an excellent communicator. constantly telling me how she is feeling about things. great!

the problem i have, for example, is when she tells me things i have done to hurt her. i get defensive, argumentative, and i end up shutting down. this usually causes more bad than good, and it ends up with her displaying the waterworks and me feeling guilty.

how the fuck do i take things less personally? how do you guys handle it when a girl says you hurt her feelings? -Skim