I'm so scared. What if she cheats?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-05-26T05:31:27+00:00

Don't worry; I'll send her back when I'm done with her.

More seriously, stop being a pussy.

My girl everyday says something about how cool is "the 60-year-old alpha next door" of her office/job.

You: "He sounds like a great guy. Now go into the kitchen and make me a sammich."

Some readings about mate guarding says: Don't give a fuck, you're an alpha. Abundance mentality.

You mean like:

Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAF

-How to Rock Out With Your Cock Out.

And

Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You.

-If You Really Want To Know, Go And Build It.

You may also want to start working on:

Become the Prize

-Master your life. Become the Prize.

If she talks about him, ridiculize her for her feelings. (I don't know how, btw)

Hmm. Keep it a bit subversive. Ask her if she also wants to fuck Santa Claus - "I'm sure he'd come over and unload his sack...of presents." Then give her a "WTF" eyeroll.

I'm so fucking scared of she cheating on me and using me as a provider. We're just beginning (5 months), without kids. Please, any guidance? Thanks

Stop being afraid. Worst case, she bangs the old guy and you get a new girlfriend.

Jessor69 · 2020-05-26T04:56:55+00:00

5 months wtf she ain't even yours bruh, anything less than 12-18 months is just a plate.

It's a shit test, your advice is to not give a fuck since you have abundance mentality and you've got 2 other plates to see if this one falls off, right anon? Outcome independence, abundance mentality, not giving a fuck if she does cheat, there you go.

AmIDyslexicStoner419 · 2020-05-26T05:28:12+00:00

Speaking from personal experience and kinda having been in the same position that you are, its most likely already over. Im sorry but it probably is. You are way too emotionally invested in the relationship and probably way more so than she is. The fact that it bothers you so much and you are ''so fucking scared'' of her cheating without her not having cheated at all speaks volumes to the emotional investment part of the relationship. Even if she doesn't cheat , there's gonna be some other little things further on that will bother you just as much as this and that would break your frame leading to her losing respect for you. Go read the emotional investment post by u/wuojo on the main sub reddit.

Had you just been slightly bothered and not to the extent that you are now, then my advice would be like u/jessor69 in that its a shit test and you should not give a fuck or act like you don't. Anyways good luck bro.

ppvknifefight · 2020-05-26T06:31:21+00:00

Contrary to popular belief, I don't believe your relationship is over. I believe this is life giving you glaring signs that you're weak emotionally and you need to rectify these weak points. Enjoy this level. You'll surpass it soon enough.

I wrestled with these kind of thoughts for a long time after getting into my most recent relationship, until I forced myself to deal with those emotions because ultimately it's obviously counter productive and makes your girl ripe for the picking. Few things:

You sound like a TRP Robot. Chill the f out. Having all of the TRP theory in your mind mixing with your anxiety will be the downfall of your relationship and your sanity. Internalize (and most importantly challenge) TRP concepts then put them in the back of your mind. If you ever think ( if woman does X then I respond with TRP theory Y!) you're a damn nerd and you'll never get ahead. Less thinking. More living like you deserve the f'n best life has to offer.
You are a coward and the reason you are a coward is as follows. You cannot accept the realities of life. What are the facts? You cannot control this or any woman's behavior. If she does leave or cheat because you are a "beta", you will NOT die. Life will continue and you'll find someone better and learn how to retain her longer. You need to combat cheating thoughts by thinking ahead and have contingency plans that excite you. "If she doesn't work out, cool, because I'll have more time to do A B C D with X Y Z" " If she doesnt work out, cool -- now I can talk to the girl I met right before I met her.." etc etc.

-You have no life. If you had an actual life -- working out, getting more income streams, pursuing things you actually gave a f about outside of women you wouldnt have TIME to think about being cheated on. And if you did think about getting cheated on, you'd instantly think " why am I thinking about this cowardly bullshit? Am I a bitch? NO" and keep it movin'.

You have 100% control over your mind. Brainwash yourself and eradicate self defeating thoughts from jump.

This woman is the main focus of your life -- you need to knock her down a few notches and worry about yourself. Always.

TRP is not the answer to your situation. The answer to your situation is YOU asking yourself what kind of man you want to be and follow through. Would the man you want to be worry about this imaginary situation in your head? Would he post this cowardly post online about some "60 year old alpha"? Would he have to read dating theories from random people online ( who most likely get no ass, this is reddit after all) who regurgitate the same catch phrases without nuance? NO. Then you don't do that shyt.

Get your mind together. You'll naturally perform the correct actions with women when you carry yourself like a King. You're thinking about him cheating with your girl because you subconsciously feel that he's better than you in specific areas. Identify what those areas are and work to get better in those areas everyday. Never stop improving. The best way to mitigate cheating is be her BEST option. At all times.

dzkkne · 2020-05-26T10:10:12+00:00

With your current mindset and experience you probably better off without LTR. Seems like it is too much stress to handle for you, need more work on yourself.

IXseed · 2020-05-26T05:27:38+00:00

If she does cheat and ya'll break up, what would you miss about her?

DonBerberech · 2020-05-26T06:30:41+00:00

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DonBerberech · 2020-05-26T07:40:10+00:00

Thanks for your advice, comrades. I'm going to read them all and reply.

Cerohero · 2020-05-26T08:52:17+00:00

You're just attached and needs a slap

Normie5000 · 2020-05-26T09:28:47+00:00

First ltr?

Shitcuckedredditsays · 2020-05-26T10:38:28+00:00

Bro you need to check your testosterone levels, you are too paranoid about everything

Fabulous-Craft · 2020-05-26T15:26:32+00:00

Play this mental exercise:

"What if she does?"

Your answer should be, "I break up and life goes on as normal". If it's anything other than that, then you shouldn't be in this relationship.

The fact that you're living together and mate guarding at only the 5 month mark shows where you're at.

Title	I'm so scared. What if she cheats?
Author	DonBerberech
Upvotes	0
Comments	28
Date	May 26, 2020 4:46 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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