Improving self-esteem, practical tips?

trashtal · 2016-03-21T16:17:12+00:00

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). It's short-term (max 10 sessions) and very focused on a specific goal, uses practical tools. If you aren't able to spend that kind of money, here are some things I suggest:

Do positive affirmations daily. Yeah it sounds fucking lame when you read this list http://www.prolificliving.com/100-positive-affirmations/ But statistically, they are shown to have a very positive impact on your self-esteem. Some people find it more helpful to say it out loud in front of a mirror.
Practice mindfulness. This means taking the time daily to do some slow breathing before bed and getting in touch with your mind and body. Becoming aware of yourself will show you how often you say horrible shit to yourself.. it can be surprising to learn how hard you are on yourself. Awareness is an essential piece to breaking negative thought patterns.
Practice challenging negative self-thoughts. Once you are actually noticing the harsh things you tell yourself, challenge them. For example, if you tell yourself, "No one likes me," you need to ask yourself for proof or evidence of that and evidence that is objective and empirical. So, if you come up with only two examples of people disliking you yet you still have people in your life who do like you.. you need to factor that in and reassess how true the statement, "no one likes me," is. Usually, we make assumptions and generalise everything as being negative because of one bad experience. And often, that experience isn't that bad but we have made a lot of false assumptions that make it just feel bad.

http://www.louisehay.com/ this website is helpful. There is some airy fairy irritating stuff but also some really good things.

I would suggest this workbook to do CBT by yourself: http://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Mood-Change-Changing/dp/0898621283 (It's helpful and easy.)

Good luck!

F_Dingo · 2016-03-21T15:40:38+00:00

I highly recommend weight lifting. After you're done you get this tight feeling, your muscles are all pumped up and shit, it makes you feel like a million bucks.

idgaf- · 2016-03-21T22:10:07+00:00

Metta meditation. On top of lifting and all that

Title	Improving self-esteem, practical tips?
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Date	March 21, 2016 3:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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