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idgaf-/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:10 PM
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I think by definition, alphas must be self-created. You cannot have a species with too many alpha males.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/20 09:41 PM
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Last time I was in China, on my last day there, had a foursome for (probably) the price of one of your nights. What a time to be a stocks/options gambler. Inflation in asset prices and deflation in pussy prices.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 03:19 AM
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I would agree with other posters and say that it's super rare. Mostly because of what estrogen does to the brain. They simply cannot resist their emotions as effectively. I disagree that some level of "enlightenment" is necessary for her to be a good mother. Once she has a child, her biology takes care of everything. She is instinctually and emotionally locked onto the child. Her priorities automatically shift from 'having fun and etc.', to the child's well being. I've witnessed this in just abo…
/r/askTRP13/08/19 09:41 PM
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Even elementary school girls have half their asses sticking out now. Just walk into Old Navy and look at the shit they're selling. Damn disgusting.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 08:41 PM
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Even in a world without women, it's worth the effort to lift and get fit. Live longer, be stronger, do more hobbies better, stand taller among men.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 05:45 PM
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Jeez alpha/beta is not about what you do. It's how and why you do it. Do something the internet tells you to do, trying to game a certain outcome, that would be beta. Do whatever the hell you feel like doing, stop overthinking.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 05:40 PM
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I know a 5'6 Filipino dude who completely slayed all over the world. He traveled all over as a dating coach with clients paying his way. At one point he had a Singapore government gig to train their young dudes. He lifted only a little, some size but wasn't ripped. He had great style and unstoppable game. One of his main things was breaking your limiting beliefs. A huge amount of it (80%) comes down to inner game and how you think of yourself.
/r/askTRP22/05/19 05:26 PM
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Anyone think she's overreacting? Her N count is still relatively very low. I know plenty who end up in marriages just fine. In modern times, even 20, 50 isn't a sentence for loneliness. That said the alpha widow confession is on point. She can no longer feel attraction for men of her ex's caliber. Crazy. Keep lifting gentlemen.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/19 05:09 PM
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What is it? I'm a web dev, I'll do it if you don't.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 04:29 PM
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They are all kind of bland without make up on, plus they all age poorly. Except J Lo, somehow.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 07:56 PM
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I think it comes down to age... yeah there's a big group of older women with crazy lives. I'm more familiar with the college crowd and I think there are many good picks there, at least preferable over the tinder/bar scene.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/18 07:35 PM
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Yup, pretty common to see instructors date girls way out of their league. Dancing attracts lots of BP guys (including past me) because of how easy it is meet & get physical with girls. Lots of them have no game. But those that do can clean up. The newbie girls are much easier to date / plate, they look up to good dancers. The regulars are more wary of their reputation, and have to be discrete.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/18 06:44 PM
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They could go after the ISPs and major companies. You need tons of bandwidth and engineering to run something like DTube, and engineers need money. I wouldn't use DTube right now because it's slow. They've shut down pretty much every darkweb marketplace. I wouldn't underestimate the guys with guns if they wanted to get serious. All they have to do is cry national security, or accuse you of foreign espionage, and then raid your ass.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 06:22 PM
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Yes, we all have many attachments. We do not live as monks. That results in many positive and negative feelings, a wild and exciting ride in life, a crazy story to tell. It is fine to live like this. Dwelling on things is unconscious and involuntary to the untrained mind. The untrained mind suffers greatly. Choice - The conscious, "choosing" mind is often the slave of the emotional hindbrain. Choice is most often an illusion. A fascinating book about this is Thinking Fast and Slow. Pain and suff…
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 06:03 PM
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Say you had a child. Are you going to tell me you'd rather have no attachment to them just to avoid the negative feelings you'd endure from potentially losing them? You're young and early in your spiritual journey, and that's fine. Practicing non-attachment and non-aversion is not meant to avoid negative feelings. Negative and positive feelings come and go naturally. The clinging to and dwelling on those feelings create suffering. For today, consider the parable of the second arrow.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 05:17 PM
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Consider the alternative... studying in school, gaining skill in a complex field, interviewing for jobs, working long hours... Then consider how the average person has been babied their whole life, and taught to constantly consume and need more stuff. And statistically, the typical median income is not very much. It's no wonder they choose the easier route for money. I think a lot of guys would do the same given the same options.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/18 03:54 PM
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You've made peace and rejected religion, but still you haven't gotten laid? Why not do that first. Your body probably needs it. That might be why you crash following weeks of accomplishments.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 06:32 PM
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a part of me is worried that she won't say yes What's wrong, is she your only option? Just ask, move on with your life.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 05:47 PM
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You might be out of her league and she's treading very carefully. Since you lift you're probably one of the more attractive dudes in the scene. She doesn't want to be pumped and dumped as reputation sticks and rumors fly in the tight-knit salsa scene.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 05:43 PM
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Heh I remember reading that all of Google was really devastated when Trump got elected. With how the internet companies are behaving these days, they would probably promote this plugin rather than ban it. Can't trust these left wing institutions.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 07:52 PM
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Good job with baby steps, but here you're showing how insecure & sensitive you still are. Don't expect this to be a safe space, to shower you with praise and participation awards. That's not how men are forged. It's the failures that teach you more. Wait til you actually escalate and they start throwing shit tests. There was a poster earlier where some girl said his dick was too small and he handled that and still got laid. How's that for insensitive? Women are far crueler. They have to test you…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 05:23 AM
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Women don't think in such a measured or objective way. If she is, you maybe a betabux target. It's just down to feelings in the moment. Your only job is to escalate and risk rejection like it's nothing.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:37 PM
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How to show to women that I don't want to listen to her complaining? Stop listening. Also, how to not to be her self esteem improver? Just ignore and get busy. You don't have to explain yourself. balanced perception of women You are overthinking it. They don't care about your money or problems until much later. They are horny and you are ignoring all the signs. They just need you to make a move.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 06:32 PM
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I too have had trouble “having fun” with “mundane” activities. To this day I cannot get riled up by watching sports or alcohol fueled parties or random pointless banter. When others get hysterical I often get bored. I’d suggest trying some more physically and mentally demanding hobbies. Try salsa dancing, snowboarding, airsoft. I enjoy activities that are challenging and risky. Even... gardening, which is much more complex than it looks, and could help relax your mind.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 03:02 PM
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Man even if you got past your fears and excuses of approaching, you’re so full of negativity, self doubt, jealousy, and desperation that you’d almost certainly embarrass yourself. Start at square one, just make friends with guys and girls. Find fun activities. Masturbate to quell the thirst a little. Become a normal guy that is pleasant to hang out with. On the side, be lifting. College gym or bodyweight fitness. Eat clean. Physical attraction will dramatically improve your odds. Be normal, do f…
/r/askTRP09/08/18 05:31 AM
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Grow up a little, and you'll realize "love" is nothing but a temporary arrangement of chemicals. In old folk "love" still exists but it is very different. It's sentimental, more spiritual than young love. Young love does not last forever is mostly a short-lived delusion. In hard times, "love" continues past the first phase because the partnership evolves into a team arrangement for the purpose of survival, homesteading, and raising a family. In modern hedonistic times this doesn't apply. Pleasur…
/r/askTRP06/08/18 05:25 PM
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I don't see the point in deliberately setting yourself up for rejection. Then you are still afraid of rejection. In a setting where it doesn't matter, like a club or anywhere outside your social circle, it doesn't matter. the chances are extremely low that she's going to pick you That is outcome dependence. Who cares if she picks you? You only live once, have some fun and excitement. Approaching is win-win. You win by breaking your fear of doing so, and learn and have fun doing it.
/r/askTRP01/08/18 05:33 PM
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Have you seen the average person and girls these days? Most have shorter attention spans than vegetables. They also live with no consequences so manners were never learned. She is probably texting you out of boredom and wants momentary attention. Also your "witty" response could be too much for her. Consider dumbing down your communication with this one.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 07:31 PM
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Western post-scarcity culture. In the west, women don't depend on men at all. Rich families or student debt can float them into their 30s. Everyone waiting until 25+ to start a career. TV and media spread a culture of constant consumption / hedonism. Look at almost every movie geared to teens, they involve partying, alcohol, or sex. In characters, laziness is glorified and intelligence is "nerdy". It's funny, after cutting out TV and movies for several years, this becomes VERY apparent in wester…
/r/askTRP24/07/18 10:31 PM
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Damn, those boys still kicked out of school. Sucks.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 04:27 PM
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she wants to go this sleazy club with her friend Yoo girl is already gone. Break up with her on the spot. Modern boys accepting so much disrespect and shit behavior. Told her if she went I’m breaking up with her Don't put the ball in her court. Instead, just break up. Abundance mentality. Girls still in the sleazy-clubbing-phase are not LTR worthy. Just take your turn.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 04:17 PM
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Meditation and practice. See her for what she is... another living creature made of flesh, sweat, bones, feces, urine. See that she is transitory and impermanent, like all things. Desire/lust is the first of Five Hindrances in Buddhism... there are methods to train the mind to detach from it.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 08:46 PM
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I've always not cared periods. In fact I like them because she can't get pregnant and I love finishing inside.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/18 06:18 PM
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Yo they are trained this way from childhood, now. Many little girls grow up with no discipline and no consequences. Then because of all the babying, they have fragile egos and have no problems lying to protect it. Even from very early age they pick up on how to manipulate others.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/18 05:28 AM
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Bang and Day Bang are ok, a bit too mechanical, IMO. I like: Book of Pook Solve My Girl Problems (defunct blog, archives are available through search).
/r/TheRedPill01/11/17 06:22 PM
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I dug a little deeper, and found this disturbing study: From http://www.motherjones.com/food/2013/03/study-eating-fresh-local-and-organic-wont-protect-you-nasty-chemicals/ The handout-receiving group indeed showed no change, but for the catered local and organic diet group, BPA levels doubled and levels of the highly toxic phthalate DEHP jumped a stunning 2,377 percent. Turns out, most milk and milk products have high levels. Even if organic, grass-fed, etc, due to the plastic tubing involved in…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/17 07:29 PM
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Sure. https://mises.org/ is the website. They have tons of resources, and in particular host many pdf books for free. I would recommend starting with Economics in One Lesson which is available as a free pdf. Very easy to read, many core concepts. misesmedia is a Youtube channel if you'd like videos. You'll find talks from all the big name professors there, and you can explore as you like. Enjoy!
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 12:30 PM
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Why Kansas's Tax-Cut "Failure" Is Really a Success The Real Lessons from the Kansas Experiment Unfortunately, economics is not something that transcends the left-right political axis. Modern "economics" is just the economics that politicians and banks favored over the decades. That is Keynesian economics, plus a bunch of extras (neo-, post-) to adapt to modern times. You don't get to ride a high horse here claiming the left is "correct on economics". Economics itself has been twisted to support …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 08:22 AM
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You can come to terms with your thoughts through meditation. Your thoughts are not you. They come and go, like any other phenomena. Simply practice not being carried away by them. Meditation is the practice of doing this repeatedly.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:27 PM
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How do you accept everything as it is, right now? Practice. Sit in meditation. Meditation is sitting quietly, watching your thoughts come and go. Positive or negative, accept them and just watch. Stay with your breathing. This way, you can indeed find happiness being alone. Even lasting happiness, complete liberation, is possible through meditation, perhaps only meditation and spiritual study. But, as a young human male, you are hard-wired to seek relationships, accomplish goals, and enjoy sensu…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:09 PM
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I'm thinking, how hot can two hitchhikers possibly be. Sounds like a movie. But the world is a crazy place, cool story man.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:01 PM
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This girl is all about that casual sex and wants to make sure you're not "attached" to her. That's why she can say something so disrespectful to you, because she doesn't care all that much about you and wants to make sure you feel the same toward her. So yeah, put it in her butt.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:58 PM
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Even if the "worst" scenario happens and she leaves you, that's a win. You drop a girl that wasn't really into you and can pursue more. Win-win. A matter of perspective.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:28 PM
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Even after monk mode, after becoming amazing, you can't build a house on water. You can't expect the next girl to be great and pin all your hopes of happiness on her. More spiritually, everything in this life is like water, constantly changing. There is no lasting satisfaction to be found in the material world. Cling to anything, and it eventually leaves you. In Buddhism, the only lasting satisfaction is found in the end of clinging or craving. Good luck, man.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:22 PM
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Writing letters to a girl. lol
/r/askTRP21/08/17 04:31 PM
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I've never got that question. Not after she found other girl's shit around my place, well before we were exclusive/LTR.
/r/askTRP18/08/17 06:29 PM
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Because girls still have that evolutionary primal attraction to the bigger, socially respected guy. Math & programming were not useful skills until very recently. A nerd can easily reverse his situation. With his intelligence he can gain social skills with practice. In a way many TRP and PUA are like nerds, they learn to be "natural" through practice, instead of just growing up into it. IMO this is kind of a sweet spot, if your intellect manages to get you a high income job. You will clean up in…
/r/askTRP16/08/17 06:15 PM
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I've told him how easy it is to get a tinder date for the weekend even or how he can even meet Someone within an hour radius or his house LOL, for a 60 year old fat bald guy? I'd be genuinely surprised. Do people actually do what my dad is doing Yes, there are tons and tons of sexpats in Asia. Pussy is relatively cheap and easy there. why would she want to date my out of shape dad who's 25 years older Your guess is correct.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 06:06 PM
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You gotta take care of you, before you can take care of others. If you're not into it, it does her no good to string her along. They are adults and can manage their own feelings. As long as you aren't lying to them, promising marriage or something, you're in the moral clear. You're trying to do what's best for you, just like everybody else is.
/r/askTRP11/08/17 06:13 PM
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Think about the life of a 40 year old single mom. Lots of stress, barely any free time, and most (attractive) men not interested in her. Especially if she's alone, you know what she's out for. You literally just need to not punch yourself in the face.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/17 07:42 PM
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Fun read, but stretching a rule here: "No examples from fiction or lyrics."
/r/TheRedPill04/08/17 06:51 PM
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Hey man, I'd like to suggest you read The Way of the Superior Man. I think this will, at a high level, re-calibrate your understanding of male/female dynamics, but won't suggest you become a mean spirited person. There are many other good books too, but I think this one will do you good. When she nags you, she's testing you. When you say "Sorry" and act submissive, that is weakness. That makes her panic. She cannot, in any way, directly teach you to be a dominant figure, to do so requires her to…
/r/TheRedPill01/08/17 06:48 PM
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Are there any advantages to a relationship over spinning plates? I will tell you why I chose an LTR. I found going out on weekdays / every week to be very tedious. She also has many qualities that I like very much. Cooks, responsible, spiritual, very fitness oriented, low N. It felt wasteful to build an exciting relationship with a girl, just to put a cap on it or throw it away. "Living in the moment" vs "following red pill rules". Decided to just let things happen. Each time you break up with s…
/r/askTRP13/07/17 05:44 PM
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I know what it's like to quickly jump to negative thoughts and analysis of things. I also have a very analytical brain. For some reason, passing judgement on others can make us feel good by way of being "superior". This was not a healthy mindset and I took steps to undo it. So, how to recover: Switch to positive beliefs. Yeah, people have a bad side to them. They also have a good side. Start pointing out the good things in others. Start seeing the good in everything. Do your best, keep at it. Me…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 10:25 PM
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Out of curiosity, would you consider airsoft or paintball a combat sport? I've also heard that having a concealed carry dramatically changes your sense of dominance in any given setting.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 09:19 PM
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I usually say "I love you" right before I start fucking her ass hard. Like, after she's warmed up to it and all. I don't know, just feels right man.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 04:11 PM
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I'm quite similar to you and it's refreshing to see someone else very confident in this disposition. Honestly, it will be tougher. It will be life on hard mode, maybe impossible. It is easier to spin plates, but maybe you and I have decided it's less fulfilling. We've only got one life so we've gotta go after what we want. There are many, many moments that make parenting worth it, but it comes with huge sacrifice. First, understand, manage, and accept the worst-case scenarios. 20% of your income…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/17 06:23 AM
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Honestly it sounds like she was receptive from the get go, since she started hitting on you first. You just didn't have the game to take her to bed. This time, you kept it simple, you escalated, and it was easy. There's no reason to hold onto anger. What happened was mostly your fault. Accept it and do whatever you want from now on.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 03:51 AM
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Irrelevant for plates. That said, my last two LTRs both had a n=1 before me. That does sound really rare, I guess. You can find them if you filter through enough girls, and if you avoid clubs/tinder, and if you target conservative cultures. That said, choosing an LTR based on N alone is stupid.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:15 PM
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I'm kind of in the same situation as you. As men we always want to be her "best", it's natural. This is foolish because as you suspect, women's N counts are high these days, and even fewer are virgins. I'm turning 32 and I've accepted that any girl I meet will have past experiences. Maybe I'll never compare to her "first time" or her "high school sweetheart" or whatever the fuck. Who cares. I'm over trying to spin that "perfect whole-life story". The good thing from RP knowledge is that women li…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 06:22 PM
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When you phrase it like "please don't talk to me anymore" it sounds like you've been hurt, and that's what you're revealing. Play it cool, smile, be like "congrats lol". If you don't want to talk to her anymore just stop. You're gonna have a bad time if you're judgmental about sluts in today's culture. Embrace them, enjoy them, don't commit to them. Part of your growth is accepting the world as it is. Also, girls just don't have to take responsibility these days. There's almost always government…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/17 03:47 PM
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What don't you get? She is young and trying to figure everything out, learn the game. She wants relationship and commitment, as all girls naturally do. Even if she doesn't want long commitment, getting some commitment develops her commitment game. Either she's too emotionally committed to make an ultimatum, or she doesn't think it'll work. The ex is probably meant to get you jealous. The push/pull is trying to get you committed, or testing your level of commitment/attachment. It's all games, man…
/r/askTRP06/03/17 08:43 PM
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I heard an interview with Jim Rogers, a billionaire investor, where he said the most rewarding thing he's done is have two daughters when he was 60 and 65 years of age. He encouraged every man to go do it.
/r/TheRedPill28/02/17 04:31 PM
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Yeah man my younger years are filled with times when girls had clear interest and I just didn't recognize it or make a move. And I even had significant exposure to PUA material... in those days the PUA material was all about "how to build interest" in girls or "you gotta do step 1 then 2 then 3", instead of "how to stfu and see that she's already interested". Yeah the early PUA stuff was pretty beta, looking back.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 07:25 PM
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Just guide her head down; there is no verbal trick.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 05:06 PM
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After learning to enjoy meditation I can't remember the last time I had a "boring" moment. It's like there's always a movie playing in the form of my own thoughts. What you're really trying to say is that we should enjoy every moment, mundane or exciting. Not every moment has to be an instagram-worthy peak experience. The moments of solitude or stillness can be used to reflect and build energy for whatever is next. The moments of mundane, tedious work can be used to build discipline and savings …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 07:21 PM
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The one thing I really appreciated about them (from a long time ago) is how freaking amazing they are at BJs. In an hour where I would cum twice, the second time she can do it her mouth. Surprised even me. In LTRs you don't normally select for a girl that can do that (aka slutty); you have to train her which is not easy and could take a while. You are probably now spoiled by the BJ and will be underwhelmed by normal girls' skills.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 06:07 PM
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What kind of girl sits down and starts talking about her daddy issues... my god.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/17 04:46 PM
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Yes. Yet all those things are impermanent, and in the end we let them all go. What this means: it's nice to acquire assets and things, but suffering over them is unnecessary. It's all temporary anyway. It's possible to be happy with everything just as they are. I also speak of extreme, perhaps theoretical cases demonstrated by monks where they actually do not seek any of those things. I'm no monk, I still crave money and sex and other things. Nor do I think everyone should be like monks. Sometim…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/17 05:59 AM
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I celebrated my last birthday with a squat PR and an extra set. Best gift I or anyone could've given me. how do you even approach women you don't know, by yourself? You just say hi. Then, how's your night going? There's no script that works, stop looking for one. Women immediately know whether you're following a script or if you're being genuine and they respond in kind.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 07:34 PM
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Try nofap, you'll get over your disappointment in women quickly. Get off the internet & negative spaces Get out of bars & clubs. Plenty of normal women out there, try college activities, daytime events & hobbies. Only 1% of women worthy? Approach 100. How do you beat the odds and form a relationship worth having? The only relationship truly worth having is with yourself, the present moment, and peace of mind. Meditate. You really do not need anything external for unlimited happiness.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 05:50 PM
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Not that I've seen. Let me know if you do find one.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 06:32 PM
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All the time since I have a nice house. Just hold your boundaries and replace as needed.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:24 PM
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Whatever you want. I suggest creampie her asshole and take pictures.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:19 PM
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Send her a pic of some hot girl's ass, gotten off the internet. Caption of "My good friend Amy". If she can pull the just kidding card, so can you. Recognize that she is playing a stupid fucking game. Best is not to fall for it, not to call her out on it, nor demand she stop playing. Simply outplay her. Be willing to walk away at all times.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:10 PM
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Get your own flat first. Move out quickly and curtly, don't sow anger or drama.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:04 PM
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any discussion of marriage is inherently blue pill Not at all. It's powertalk. The statement is much more than a simple compliment, it shows he is the chooser and he is screening and qualifying the women he meets.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/17 10:16 PM
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Just turn up the music you like and move. Real dancing is more about creativity, spontaneity, feeling the music, and not giving a fuck than mimicking what you see on some video. Occasionally you can look at some video for inspiration, but the bulk of your dancing should be your own enjoyment. Search the genre you like, whether that is shuffling, bachata, phangra, kuduro, whatever. Only if you want to look professional or be famous do you need real classes & training. does this effect your abilit…
/r/askTRP03/01/17 06:06 PM
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FWIW I've sort of been on the other side of this; I broke up with someone and felt bad over it. It's natural to feel bad when you know you hurt somebody. It doesn't mean she's trying to manipulate you or that she wants you back. Just tell her you're doing well. You've moved on and see the breakup as positive because of new opportunities. You're not thinking of getting her back. Even if your frame of mind isn't there yet, act like it is and it will help you get there.
/r/askTRP14/12/16 09:24 PM
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There was research pointed out in a thread a short while ago, https://archive.is/YVTbz
/r/TheRedPill13/12/16 04:33 PM
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Dated a few filipinas, LTR'd one for 5 years. They are the "fun" Asians but still have the traditional Asian/family values (if you find the right one). Great LTRs, loyal, caring and giving. English is an official language there so easy to communicate. On the flip side of the other poster, their families have a racial bias for Asian guys, especially Chinese. Her 3 sisters dated white guys and I was easily the fav. Of course, stereotyping like this is all meaningless. Sluts & crazies exist in all …
/r/TheRedPill06/12/16 11:03 PM
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It isn't a "power" struggle where "power" is defined by who can get laid faster than the other. If you know you can drop her and live a happy life without her, that's enough. If you're afraid of loneliness and a brief drop in sex life, she can use that fear to control you, and women lose attraction for men that they can control. Just know that if you do end up single, that's a ton of extra time to lift and focus on yourself, which is a gift.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 05:24 PM
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I really don't want to get into trouble. So I can use some advice. Practice in places outside of your social circle. And use common sense, don't physically force anything if she physically resists.
/r/askTRP05/12/16 07:26 PM
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I asked her if she wants to hang out at her place or mine. You're being coy by letting her decide. You're showing inexperience by not giving plausible deniability ("hang out" vs "netflix" vs "some-date-or-activity". Both are communicating to her that you are in fact not going to be a good, dominant fuck. That's why she's laughing at your suggestion. She, like any girl, wants you to lead and wants to not feel like a slut (plausible deniability). Instead, phrase it as a command and include some ac…
/r/askTRP05/12/16 07:08 PM
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In some ways I can understand what he's going through, and can tell he's still struggling with his ego because I've gone through some of the same things. If he keeps watching porn, his current company will never feel satisfactory, because porn is very fake. A lot of guys here overcome their porn addiction out of necessity, in order to function properly with real women. Quitting porn & masturbation puts men in a physical and mental state that's more effective for attracting and being with real wo…
/r/askTRP05/12/16 05:43 PM
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When you are both laughing that is an emotional high point. What you do next says a lot about what kind of man you are. On such high points, you should consider leading or leaving. Leading can anything like: Continue the conversation. Physically moving her somewhere / to dance / etc. Ask a personal question. Maybe one that leads to date ideas. Close. Set up a date or suggest to leave the venue. A lot of it depends on body language, rapport, and your calibration. Leaving is also powerful because …
/r/askTRP02/12/16 07:55 PM
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More specifically, you need high testosterone levels Can confirm. Hopped onto TRT almost a year ago. Free T levels more than doubled. On top of meditation, lifting, and reading, frame is effortless. Focus and determination through the roof. For a while, old mental habits persisted, but they quickly started to seem silly. Shit rewires the brain.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 10:52 PM
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Grats bro my Chinese parents were real hands off regarding social development. I pretty much grew into a nice guy nerd until after college, then I started figuring shit out myself.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/16 07:07 PM
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hoping to maybe hook up "Maybe" implies uncertainty which when combined with overt sexual intention, comes off as desperate and creepy. It shows you have no subtlety or finesse and she can't trust you to be discreet. Use normal language like "hang out", "make friends", "party", "have a drink", "watch netflix".
/r/askTRP23/11/16 08:38 PM
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You know how guys will sex a girl but refuse to commit? She's doing the same. She's stringing along your commitment, refusing sex and seeing how things play out. She's just working on her game, practicing her ability to lock down a guy, which she'll use on someone she's actually sexually attracted to. You don't have a relationship, you're being played. Hard next, no contact.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/16 08:21 PM
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In addition to everything else from lifting to seeking professional help, try taking a few minutes each day to just meditate. You may not be able to stop insecure thoughts from arising, but if you train yourself to notice the thoughts, that's a major step towards change.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 10:15 PM
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I asked her what are her plans for the end of the day (it was 7 pm), to which she said she has no plans and asked me, if I had something in mind for us to do "Come up, let's make dinner" Nice FR but I don't really see why you passed up sex. You can be flexible with gym time and still hit your goals.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/16 05:58 PM
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If hit with the "nice guy" line that's almost certainly a test. Her brain is trying to reassure her to make up for a lack of raw attraction (from too slow escalation). Best thing to do is accept it as a compliment (Thanks!) but disqualify (I'm not always so nice/You might change your mind later) or ignore and move on. Take it as a cue to escalate faster. At your ages she is looking for sex and fun, so why would you get anxious about it? Don't be nervous, be bold, have fun.
/r/askTRP10/11/16 08:52 PM
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The only option is to leave the relationship. She knows she is pushing you away by refusing sex and likely wants you to break up with her, because she doesn't have the balls to do it. But just know that an abortion can leave severe emotional scars, and that's likely what she's dealing with. Every time you have sex she's reliving that emotional pain. That doesn't change what you should do as a man (pursue sex) but maybe open yourself to have some compassion for her.
/r/askTRP10/11/16 07:05 PM
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I can't be both in monk mode and interested in a girl. I don't believe this is true. Monk mode is simply prioritizing your self-improvement over excessively going out or trying to talk to girls. If you used to do that, monk mode can be a dramatic lifestyle shift. But you still socialize, meet people and make friends, as that's part of self-improvement. You just don't throw those priorities away once you get a girlfriend/fuck buddy. Monk mode never really ends. You met a girl you like and that's …
/r/askTRP07/11/16 10:11 PM
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Cut her off. It will make the transition easier and more effective. And if you still want her, it will be easier to get her back.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 04:18 PM
2

Right or wrong, it still got you to work hard for the things you want. There's a blessing there, so don't beat yourself up over it. Each time you accomplish something, take note of how good it makes you feel, regardless of what the original motivation was. Over time, it becomes a habit, and you do it independent of external factors.
/r/askTRP20/10/16 09:32 PM
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trying to persuade her that your not a creep and that she should fuck you You may be mentally setting the bar too high here, which is giving you neediness. Why not just intend to see if she's a fun person, and if so, invite her to future fun?
/r/TheRedPill19/10/16 03:46 PM
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It's all just noise: shit tests, games, rejection, dating. If you want to spend time with her just ask her out. She hasn't rejected you so she's open to it. You don't need to be funny or do anything that doesn't come naturally. She needs to know that there is at least a chance of something lasting. All quality girls do. It's just ceremony so she doesn't feel like a slut. Stay ambiguous about your intention to plate. In this case, the karma of how you treated her co-workers will come back to you.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 08:27 PM
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Easy shit test and compliment especially considering her body language. I think your response expressed disappointment, which isn't ideal. Just take it as a cute compliment and laugh it off, don't deny or confirm, keep persisting.
/r/askTRP13/10/16 06:39 PM
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Just the post I needed this morning, thanks.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/16 03:59 PM
2

She's had PIV sex before? Strange. Hey if she can take anal every day that's amazing. My girl needs a few days in between due to soreness.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 08:44 PM
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if she isn't infatuated with you to the point of obsession. I like this. What are some signs that she is? Girls know how to play the game and play it cool even when they are infatuated with you. I think a big sign is immediately agreeing to any suggestions you make. Or offering to cook after sex. My girl did this this week and it kind of surprised me in a good way.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 03:43 PM
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The more you want it, the more desperate and needy you will come off as. The fear of escalating is closely linked to the fear of losing her. Talk to other girls so you have a backup and you will be less afraid of losing her. Know that even if she rejects you, your life will be just fine. Best thing to do during the date: be genuinely happy and enjoying the moment. The more natural your enjoyment, the more natural your conversation. Have good eye contact and you will know whether she is into you.…
/r/askTRP07/10/16 03:34 PM
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Mind if I ask how old the two of you are? Your story resonates with me, and I'm just wondering the context.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/16 03:45 PM
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This is very vague. Sounds like you're not happy in this relationship. You can leave, work on yourself. This harder, emotionally uncomfortable route leads to more growth. On the other hand you can do all that while in the relationship. She might initially resist changes if you become more dominant or self-focused. Know what you want and make your own happiness non-negotiable.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 05:21 PM
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Meditation is extremely practical. The teachings available are diverse and apply to so many parts of life. It's important to recognize that we aren't in control of most of our thoughts, feelings, and actions. We are on auto-pilot most of the time and our unconscious brain which produces instantaneous, effortless, unconscious reactions to stimuli. Through meditation we train our higher consciousness to watch, and eventually control our unconscious brain. Those are the new neural wirings that form…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/16 05:12 PM
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Absolutely. You reach a point where it becomes pleasurable. It is good to appreciate this feeling, but seeking it out or clinging to it will prevent you from reaching it again. In fact, there are very advanced meditative states called jhanas that feel like pure bliss. An ultimately, nibbana or liberation from suffering.
/r/TheRedPill30/09/16 05:02 PM
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Why are you even posting here? Do you know what you want to achieve? Gathering perspective. I have feelings that I can't ignore right now. I want to enjoy the moment and journey through life, but not lose sight of long term happiness. When it comes time to dump her, I need the correct perspective to do it. I think I got that.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 04:02 PM
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It's fucking crazy how women can put up such a front in a marriage. Never getting married, never committing to an alpha widow. The chances are 100% she wants the D, I'd say. Still, that is a long way to travel for some pussy, probably not worth the travel cost nor the bad karma.
/r/askTRP29/09/16 06:23 PM
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To my credit, I was on fire that night. Got dragged into and won a bachata dance competition in the club. That year she separated and focused on her work, daughter, and fitness. I know, it smells fishy and I'm being ultra careful. But low N counts are more common than you'd think among Asians. Technically her N-count is 3 since she admitted to a threesome. I personally only count dudes. She divorce raped him when he was fucking around and couldn't provide the bux. IMO divorce rape is specificall…
/r/askTRP29/09/16 05:36 PM
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remain aware and maintain your independent happiness at ALL COSTS Thanks, I will ensure my independent happiness is non-negotiable. There may come a time where she tries to push you to take an active role in the kid's life I have realized that I am jumping the gun with my worrying, and should just enjoy things until this actually happens. It's not my job to worry about the future. TRP has me paranoid that she actually wants this and soon. Just explain that it's not something you are comfortable …
/r/askTRP29/09/16 03:29 AM
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Wow, how far did you go? Interested in your story.
/r/askTRP29/09/16 03:05 AM
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I expected replies exactly like what I've gotten. That's why I posted here and not elsewhere. Need some people to talk sense into me since the entire world out there won't. I wouldn't think unicorns exist even if she had no child. Just need a reality check.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 10:30 PM
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Thanks for the heads up. I know I don't know the true story yet.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 10:27 PM
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Heh, she never misrepresented any facts about herself. In fact when we met she had recently finalized her divorce, and told me she had a daughter. So I thought "easy, commitment-free lay!" Never did I expect her to be this pleasant. Actually had to do some damage control when she found out about one of my plates.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 08:04 PM
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Spot on, thank you. I know women adopt their mate's views and hobbies. My previous gf did it. I'm confident I can mold a future girlfriend as well. Her pre-wall prance is understandable. I accept this is as it is. Yet why reject something good if it's handed to you. So it feels right to simply enjoy what's here. It does hurt right now to think about rejecting her eventually. You're right that I'm trying to justify all this. That hindbrain is powerful, and my higher brain wants to keep her at a d…
/r/askTRP28/09/16 07:49 PM
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Women instinctively know to stroke your ego as a form of powertalk. She's saying it to make you like her more. There is no objective measure of "good sex" anyway, that's something our male ego tries to invent. Actually, "good sex", according to SGM, is: Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion. None of which have 100% to do with the physical thrusting, skill, or stamina.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:56 PM
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You'll still be living alone, she won't be able to watch you 24/7. I don't see why you can't still do your own thing and fuck bitches. Owning the place you live in adds a certain status in the eyes of girls. To them, you're more likely to be financially stable which makes you a safer fuck / boyfriend. If you are there and taking especially good care of the place, she could be very hands off and grateful towards you. You could collect the money and send it to her electronically. You have a lot of…
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:50 PM
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You were up there once you can find an excuse to go up there again that is not about her. Visiting a park, seeing a concert, trying out this or that place. If she has a boyfriend you'll have to strike while the iron is hot. You haven't fucked nor are in a LTR. You don't owe her any explanation.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:45 PM
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Understood, thanks. Part of me realizes as men, we shouldn't want or need to be a woman's priority, in a way possessing her. We are self sufficient. The closest thing to it, I think, is to father her child. Then you've always got some priority to her through the kid. In a way, her ex "possesses" her as she will always be working to his benefit, raising his kid. This is one thing that bothers me and will need constant monitoring.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:38 PM
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Potential bux. I do pay for the occasional dinner and outing, and she does too. Like taking turns. It's more pleasant than splitting checks.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 05:32 PM
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You have a deeper issue, and that is you are relying on the logical, thinking part of your brain. That's why you look for a "step-by-step" plan and seek approval at every step. Is this "right" or "wrong"? Is it "okay" to touch her at this time? That's why despite all the information you've taken in, you still run head-first into this problem. That's why the generic advice you're not looking for, happens to be the best advice. Step 1: Lose the mentality that you need a step-by-step plan. Next: Be…
/r/askTRP20/09/16 06:13 PM
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Wow if that's true they've really fallen a long way. It's crazy that from my days following dating coaches and stuff, even the good ones, none of them ever told me to lift.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 05:11 PM
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I did the same thing. 5 year LTR, good natured girl. Time goes on, people change. We're wired to lose interest with the same person after so long, for evolutionary reasons. Relationships either change or die. But I'm bored, I want to experience more. It came down to that, I had to decide what I wanted out of my life. I have to admit reading redpill opened my eyes to the possibilities. After so many years I had much higher SMV and wanted an upgrade. You will live with a bit of guilt, but it's oka…
/r/askTRP20/09/16 04:19 PM
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I'm worried about him seeing more professionals since they've already put him on multiple types of pills and told him not to lift heavy...
/r/askTRP30/08/16 04:15 PM
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In addition to all the other advice which is spot on... I made it clear I was available Beta move. Expecting her to take the lead. When plating, be dominant and give them commands. I told her how disappointed I was Another beta move, having hurt feelings and even telling her about it.
/r/askTRP30/08/16 04:12 PM
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How would you treat her if you went on and banged 3 hotter chicks since you last saw her? You wouldn't care. You'd just be happy. There's no need to hold onto anger or negativity. Learn from what happened and move on.
/r/askTRP30/08/16 04:09 PM
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Meditation is not "thinking to yourself" or "thinking about life". That is contemplation. Meditation is the cessation of extra thoughts. We do this by focusing on our breathing or some other meditation object, noting when our mind wanders, and gently bringing our attention back to the breath. The benefits are inner peace, mental clarity, awareness. You may be less affected by unproductive, spurious thoughts and feelings. For example, road rage, anger, impatience, approach anxiety. You do not get…
/r/askTRP26/08/16 07:13 PM
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IMO just bulk until you are about 165lbs. It will be easier to cut when you have more muscle.
/r/askTRP25/08/16 09:29 PM
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find out she lied about the kid being yours... marries her anyway... If I read correctly you are still under 30... plenty of time to turn things around and enjoy life man.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/16 07:07 PM
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Don't tell them you're gonna cum, just cum.
/r/askTRP25/08/16 06:10 PM
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Happy ones are out there. The ones I've seen usually are fit, alpha, or successful to begin with, and tend to have higher SMV than their wife. And they have one or more kids that they love very much. But yes, lots of unhappy guys out there.
/r/askTRP16/08/16 05:09 PM
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She was gaming you the whole time and you're just overthinking things.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/16 04:06 PM
1

Regret is better than rejection, now you know.
/r/askTRP05/08/16 05:42 PM
1

Meditating reduces cortisol but another very powerful (and expensive) thing is: Floating. It's like forced meditation. Proven to drop cortisol very effectively. Top level athletes are also using float pods to recover, Joe Rogan has raved about it.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/16 02:55 PM
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Yup, the "natural ways" to increase testosterone are way overplayed, especially for people with low T. They are only very marginally effective but for some people that may be all that's required. That said I have a bodybuilder friend who is very low T (<200) and he has a very respectable amount of muscle. His personality on the other hand is very soft and quiet, seems almost nervous all the time.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/16 02:53 PM
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Interesting about the cows. I may have to re-assess my beef sources. On the other hand, hormones in chickens have been illegal for a while.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/16 02:50 PM
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She seemed visibly upset and asked why we stopped, and she had yet to make me finish Probably a very light shit test, you don't have to take her words seriously. Sounds like she was eager to make you finish, I would've let her finish me orally. That shit is a rare talent sometimes. Either way keep it up.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 04:25 PM
1

We like to think we have control of things but this has nothing to do with you, much like 95% of picking up women.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 11:07 PM
2

Surprised she took the lead at all. What's become of ballroom classes? Just wait 'til you hit kizomba or zouk. You're leading her with your full body, not just the arms and frame.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/16 06:28 AM
2

On one hand there are always better options, like new girls who are younger and more conservative. On the other hand if you enjoy a girl you can just do what you want. You don't need the internet's approval. LTR for a while and understand it doesn't have to last forever. In fact being a serial monogamist has some advantages: plates tend to know you're open to relationships and will stick around a little longer.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 05:39 PM
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Why are you so distant until we have sex then you're happy/open again? You could have over-corrected to the aloof side. She's still your LTR, if you genuinely enjoy being with her there's no need to "act" aloof/dgaf. It eventually turns into an unconscious process where you do whatever you enjoy in every moment. I end up regressing back to BP shit subconsciously feeling comfortable and happy It's okay to be happy. Just keep lifting and focusing on your life priorities. Do you think we will get m…
/r/askTRP15/07/16 05:34 PM
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Actions not words. Disregard, escalate. Eventually words like that will just roll off you just like "we're not having sex tonight!".
/r/askTRP15/07/16 05:25 PM
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It's apparent to me that I'm consuming women and that my self esteem is very tied up in being attractive to them, probably way more than I'm even admitting to myself. Awareness is the first step. Notice how this dependent self esteem is making you suffer. You don't really have to take action based on what you read on the internet. You can do whatever you feel will help you, once you are aware that you may need help. That's why meditation is recommended, it helps you recognize when you are actual…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/16 08:28 AM
5

I just buy it in liquid from iron-dragon. Dirt cheap, no dealing with doctors.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 06:35 AM
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Currently seeing 3 girls, and they know I'm not exclusive. I'll give my perspective. Good sex, good company. I listen to them. I don't make them feel unimportant or disposable, that's your beta projection. Treating them like a "princess" is very inauthentic and makes them uncomfortable (nice guy covert contracts). I don't dwell on "potential" anything. I live in the moment. All possible futures extend from what's here now. I leave the future open ended and make no promises. I reject the "wrongne…
/r/askTRP29/06/16 08:32 PM
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It's very natural for a girl to want a relationship with a guy she's intensely attracted to. Just like it is for men. That said, it's also common for girls to keep friends with benefits around these days. They are never overt about it. Especially when she's dissatisfied with her current relationship prospects. She still desires sex and companionship.
/r/askTRP29/06/16 08:06 PM
2

The Middle Road Buddhism is sometimes referred to as the Middle Way. You'd enjoy it, if you haven't already been studying it.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/16 05:20 AM
1

Google "Holy Grail of Cum Load Increase" On top of a healthy diet it should help a little.
/r/askTRP09/06/16 02:43 PM
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I'm dealing with the same stuff. It all comes down to retraining your nervous system. No porn or masturbation. No orgasm from real sex at first, the less you cum the better. Meditation / knowing how to relax and enjoy. Repetition (like with an LTR), getting used to how she does it, training her to do it right / a certain way. Supplements that increase semen volume (makes your hornier and more ready to cum).
/r/askTRP08/06/16 04:21 PM
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less than a human being That's a bit extreme. Two people can enjoy each other's company sexually and remain human. The added negativity is unnecessary.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 02:07 AM
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Don't explain. Be vague, you got busy. That implies you're seeing other girls. Offer a meet up and escalate aggressively.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 03:53 PM
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that you wont be exclusive to her Be vague. Don't be so sure about your future. You're just enjoying the moment, seeing what happens. Don't ever bring up the topic yourself. There is a chapter or two about this very thing in the book Sex God Method. When your sex is good and SMV high, you're giving her sex and not the other way around. So less or no commitment is necessary to keep her around.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 03:50 PM
2

I work with like 5 Indian couples that all had arranged marriages. I have to say, if a family is your goal in life I can't see it as a bad thing. They all seem happy (at least on the outside) and the wives are loyal and caring. I still say don't get married, but if you really do I have to recommend a few things: Don't get married just because "it's common here". Really ask if it's what YOU want. With your income you can find hookers, hire trainers, travel the world, and live whatever the hell li…
/r/askTRP31/05/16 06:55 PM
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Just ignore the shit you read. You already know for yourself it isn't a big deal. And it isn't.
/r/askTRP31/05/16 06:38 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4kwhql/when_you_want_to_arrange_a_meetup_or_hangout_with/
/r/askTRP27/05/16 05:58 PM
1

I bought a Rogue SML-2 squat rack because it could be converted to a power rack down the road when I had more space, and it had safety arms until then.
/r/askTRP25/05/16 05:24 PM
1

For the most part yes, logistics only. If it is something, it's with the intention of getting a date within 2-5 messages. For example talking about food leading to a cooking date. If you want to send stuff without any intention just give her your snapchat where you post to a large group of people at a time.
/r/askTRP25/05/16 04:51 PM
0

Yeah hit up the friend.
/r/askTRP25/05/16 04:41 PM
2

It sounds like you became a time ho over text or something. But if she was kissing you in the club there's some attraction. (3) sounds butthurt. Just stop texting except for logistics. Don't reply until the day before you can set up a date. You are/became busy. Push for a date in the near future or nothing at all.
/r/askTRP25/05/16 04:35 PM
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Yup, sometimes an order can come across as miscalibrated. It's better if you know her schedule is open, or you know she's indecisive. Otherwise, if you're flexible or unsure of her availability or desire to do certain activity, a question avoids forcing her to reject your command. Or if you just want to throw some softness into the mix. I like "You in?" or "Up for X at T?" because it's short and to the point.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 03:17 PM
2

Post is spot on. But I don't really like the battle analogy, it sounds serious and difficult, it implies some kind of conflict or struggle that's not necessary. But to run with it and with Sun Tzu: Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win. Whatever happens in a club or with a girl doesn't change the fact that you are winning at life.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/16 07:54 PM
2

Between books, guitar, meditation, sleep, there is never any non-busy or non-productive time. Even leisure is important for decompression. Every second of your life is precious.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/16 07:32 PM
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Your parents are afflicted with restlessness, worry, and doubt, just like the rest of humanity. They suffer from this and are passing it on to you because they don't know how else to deal with it. They care about you a great deal. So, first thing is to not get angry or judgmental at them. You need to identify and separate fantasy & emotional noise versus legitimate, material concerns, to come to a clear decision. That includes your positive fantasies about playing football. Be as objective as po…
/r/askTRP24/05/16 04:21 PM
1

Last Thursday from a plate: "Any plans tonight?" "I'm about to make dinner, want to join me?" "I'd be delighted".
/r/askTRP23/05/16 08:52 PM
1

I've mentioned polygamy to both girls so I don't have to compromise but they have both said they wont share me, Of course that's what they'll say. If this is what you want, you have to call their bluff and risk everything.
/r/askTRP23/05/16 08:48 PM
1

Struggle in something difficult and get real achievements.
/r/askTRP23/05/16 08:43 PM
1

In the book Sex God Method, the author devotes a few pages to developing open relationships or multiple girlfriends. Basically, early on, be ambiguous about your long term intentions. Over time, give them good sex, good emotions, good companionship, and later on they will likely accept your terms for an open relationship. Pretty simple. In TRP this is "women would rather share an alpha than be exclusive with a beta."
/r/askTRP23/05/16 08:37 PM
1

Testosterone injections
/r/askTRP20/05/16 04:09 PM
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You sound way more upset about this than your buddy is. It sounds like they had a mutually enjoyable couple of years. There were no intentions of marriage or family, and nothing lasts forever. Yeah, he spent a little money in exchange for comfort and company. For a busy self-employed man that could be a great deal. From your perspective she "used" him but only his opinion about it counts.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/16 08:57 PM
2

Most social or soft science like this is mostly bullshit, unable to tell correlation from causation and getting it ass backwards. This applies especially to health, sociology, and economics.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:42 PM
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I agree, sounds like OP dropped the ball in the relationship. Maybe he went in with BP expectations of stability and loyalty. The woman just wanted to be fucked well, often, and in the ass. They are simple creatures, in a way. Lessons learned: Fuck her in the ass.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 03:24 PM
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At this point, taxes are just theatrical anyway. A way of keeping the audience invested in the act of government. A way of turning us against each other if one of us doesn't "pay our fair share". The government can fully fund itself by simply borrowing and printing the money. Taxes mainly create an obligation and thus demand for the fiat currency. The monopoly currency is the government's primary source of power.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 03:04 PM
2

Everyone is saying bad idea. But that depends on how afraid you are of fucking things up. Are you the prize or is she? Do you really need ideal conditions to game? Do you not have other options if things don't work out? Those are questions that might reveal why you're even thinking about this. It's true though, gym is not a great place to flirt. A walk or hike in the park is a better date.
/r/askTRP10/05/16 09:35 PM
9

It's pretty normal to celebrate birthdays on the weekend if it falls on a busy week or there are travel logistics.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 06:34 PM
1

You got attached to her. Not surprising, since she took your virginity. Truth is, there's nothing here worth attaching to. No need for closure. Wish her well, focus on your own life, and stop giving a shit about social media. Lemme tell ya, I recently reconnected with a plate after 8 months of nothing. We just mutually got busy and dropped off just like your story. People change, things happen. At any given moment she does what's in her own best interest, and so should you.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 06:24 PM
1

"the less you struggle, the more likely it is for the pieces to fall in their place" but i just can't see it. If you can't see that you're the prize, or make no effort to become a prize, then you're signing up for a high effort, begging for scraps, less than 3% rate, PUA kind of life.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 05:52 PM
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Great points. Dissolving the ego and releasing the need for tangibles is counter-intuitive against our culture but is indeed very liberating. The step about thinking yourself better than others contradicts the point about being humble. You don't have to put others down to feel good about yourself. If you pay close attention, you can see that the very mental act of comparing creates tension and leads to suffering. Instead, you can independently see your own divine nature: the fact that you are co…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/16 04:47 PM
1

In addition to lifting and meditating, actively approach people, make friends, build a network.
/r/askTRP08/05/16 05:29 AM
2

They just don't operate this way. I do X because reason Y. They are more like I do X, and make up reasons Y and Z. Funny enough alphas tend to act this way also, acting from the gut, out of instinct, without requiring reasons. I did X because I wanted to. The more you try to explain yourself with logic and reasons, the more justification you require, the more beta you appear. Perhaps your voice and body language also gave you away as beta. Therefore, you should be disagreed with or manipulated t…
/r/askTRP08/05/16 05:24 AM
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Your relationship is already on the rocks, this is her way of trying to make you jealous. Solipsism, girls think the same shit that works on them, works on you. Honestly the guy sounds pretty desperate by IG closing then sending a phone # over that. I wouldn't sweat this. Sounds like the relationship has bigger issues, like maybe your insecurity.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 05:13 PM
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During the "good times", my inner game was solid. But that destroyed my Game with girls. Why? Well, quite simply, there was something to lose. I had cultivated a positive sense of self, and going up to hot girls and risking rejection meant that I could damage that sense of inner confidence. That's the gist of it. When we get things or reach emotional states that make us happy, we tend to cling onto them. The resolution is to not cling, return to a state of calm, and accept that all things, good …
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 03:37 PM
1

You're right, they're two different things. If what you're doing is working more power to you.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 01:50 AM
1

There's a difference between being a social butterfly: knowing a lot of people, having many acquaintances, talking about random things; versus being charismatic. When you're charismatic and magnetic, people tend to genuinely like you, they open you instead of the other way around, and they try to involve you in their lives. You don't actually have to do much talking, it's mostly letting the other person talk about themselves.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 01:44 AM
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Book: The Charisma Myth There is no difference. Anyone telling you so is trying to sell PUA material. See, being attractive and being social go hand in hand. Women heavily look rely on social proof to gauge your attractiveness. They make the assumptions that you meet new people constantly and live in abundance. The only tweak to "pick up" a girl is slightly sexual body language and asking her out.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 08:26 PM
5

I'm a well off guy so I usually pay the first outing because I don't really care. However I expect her to reciprocate (if she's not a student and working) on subsequent dates or little things. Otherwise I simply see her less and/or move on. There are lot of options out there.
/r/askTRP05/05/16 05:07 PM
3

Really depends on the nature of the breakup, and whether it had anything to do with a loss of attraction. Lots of guys seeing this as an exchange. Sex only or sex must be on the table. A little needy but that's okay. Maybe you can learn something from fixing the computer. Maybe you're worn out from sex or have a date later that night. Just do what's best for you and a little generosity is not unhealthy.
/r/askTRP05/05/16 05:01 PM
1

That's all okay. Kids have wild and differing ideas about what love is. Adults do too. She's just trying to figure things out as you are. One RP teaching is that when a women says I love you, she means "I love you right now." or "I love the way you make me feel right now." It's a nice sentiment to receive. It doesn't mean she will always love you, or she will overlook all of your faults. I don't know what you two thought you meant when you said it. But reframing it to "I love you right now" migh…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 07:41 PM
1

She knows. They all know. That's the whole point of men & women talking. It's a balancing act between not being thirsty, and smoothly escalating and staying true to your desires. There are some mindsets that help, like you are the prize and sex is a mutual reward. In general it will be something you figure out as you go through life and take risks.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 07:03 PM
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I can't really help you with your acute thirst. In fact I think it will benefit you to get over your thirst as girls can smell thirsty guys and are repelled by them. The RP mindset is about being attractive and letting things naturally happen. It's not forcing X at a specific time T with specific person P regardless of any other circumstances like her schedule or stress level. It's a mindset grounded in abundance: there are always other girls, other times for sex, other things to enjoy and be ha…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 06:34 PM
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Even after TRP I held onto the idea of marriage being good for a while, for all the reasons you described. But looking closely at the contract itself, it quickly started to unravel. It is all downside risk and no upside. I'm still of the opinion that an LTR with kids is fine if that's what the man decides with his life. But I will never involve the government between us. It adds cash incentive for the woman to leave, which reduces her incentive to work through tough times. It only adds a minor t…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 06:21 PM
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It's just a foreign perspective for me, assuming women particularly in relationships are just looking for personal gain. but I honestly just wanted a bitch to fuck From what you write, you are in a relationship for extremely selfish reasons. It should be no surprise that all people including women tend to do this. It also pisses me off that she used to fuck her last boyfriend 4-5 times a week You think that's her conscious doing? That's his doing, his leading and escalation. He fucks her, not th…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 05:52 PM
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Depends if you actually made other plans or not. If it was a lie then why? You could have just soft-nexted and see if she still comes over. Let things happen, don't jump to cancelling out of defensiveness.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 09:01 PM
1

How many is "a lot"? I'm curious what the numbers are for Asians born overseas these days. That terrible gut feeling you get is your natural response to promiscuous women. You do not need to change your gut feelings, even if you could. Accept that this relationship has only a limited time left. You really need to stop spending money on her and save for your own future. Frame it this way to see if she'll understand, but be prepared for her interest level to completely drop. Don't make big commitm…
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:52 PM
3

If you draw, you draw and shoot. I'm surprised you didn't and have broken this rule multiple times. Glad you're alive.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 08:21 PM
3

What is the equivalent of leaving comfort zone for self confidence, but for self esteem? The equivalent is meditation and self love. Know that you are perfectly fine, as you are right now. You don't need anything additional to happen to feel great. The mental exercises that will work: Meditate Look around and find things to be grateful for Understand somebody's suffering and feel compassion for them Do something out of generosity Wish well being and success for others
/r/askTRP03/05/16 07:37 PM
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Since she was a plate, her main reason for being with you was sexual. Women (usually) live in sexual abundance and they can find a new sexual partner easily. The flipped example would be if she had a rich alphafux boyfriend. That's not at all easily replaceable and in that case she would have a hard time getting over him just as you describe.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 06:54 PM
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All those "beta goods" you describe are stuff I do naturally. I don't see sex as some experience that's separate from living the rest of life. When she's with me I don't hold anything back that would be enjoyable. I just don't make it verbally explicit that she has commitment or that I'm seeing other girls. I guess I strongly gravitate towards having FWB instead of "plates".
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 06:45 PM
2

"You know there's a loophole for that right?" (in the butt)
/r/askTRP03/05/16 04:30 PM
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First I have to say the whole relationship dynamic just seems off. The way you describe it, you seem focused on the trasactional nature of it all, which is a slippery mindset that leads to negotiation. It seems highly colored by greed and scarcity. What is she doing for me? How can I get her to do this for me? How do I get blowjobs? This is the opposite of abundance mindset and not how wild alphas operate. She will pick up on the emotional subtext that you aren't happy unless you get a blowjob. …
/r/askTRP03/05/16 04:17 PM
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afraid I would disappoint Getting enough sleep, eating healthy, lifting, diet, optimized hormone levels, not masturbating help. Especially the last two. Know that for a chick, the sex experience includes everything outside of penetration so foreplay, oral, fingering, dominance, emotion go a long way to satisfying her. So you can satisfy no matter what. Finally there are ed drugs. Some liquid cialis as a last resort or an optional boost. Don't get dependent on it.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:25 PM
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Everyone already knows she's a slut. The point is to get comfortable with it. Relying on drinks is not confident. You really going to ask a girl out for drinks (aka pursue) after she sleeps with your roommate? The right course of action is soft next, there are better things to do and new girls to talk to. This is a hail-mary text because why not, she isn't worth any further investment, not some sly method to get a 3some.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 06:35 PM
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Probably. It's decent social proof if it's a reflection of a great lifestyle and activities. Use it to entertain yourself and keep memories, not to post selfies or collect likes for validation.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 05:01 PM
-1

"Nice seeing you earlier. Ever fantasized about a threesome?"
/r/askTRP28/04/16 04:59 PM
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Each time. celebrate the fact that you approach despite fear. Really look back and say, "you know what, I faced my fear and that's a win, regardless of outcome." That positive reinforcement will go along way.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 04:54 PM
-1

Asian dude here, been with plenty of Asian girls. Tightest pussy was a Mexican chick, funny how that works out.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 04:05 AM
1

Generally, no. But I was talking to a friend in his mid-30s and he was detailing his various failures with women. He's tall and decent looking but he's got some money problems and lacks some fitness and style. His exes have straight up told him he's too nice and broke up with him, so I simply showed no surprise and stating matter of factly, "girls don't like nice guys." Can't really resist it if you've heard it straight from the girl's mouth. I let him borrow some of my books like No More Mr Nic…
/r/askTRP27/04/16 04:27 PM
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Trust your gut. I or anyone else can't possibly make the best decision for you. You don't need any "proof", reasoning, statistical analysis or logical justification to feel the way you do, despite what you've been conditioned to think. There is no numerical "red line" other than "I feel this way." Cover your risks by never marrying.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:58 PM
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What are your opinions on alpha widowing? It's like if you remember that one girl from your past that was super hot and the best girlfriend, etc. You can't help but compare your current girls to her. It's like that but for girls the effect hits harder, and they yearn for it more. That one guy who was so dominant, fucked them so well, made them feel so carefree, secure, and loved. Or the entire string of guys she rode in her youth. The ones she thinks about while having sex with her husband who s…
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:47 PM
1

Well, you can be happy about this awareness you have of the whole experience. For next time, you know that regret is much more painful than rejection.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:40 PM
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How you can influence them Sometimes you can't. You can only control yourself. She will naturally adapt your views, opinions, behaviors, hobbies, habits over time. Women are like water, they take the shape of their container. How to communicate to her indirectly that this kind of behaviour is slutty and unattractive without essentially singling her out By breaking up and dating more wholesome women. How to find out more about a woman's past? She seems to hide this pretty well so I'm not fully aw…
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:24 PM
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her husband seems pretty alpha Alpha is neither a concrete term nor a physical trait and a lot of guys who look alpha (think military types) are mentally betas. They sleep in separate bedrooms They probably aren't having sex and she is a woman who needs sex. They might have an open marriage, it's even pretty common in some places (California). He could be getting side action also. He could have some medical reason. You never know, so stop making assumptions. Im just beating myself up for not hav…
/r/askTRP26/04/16 05:07 PM
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It's her choice to live a hedonistic life and prioritize sex over long term outcomes. That's fine. It would remind me to be alpha fux because more and more girls are behaving this way. If I wanted kids, then I'd simply go find a young girl who never thought this way.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 04:59 PM
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Started seeing a cool single mom and I may have to deal with this eventually. Thanks for the perspective.
/r/askTRP26/04/16 04:53 PM
1

avoid regret further down the line? The grass will always be greener somewhere else. You'll never escape it. Spinning plates is not a route to lasting happiness, and neither is an LTR. But for many guys experiencing abundance firsthand is a required step before happiness. Especially after reading stories from TRP. I guess I'd feel guilty for doing it and don't wanna break up with this girl, This is the heart of BP conditioning, making you feel guilty for wanting your own happiness. Re-frame it. …
/r/askTRP25/04/16 03:23 PM
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I want the best wife possible and I'm not sure she cuts it.. After two years your gut already knows. Only your fear is keeping you from moving on.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 03:01 PM
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I'm probably talking too much about myself This is exactly right. People are interested in themselves, not you. Also words you say can never impress them. They know too well (from their own words, probably) that words can just all be made up. Also the things you like to talk about all seem to be about the future or the past. Try focusing your mind on the present. Just be curious. It's much easier. Ask her about her day, how she ended up where she is, what her orientation is toward the present mo…
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 01:43 AM
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My friend, you have both been sold a big lie by society. It sucks cuz now all my friends are married and with kids and here I am having to restart Really ask yourself how you arrived at this perspective. Is it your personal dream to start a family? Or is it the constant conditioning you received growing up, saying that marriage + kids = happiness. When you picture yourself with a wife and kids, do you also picture all the approval you'll get from family and friends? Feel lucky that your ex-fianc…
/r/askTRP22/04/16 05:28 PM
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Millennial men are doing a pretty good job at punishing rotten western women by withholding commitment. Are they? I see so much blue pill out there, attractive successful guys hungry for girlfriends and commitment.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 05:03 PM
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You recognize it and that's the first step. Keep repeating this recognition to yourself. I'm reading The Gorilla Mindset right now and it's the perfect book for your situation.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 05:04 PM
2

Here's the root issue- being social, creative, and having fun is primarily a right brain activity. Trying to use your left brain to logically navigate your way through a social situation will never work. You will come off as try-hard, analytical, not spontaneous. Practice creativity and spontaneity. Another proven way to connect the two hemispheres is to meditate regularly.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 04:23 PM
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I recommend listening intently. If you are really advanced, ask questions to really explore the details. See if there is any lesson to be learned from the difficult situation. Like if she's annoyed by some person, ask questions that force her to see things from their perspective. Ask what the other person does, and what their life is like. If she can see how their life is also stressful it might open her to feeling compassion. IMO it is a good test to see if an LTR is emotionally mature. Don't g…
/r/askTRP21/04/16 03:43 PM
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Try not to mentally think of it as some special event. Don't get caught up like this is "your chance" to have sex. Don't worry about "messing it up". It's actually her chance to enjoy your presence, and possibly impress you. Remember at her age she's probably thinking the same shit, worrying about what to say or what to do, in order to seem pleasant and attractive. Relieve her by being comfortable with everything as it is right now. It's just another day, there will be more days after this, and …
/r/askTRP21/04/16 03:28 PM
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The guy has premature ejaculation, he probably needs to start jacking off regularly.
/r/askTRP21/04/16 04:36 AM
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Hey there, I'd recommend this book, "You Are Here". In it, there is a section on dealing with people who are elderly, among many other insights that I believe will help. I really hope you find peace and relief in this matter. About your other questions, the basic way to avoid hurt is to understand things from all sides? Yes, actually. If someone does something hurtful to you, it helps to see how that person is just a victim of their own circumstance, their own wants, needs, and suffering. This p…
/r/askTRP20/04/16 06:03 PM
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Not at all a dumb question, in fact it may be the most important question of your life. Here you experience firsthand the truth about happiness, that it is conjoined with suffering. This question extends to everything pleasurable, including your existence. Nothing is yours forever, one day we will lose everything that makes us happy. So are we doomed to suffer? How can we release attachment to our very lives and consciousness? It's difficult, but you try to see everything for its true nature: im…
/r/askTRP19/04/16 09:03 PM
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Grass will always seem greener somewhere else. Doubt and regret will always hammer at the gates of your mind, threatening you with scarcity. All you can do is connect with the abundance that is everywhere. See how the universe brought you here and now, see how it will continue to provide you happiness if you allow it. It's doing so right now, already in fact. You can be happy and at peace, right now if you wish, you don't even need the wife and kids. Every day the universe serves up multiple new…
/r/askTRP19/04/16 04:23 PM
1

Thanks, that's the word I was looking for. Having a "crush" or "clinging" to a girl is painful. This morning I was trying to fill out some affirmations. Now I think I have them. "Rejection is less painful than regret, or having a crush." "Rejection is less embarrassing than clinging/orbiting." How else other than clinging to a woman are you supposed to express your true intent? That you like her, but not coming across as desperate and clinging onto her? Please dont say fuck 10 other chicks lol. …
/r/askTRP19/04/16 03:42 PM
1

Do you believe the theory of gravity applies to you and your daughters? You can try to fight human nature, but you need to be aware of it first. Would you want your daughter to end up with a Red Pill subscriber? You have all these concepts about red pill already. Like it's some kind of cult with "faithful". Nothing here is sold on faith, it's all subject to individual investigation. You are literally being reductive and objectifying a whole group of people based on your own prejudice. Individual…
/r/askTRP19/04/16 03:23 PM
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Welcome to reality where loyalty and attention spans don't exist and branch swinging is fast and furious. You're always in competition with other men, but at least there's always a new bitch around the next corner. So go lift.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 03:09 PM
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I've always wondered what the logistics were like at such festivals. So having a nice, comfortable tent sounds important, along with good privacy arrangements.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 03:03 PM
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If it's sarcastic A&A. If it's genuine, the Charisma Myth trick is to Pause 2 seconds, really take it in, and then reply with gratitude.
/r/askTRP19/04/16 02:45 PM
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Playful is good but only if it's mixed in with dominance. Text only for logistics now and if you get with her again be dominant. Don't look for IOIs or anything, just escalate. If she deflects, cut the time short and start seeing other girls.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 08:51 PM
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When you're making out it's also a chance to show dominance. Maybe pull her hair, bite her neck, grab and scratch her a little, press your hard cock against her.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 07:12 PM
1

Interesting. I've found a good system now using a hanging product and all-day extender. Also pumping at night before bed. My flaccid size has exploded in the last 6 months so I'm suspecting once my flaccid is nearly as long as my erect, the two will start growing together.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 07:08 PM
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isn't maintained afterwards and then regresses That might explain why I feel so good after pumping at night: the engorged penis last all night and into the next day, allowing it to heal in the large state.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 07:07 PM
1

Shit, grats, newbie routine didn't do shit for me for years. Started hanging/pumping and it looks promising.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 06:40 PM
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Grats on your gains! I've been PE'ing for a while and the newbie routine didn't do shit for me. I'm a hard gainer apparently. I started hanging & pumping and the gains are now coming slowly (mostly flaccid gains), maybe 0.1" or 0.2" erect gains so far. The fact that you started below my length and reached 7" is encouraging. Something I'll add to the post is tadalafil (aka Cialis). Buy it in liquid form, experiment with small doses first. You must also work on dick health through natural methods …
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 06:38 PM
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I've eaten here out she's given me head. Ehh... that doesn't sound so bad. Post was misleading because a lot of people do consider oral sex as "sex". I'd honestly just enjoy the head. Sometimes I'm having sex, get tired, and I wish I could just lay back and enjoy a blowjob, lol. A relaxing time, no performance anxiety and shit. I think TRP has infected me with thoughts like "oh I gotta fuck her so good she'll come back for more." IMO keep her as a BJ plate, and get new plates. I'm surprised she …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 06:24 PM
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Hey man there's nothing wrong with wanting to trade up if you want. If your girl is adding stress to your life that might be a good choice. If the reality is that your girl is too insecure to be with you, it could cause you suffering if you deny/fight it.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 06:14 PM
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IMO shit tests are always pretty covert and the proper response is always more or less covert. While uncovering them might be a good defensive move, it kind of dispels the fantasy that you're an alpha who can handle it smoothly. As if you're over analyzing this shit. But if it gets you laid keep doing it.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:42 PM
2

Yes, when I was young and inexperienced, and it led to unsatisfying multi-year relationships where we didn't fuck. So is the solution only to be alpha? Yes.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:38 PM
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"You wanna hang out before class monday or are you busy this weekend" What's with this vague wet noodle text? The only decision she should have to make is whether to agree to your decision. I'm pissed off about her ignoring me? Grow some balls and don't let small shit piss you off. "I would love to play with you this week" "I'm free Wednesday night, come over."
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:34 PM
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Solve her problems by fucking her good.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:32 PM
2

Comfort tests all the way. Since you failed the first comfort test the second morphed into a shit/comfort test hybrid. She wants to know your shit is together enough to pass her comfort tests, funny enough. A good mindset for comfort tests would be "I can't help if other girls hit on me, that's just a fact of my life. But right now I choose to be with you."
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:29 PM
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Yes feeling her up can always be done covertly, and not necessarily on her tits/ass. Other zones can be equally erogenous and much better for creating sexual tension, like the neck, hips, waist, hands. Not just the zone but the type of touch as well, a little scratch or an almost-too-hard squeeze can be very suggestive, even when you're just holding hands. Grinding is more overt so be mindful if her friends are around. You should treat it like any other escalation: it's about teasing and buildin…
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:19 PM
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Man just relate with her and empathize/be compassionate. You really think she's got a conscious plan to make you jealous, like she signed up for one of those text-yourself services? "I know right? Random thirsty texts are so annoying."
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:42 PM
6

Alpha isn't about being right or winning all the time, it's about not being afraid of be wrong, of taking risks and losing.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:40 PM
2

I had a realization this weekend that making out should be kept very short, used to build sexual tension rather than releasing it. You should always be the one to pull away first. Same goes for any conversation, pull away on a high point. If it's early in the night you should have the mindset of meeting more girls instead of pushing for an early close. Once you are in the new club you should be gaming new girls. Not sure what "chatting normally" is for you but it's a great chance to learn about …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:38 PM
1

When to exit monk mode? Sometimes the answer to a question is in looking at the question itself. Why do you want to know "when"? Are you looking for permission from TRP? Safety? Protection from / a low risk of rejection? A lack of confidence in your own decisions? You can tackle that fear of rejection now, while your failure rate is still high. Later on, it'll morph into fear of damaging your ego. "I'm attractive now, I better not approach, because that could prove it all wrong." The overcoming …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:27 PM
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"Sorry honey..." IMO it's borderline passive aggressive, sounds like complaining, and it admits a weakness/unhappy state (your aversion to sexual tension, thirst for sex). Also it's probably a lie. Ignore her for a while, re-center on yourself. If she pursues be straightforward and honest like "I like you but I don't think the chemistry is right between us." Make plans with other girls. If she likes you at all she will not let you go easily. If she protests at all, respond with logistical "Come …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:02 PM
3

Don't worry about a 1-10 rating. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Ultimately, people only judge others because they are insecure themselves. A pleasant personality is tremendously attractive. Also do squats and get dat booty.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 03:41 PM
2

Great advice even if under-appreciated. Lots of people still attached to their own ego and consciousness. "I think, therefore I am, why do you want to take that away from me?" Any experienced meditator knows about 95% of their own thoughts can't be trusted and are grounded in delusion and ignorance. Even simple thoughts lead to suffering, thoughts as simple as "I want that." An easy way to tell is asking "is this thought grounded in one of the five hindrances?" Those being greed, aversion, sloth…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/16 07:03 PM
3

Hey you are the way you are, and you're changing. That's enough to give yourself a ton of credit. Try not to focus on anger when the undesirable thoughts and tendencies arise. These thoughts aren't "yours" they are from society's conditioning, and it's not "your fault" you're having them. Recognize there's no need to blame or kick yourself, and that it's counter productive to do so. Instead, celebrate the fact that you recognized the undesirable thought or tendency, and made a course correction.…
/r/askTRP14/04/16 05:52 PM
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Me too. Huge facepalm when I read it and some pained sympathy for all the idiots who are still plugged in. That word, "love" is so poorly defined it's practically always with manipulation or delusion attached to it.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/16 05:40 PM
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No, all habits and mindsets can become unconscious with enough repetition and positive reinforcement. It does feel unnatural at first, you are fighting deeply learned behavior. Use discipline to build positive habits, meditation to soften the mind and open it up to reprogramming.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 03:50 PM
3

I had this train of thought the other day when I suspected that yet another girl I'm talking to turns out to be a probable slut. I felt the old reaction "that's sucks" or "that's too much", then I remembered AWALT and her life choices shouldn't impact me whatsoever. Only thing to do is calibrate and take advantage. Also realized I was spoiled by my last LTR who had N=2 including me.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 03:48 PM
1

Probably not. It'd be like trying to commit suicide by holding your breath. Even if you managed to knock yourself unconscious by doing so, the release of consciousness would let you breathe again.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 06:58 PM
1

Probably better to use snapchat to share cool moments.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 04:19 PM
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Troll post or actual guy who feels replaced by a vibrator and female ham.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 04:17 PM
1

You'd probably save money and effort with the bland, overpriced food from My Fit Foods than a human nutrition coach. But really, you sound like you're almost there, why not just add 10% more discipline and do it right?
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 12:38 AM
2

Yeah, we were all raised with the same conditioning that men & women are the same: equally independent, capable, loyal, and identical in love and romance. It's outright fantasy, pure Disney. Look at it this way, women are physically weaker and mentally less capable than men. Evolutionary speaking they depended on men for survival. Survival trumps loyalty by a long shot, and a woman who wouldn't branch swing would have offspring with inferior genes. In a way, it is a gift to you. We are all simpl…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:31 PM
1

If he's already struck out with her it will help him move on. Maybe clear it with him first, give him a last chance, but ultimately he needs to let go of his oneitis. Especially if he reads here he should be able to let it go.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 05:01 PM
1

After so many years the craving for new pussy is real and natural. It doesn't sound like a bad situation. It's up to you if you want to chase the craving or if you see a happier future with her instead. Both routes have challenges, risks, and rewards. Think about what you want out of life and what route leads to your fulfillment, not hers. She's young and attractive, she will not have a hard time if you break up with her, so don't worry about that. If you're still nerdy or beta you will have mor…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 04:56 PM
3

Fear of silence.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:52 PM
1

Why does this conversation sound so serious. "I can spoil you with ice cream and hot dogs."
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:52 PM
2

I am not what you think I am You are what you think I am When you really start to act out of care, compassion, and generosity for others, you will see that they begin to return it to you. Not necessarily everyone, but a lot of people are actually really kind and everyone has capacity for compassion. But we are all self serving. You will notice that the people who don't return your compassion, you will associate with them less, because you are self-serving as well. But I can't seem to find that m…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:46 PM
3

"wanna come back to mine?" Gotta have reasons to give her for plausible deniability. Come meet my cat. Cool movie collection. Library of great books. Musical instruments. Whatever. Learn to cook, everyone appreciates well made food and it becomes the ideal date idea. If you can legit have fun with her coming over and not requiring sex out of it, then it's not a big deal if she doesn't give it up that night. It will come across in your intention when you invite her, and she is much less likely to…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:28 PM
1

Yes and no. I did all the diet / exercise stuff. I was fairly strong (5'8 350lb squat) and about 14% body fat. I felt good, but I still tested as Low T and was covered by my insurance for TRT. So the effects of diet & exercise on T may be well acknowledged, but they are minor compared to genetics and what's possible with drugs.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/16 02:23 AM
1

Just do it and don't care about how you look / whether you suck. You will suck, just own it. Luckily skill in other dance genres translates well so you'll learn quick. If you decide to get into it, really make an effort to understand and enjoy the music. What you'll see is a lot of people dance on auto-pilot, almost like they're not hearing the music. Remember it's not about turn patterns, but enjoying the music and the connection with your partner. It's easy to forget that when every group less…
/r/askTRP09/04/16 05:34 AM
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I'm a salsa dancer and see this all the time, sometimes I make light fun of the girls for dating non-dancers. Most dances in the scene are just friendly dances. Most guys will not escalate beyond a dance. Most guys are beta. But there are rare exceptions, like myself. Lots of couples who both dance will understand the etiquette and will dance with many other people in a given night, without being insecure over it. That's normal and we view dancing as something to be experienced with many people,…
/r/askTRP08/04/16 10:00 PM
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If she is actually ultra religious about it, do her in the butt.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/16 03:58 PM
7

Just don't go on bar dates. Or order water/juice/soda. What's up with guys doing things they don't enjoy, just to entertain girls?
/r/askTRP08/04/16 03:28 PM
3

Great question! In the book "The Charisma Myth", the three pillars of charisma are Power, Presence, and Warmth. To cultivate warmth, the suggestion is to cultivate gratitude and good will. Think about things and people in your life that you like, and express gratitude for the good fortune. Think about things and people that you don't like, and express gratitude for having those as teachers. Think about your body and heart, thank your heart and other body parts for beating day in and day out, kee…
/r/askTRP08/04/16 03:22 PM
7

"Everyone in the group thinks I am a good girl I used to think this way. I sort of still do, as an old habit. Now I make the effort to assume every girl is a bad slut, no matter how innocently they prance about.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/16 06:34 PM
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Six dates is a lot IMO and she's just enjoying the validation from you pursuing her honestly. The key is not to use dates & time spent as if depositing some kind of currency in an account, that later use to bid for sex. If so she picks up on that and you lose value for each date where you don't escalate or pressure her. You escalate and go for sex as early as logistically possible. Boldly face rejection each time. Laugh it off each time, it's just a silly game. she kept moving my hands off That'…
/r/TheRedPill06/04/16 06:40 PM
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It's just like men. The vast majority of men are also losers. It's a cultural epidemic. My 2c, find women in normal places, not in bars & clubs. There are many women with good minds and habits. It is negatively correlated with their physical attractiveness, but hot ones do exist.
/r/askTRP06/04/16 06:09 PM
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You know what your problem is, because you already expressed it here. You are quick to have "feelings of annoyance, disgust, dissatisfaction" with pretty much any external stimuli. This is not a problem that exists out there - it exists in your own mind. You have a lot of preconceived judgments about anyone you see. This says more about you than it says about them. You judge yourself very harshly and your mind copes by projecting onto others. You assume other people's enthusiasm is fake because …
/r/askTRP04/04/16 07:15 PM
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Text is just not the place to try and turn her on. What would you do if you had two other girls lined up? IMO push for logistics or else go cold.
/r/askTRP04/04/16 04:26 PM
2

The dude can actively control his endocrine system, auto-immune system, heat generation and a list of other crazy shit There's a field of research (and overpriced products) around this called "biofeedback". There's also a thing that's catching on called "floating" (aka sensory deprivation or REST) that can enhance this process, among many other things. I tried to visit a float spa this weekend but all 4 of them in my city were fully booked. It basically forces your mind into deep meditation and …
/r/TheRedPill04/04/16 03:21 PM
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I'll make it up to you :) Suggestive text, she wants the D. I need an apology because I'm not alpha, I get butthurt about stupid shit. This is where you derailed the train and the rest is crashing and burning.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 07:44 PM
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Pretend you're someone else and read your post.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 04:23 PM
1

For all we know you could've texted her some dumb shit like "hey how are you doing?" Next time don't suggest to take her to some big thing "one day". Ask her out to a date or activity sometime in the same week.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 10:06 PM
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My friend, I am not judging. I am stating facts as I see it. You consider your perceptions "obvious". That itself is another layer of delusion your ego has manufactured to protect itself. The truth is, you enjoy this fantasy where a girl is in love with you, it's much more pleasant than acknowledging your own virginity, and much safer than making a move. You like receiving her validation, but you know making a move might put all that at risk. So your ego hamsters for protection: "She's only a 5.…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 09:57 PM
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You describe yourself as confident and dominant, yet you've never held hands with a girl, and you are worried about breaking hearts. You saw some hints and concluded she is in "love" with you. Without having talked to her you rated her personality on an imaginary 1-10 scale. Bro you are living in heavy, heavy delusion. Drop all your thoughts. Don't trust anything your brain produces from this point on. Go talk to her, invite her to do something fun. If she agrees, go have fun. If not, move on.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 07:18 PM
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Just stop watching PUA videos, you're already cultivating the wrong mindsets. I would probably steer away from saying the "L" word. What you say doesn't matter. At all. Overall the guy did a good job with talking to the girl It's not a guy's "job" and talking to girls is not work. This mindset will drain you. I would have said "Yeah i know. My mom tells me that every day" Conceited and literally childish.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 07:11 PM
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She's just not LTR material. No point in fighting it, let it go. Look on the bright side, you have a head start because she's your first plate! Assuming she doesn't live with you.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 05:57 PM
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I can't stand all the Herbalife my friends are pushing but damn do they make bank. Honestly once I reach my ideal physique I'll probably look for some bullshit supplement or nutrition thing to peddle / sponsor me. Or make my own. I already mix my own pre-workout.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 03:36 PM
1

Look on the bright side, it's not like she'll suffer much from loneliness after you dump her.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 02:50 PM
1

Not giving up my EC stack until I'm 9% bf
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 04:52 AM
1

No I haven't. Although, I have been getting interested in this thing called Floating (aka sensory deprivation). You may want to check it out.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 09:38 PM
1

Yup about a year now here as well. Every aspect of Buddhist teaching fascinates me, even the more mystical stuff like no birth and no death are starting to show its truth.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:47 PM
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In theory, (very few) people have abandoned it completely by becoming enlightened. For myself, I am not willing to adopt a monastic life, so I will always deal with some level of discontent. Once you have the realization that "oh, this is the source of suffering", that opens your mind to taking steps down the path laid out by the Buddha. While there are many teachings to ponder, the keystone of practice is mindfulness meditation, the technical details of which are in that book. The mind must be …
/r/askTRP29/03/16 06:48 PM
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Shame is indeed a very powerful negative emotion. The good thing is that you can let it all go. The main thing you need is acceptance from yourself. Sometimes telling another person and listening to them accept you is very healing. The good part is, this still works if the other person isn't real. Write a letter or have a conversation, with whoever you think you need acceptance from, with whoever comes up during your emotional times. Don't actually send the letter, you can write or speak their r…
/r/askTRP29/03/16 05:04 PM
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For me, peace and happiness comes from the dharma. I've had fleeting glimpses of it, the rest of the time I'm pulled by my desires and frustrations. I'd say there was a turning point where I just had sex with a hot 20 year old and a came to a clear realization "this is great, but this isn't lasting fulfillment. In a few days, maybe hours, I'll be fighting again for the next hit". Read the first three pages of Chapter 1 in Mindfulness in Plain English, to see if it jives with you. And the first p…
/r/askTRP29/03/16 04:48 PM
2

First it doesn't make sense at all. Second why are you wasting mental energy on this shit.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 04:18 PM
1

Bro you could probably write a book and I'd buy it.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/16 03:10 PM
2

What you said is not asking, it is indeed a command / imperative. It's good. Eventually you want to get it where the only communication needed is body language.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 04:46 AM
2

I just broke up with a 5 year LTR recently with many high quality aspects just as you describe. I wondered the exact same things. You need to quit porn and lift like crazy. This might solve your sex problems in your LTR. You can re-evaluate it after that point, if you wish. It is natural to fantasize about other women after 5 years. That's just how the body works. There may be no fighting it, your body craves adventure and new things. If so, you will only get more and more unhappy. Cut things of…
/r/askTRP28/03/16 05:12 PM
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Get into more LTRs.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 04:59 PM
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Don't bother asking. When things are getting sexual just go "come here" and guide her head down. And do this with the next girl. This one's done and doesn't respect you. Probably because you're asking for sexual favors.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 04:58 PM
1

Every published idea and thought is a "weapon" designed to influence the mind of others. This goes much deeper than words about women's behavior, it's pervasive in history, economics, politics, and business. 90% of your public education material was brainwashing. I can extend the argument even to math and science. You probably feel angry because you believed it to be something else, like objective or moral absolute truths. That's what academia teaches. Watch what people do, not what they say.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 04:46 PM
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Casual sex is by definition dehumanizing and distilling another human being down to their sexual organs and using your body and theirs as fuel for instant gratification pleasure. Possible, but not necessarily. If you hold the mindset that sex is taking from another person to satisfy your sensual desires, then it is so. This is also true in a committed LTR, where sex can be selfish, exchange-based, and result in an accumulation of suffering. The "committed" aspect of any LTR is a delusion. Everyt…
/r/askTRP28/03/16 03:38 PM
2

Mindfulness in Plain English Wherever You Go, There You Are any book by Thich Naht Hanh Anything on audiodharma.org. This is an awesome podcast series, if you ever need one concept blown up in super detail it's all here.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 03:25 PM
2

From another angle: If you do penis enlargement, less masturbation correlates with more gains. From https://www.pegym.com/articles/masturbation-and-penis-size-gains
/r/TheRedPill28/03/16 02:46 PM
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Saw this last night too. Too many decent looking, fit guys, dating or married to fat ugly women. It's my personal sticking point right now to retain good vibes even in the presence of things that sadden me. But damn it's hard talking to a vapid fat thing even to just appear social. Puts a drain on me.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 04:12 PM
1

You're borderline moralizing with your post but it's understandable since it's some deep insecurity you have: the philosophy says something is wrong with me, not it? TRP's stance on marriage has nothing to do about "being a man" or "being alpha". It's about recognizing an extremely one-sided government enforced contract and becoming aware of the massive amount of brainwashing (media, social pressure) out to pressure guys to sign blindly. Your post here contains much of the usual rhetoric. "Don't…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/16 09:53 PM
2

Check out floating. I meditate regularly and I'm starting to get into floating, even so far as to buy a float pod for my home. Joe Rogan raves about it and professional sports teams use it for various reasons. I may do a write up to put it in RP context someday, but I'm just starting out for now.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/16 06:15 PM
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Says that after she has sex with a dude, she feels that there's nothing more to do. She grows tired of the dude. "LOL those guys must've been lousy in bed. Come here I'll show you."
/r/askTRP24/03/16 08:33 PM
0

I have a home gym and for some reason this has never crossed my mind. Thanks
/r/TheRedPill24/03/16 04:45 AM
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“No it has nothing to do with my worth. If you make me wait that long that just means that I’m not attractive enough for you to find irresistible” This is the best mindset to have to short-circuit typical girl game ASD. She thinks she's increasing her relationship value then you flip it upside down: that her ASD is actually making her less attractive in the long run because you'll look back and remember that she wasn't that attracted to you.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/16 08:48 PM
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My assessment is you are thinking too much like a PUA. You are constantly assessing her body language whether she likes you or not, and waiting for indicators before making a move. Personally I think anything other than outright rejection is a green light. Being so young, she's likely as nervous as you are and unsure how to respond to kino. Remember she invested all that time (30+ min?) into commuting and meeting you, so assume she's very interested. Use a physical lead every time you want to mo…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/16 08:36 PM
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For continuity of rapport it's better to just agree, not worth sweating small shit like this. To maintain the fact that you're leading, pick the drink for her. Or buy the drink at a liquor store and take her home already. It's the third date already.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 03:58 PM
2

Metta meditation. On top of lifting and all that
/r/askTRP21/03/16 10:10 PM
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Answer to 1) All her behavior is a massive shit test. She can tell you're afraid to kiss her. As if it had emotional consequences for you. As if you are lower SMV than her. In fact girls may reject the first few kisses just to see how you react. Your "Why not?" was a great response. Her statement about her ex is a non-sequitur shit-test, and should make you laugh. "Then why is he your ex?" "Here, I'll help get him off your mind." 2) Game as usual. Be present, kino, escalate. Be ready to escalate…
/r/askTRP21/03/16 09:59 PM
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Hand holding is actually a great and bold move in the early stages. Same with putting your arm around her. Same with going for a kiss whenever you feel like it. I have it in my head that I need to be able to have every girl I date want to fuck the shit That's your ego driving your thoughts. It will result in outcome dependence. Have you ever gone for a kiss, and the girl has declined or moved away? How did you respond? Did it affect your confidence in the long run? It's all just a game man. It's…
/r/askTRP21/03/16 09:37 PM
1

I'm just feeling that moments like these are fake. The love and intimacy. They're not fake. They are just impermanent. This is the source of your sadness and suffering. You want to attach onto a pleasant experience as if it were permanent. This is normal and all of us suffer from this. You will find over time that nothing is "sacred" and everything is impermanent, thus not worth attaching to. These insights and insight into the Four Noble Truths is one way to liberation from suffering.
/r/askTRP21/03/16 04:44 PM
2

Those teeth strips work? I need my teeth whitened, was thinking of visiting a dentist.
/r/askTRP20/03/16 02:15 AM
1

"Love" has become such a loaded word that I tend to avoid it entirely, now. But, I think it's a worthwhile study to see exactly which facets of "love" we are attached to, and which we are experiencing / have experienced. First, there is the usual romantic love that is fettered by attachment and conditions. It is intensely colored by ego, desire, and greed. I want your body only for myself. I want your body to feed my sensual desires. I want your attention and affection on me alone. I want you to…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/16 08:45 PM
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So true. Guys come here wanting to get laid but don't realize that their women issues are only a side effect of the indoctrination. The real purpose is power and money. Instilling faith in the government, faith in fiat currency. Cut off the balls of the population and you mitigate risk of revolt, etc. If you're a democrat, republican, or statist you haven't fully awakened.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/16 04:36 PM
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The transition to RP involves not being attached to that girl. Or any girl. Of course it's possible. But would you want to? You'll know progress when you don't care either way.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 11:52 PM
1

I was just talking to a co-worker about getting into Airsoft. Turns out he heads up one of the largest groups in my area. Can't think of a better (and fun) way of finding people to hang with than that. We'll see.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 11:49 PM
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"JSMT, I'm having a bad day, talk to me about anything?". Oh man, so easy to sexualize. "Sure come over and I'll make you feel better."
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 09:36 PM
3

Hey I read the book and I can see where you're coming from. It's not satire. The language does cut hard if you are blue-pilled and stuck in a "women are wonderful" mindset. Many times I said to myself "what a ridiculous statement... but you know... if it were true... I could probably find many examples that would support it." Any blanket statement about women or men isn't meant to be taken literally or 100% true, there is just too much individual variation and circumstance. The book is also 40 y…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/16 11:05 PM
1

After diving into mindfulness meditation and buddhist teachings I'm convinced that every path through life is happy and fulfilling. So long as you are here and awake for the present moment. You don't technically need this or that to be happy, you only think you do. The wanting (a form of greed) is one of the five hindrances that pulls us away from what is here and now.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/16 03:42 PM
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I'm 30, I just broke up with a 5 year LTR. It was very hard but I have a strong sense this route will make me happier, at least for a good while. I'm amazed by this post and all the comments. It's great to be in good company.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/16 06:19 AM
1

Hey bud I hope you take RPmatrix's post to heart. You are over analyzing everything and there are a few things causing your suffering: friends with flaws Everyone has flaws. You have flaws. Accept them, we are all human. Try not to define people by their flaws, nor look for flaws when first meeting people. The way you list out their details and features also shows you are comparing yourself to them. Don't compare. me + 2 girls if I don't pull I'm still blue. What a lot of pressure you put on you…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 05:20 PM
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She's young and trying to figure shit out just as you are. Yes, her ultimate goal is your commitment, that's just how girls are. Even if she doesn't want to keep you for LTR, getting you to commit is a skill for them to develop. You need to just take the lead and push for what you want. She also told me she wanted to get to know me better before we have sex Shit test. Chances are that if you cave she will confirm that you are not as alpha as she thought you were.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 09:02 PM
2

I too am making an effort to cut out porn, and reduce the power of lust to take me away from the present moment. I think cutting out porn is a great goal. But I would suggest, don't fight your lust. Explore it in the presence of real girls. It's part of you and your biology. Any anger, self-criticism, self-doubt, is also you. They are all a part of you and all deserve to be treated with acceptance, mindfulness, and love. Or else you will fight a battle for the rest of your life. Practice mindful…
/r/askTRP27/02/16 08:58 PM
1

Just curious, are you snipped or you just don't care if she has your kid?
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 10:38 PM
1

Yeah, most of us go through this phase where we try to answer this question. But the ultimate answer is: Don't. Don't act. I'm sorry you feel like you have to put on an act to get what you want. It's a lot of work to live life like that. It's like deep down we don't think our true self deserves it. And it might be true, if we haven't put in the work at the gym or in our career. Yeah, "just be yourself" is a shitty answer. But if you lift, have a great lifestyle, and a good social circle, you rea…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 05:01 AM
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Two sides, inner and outer. Outer game: fearless approaches conversation skills social calibration bold, calibrated escalation personal style Inner game: abundance mentality outcome independence DGAF attitude high self esteem overall enjoyment of life
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:35 PM
2

Basically if you have a crappy life then you have to pretend that you don't. Pretending is hard. Also chicks are good at sniffing out when you're pretending.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:29 PM
1

Yup, what you say doesn't actually matter. If it's observational and situational, great! If not, there's always "Hi." followed up by "How are you?" after a pause to get her attention. It takes a degree of boldness to approach without an excuse or "opener" and girls will respect you for it, and she may help you along for a bit.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 06:58 PM
-1

SAD is referring to Standard American Diet here. In case you misread it.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 06:54 PM
1

I have to offer an alternative strategy. Talk less. Don't look for a conversation thread that will "steer" the thing where you want it to go. Just go there, in body language and action. Guys' first instinct is to try be "smooth". If a smooth transition presents itself, great take it. But if you have to try and find it, don't. Experiment with being bold.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 06:52 PM
0

Just curious, does he watch porn a lot? That can fuck shit up. Too lazy to enjoy and appreciate foreplay is a sign of it (his brain is wired to take the shortcut when he's horny). Maybe he's just low T and low libido. Maybe he's got performance anxiety. Maybe he's just not mature enough as a man. Maybe he's not come to terms with his own madonna/whore complex. Maybe he's raised by a blue pill world that tells him masculinity is bad and being dominant in life (and sex) is bad. We just can't know.…
/r/askTRP24/02/16 05:40 PM
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Yes you should do whatever you feel like. You don't have to tell people to fuck off but you can laugh at how meaningless their judgement is. Anything you do in high school won't matter very shortly.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 05:18 PM
2

Escorts are great, if you can afford them and the pleasure is worth the money. We all pay for sex, either in time or money. It's really a personal decision. I have almost entirely stopped talking to "civilian" girls now, I think this is a problem though, as far as personal growth is concerned. You might be protecting your ego or feeding an aversion to rejection. You also miss out on the excitement of gaming. But if you're happy, you're happy, fuck what anyone thinks.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 05:16 PM
2

Lots of guys saying just ignore and cut her off. You're free to do that. But I don't think spending 5 minutes to give a few job pointers is a big deal. In life, being generous and having compassion cultivates your own sense of abundance. Also, forgiving her for giving some dude a blowjob is good for your own mental health. But don't spend more than 5-10 minutes.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 05:12 PM
1

Best way to go about it. She's most likely testing your discretion, seeing if you kiss & tell.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 04:36 PM
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Ayy I've been dancing this shit over 10 years I'll share some thoughts too. In general they are the same as yours. Treat it as a social scene, not a bar. You will see the same people over and over, maybe for years. Befriend everyone. Don't be that needy guy doing pick up. Seriously. The scene is usually not that big (unless you are east or west coast) and reputation will get ahead of you. Lemme tell ya a girl who can dance well can bump her SMV like 2 points. There is something hypnotic and prim…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 08:08 AM
8

It's a strange feeling to go from an 8 SMV to like a 1 or 0. And by strange I mean depressing. This is a reminder that while we're out lifting and enjoying this game of life, to not get too attached to our successes. Don't depend on them for happiness or peace. They are impermanent and not reliable. We all eventually become 0 SMV, when we grow old and die, if we don't get unlucky with cancer or accident. Cancer, pain, aging, loss, tragedy, death, some of these are inevitable but it's possible no…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 10:11 PM
2

I'm in this situation, too. I feel bad about it. I need to find the balls to break up with her.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 09:34 PM
2

what valuable woman That phrase, taken by itself, is the real question. What is so valuable about any one woman that one should sign a contract with zero tangible upside just to maybe keep her around until she gets bored? Millions of girls turn 18 every year. They are all replaceable.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 09:11 PM
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Man I just finished reading "The Manipulated Man" and damn the language was too strong to really buy into (ie: "[all] women exploit men and [all] men are tools or slaves; women have no intelligence or capacity to love, etc"). The book read as some extreme caricature of AWALT. But it just seems truer and truer the more I turn it over and the more stories like this I read. A woman's highest rewarding strategy in life is to exploit men. I think this is what it all boils down to and it's no wonder t…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/16 05:36 PM
2

even though she was talking negatively about me all the time. Damn man she didn't sound like enjoyable company in the slightest. I feel like I would lose some self-respect trying to push through all that just to get a lay. Like, why bother? Life's good man. She's probably more drama in the long run than the pussy's worth. I think you did good rejecting her. Guys gotta remember they are da prize.
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:50 PM
1

If her emotional problems or withholding a routine kiss worries you, you're her bitch and she knows exactly how to manipulate you.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:13 PM
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I'm a big fan of audiodharma.com Top guide is Mindfulness in Plain English, pdf of it is online
/r/askTRP16/02/16 07:03 PM
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The Charisma Myth Mindfulness in Plain English
/r/askTRP15/02/16 10:47 PM
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I also eat a ton of cruciferous veggies to reduce my bad estrogen ratio. My TRT doc has me on a DIM (diindolylmethane) supplement to reduce estrogen. Same thing as eating a truckload of vegetables except physically possible. Check it out bro
/r/TheRedPill15/02/16 04:17 PM
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Nice but I'd use amused instead of negative language instead of calling the BP a pussy. When you insult other people or talk negatively the negative vibe gets attached to you, no matter what. Just a subtle thing to practice if charisma is a thing you're interested in. You can express compassion instead like, "Wow I hope he finds a girl all that works on."
/r/askTRP12/02/16 11:06 PM
1

Get her a colorful sparkly butt plug
/r/askTRP12/02/16 07:57 PM
1

Are you making 40k or 400k? If it's the former, then nobody can fault you for marrying a rich girl. It's not exactly manly but hey we each do what we do to be happy and have a comfortable life. If it's the latter, you don't really need it. You're set in life. Do whatever you want.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 07:56 PM
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Keep working on it. Notice how her texts are concise and manly compared to yours. "Hmm well", "and stuff". Fluff language, communicates uncertainty. "bars", "go out and stuff". Vague and typical things. Communicates that you're not special. "I thought you didn't drink" - congruency test, you're coming off as non-genuine and try hard "If you'd rather" - afraid of leading and escalating, asking her to decide "Did you just ask me to have sex with you tonight?" - She's frustrated at your unmanliness…
/r/askTRP12/02/16 07:39 PM
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There could be many things going on. You're not attractive enough. You're too close to her social circle and she won't risk being associated with a low SMV guy. Because the other guy's online she have sex outside of her social circles. Like girls who travel. The fact that you are friendzoned by other girls tells her to do the same.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 06:34 PM
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Typical betas gonna be jealous of everything. But what can you do? Ben Franklin effect - ask them for favors and they will subconsciously like you. Make it seem like you really valued their help and advice. Before you judge them, know that these people are suffering from their own egos and thoughts like all of us. If you keep to yourself you might be seeming like you're avoiding them. Try to just engage them with compassion in little ways.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 05:35 PM
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May as well make a hail mary play if you're already no contact. "Make me brownies and wear only a thong, then I'll forgive u" Sometimes, when all else seems lost, the sudden and aggressive escalation works.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 05:27 PM
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Again, and finally, the point of RP is not to find out some objective truth. It is a framework of beliefs that lead to positive outcomes for men. They are free for you to reject, adopt, or change as you wish. Women's love is conditional and different from man's. Believe it, and you will not slack on your career/lifting/charm. There are enough examples of men who do, and get divorced or cheated on. Maybe you're good looking enough where this belief has no benefit to you. Good for you. After all y…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:43 PM
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Bro you failed at about every step in this interaction. You refused to help her plan the wedding. News flash, women need help making decisions in just about everything. Making a decision (in anything) and taking full responsibility requires balls. If you really didn't care just make ridiculous suggestions. Your outburst of not wanting responsibility is a show of weakness. You told her you need to stop complaining to her, because that's not a man should do. You overtly communicated that you are n…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:32 PM
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Why react to an idea with an imaginary edge case? If your mind refuses to explore it, that's okay. There are no absolute laws that cover 100% of human interaction. I have no desire to prove myself nor have I asked you for proof of your worldviews, knowing that proof of causal relationships simply don't exist in this field of knowledge. I suspect you have never questioned the positivist epistemological foundations of social science, and that's okay. Our universities don't either, because professo…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:01 PM
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1 Whether double standard is okay nor "not okay" is irrelevant. It just is. We don't bother trying to change things we can't control. But very simply, consider that being a promiscuous male takes work, skill, status and game. It's not the male promiscuity itself that is attractive (it is not), but the qualities it entails. Being a promiscuous female takes no skill or quality of character, and if nothing else (assuming no psychological damage), opens up likelihood of disease. 3 How do you propose…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 09:22 PM
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"You can't turn a hoe into a housewife." -Ludacris. Come on, you know this. Chad is just a reminder that as men, we are valued for what we work for. We are always in competition, and if you become fat, lazy, and dreamless she will not love you because: There is no such thing as unconditional, eternal love. However, men have more capacity to believe in this, being the more romantic sex. Case in point, men can fight wars and sacrifice their lives en masse to protect their women. The thought of sac…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 08:14 PM
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I am going to start meditating Good. This will help tremendously, if you do it correctly. Read Mindfulness in Plain English to learn the context and nuts and bolts of meditation. I feel this empty void inside me The next thing is to accomplish shit. To really not care what other people think of you, you need something else that you really care about. A mission. A set of accomplishments that really solidify your internal self-worth. Your list of things to do is great, channel all your frustration…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 05:27 PM
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I have the same issue but with only porn and video games. Replaced negative habits with positive ones: lifting, meditating, reading, guitar practice, dance practice. Finally, just discipline. It's the hard road which makes it the best road.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 11:04 PM
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I had an intense moment last night during a short 20 minute meditation where I noticed I was intensely not bored. Watching my thoughts come and go, seeing the recurring patterns, watching how each thought entices me to either feel happy, sad, angry, or pull me to action. It was like, watching the most dramatic movie ever. Sitting through each thought, not acting or feeling on it, simply holding it in awareness, took a lot of effort. I get very tired toward the end, just like with a set of weight…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 08:42 PM
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You gave her a label to "shut her up". You know this dishonesty will come to bite you later on. I know it's hard to give up easy comforts in the present moment. But in the big picture, it's best to let her go IMO. These thoughts will live in your subconscious and gnaw at your integrity, self-worth, and confidence. That's why it's better to just let a plate drop than dishonestly promote her to LTR. Try to have a little compassion for her, see things from her point of view. She, like every other g…
/r/askTRP08/02/16 05:17 PM
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Asian here, also had an intelligence complex in school, also beta. Could've been worse, man. I spent all my HS and college years in relationships that were unfulfilling (read: no sex). Same thinking, I was a "good guy" who followed the rules and bought flowers so I should get sex, right?? I was proud, too, of having a 3 year relationship with a girl who didn't fuck (she was a virgin so did that make it ok? who knows what I was thinking). Ha looking back I would've loved to have steady sex with a…
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 06:22 AM
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You let her lead you to a seminar you're not actually interested in. That's where you failed. She's not dumb, she knows you want her but are too afraid to admit it. You're friend zoned. Move on.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/16 03:52 PM
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I can't even meditate because i'm thinking all kinds of stuff. That's okay, just become aware when your mind wanders. Then, gently bring it back to your breath. Each time you notice your mind wandering, that's like rep of weight lifted. Over time you gain awareness of, and a sense of distance from your thoughts. The random thoughts lose their hold over your feelings and actions, and your mind gains control. build the courage/confidence to be able to hit on more beautiful girls... Hitting on girl…
/r/askTRP05/02/16 10:22 PM
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Couple of possibilities, maybe a combination: 1) You are generally afraid of change. Your hamster comes up with reasons to protect your ego. "The 8 might reject you!" "The 6 is beneath you!" "What if you're bad at sex!" This mental block is just something you have to overcome. Use your fear as a compass for where to go. "This sounds scary. Therefore I must do it." There are only positive outcomes: success or a learning experience. Meditation practice will help you become aware of fear as it aris…
/r/askTRP05/02/16 08:34 PM
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unthought-out, spontaneous and communicated my desires Let's endeavor to drive every action and every thought in life with this. Life is too fucking short for otherwise.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/16 03:49 PM
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Yeah I know a 10 face girl that would be all around 10 if she lost 30 pounds. Great genetics too, carrying most of the fat in her ass. What a pity.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/16 03:01 PM
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What if she lives with you?
/r/askTRP05/02/16 06:03 AM
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By joining the military you are just a tiny pawn in a system you don't understand. All Wars Are Bankers' Wars Believe whatever makes you feel better. It doesn't change any outcomes.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/16 09:56 PM
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You compensate by not wasting your mental energy on things out of your control.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 08:38 PM
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"not for the first 30 seconds. after that no promises"
/r/askTRP04/02/16 08:32 PM
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FFS TRP is not a bible. TRP is about being your own man and not giving a fuck about what TRP thinks. The little bitch level is high in your post. Each time you write "before you guys say X..." That's YOUR inner gut feeling already saying X. Not us. Your mind and your ego seek comfort, avoid change, and want a cushy relationship. Your gut knows you're not sexually fulfilled and would be happier elsewhere. Based on this I'd say bail from this sexless relationship and go become a man. But what do I…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 08:14 PM
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Meditation, like lifting for your mind, will help you deal with thoughts.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 06:14 PM
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Perfect sense. It's not about money or even looks, alpha and attractiveness are based on behavior. You flirt. You cheated and proved without doubt that you're attractive with options. As much as everyone will hate on it, she can't help but feel more attracted. Is it healthy? Not really. Could it have been executed better? Probably. But it's nature. Before this modern era it was pretty well understood for high status men (kings, etc) to have mistresses or concubines (Asia even into the 1900s). Al…
/r/askTRP03/02/16 06:11 PM
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You will literally be able to redo every situation differently in your mind, even the successes. Got laid? Maybe it could've been better/sooner/again the next morning! Key is to stop going down that mental route, embrace everything as a positive learning experience, and accept everything as it is presently.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 05:03 PM
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Since you already meditate, Mindfulness in Plain English will help you with technical aspects of the practice. The other two are like collections of feel good passages, that are good reminders of positive mindsets and inspiration to practice.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 08:06 PM
1

"I can fix that"
/r/askTRP01/02/16 10:17 PM
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You can't think of anything to say because you're attached to the outcome or response to what you want to say. You want, you need her to react positively. Or else your ego will be hurt, poor you. The key is, you guessed it, stop being attached to the outcome. Just speak your mind, everything will be just fine. Read Models by Mark Manson.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 10:16 PM
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I think confirming the "FWB" is too overt. In a way labelling a relationship as "FWB" is always bad for a girl, unless she's some kind of intellectual feminist who is looking for that. They thrive more on ambiguity and mystery. "...But I feel our lives are completely different." "I think different makes life exciting." "What are you looking for FWB?" "Good question. I'm just taking it one day at a time." Add a pressure flip after is an excellent idea.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 06:01 PM
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They will likely use the next crisis to ban cash altogether. You never know when holding cash if your government will issue a sudden devaluation. All paper financial assets are gambling positions now. Real assets are king.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:59 PM
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Welcome to the end result of every liberal government / socialist movement in history. Economics is like physics, there are laws and you can't bend them. Austrian economics is like the red pill of economics. On the fringe, hated and heavily disparaged, but here and enjoying the decline. And damn, I should vacation in Brazil.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:54 PM
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White, wealthy, 23 years old, college in the city, studying STEM, decent car, live by myself, good conversation skills, funny, intelligent, fashion is average but not bad, good masculine face but maybe my nose is ugly. None of this matters because you are needy as fuck. The neediness comes out in your behaviors. Read Models by Mark Manson. Glad you restarted meditating, stick with it. It is 100% the best way for you to find the inner happiness that you really need. Read "Mindfulness in Plain Eng…
/r/askTRP01/02/16 03:27 PM
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Don't be dependent on her emotionally or physically, just be a man. If she cooks or does your laundry, just appreciate it. Be compassionate and understand she's another human being who struggles and wants happiness. Smile, be happy, and give her hugs.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 03:20 PM
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You're not in an LTR, you're her bitch, and she's gaming you for money and attention. Especially if she's not a virgin.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 07:32 AM
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When a person hates everyone around them and thinks everyone is this and that, I generally assume this person is not socially successful and is using a defense mechanism. I had a bad problem with judging people quickly, especially if they were fat or ugly or something. It was significantly detrimental to my vibe and overall happiness, especially social situations where I would search for reasons to not interact with someone. To fix it I did three things: Every time I caught my mind doing so I to…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 05:49 AM
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Shows how natural Chads in the wild probably get by on looks more so than game. Some of you players probably would've turned it in a threesome.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/16 02:30 AM
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Gotcha.. so why do they lie subconsciously to themselves? We all do it. It's the natural state of our mind and our ego. We say and believe what makes us feel good all the time. They actually want men to put up a strong front. They don't want a man to "front" at all. He's either strong or he isn't. So they will never tell you to "be strong". If she is verbalizing "I want you to be strong/dominant", she is already in a very desperate situation. When she says or does something that implies "I don't…
/r/askTRP29/01/16 05:08 PM
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Pulling is where you "pull the girl toward you", ie say something nice or put on a sexual vibe. Push is where you gently push her away with a light joke. Or just stop pulling and return to a platonic vibe. It has to be fun and well calibrated. Why do you assume it's her problem? You miscalibrated. You pushed too hard. Maybe you were "trying something you read on the internet" and not reading the situation.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 05:05 PM
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Ask him
/r/askTRP29/01/16 04:52 PM
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You need to distinguish between white lies and real lies. The "lies" they tell often fall into subjective categories, and can never be actually verified, only intuited by watching her actions. They say they want a nice guy who take care of them and be good to them, but they really want an asshole who will take advantage of them and tell them what to do. That's just your perception. They really do believe in this statement, in their cognitive mind. They will arrive at this statement every single …
/r/askTRP29/01/16 04:46 PM
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she says that the only reason she won't go home with me is that my friend is her boss. You know that was a thin shit test right? She literally said she's attracted enough to fuck you. Just tell her something about keeping secrets and lead. That's why it's her worst date. She had to pay for drinks and didn't even get sex for it.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 04:37 PM
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I struggled with the same mystical aspects of Buddhism as well, the idea of reincarnation and nirvana just seemed nuts. But the more I looked into it, I realized these concepts are more of a framework for practice and teaching, than a dogmatic "you must reach this or else!" threat like Heaven or Hell in western religions. In fact very very few people reach or can be expected to reach nirvana. The vibe I mainly get is compassion for all humans and their suffering. The path is laid out but it's vo…
/r/TheRedPill29/01/16 04:11 PM
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something more than happiness My god, the grand delusional fantasies. Even if he got into the relationship he's set up for a huge disappointment. Good luck to this guy.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/16 03:50 PM
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Why only pseudo-buddhist? You already recognize the second noble truth of Buddhism, that attachment and aversion cause suffering. The way out is mindfulness meditation and further studying the teachings. Awareness of the true nature of all phenomena will free you of attachment and aversion, and allow you to fully live in the present. There are a number of realizations along the way that contribute to letting go: All things, thoughts, and phenomena are impermanent, and thus not worth clinging to …
/r/TheRedPill29/01/16 05:49 AM
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Rather than recommend I stop posting, you should start reading. If you seriously think all the businesses will just go under in the blink of an eye Not what I wrote. Did they all go out in 2008? 2001? No. But people lost a lot of money. You won't make money off precious metals Not what I wrote. I wrote, "preserve wealth". But on certain timeframes gold has even outperformed stocks. they should continue investing in safe index funds This word, "safe", has a lot assumptions behind it. What exactly…
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 06:11 PM
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How should I react when they try to ignore me when I pass them? You don't react, you lead. If you feel like talking to them just grab their attention. If you wait for IOIs all the time you are not leading or living in your own reality. Girls often have very social lives and talk to people all the time. All the other chumps wait for IOIs like they need permission to open or escalate. You though, you're alpha. You don't give a fuck. You say hi, you touch her, and you leave all just as easily becau…
/r/askTRP28/01/16 05:54 PM
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You want a real red pill? The entire fiat monetary system is designed to systematically transfer your wealth to an elite group of bankers. The political system is just theatre to distract you from reality, total control over your money. After the dollar reserve system dies, it will probably just be replaced with another fiat-based system. The cycle repeats. Get out of the stock market for at least a year if you haven't already. Preserve wealth in physical metals, and maybe bitcoins.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 05:09 PM
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Bravo. Just wondering what the next steps should be. Move on and do you, man. You don't need her dragging you down in your life.
/r/askTRP28/01/16 03:39 PM
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So her personality is shit, but she's still hot. Plate potential. That one question was all the interest she gets for now. She can earn the rest. "Why are you single?" is a very aggressive, confrontational way to start a date. Giving nutrition advice is the same. You're quick to judge others, and plan ahead for failure. "The balls in my court now." treating a date as some contest. You don't sound very fun to be around.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 01:36 AM
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Do you care for your job? If so, don't. If not, who cares.
/r/askTRP26/01/16 05:53 PM
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I will say certain ethnic girls raised with a conservative culture do not follow "AWALT". They really open up in a relationship and take care of you, and are fiercely loyal and submissive. That said, AWALT still exists in their subconscious, especially the more hot they are or the more privileged life they've had. They don't date down. They tolerate beta tendencies better, but become poor/jobless and they will branch swing. The best course of action is still assuming "All Guns Are Loaded".
/r/askTRP26/01/16 04:24 PM
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The line really doesn't matter as long as your mind and body display amusement. "Why?" "Tell me a good joke." But if you're getting hit with this you've probably already failed, or she is not worth your time.
/r/askTRP26/01/16 04:17 PM
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It's hard to see the value in this post. There are worse things to suffer from than nostalgia. But I guess suffering is suffering, and deserves sympathy. I guess it shows no matter who you are or how much you're slaying, inner peace and happiness is through a different door.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/16 04:13 PM
1

Marriage is rejected because the legal risks simply don't make any sense. You add incentive (alimony, assets) for her to leave you, for any reason, and get nothing tangible in exchange. Also, most betas don't recognize AF/BB. That is, the possibility that she could be marrying you for your providership and not because of attraction. Sure, this may not apply to you. Or it may not even bother you, at first. But this happens to lots of guys who are physically unattractive / have no game. Understand…
/r/askTRP25/01/16 10:10 PM
2

It's just imaginary - your paranoia. The future hasn't happened, it isn't real, so why let it rob you of your present life? Yeah, your gut is right, she is capable of cheating. Nothing lasts forever. Don't marry her, enjoy things while they last.
/r/askTRP25/01/16 09:47 PM
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Don't depend on anyone but yourself for your happiness. It may happen, just appreciate it but don't cling to it. Take it one step further: don't cling to anything. All you need for happiness is awareness and your breath. Achieve liberation!
/r/askTRP25/01/16 09:43 PM
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I understand that the more you speak the more you can disinterest her. You still don't get it. You're still trying to manage her interest levels, as if she were the prize. Eventually this try-hard frame will leak and she will smell the neediness.
/r/askTRP25/01/16 07:07 PM
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Now. Did I react correctly? What would have been the "red-pill" reaction. The kids still got away without punishment for their disrespect. I think you handled your anger as well as you could, and your silent expression vacuumed away their fun vibe, which is punishment enough for them. But maybe try one step further and see the reality of things, that maybe the disrespect only happened in your mind and your perception. They're just kids, if you step into their minds you may just see them having f…
/r/askTRP25/01/16 06:41 PM
3

You (confused): Midgets are actually good at performing certain acts on tall guys like you Pete... are you coming out? If you only didn't have those beautiful pimples on your face... Way too verbose man. And defensive. Remember most communication is non-verbal. You can use the fact that Pete paid you attention at all, to your advantage. "Yeah I'm back! I just did xyz and..." assert your frame, talk about what you just did. You have way better things going on than to react to Pete's frame.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 07:38 PM
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You. Are. The. Prize. That's it, that's all of what you're missing. That's how guys get away with saying and doing anything. When they are the prize and their looks, actions, and thoughts are congruent with that fact. You are not showing interest because you are afraid of rejection. You are trying to micro manage her reactions and thoughts. Who cares? Enjoy life. Do and say whatever you feel like.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 03:58 AM
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No not really. But seeing one girl a lot tempts you to get complacent and LTR her. Then, who knows. Nothing lasts forever, just enjoy the ride.
/r/askTRP22/01/16 10:39 PM
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Additionally, I'm really good with conversation, pushing and pulling, flirting and leading on to the point of desire girls that I've known for a while. Not so much in dating or anywhere else, I get so strangely quiet, fake, and anxiety ridden. If you think you are good at conversation, you might be too good at conversation. If sex / dating is the goal, then every bit of conversation should have a purpose and be sexualized. In that respect, less is more, and body language is everything. Add silen…
/r/askTRP22/01/16 08:21 PM
2

You're paying attention to her words too much. The subtext about revealing her sexual frustration to you is that you can cure her. Your reassuring her, taking her seriously is buying into her frame. She's not really embarrassed, it's just first, maybe only shit test that came to her mind. Her weak attempt to reject you is not believable in the slightest. "I haven't had sex in a year..." "You poor thing, I bet I could heal you." "I don't think we should talk anymore." "You're right, dancing is be…
/r/askTRP22/01/16 08:09 PM
2

I would reframe the question as "What do you do [for fun]?" and then just spit off whatever hobby comes to mind first. Talking about jobs is boring, most of the time. If you do have to talk about your job you can express it around the impact you have. Instead of "I make software", "I make teacher's lives easier" or "I make sure XYZ always works" etc.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 09:26 PM
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There is one practice that's dedicated to becoming liberated from such attachments and the suffering they bring. That is mindfulness meditation. Read the first few pages of Chapter 1 in this book and see if it resonates with you.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 08:59 PM
1

Knowing nothing about them it's hard to say. But game is different for guys and girls. If the BF makes great money, is ready for marriage, and she loves him, then it's worth staying to try tie him down. From the guy's perspective he absolutely should not uproot his life for her, he'd likely lose everything.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 04:55 PM
5

My libido has increased dramatically on TRT administered at a clinic. I think staying within physiological ranges helps with staying normal.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 04:49 PM
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DEEP DOWN, The Blue Pill inside you will say “you need to get laid” or “you got to get action” or “any hole is a goal” Yeah man letting go of that craving is so hard. Even around hot women it arises, strongly, because there's this additional "oh I gotta fuck her for my ego, so I can brag/post a FR/be validated/etc." That's the inner beta, trying to be alpha by getting results. It's like, life can be completely good one moment. Then I see a hot woman and all this craving and unsatisfaction arises…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/16 04:46 PM
2

Just be happy for her and really amused. "wow whoever sent those must be a great catch!"
/r/askTRP21/01/16 04:36 PM
3

She did all these things to try and get my attention. That's just her hamstering and manipulation dude. Doesn't matter how a girl rationalizes her bullshit, if it annoys you it annoys you. She sounds really fucking manipulative, lying and fighting from the start. There are much better girls out there. Finally, even if you did want her back, the way to do it is not become a beta chump. Get multiple plates and subtly let her catch wind of your lifestyle.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 04:33 PM
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When she does something right, really light up and say shit like "Oh yeah, that feels good, just like that, keep doing that", etc
/r/askTRP21/01/16 04:25 PM
1

See that's just your perception, man. That's the problem. Assume she's saying you look like a genius, the next billionaire, crack the biggest smile you can and roll with it.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 04:24 PM
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Y'all worry and strategize too much. OP read the situation well and really brightened the brunette's day. If you go out with the humble goal of bringing other people joy and fun, that mindset brings natural abundance and outcome independence. I feel like the idea should always be to push it to the limit and kiss / fuck, and not get the number. This is kind of true for if you need to push past your comfort zone, but this mindset can also make you very needy. It's mostly logistics and not in your …
/r/TheRedPill20/01/16 07:08 AM
1

God damn, good on you for gettin' on it as a freshman in high school. And damn, 70 people in the whole class? I would say don't be too aggressive. There's plenty of time (4 more years?). Be the cool guy whose enjoying life and not at all needy.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 09:36 PM
4

Vit D and C in the morning. Everything else with evening meal. But your priorities are backwards. Diet & exercise first. Don't even bother with creatine, carnitine, maca, taurine if you don't lift.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 07:56 PM
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Not necessarily next. She just wants something casual but of course girls can't admit that kind of stuff. "cool not trying to be your new bf"
/r/askTRP18/01/16 10:24 PM
5

What if I just want to plate her? Then why the fuck would you consider moving in with her?
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:52 PM
2

There's nothing to be gained by moving in with them. My shitty psych guess: you subconsciously want to re-live your past relationship with her to see if you can get a different outcome, mostly to heal your ego.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:47 PM
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You and your gut already know it's a bad idea.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:39 PM
2

Wrong way to go about it. Do fish understand the struggles of the fisherman? ED? Tadalafil. Could also get your T levels checked. It's not your game to look for "red pill" qualities in a woman. It's her game to show you. Yes, a shit test. Again, fish talking to the fisherman.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:37 PM
1

That sounds about right for any government work. Incompetence all over.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 02:30 AM
11

Your brain likes to fantasize and that's okay. It's a normal brain. Meditate over her image and see the truth of what she is. A walking, talking bag of meat, bones, blood, and poop, just like you. She's not divinely special or unique. This is just your moment in time with her so enjoy it while it lasts.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:43 PM
-1

We don't actually believe these things but you can believe it and keep trolling if makes you feel better.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 05:37 PM
4

u/kempff is spot on. Talking to her is a waste of time and should be cut as short as possible. But another thing that can develop a healthy mind for you is to wish people happiness and well-being, even people who have wronged you. Compassion for others goes hand-in-hand with compassion for yourself. "Listen, I forgive you, you did what you felt would make you happy. I've moved on. I wish you happiness and success in life. I have to go." click
/r/askTRP12/01/16 04:28 PM
1

Passing on your self-hate is going to be much worse than passing on your height.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 04:07 PM
2

If you can't go on a simple nature walk with her and not have her get bored you don't want her as an LTR. Do anything, enjoy life.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 03:57 PM
4

Modern dating culture can be a mixed bag. If it makes her feel better to pay then that's that. She doesn't want to be a burden. I wouldn't worry about it.
/r/askTRP12/01/16 03:53 PM
2

50mg of Test C is a very low dose for TRT. Even 100mg a week is low. Mine is currently 140mg/wk with great effects. You may experience different side effects later, like taking a lot longer to cum. Increasing your dosage through your doctor should be done through bloodwork only.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 07:33 PM
1

Because of my problem I will not be able to have anything more than one night stands Lol bro the ones you want a relationship with are going to be low n-count and not size queens. I personally like the phallosan. Have only had flaccid gains so far but we'll see.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 04:50 PM
1

but oftentimes I fall asleep during my attempts "Sit with dignity" said Jon Kabat-Zinn in "Wherever You Go, There You Are" which is IMO the second most essential book after Mindfulness in Plain English. Your back should be up and shoulders back, like you're relaxed but still projecting power. If you're still sleepy, fix your sleep schedule first.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 04:44 PM
0

Personally I think everything should be tax exempt And there shouldn't be taxes
/r/TheRedPill09/01/16 07:17 AM
1

My mom told my first girlfriend she shouldn't date me because I wasn't nice to her. My sisters have talked shit about me to girls I've dated. And most of all, the three of them have made fun of girls that I dated/hung out with. God damn what a toxic environment, I feel for ya bro. In the short term you need to create distance and become independent. Try your best to ignore what they say, their words are not facts. Don't take anything they say seriously, either ignore it or joke with it. Channel …
/r/askTRP08/01/16 11:07 PM
1

The Charisma Myth is pretty good for business relationships, and easily adapted to game as well.
/r/askTRP08/01/16 08:06 PM
3

I almost feel a small part of me reverting back to my previous self and questioning my own self-worth. God isn't it crazy how that works? We're such social creatures on a subconscious level that we can't help be influenced by other people's frame. Here's a strategy you can try: ask them for little favors. They're family, after all. This is called the Ben Franklin effect.
/r/askTRP08/01/16 08:00 PM
2

Damn you hit the nail on the head. Sure feels good to be desired for earth shattering sex though, I think because it's the form of desire we personally experience the most.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 06:53 PM
18

I initially thought MGTOW was like giving up, too. Then I realized I needed to let go of most of my craving to really develop abundance, presence, and lasting happiness. I could get what I wanted yet still feel unhappy and craving more. Or I could be happy with everything exactly as it is, and my outcome dependence disappeared. It was difficult at first because the craving was also the source of motivation, so a careful balanced needed to be struck.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/16 06:27 PM
2

if I came across one that actually seemed LTR worthy wouldn't she be avoidant to my advances? Yes, it's like haggling. You want a low price she wants a high price. I think this is one of the biggest realizations between blue & red thinking: recognizing it's a game and you're actually opponents. You're not supposed to play nice together and agree the whole way. You're supposed to risk rejection push the boundaries, and her resisting. There is a bit of struggle and negotiation. I notice that most …
/r/askTRP08/01/16 04:38 PM
6

Sometimes we can't grow unless we've felt the true pain firsthand. It's just another turn on the path of life. Have sympathy for your fellow man, man. It will soothe you better than wishing bad for him.
/r/askTRP08/01/16 04:05 PM
2

a passion for anime and japanese video games lol, kids. These are things you only sit back and consume. Pick passions that are productive and require time, effort, and thought. Unless you drew anime or produced video games, it's not a real passion.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 10:42 PM
1

Discipline will serve you better than motivation.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 03:48 PM
3

I mean fuck, all because some supplicating losers with small dicks try to compensate for it with material things, the human race is at risk of getting spat out by planet earth within a few generations. Really don't understand this statement. Small dicks are related to materialism? So what's the point if you can't build a family, and pass on all you've painstakingly learned to the next generation If that's your thought, maybe your mission in life is really to start a family. There are sacrifices …
/r/askTRP07/01/16 03:45 PM
4

I love it. How many ways can it be said to run like hell from a girl? They're all in this thread. Tell her that after what she said, you can only see her as a whore, trading sex for money. And you can't live thinking you married a whore. Yeah that'll make sure you go out with as much damage as possible.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 03:25 PM
2

Do you think it's fair that I have to hope for him to be in a really bad mood to enjoy my day? This question reveals the weak mental state you're in. Bro, you can enjoy your day no matter what. This guy insults people as a defensive tactic. Well adjusted, alpha guys don't do that. He's likely reflecting people in his past who bullied or insulted him, or hiding his own insecurity. If you could see how he's just a victim, you might let go of your anger. You can fight for verbal dominance but you w…
/r/askTRP06/01/16 09:33 PM
3

Am I wrong in wanting to crush him in return? It's a natural reaction, you're not wrong. But, it won't help. The real trick to winning people over is counter-intuitive, but very powerful. Instead, try these things: Be overly positive, just give appreciation and value for everyday life. Carry a genuine smile that's un-fazeable. Be happy to see him or anyone. Our emotional state naturally transfers to people around us. Pretend his insults are genuine advice. Never respond defensively, agree and am…
/r/askTRP06/01/16 07:03 PM
13

Buy a squat rack or power cage. You can still bench in it and will be able to squat when you realize you should squat.
/r/askTRP06/01/16 06:01 PM
2

Shit I deal with this problem too. One thing that's helped is meditation. Just being aware that my attention has wandered gives me the chance to fix it. Then it's up to discipline, which is another issue sometimes.
/r/askTRP06/01/16 05:40 PM
2

Yeah dude, you shouldn't have to verbally demand sex. I don't play dread game in terms of flirting with other girls or getting super ripped at the gym, Going to the gym gains is not for dread game, it's for yourself. The dread game takes care of itself. "technically not overweight based on BMI" This tells me you're out of shape. You should be overweight according to BMI if you have significant muscle. Hell if you're even using the BMI chart you haven't delved into fitness enough.
/r/askTRP06/01/16 05:27 PM
9

Man my childhood was completely absent of any dating advice from dad. I think all I had to go by was whatever was on TV, music videos like Backstreet Boys and Final Fantasy games lol.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 05:11 PM
5

Damn thanks for reminding me I wasn't alone in dealing with a beta past. It's a special kind of hell that nobody acknowledges or even bothers to help boys avoid/go through.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 05:06 PM
0

As an Asian guy I'll just say that most Asian dudes I see genuinely have no game and are beta to the core. Maybe it's their upbringing, maybe it's society, maybe it's the media. Who gives a fuck? Life isn't fair. Lift, enjoy life, stop caring what others think of you. Will you face rejection and problems? Of course, but those are the things that make you grow. Embrace it.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 05:00 PM
5

Honestly IMO just be completely race blind. Pretend you're a divine creature and can do no wrong. The less you think about shit that bothers you the better.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 04:50 PM
5

It even goes deeper then that, the Asian guy's own mother will work to make him into a beta So fucking true. Funny thing is, when I started lifting, acting alpha, giving less of a fuck, my mother seems to like and respect me more. Starts asking me for trivial advice like about decorations, lets me make all decisions like ordering dinner when we go out. All around, more relaxed and loving around me. I honestly think it's refreshing for her. My dad constantly depends on and seeks her approval.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 04:48 PM
1

As long as management knows who is doing the heavy lifting, that's enough. The sharing credit is a high level charisma strategy to get people to like and appreciate you. It's mostly just lip service. Sharing credit with your superiors, for example, will earn you favor and line you up for promotions. People tend to take ownership in someone if they feel like they contributed to that person's development. Their success becomes linked to your success, and they will support you any way they can. Thi…
/r/askTRP06/01/16 03:50 PM
3

I don't know what I'd change. You need to lead & escalate to sex. When she gave you a BJ she wanted to fuck. When she drunk texted you she wanted to fuck. You came across as clueless or too afraid to escalate. I'm not good enough yet at making deep connection or talking in general either Jeez who cares about that stuff. Maybe you have some mental hangup that requires you to create a "deep connection" before you feel justified to escalate. It's not true. You just escalate. Like an animal.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 04:57 PM
2

When you somehow you got her to apologize for being flaky, "Prove it, meet me at X"
/r/askTRP05/01/16 04:45 PM
3

I feel like my bigger aspirations of learning, aggressively pursuing financial independence, and travel are not taken seriously. Why do you need them to take you seriously? Are you dependent on them? Do you guys think its wise to say something like that? No, it's like breaking frame against any other shit test. You revealed a lot of weakness.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 04:41 PM
1

Cut down interaction time with these people, always be positive and professional. Exude value and positivity. That's what he's doing, if he's being "always funny". You need to let go of your "hate". It will not help you. You instantly lose if you feel it as a struggle. Smile and appreciate the laughter and fun to the atmosphere. I mean, I'm even the best at my job while he's just average (this is work, but a very social group), and they all know this. This is a problem. When do you succeed/accom…
/r/askTRP05/01/16 04:26 PM
1

I think women, for the most part, aren't consciously playing their beta providers. It mostly just happens, they get offered free attention and services, and it's the way of the world. Like, it's not a conscious process where providing for her kills attraction. But it happens. I don't know I could be totally wrong and they are all consciously Machiavellian. It's quite interesting that to her, "you had fun" and she "loves you" while you're secretly like "fuck this friendzone shit". Just appreciati…
/r/askTRP05/01/16 06:09 AM
7

They are just trying to make themselves feel better for not trying as hard. See it as a gift. Why does the iron try to weigh you down, when you're trying to lift it? When they test your resolve, your resolve becomes stronger.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 06:00 AM
1

Sorry to hear you've been bullied man. That stuff can leave deep scars leading to social anxiety, but at least you found this place and can work on things. BY JUST TALKING TO THEM You may not be aware but your entire mental and emotional state comes out in your body language. Girls read this easily. If you're nervous and afraid it doesn't matter what comes out of your mouth. The key fixing this is presence. Be present in the moment, not in imagining potential alternate futures. There are many st…
/r/askTRP05/01/16 05:57 AM
1

I can't see how someone can say "I don't give a fuck" and still imply that getting women is a worthy goal. Why do I give a fuck about pussy? Because it's not going to be granted to me There are guys whose access to pussy is really so easy that they genuinely don't give a fuck about any single girl. It's that abundance mentality that we strive to emulate until we get it. Pussy is a worthy goal if you aren't getting much. Be wary of making it a primary goal. Women can smell thirst and desperation …
/r/askTRP05/01/16 05:24 AM
14

"I can only come up with bad reasons."
/r/askTRP04/01/16 06:26 PM
1

Just recognize it as bullshit. The fact that "being single" even registers as bad is because of brainwashing you've been subject to your entire life. You've been taught to seek approval from women (your mother and your teachers), make good grades, be obedient, be a gentleman, and give up your commitment easily. It's all bullshit. There are guys who aren't smart, aren't funny, don't have PhDs, and get women easily because they just don't give a fuck. Cherish your freedom and independence and don'…
/r/askTRP04/01/16 06:25 PM
1

Use it to develop a skill you can make more money off of. Honestly the stock market is too damn risky, or it takes too long to get a useful return with that small amount of capital.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 05:46 PM
9

"Well send me some pics of you then"
/r/askTRP04/01/16 04:10 PM
4

Weight training is the only way out of the loop that is bouncing between skinny fat vs starving. Cardio 6 days a week while under-eating will hammer your body with stress, keeping the fat on and your life miserable.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 04:06 PM
1

It's tough man realizing that most of my mind's thoughts are bullshit or anxiety producing. Even positive thoughts contain the ego trying to protect itself. During meditation practice try to catch and break down any thought that manifests as words. Try to see past the words into the raw physical feelings. Sit with these feelings, ask about its true nature or origin, and see if you can "re-word" them. There's a three step process to dealing with stray thoughts: 1- Destigmatize: "Many people have …
/r/askTRP04/01/16 03:59 PM
2

Wow awesome post. I just finished reading The Charisma Myth and this is an excellent follow up with concrete examples of things to do or say. Really looking forward to more.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/16 09:50 PM
15

I think I just want to win our last head-to-head confrontation.. You're 30, hitting your prime. You have a house. She's 32, hitting god knows what. You already come out of this a winner.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 07:40 AM
2

Some other things not mentioned: Muscle mass is very strongly correlated to longevity Lifting weights builds new brain cells It is the safest, most effective type of training when done properly. Compared to stuff like running or crossfit. I see this shit a lot. Tons of people train for running when really lifting would serve them better in every way. Strength training improves cardiovascular health. More so than running.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 08:33 AM
1

No shit. But it attracts the wrong kind of attention, girls that just want to use you / divorce rape you. You'll certainly get attention and IOIs when you go out, but beyond that it's not what you want. Think about it, she'll always be slightly disgusted by sex, it becomes a chore or duty, kind of like how wives are after their husbands let go.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 07:36 AM
1

Heh one thing we say to guys is to dump your bad friends who try to keep you in your bad habits or try to shame you for improving yourself, etc. It's just defensiveness on their part because you improving makes them look bad. I imagine it's the same with your girl-friends. They pick on you because your good choices make their choices look worse.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 07:14 AM
1

Does your dead end job have health insurance? If so, get your blood checked for low testosterone. You almost certainly have it. TRT will help a lot but there are costs/risks so it is a personal choice. In addition to losing weight, there are some really fat comedians out there so there's nothing stopping you from working on humor / charm / sociability. You can be all turned around by 37 and still live a fulfilling life.
/r/askTRP02/01/16 06:18 AM
1

Here's the thing: overcoming anxiety is all about dropping the thoughts and habits that cause it. That's right, you don't have anything to learn or add to your personality. You have everything you need to overcome social anxiety, right here right now. Makes it sound much easier doesn't it? You don't need tips, or routines, or whatever. You just need to remember to be present. Ignore that voice in your head that's giving you anxiety, smile and enjoy who or whatever is in front of you.
/r/askTRP31/12/15 04:16 AM
2

Keto is great but I'd stop it once you reach lower body fat levels around 15% or advanced strength levels. This is because it will lower your free testosterone. 1 It might work for some people down to 10% body fat but I think there are better ways at that point.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 06:48 AM
2

you really don't need to have an enhanced physique to be the most aesthetic guy in the room I'll second this, girls have been surveyed to like the lean guy over the bodybuilder. There's a blog post about it, search for "The Ideal Male Physique". Getting as big as possible with testosterone in physiological (natural) ranges is more than enough to attract girls. At some point you're mostly doing it to compete with other guys. Which is not bad, if it makes you happy. It's a personal choice. Also th…
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 06:38 AM
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It's pretty wild because I have two co-workers next to me, one is Chinese and the other is Indian, both married. The Indian guy got the traditional dowry from his bride's family. The Chinese guy's family paid more "dowry" into the marriage. Markedly different cultures right next to each other. Chinese marriage is currently an especially bad situation for guys.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 06:13 AM
1

Don't think of it as your fault for it being a dead end. Chances are the girl is just using it for boredom/validation.
/r/askTRP30/12/15 01:10 AM
1

Everything just seems off. You're analyzing every move and full of negativity and conflict. Let it go, this craving and struggle. You don't need it. She's not your adversary, though she is playing her own game. Until you have sex she may just be using you for validation/practice. So don't get so attached and use her for your own entertainment. Also if all this is over text, stop. Text only for logistics.
/r/askTRP30/12/15 12:57 AM
2

Excellent post bro and I can relate to most of the things you said, being a nerd myself. Get out of your head Getting out of one's head sounds simple but is actually pretty hard. That default stream of thoughts is always going and impossible to shut off. But one thing that is helping me through it is mindfulness meditation. Basically, every day sit and watch that stream of thoughts until you're separate from it. Gradually it becomes quieter, and easier to snap out of. Another tip for snapping to…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/15 06:02 PM
3

Yes we're saying the same thing. We guys really like it. For girls it might only be the second or third most important thing in an LTR.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 07:44 PM
5

why she's dating me if this is true. Girls are much more willing to overlook bad sex for bigger concerns like income and stability. It's interesting that you think her sexual enjoyment will be a deciding factor in whether you leave or not. That's because as guys sex is really important for us. We love girls for their sexiness and we want to be loved in the same way. But it never works exactly like that. Assume she's fully satisfied, and you're the best she'll ever have (as you age that becomes m…
/r/askTRP23/12/15 05:55 PM
7

It is a waste of time because you want commitment and he just wants sex and to work on his game. Even if you managed to charm him, he'd always feel that urge to get back into the game. If you want long-term commitment and marriage soon just find someone else with different values. If you're okay with a few months of exclusive dating then tell him that and see if he commits.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 05:44 PM
7

Realize that seeing him is a waste of time.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:41 PM
2

Could be a family member or something. This weekend is Christmas after all. Could just ask who it is. Could respond with goodwill, like "have fun". But yeah always be prepared to move on.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:39 PM
1

It's all nonverbal. Speak and move slowly. Get close and touch her. Lead and be dominant. Anything verbal, you want to be very suggestive and not overt, at least at first.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:25 PM
9

I've been considering becoming a bouncer or stripper. Just to taste a different life.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/15 04:12 PM
1

Just curious, any thoughts on restarting your fertility down the road, or are kids out of the picture completely for you? I just started TRT and am thinking about these things.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:07 PM
1

Relax and enjoy dude Whether it's good or not, it's not your problem. Although if you have a condom you can just finish into it whenever.
/r/askTRP23/12/15 04:01 PM
1

Sounds amazing. How far into the 10-day retreat do you think it clicked?
/r/TheRedPill23/12/15 03:22 PM
1

Wow, that sounds awesome. I haven't experienced it myself but after reading Mindfulness in Plain English I have an idea of what it's like. I've imagined it to be like Neo in the Matrix where you see reality break down before you, each thing and thought revealing its raw nature just before your mind conceptualizes into a thing or a feeling.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/15 01:23 AM
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Finished the first week so far, some good takeaways I learned: Hostile Attribution Bias - tendency to interpret others' ambiguous behaviors as hostile Rejection Sensitivity Bias - tendency to interpret social cues and events as rejection Recognizing that these things exist will help me. These develop early in childhood and I probably suffer from them to some degree. Realizing that most feelings of being rejected are created in my mind, and not really happening.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 08:37 PM
2

Here's the three step process to deal with negative feelings outlined in a popular book on charisma: Destigmatize - recognize that the "fucked up feeling" is not at all unique, that it's a normal feeling that millions of other guys would feel in the same situation Neutralize - recognize that each time your brain brings up thoughts of her, it is mistaken. Your brain is far from perfect and 99% of its thoughts are wrong or unproductive. It doesn't see things rationally. Visualize the complete thou…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 07:44 PM
2

To others, it's just vague guidance which they struggle to put into practice. It does take a small leap of faith to start meditation practice, because at first it just looks like sitting. Even then it takes time and practice to let go of expectations and sink into pure awareness. And finally when you let go of craving and hope for results, the results come anyway. It really is like lifting for the mind.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 06:01 PM
1

I also had an interaction that taught me I need to establish dominance. She was a huge talker so I just let her talk. Hell even when I started to talk she would interrupt me. I didn't really want to continue so I gave a very stupid reason to drive back to my place and she took it anyway. But without dominance, made it hard to escalate (even back at my place) and turns out she's just batshit crazy anyway. Even with her being so invested (tons of talking, >30 mins away from home on a work night) g…
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 05:38 PM
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