In too deep in a LTR.

Dirkz · 2016-10-24T14:01:47+00:00

Women do not let relationships end peacefully but they may let them rest in peace. Just end it, preferably as honestly as possible. Say "I'm young, I want to do X, Y and Z with my life and I'm not ready to settle down." She'll try to do everything she can to put a dent in your armor and drag you into her frame. Just maintain your frame and be assertive of what you want.

Her attacks will be designed to make you feel guilty and will try to make you break your frame. She'll drop her feminist narrative. Hold strong, be polite but assertive. You'll weather her storm, then move forward to the next one.

Mr_ghostslayer · 2016-10-24T14:47:21+00:00

You could just slowly stop replying/meeting her. No need to straight up tell her you're ending it. This will avoid any drama. Keep lowering the amount you communicate with her until you eventually just disappear. She'll get the message and as time progresses she'll feel less attached to you the less she sees/hears from you.

You dont want her little bp religious group praying to the gods that you're burnt on a stick alive. Lol

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-10-24T20:59:48+00:00

She's living the ABCs of life. Give her new options.

Game new women.

redditatt · 2016-10-25T02:32:38+00:00

Step 1: Stop worrying about looking like an asshole. She's going to brand you with whatever label her hamster chooses in the moment.

Step 2: Don't fucking drag it out. Sit her down, tell her you're done. She will cry and attempt to bargain, you'll feel shitty and consider bargaining. Don't bargain. Be stoic, hold frame.

PlaterDater · 2016-10-26T17:57:18+00:00

Have you considered Marrying her? of course not. I wish we lived in our grandparents time where this is an option that won't fuck you over in 5 years. I honestly want to be in your situation and get a start at my offspring army of 7 children but unicorns don't exist. Good Luck

fnordsnord · 2016-10-24T15:16:27+00:00

First, if you are not using condoms, do so. You are RIPE for "oops, I'm pregnant" as soon as she feels like you are slipping away.

Second, /u/dirkz is probably right - he's describing the fastest way out, but you WILL look like a jerk.

The least painful, but longest path out is to start lowering your SMV. Whine a lots. Complain about work. Complain about school. Complain about your FEEEEEELINGS. Be lousy and selfish in bed. Worry aloud about money. Give every appearance of being broke all the time. Poor-mouth a lot. Talk about your mother.

90% of women will drop you within 12 - 14 months. Some as quickly as within 90 days.

Title	In too deep in a LTR.
Author	call_me_nick_halden
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	October 24, 2016 1:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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