Interacting at parties

SnivelingCoward · 2019-04-12T05:18:34+00:00

Just have some drinks man. Its easier if you at minimum have 2 or 3 male friends with you. Bonus if you go with some girls.

cufflad · 2019-04-12T06:41:36+00:00

Got to be light-hearted and fun man.

At the end of a long week of work, people just want to shoot the shit and have a blast.

I get the feeling you're trying too hard/being too serious.

Verstappen3363 · 2019-04-12T10:37:11+00:00

I am an introvert, and I do feel the same way at times when it comes to parties, but over time I've learned how to deal with it.

Have a few drinks, but don't drink till you are wasted - this was a big mistake I made in past.
You don't have a responsibility to entertain anyone else. Entertain yourself, and be vocal about it - this is where DGAF attitude comes in.
Say small positive comments to people, like if they got a cool T shirt, and not expect a reply, sometimes this it might start a conversation. 3b. Say hi to people you walk past, make sure you're in a good mood when you do though. Take a step further by giving them a handshake, fistbump, hug etc. Don't expect a full on conversation.
Build yourself up so you're in a social mood, when you're in that mood you tend to come off as a lot more positive and social. For me, to get in that mood is to listen to some energetic music, intentionally do things that might be a bit considered a breach of social norms, like speaking to yourself in public, and point 3 above.
Stop taking this party so seriously.
Learn from the other social people in the room.

Don't overwhelm yourself by doing all of these things above all at once, it takes time, do one thing at a time, once your comfortable, then you can do multiple things at a time.

frontyer0077 · 2019-04-12T08:07:43+00:00

If I am alone at a party I just find some random guys who has girls around them and just randonly saying some shit. Usually some real stupid, maybe even autistic shit. But it makes them laugh. Then I ask about them, just basic shit, what work/school/whatever and take it from there.

It has never failed and I usually become the center of attention and the AMOG. More girls comes to join the fun I creatied. Then I proceed until everyone at the party knows me and want to hang out with me. Its incredibly much fun, and thats why I hate clubs/bars, because it never seems to work there.

Another way of starting to talk is to just introduce yourself with a firm handshake to everyone you meet there. Then comment on anything (tattoo, hoodie, shoes, beer, whatever). Then start talking about some interesting shit.

SubstantialBeanBoi · 2019-04-12T05:35:48+00:00

bring at least one friend to establish a "home base" so to speak. then, drink for some liquid courage and then approach people. start a drinking game or play beer pong (hope you zoomers are still doing that).

MattyAnon · 2019-04-12T12:17:24+00:00

but I'm fucking lost when it comes to parties.

It's simple and it's dumb.

If it's dancing I've no clue, not my scene.

But if it's a few rooms and music and drinks: just fucking talk to everyone. You can build up the fun from there, but remember to smile, say fun stuff, say dumb stuff, be emotionally engaging and upbeat.

and I get the urge to force myself into a group by saying something borderline socially autistic or just standing there listening. Any advice?

Sure..... get there first and meet everyone as they get there. Then everyone is warmed up to you and you to them and you can all relax.

Be fun. Be outgoing. Have a few fun anecdotes lined up. Don't be negative about anything, don't criticise, don't be self-reflective (eg "at parties I find everyone is really fake, don't you" ..... urgh so socially retarded).

Be flashily dressed too, helps people open you.

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-04-12T08:02:54+00:00

Just have a few beers to loosen up. I'm the same way til I vet a buzz going.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-04-12T15:15:33+00:00

Just start talking about FUCKING ANYTHING

Slut_Slayer9000 · 2019-04-13T03:04:00+00:00

Get to know people. People LOVE talking about themselves ask them questions, repeat (not verbatim) what they say and expand on it with a further question and make a comment on it. You aren't there to get laid, you are there to make friends. How do you make friends? Be friendly. The easiest questions to ask is so how do you know XYZ throwing the party? Oh I met them doing this, tell a funny ancedote about it and continue the flow of conversation.

I'm very outgoing and can read people very quickly and I have a pretty big personality so its super easy for me to go into parties and make friends. I typically have people come up and ask me who I am , how do I do this? I start cracking jokes even on conversations I'm not involved in, I start teasing people ect... I'm the one with the balls to break the ICE with people I don't know. Cause 9 out of 10 times I know they are less socially inclined then me, so I am confident in my ability to hold a conversation with them or ANYONE.

Honestly if you think you are borderline socially retarded I highly recommend you get a job being a waiter it will bring you out of your comfort zone very quickly, and force you to talk to strangers.

Vouch33r · 2019-04-12T05:21:13+00:00

Learn a few magic tricks and announce you're a magician. Got great reaction doing it past 30 or so times and picked up many bitches via my "mysteriousness"

PS it doesnt matter WHAT you say. All that is imporant is HOW you say things. You could even say bullshit out of context random words as long as you're totally confident of yourself.

Good luck bro

Title	Interacting at parties
Author	ApolloShiloh
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	April 12, 2019 5:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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