Internal conflict.

SkorchZang · 2014-11-06T03:02:52+00:00

Bro, your problem isn't the girls. It's that you allow yourself to have this idea that your exclusivity is theirs whenever they fucking want it. Just because, she's a girl, and - well, wouldn't want to lead her on or anything.

No, bitches. First you earn it. Then you ask Mr. Hirohito very nicely for it. Then he will decide, whether he wants to be exclusive with you, or in fact prefers his freedom the way it is.

That's how it needs to be for you. Instead you're down on one knee asking this one girl for a "long term relationship" (what the fuck??). No wonder they're treating you like shit. Luckily the medicine is simple, read sidebar more and cut that shit out.

Normally you never ask a girl for exclusivity. You are strictly there to hang out, have fun together, and go for sexual escalation all the time. That's what a man does. Your girl is the one who's trying to get you to commit officially to her and her alone, you resist valiantly until she makes it impossible to resist.

In the sexual marketplace, men are the gatekeepers of their commitment and women are the gatekeepers of sex. Let that sink in, think about it, then reflect on what you're doing. You're giving away all the goods for free, man! And begging those bitches to take them!

stickfiguresk · 2014-11-06T03:16:49+00:00

You pressured girl 1. Girls hate that. Moms get that.

Girl 2 wants to control you; she's trying to get you to enter her frame. If you firmly tell girl 2 this on-going truth, she'll stop acting like a twat or move on: "I'm not doing relationships right now. If that's something you want, I'm not the man for you." And nothing else.

Relay that it is a personal decision and unshakable. The second part, "I'm not the man for you." Is respect(for both of you; giving her an easy out) and outcome independance, which is respectable. Right now, she sensed that she isn't getting more than what she puts in, which is weird to girls who feel they're possibly more valuable than their mate. That's where shit tests are born. The outcome of this particular shit test depends on how much she's convinced of your lower value.

Reduce pressure on the girls, display more value and self-respect.

northsidefugitive · 2014-11-06T02:49:11+00:00

I'm sorry. Did you not just say girl 1 turned you down? How are you going on dates with her if she turned you down? Your post needs a serious edit for clarity if you want any help/opinions.

Title	Internal conflict.
Author	PremierHirohito
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	November 6, 2014 2:22 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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