Introversion tendencies are my default. How to escape this?

SnugglySadist · 2016-11-30T22:09:00+00:00

Don't stop being introverted. Introversion is where you gain energy by doing individual pursuits rather than social ones. It is intrinsic to your being.

However, there is no excuse for being unsocial when you are an introvert. The times when you have energy are to be used as they are not as common for us as an extrovert. Essentially, always say yes to activities that you are invited to unless there is a GOOD reason to not do so. Over time it becomes easier to interact with others without feeling forced.

Painbubble · 2016-11-30T22:22:42+00:00

It probably won't feel natural if it's something your not used to doing. But here's the thing, it is natural. Just stop worrying what other people think and let your personality come out. Staying in your head is like a protection mechanism. "If I stay here, I can be in my comfort zone." That's what I have always felt about it. Some people will always judge but remember it's not about you. It's ALWAYS about them and their massive insecurities.

The key to getting out of your head is to rise your thoughts above all that bullshit mental chatter that goes on in your brain. Analyse your thought process. What kind of thoughts are you actually having on a day to day basis perhaps at a social event, a nightclub or pretty much anywhere?.

You might find your letting these negative thoughts ruminate in you and encouraging them more to get that feeling of self pity that then leads to not being able to open up to people.

Whatever those thoughts may be, STOP them. Each time you get into your head thinking about failures, past events, bitches that fucked with your head for kicks, you become more and more distant.

Just try it. Pay attention to what you are thinking. Kick that fucking thought in the balls everytime it comes up. Your mind can be neutral and dare I say it working up to being actually happy. Happy enough to interact with others with no shit holding you back.

absolucion · 2016-12-01T00:29:09+00:00

I'm an introvert by nature and I have to prepare myself for social events which may be what you need to do. I find myself not looking forward to them but when it comes time to socialize, a switch flips and I'm the life of the party.

Get the energy you need before you dive into the social event so you don't find yourself looking for it. I find I'm likely to duck out for a quick recharge if I break my ritual but people typically notice. My friends know to give me the space I need but people who aren't will tag along for walks or want to talk when I just need some silence. Prepare for thise scenarios as well.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-11-30T21:21:41+00:00

Anything you're not well versed in doesn't seem natural. Keep at it, and maybe read up on the topic as well.

subjectivealpha · 2016-11-30T22:22:30+00:00

I thought I was an introvert too until I started talking to strangers and going out more. I would like to see scientific studies proving that in/extroversion exists because I personally don't believe it. It's all about how you frame yourself and simply practicing being more outgoing. Humans are naturally social and extroverted in my opinion.

I could be wrong though. I may just be an example of an extroverted person who needed to get over their social anxiety. I think this is often mistaken for introversion.

Title	Introversion tendencies are my default. How to escape this?
Author	skullfucker_69
Upvotes	9
Comments	7
Date	November 30, 2016 9:15 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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