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So, you think that you can't move on because you think she's not moving on. Ergo, you think there is still a chance for you two, and you won't let it go. Meanwhile, she uses you as an emotional tampon. This will never get better for you; she's dragging you down, and you're complicit. Every time you and she talk, it rekindles feelings you like and are familiar with. This is called baggage. Drag it along as long as you like... "...you can feel bad, if it makes you feel better..." (twist on an old …
/r/askTRP01/02/17 07:10 PM
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It can take a long while to get over someone (OK, you knew that). According to you, she's moved on. It's probably time for you to take a clue from that. Give both of you a break; you're miserable and you're making her miserable to the point of lying to you to let you down easy. Let it go. It's the redneck from northern Michigan's turn.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 05:24 AM
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Be a waiter for the same outfit, then reapply for the "A" position. OK, you make a little less money. That's the total downside. The upside includes proving that you're not lazy, that you like the outfit (whether that's true, or not), and the biggest is- that you'll know what waiters know. This will be a big bonus if and when you would supervise waiters, or any other related production-type ops. Experience blows away empirical knowledge- and all the waiters in the world will agree with that. Thi…
/r/askTRP30/01/17 05:15 AM
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Hit the sidebar, dude. When you've internalized "the games people play" and are at peace with them, you'll stop experiencing the dichotomy of their games, and your games, and how much time to spend with whom, or not, and amused mastery will define you.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 05:06 AM
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has anybody here overcame such factors? While we're waiting for the inevitable 'yes' comments, what are you doing about your social situation that is more important than researching and starting a weight-lifting program to turn your skinnyfat into the window-dressing for a desirable physique, which will in turn boost your self-confidence?
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:58 AM
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It requires a certain brain. A brain that is interested. And what /u/OFAFV and /u/tempjweman said.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:54 AM
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This is rude and I'd downvote you, but there's too much a kernel of truth in the first line of your quip... and it's funny. and not helpful.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:42 AM
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I'm big on this, good on ya.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:35 AM
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My sense is, this chick is going to be a problem regardless of what you do or don't do with her, but I think the least of the problems will be generated by nexting her softly, but quick.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:33 AM
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Congratulations on having achieved whatever-it-all-is that you've accomplished, to date. My sense is, you won't be starting your own company, I guess, or you wouldn't be parading the idea, here, amidst your doubt. I think the next step, unless you're absolutely bored with what you're doing now, is to use your current situation to become independently wealthy. At that point, you'll really find out what you want to do, or not. Until then, too many untoward things can happen to you and/or your envi…
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:14 AM
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STFU. Literally and completely. I plan to say virtually nothing to my wife. Logistics will be kept to a sentence. I will try to communicate as much as I can without words - body language, smiles, etc. I wouldn't (though you might) adopt an attitude constituting a sea change in my communications with my wife that I couldn't maintain over the long haul. Partially I'm disinclined to advertise that I'm working on myself; I wouldn't want her to get the idea that I'm "learning new games to try out on …
/r/askMRP20/12/16 07:17 AM
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Good for you- truly. Keep up the good work. Just stopped in to type this.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 06:46 AM
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This that wasn't a good response... If "I know you're not" was a truth that you truly knew, why did you ask her back to your place, anyway? So I'm thinking that you didn't know, until after she told you. Unless more was said than you related to us, you missed the boat by assuming that she "understood" that "Let's go back to my place" was equivalent to "Let's go back to my place so I can fuck your brains out". You could have meant "Let's go back to my place so I can leave you on the couch while I…
/r/askTRP19/12/16 07:53 AM
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Yes. What /u/harkrank said.
/r/askTRP19/12/16 06:56 AM
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I can't believe some of what I'm reading. Stop explaining about "how you are" and what you're responsible for, and what she's responsible for. She's not interested in what she's responsible for. If you don't believe this, reread your own posts while looking for hints about this. She's got you in a perfect position- for her misery. Every time she opens her mouth, you try to talk to her inanity and explain why you or her are innocent or guilty. She's not interested- she's pissed, and when women ar…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 06:25 AM
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but that guy has such a high SMV and gets so many girls, it was surprising to see the girls not engage him much. And their SMV is not high as his. If he was trying to chat the daughters up, he just raised their SMV in their own eyes to at least his level, probably that +1- in their own way of evaluating themselves. That doesn't mean they'll respond. Loop back up, the answer doesn't change.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 06:26 AM
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Whenever I'm tired, something about me shows off and people pick on me more. Their alternative is to put their arm around you, lean in, rock to and fro, and moan softly with you. That's not as much fun as razzing you into a good mood, so you can all have a good time. Nobody likes someone being a downer; the old saw, when you smile the whole world smiles with you; when you're down, you're on your own. So if you're being contemplative, go home and sit by yourself. If you're going to be out with pe…
/r/askTRP09/12/16 07:27 AM
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...women will come naturally This means that you're on the lookout for their IOIs, while you're doing the cold approach trick, after you've put your shit together and are a prize. So, as said, you do both. Or you end up with a HB3 who throws herself at you, and hurts you when she lands on you.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 07:18 AM
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Put the blowjob on hold. Don't forget about it. You want head? Earn it. Bump your SMV up by 2-3 points. I think you need to answer the commenter's question about what else you're doing to raise it besides working out. Don't forget to do things in MAP order. When you're ready, you seduce her, but as commented, you never bring it up again. If it goes so far that she needs a couple steps of Dread applied, do it last- last. My bet is, she'll suck your dick like a tornado when she desires you. It's n…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 07:02 AM
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A couple comments. But first, a question. Her We are hosting Christmas Day instead of mum. How about that? Is this a "spur of the moment" attempt on Her part to compromise? Or was this planned, beforehand? If it was "spur of the moment" you could have agreed. What someone posted, don't answer right away- give yourself some time to see if you can make that work in your head. So OK, a couple comments. 1] As mentioned ad nauseum, you don't text this stuff. You were introducing an earth-shattering c…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 06:32 AM
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Well, it appears that you prefer reading to working out. You need to do both, and you know it. Maybe get a second opinion on either your workout program (including diet changes), or your expectations of success from working out, or both. I feel like I'm as immersed as I could be... Nnnnn- no. If you were as well versed in redpill as you could be, you'd be thrilled with your workout program and satisfied with your gains to date. Your post reads well.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 06:15 AM
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Am I doing this right? Yes. As you say, it takes time. Also, work on you. As for your second question: Don't go picking through your garbage. Leave ex's out of it. 5 is enough, no? When someone says "I'm moving on" what does that mean to you? What does it mean when you say it? Is it different? Why?
/r/askTRP07/12/16 06:08 AM
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I should probably go back and study more than just cool threads like: "how to get back to banging like a warlord" This is funny; good work, good attitude. Good luck.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 06:02 AM
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My advice? Absolutely do not contact her, or post it up anywhere where she could see it, or tell your friends. Act like it didn't happen. Don't give her the satisfaction of your annoyance; if you do, and she broke into your car, then you lose. But as others have written, I doubt she did it. If someone can see that a vehicle hasn't moved for several days, the probability that it's an easier mark goes up.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 06:01 AM
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I wouldn't bring it up again; difference in how we would approach, or maybe just timing. I'd just do what we're all saying, turn your sexual (and most of your attention, generally) to women who give you what you want and need. If she wonders what the hell's going on, then you tell her "Yup, you bet, we're celibate. That's what you need to know." And that's all you tell her.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 05:35 AM
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I CANNOT fucking believe a woman would pull this shit... The nerve in that whore I agree, but she's welcome to try anything she wants. It's not illegal. ...and a dude would fall for it. Came here to agree to this. This is the pathetic part.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 05:32 AM
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I may delete this after I read the other comments, but I can't get past this: Lately she's been showing insecurities due to finding one of my exes asking me for sex in my texts. How is it that she's reading your texts? Do you have NO boundaries? What the french toast is the matter with you? Who cares if you really like her? Why do you care? Whose life are you leading, here? BTW, she's full of shit.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 05:27 AM
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I wasn't gonna reply, but I guess I'll tell you this. Multiple times per week guys submit posts like this. You have lots of company. Since I know about Red Pill you're way ahead of lots of others. But you're also as ass backwards as a lot of others. Redpill is not something that you add to the life you have, it's not something that descends upon you from reading a couple books and some posts. Redpill changes your life, if you internalize it and live it. Inasmuch as you're still feeling miserable…
/r/askTRP07/12/16 05:23 AM
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I'm a long time subscriber to /r/redpill This is hard to believe; you've absorbed nothing? Keep doing what you're doing. Add reading from the sidebar. Your life is supposed to be about you- you are the prize. Do things for you, first- those things you know you need to do. You need to lead her, keep frame, set boundaries, make her earn your attention, and make it obvious where the door is that she came in.
/r/askTRP07/12/16 05:08 AM
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Get up off the floor.
/r/askTRP04/12/16 05:58 AM
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See if she texts you again to go out. Play her game, insofar as her asking you out, and you agree (but keep your frame); apparently, it's not costing you anything except your time. But- don't be so always available. You're busy, right? Maybe she's paying everything so that she doesn't get into the cycle where you buy dinner and expect that she is DTF in return; she's obviating that outcome by paying. Maybe she's taking her time with her selection thing. Maybe she'll come around, sexually, on her…
/r/askTRP04/12/16 05:30 AM
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Use a lambskin.
/r/askTRP04/12/16 05:17 AM
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Why do they hate "Chad"... they could just be Chad if they put forth some fucking effort? But we can't all be Chads. What makes you think that renouncing women for the rest of whatever is the natural conclusion of the redpill?
/r/askTRP04/12/16 05:13 AM
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...the look of pain on her face decomposing is not something I want to have to see with every girl I'm gonna be with. You know you can't look at a girl and divine how your interactions are going to shake out. Answer your self this: What are you feeling so guilty about? What if you'd fallen ass over teakettle for her? And she nexted you? What will happen between you and the next girl? ...I'm just hoping that the pain for others is avoidable. My goodness, you must be superdick. Nothing sticks to y…
/r/askTRP04/12/16 04:48 AM
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Reads like she wanted more contact from you telling her that you're adding her, and let's go out, and let me buy you some stuff, and she didn't get any of it, so she has her nose out of joint and she's pouting, and now she's playing hard to get. Aren't you glad you're too busy for this crap?
/r/askTRP03/12/16 06:33 AM
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It's your life, your resume. Do what you want. But is this the way you want future employers to look at you?' Employer: "What have you been doing since you graduated?" You: "Well, I'd tell you, but I can't get a good reference from the place. I had a crappy boss." Why would a prospective employer take a chance on you? Put a stick between your teeth and keep your nose to the grindstone. Double up on your job search. Good luck.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 06:28 AM
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Respond with: "You're thinking. That's good, but it's backwards". After that, no more communication unless/until she gives you her number. Forget snapchat.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 06:16 AM
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Even an idiot like you might be worth the chance, since they don't know you, yet.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 06:03 AM
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I don't have time for a relationship, I'm moving on. How much more succinct do you think you could be? (rhetorical question) She gets the message; hence, the hysterical phone call. Don't text her back, don't answer her phone calls. Not communicating is the only sure way she'll know that you have moved on. She'll give up when she realizes that this is truly the case.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 05:54 AM
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Don't shit on your paycheck- you need to keep cashing them. Lots of people don't like to read it, because she's right there, every day, why don't I just nail this? Because of the high probability of eventual damaging fallout.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 05:47 AM
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"You can shower at my place. I have some stuff you can wear. Stop and pick up some dinner for us on the way over. I have refreshments." You do, don't you? That was at least a half-yes.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 05:23 AM
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Help everybody out, here. Do you live in a city? If you're on the farm, are you sure the animals in the barn don't need serenading? What's available? A lot of leisure time pursuits require some planning, but I get it if you're not sure beforehand that you'll have any extra time.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 05:21 AM
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In my view, she broke the date, albeit it's quite possible that it's not her fault. Either way, I'd say you're fine. Circumstances being what they are, I'd wait (maybe tough, but you can do it!) for her to get with you to "make it up to you", even though she texted that you could still have gone over there. Remember, texting is just for logistics.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 05:16 AM
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She doesn't really want to go to this night club, but she feels pressured to. Big whoop; she feels pressured. So, some women are like that. Regardless, she'll be making her decision with her eyes open. She should know this is not the best use of her time without your saying so. Also, wouldn't it be stupid of me to apply dread if she does this without me voicing any concern? Not where I live. She should know better.
/r/askTRP01/12/16 06:38 AM
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Stalking is serious. Women who stalk have the potential to wreak serious havoc on your life if they feel jilted by being turned down by you, even by your avoidance, never mind actually talking to them, then nexting them. It doesn't matter how she knows. What matters is that you not spend any time thinking about her; that's one of the things she's after, if she indeed is interested in you and trying to be at all the places that you'll be at, when you're there. OTOH, it's not beyond the realm of c…
/r/askTRP01/12/16 06:29 AM
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I think the female equivalent to RP is feminism. But you could check the sidebar. I thought I saw something there, at the bottom.
/r/askTRP01/12/16 06:19 AM
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I agree with you, she should not go and think that your LTR is as intact as if she doesn't go. However, you don't run her life. You want her to make the choices that she wants to make, so you know who/how she is, the sooner, the better. I advise against saying anything to her about your stance on her GNOs. If she brings it up again before her birthday, you just nod. Do not let her badger you into judging what she's doing, do not answer questions like "Is it all right with you? You won't be mad? …
/r/askTRP01/12/16 06:10 AM
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I found a way. I'll try to do something silly so people would feel more comfortable with me. Any suggestions? Yes. I would not purposefully move from one extreme to the other. Keep the lid on the silly stuff until you're sure you can pull it off. What makes you think people are uncomfortable with you? Is it possible that you're simply uncomfortable with them? If you want those few people to whom it is possible to accept you and spend time with you, there must be something interesting about you t…
/r/askTRP01/12/16 05:52 AM
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"Taming Your Outer Child" by Susan Anderson. You might not be able to read your way out of your issue. You might have to work at it. Here, read this: We're human. We make mistakes; we screw up. Nothing done can be undone. Every evening the sun sets on another day, and like all the days before it, the time is irretrievable. Beyond learning from yesterday, let it go. This is what makes today so valuable. Don't waste it. It's that simple. Putting that to work for you is part of your journey.
/r/askTRP01/12/16 05:41 AM
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I get this. Good.♂
/r/askTRP01/12/16 05:19 AM
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No links allowed, I guess, but Psychology Today quotes studies that evidence genetic differences between introverts and extroverts. One could search on "Understanding Introverts". I grant you that asking a psychologist if there's anything wrong will always produce a laundry list of issues- and if they come up empty, they're more than happy to make one up on the fly. We're an imperfect species. That said, OP doesn't have to try to "swap sides", just add a little socializing to the mix. Relax, DGA…
/r/askTRP01/12/16 05:16 AM
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I am disgusted by my plate after she fulfilled my porn fantasies... Really? You're disgusted with her because you led and she followed? Did you want her to tell you what you were going to do for sex that night? I think you're projecting your disgust with yourself on her. Back to the sidebar, partner. I think you're ahead of yourself.
/r/askTRP01/12/16 05:03 AM
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people cast us in roles that we neither want, nor consent to. And it pisses them off when we refuse to follow the script. This. Don't follow the script. It's fun not to, and takes no special effort.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:44 AM
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Yup, go with your gut. Then ignore the comment; don't be so sensitive. Force them to next you without escalating to being an asshole and badgering them.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:38 AM
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Nothing. Let it go. If you have to start things off by talking her into things, you'll never get out from underneath it. It'll exhaust you.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:31 AM
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I left the ball in her court to text me (making her pursue me) to chill whenever she was back in town after thanksgiving and got nothing. So you left the ball in her court. She didn't think enough of you to text back, you looked needy including her in your snaps after you left the ball in her court (so you took the ball back) and now she's avoiding you. You don't need a written invitation to let it go; you're a busy guy. So let it go.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:30 AM
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Congratulations. If it starts getting hard, leave it alone- don't try to adjust it and don't be embarrassed. I'd hope she'd notice it; if she does, and looks at you and smiles, smile right back. My sense is trying to adjust it will look tacky. Wear boxers.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:19 AM
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One comment; the main issue's covered. She also told me she mentioned that she met someone to her grandma and a few friends. What in the fuck. I don't have a vast experience in relationships but this seems very premature. It wasn't even a whole week yet. We had had only one romantic encounter by then. You need to relax about this. You can't hide. When people meet someone they dig, they tell other people. What's she supposed to say when friends and relatives ask her if she's seeing anyone, 'I can…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:01 AM
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worked to do what he really wanted This is what lets you sleep at night... for the rest of your life.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 04:44 AM
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Your post reads like you need a new approach to life. The hating other guys and women are simply a temporary projection of your disgust with yourself. If you're not impressed with yourself, you'll not impress others. You need a job. You made vague reference to having a skill. Get a good job. This will fix a lot. Lift (we all say that, here)! Search out one or two hobbies/leisure pastimes that you can afford the equipment for. When these things are in place, you invite other guys (as friends) and…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 04:30 AM
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Chinups and pullups. You could alternate sets, or alternate days. I've done it both ways. Suggest barbell curls as a warmup for the chinups and lat pulldowns to warm up for the pullups. And what /u/TheInkerman said. I don't do the situps.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 04:15 AM
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One of the ideas I had was to buy concert tickets for the both of us. She might like that. But no one here knows her- you hope.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:58 AM
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Why shouldn't I do it? Because acting like this isn't who you are striving to be as a man.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:51 AM
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Those who live by the sword, die by the sword. Not necessarily the next day, but eventually, I think is the intimation. Try not to exult or apologize. In fact, try not to talk about it. Or make a habit of it. I know, not exactly what you asked after. Just sayin'.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:48 AM
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Time. It's the most valuable thing you've got to give.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:45 AM
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Yes, I knew one, once. Aside from that one, just unconfirmed sightings.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:43 AM
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How did you get roped into a conversation about past relationships with women that you want to get with? As you were NGAF what did you expect from them? My sense is, she was blowing you off. Maybe not forever, it depends on what you spilled to them. You can expect them to figure that you'll be talking about them that way at some point in the future, after they get with you. As an aside, from their point of view it's easy to sound devil-may-care and tough after the fact, whereas they obsess and c…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:27 AM
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It's not that different than looking for a job. It's easier to find one when you already have one. Women abhor a relationship vacuum.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:14 AM
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Every relationship I've been in except maybe one, its the same shit. They start looking for dick behind my back... Every relationship I've been in except maybe one, its the same shit. They're always on the lookout for dick behind my back... Fixed that for ya. You're welcome. That's one of the things women do.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:10 AM
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Why am I the only one in the group who sees him as an obnoxious, dumb bimbo? Because you're smarter than they are? But, what makes you think you're the only one in the group that feels this way? Do you periodically take a survey? Do you think the survey responses are truthful? Do you call him out? Do others in the group call him out? Many times people simply tolerate his kind of noise to avoid confrontations with no upside to them. And a lot of people are weak. Really, this guy is a bimbo? OK, f…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 06:05 AM
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You're a troll.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 05:56 AM
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Did you take a class in something that women are interested in (say like photography or painting)? What did you do to make yourself someone that is interesting and maybe a part of her natural social group? This is beta-bass-ackwards. If you like photography and/or painting, you take it. Take the class to get close to women? Certainly, step out of your frame, right this way.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/16 03:23 AM
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Whenever I am at a bar or on a date as soon as the fact that I am doctor comes up she will try and withhold sex until she gets commitment. Really, how many times has this happened? A couple things to think about: Are you relating that on a first date, or a first meeting, that the women start to talk about commitment? That fast? And you're sure that you're not telegraphing that as your goal? What are you saying that makes them walk away from you? You're telling them that you're not currently able…
/r/askTRP27/11/16 06:29 AM
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Ahh, OK. Hmmm- wonder what exactly happened to the BF.
/r/askTRP27/11/16 04:37 AM
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I don't notice this. Where do you hang out?
/r/askTRP26/11/16 03:58 AM
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"OK. Come over at 7pm on Saturday. I'm at _________ (address). I'll be really quiet. Bring pizza."
/r/askTRP26/11/16 03:53 AM
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A lot of people say this.
/r/askTRP26/11/16 03:15 AM
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...still talk to her like if nothing had happened... Maybe it's your turn, maybe she's a validation whore, as you suggested. You won't know unless you try, as you also noted. (showed abundance) I'd be interested in how you think you did this.
/r/askTRP26/11/16 02:59 AM
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A few thoughts: It reads like this is a problem, not at work, but with the extra-curricular events that are being planned for after work. I’m thinking, going out for drinks or meeting for a touch football game. If it’s company-sponsored or company-organized events like renting a bus and going to a ball game, sponsoring a softball or volleyball team in an industrial league, or a charity drive or walk/run-for-a-cause like cancer or other disease awareness, and the company management implicitly OKs…
/r/askTRP25/11/16 05:22 PM
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I don't know if those he's trying to pull on his side are actually aware of this, but I found a ton of Red Pill-like posts on his computer about going his way, how to be an alpha, what leadership means, and how to form his own group... Good for him. What are you up to? Are you the company sheep dog, with this need to constantly herd people? Why not leave him alone? Just askin'. And the reason this bothers me is that we are all working in a small company and all this social crap is started to get…
/r/askTRP25/11/16 06:35 AM
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Does it really matter to be in a LTR, if your happy without one? I don't think so. That said, you might keep your options open. Don't decide things "forever" on fuzzy subjects where it's not required, live and learn and see what develops.
/r/askTRP25/11/16 06:30 AM
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It's not that I can't let go,... Yes, it is. Let it go. Learn that you won't win them all, if that's how you want to look at it. Your post reads like this was a minor skirmish, as life goes. Put it into some perspective. Better than that, learn that if you always do the right thing, it doesn't matter what a few others think. It matters what you know about yourself and that you do the right thing. Hold your head up and live your life; keep your frame. And as a consolation prize, the people that m…
/r/askTRP25/11/16 05:37 AM
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I don't have a specific gym program. Without a plan you won't maximize your time. I try to workout as much as possible, and this is what I do: 30min elliptical trainer to burn the excess calories and improve cardio, You could do 3-5 minutes, tops, as a warmup on your basic lift days, as below. You could also do some calorie burning on "off" days. afterwards 30min of specific muscle training (shoulders, biceps, triceps, upper&lower back, etc.), I recommend 3 days/wk in the gym working on basic st…
/r/askTRP24/11/16 09:00 PM
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This is a good answer. Another answer is that weight gain and loss can be body-type dependent. I eat whatever and as much as I want; I typically gain a little weight during our winter season. To minimize this, I ramp up the cardio exercise more. I figure if I can burn it up, I can eat it. This might change when I get older. Note, though, that I eat zero from fast food places and I pay attention to the nutritional information on everything that I buy. Like, if I want chips, I'm gonna eat chips, s…
/r/askTRP24/11/16 07:16 PM
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You're doing fine, dude, keep it up!
/r/askTRP24/11/16 07:03 PM
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...my standard partner is by far the most skilled/most committed ballroom follow on my team that isn't in a long term partnership. So I want to keep her, but I want to try and make her flake less. But you can't run your "standard partner's" life. You want the practice. I'd try to work in one of the "many available follows"; i.e., look like and actually start to prepare to next your standard partner. See if one of the available follows is "available" on short notice for practice. If your standard…
/r/askTRP24/11/16 07:01 PM
2

You did fine. I would cut it back to "Don't worry about my schedule" or my version would be something like "I think I can schedule my time. We both don't need to do it." I use a slight bit of sarcasm for the first sentence, the second sentence is just a little bit softer and reassuring. My version, I think, starts to lay down the law a little. This is the kind of stuff that doesn't work using texting to try to communicate; hence, why I don't text. The words you use are ~30% of communication, IIR…
/r/askTRP24/11/16 06:40 PM
1

She knew (presumably) nothing about you when she gave you her number. Now, she knows something about you. And guess what, she's tied up for the whole weekend. Move on. If she wants to see you again, and you can fit her into your very busy schedule, she'll text you again. I guess at that point you could try her one more time; it's not like she can tell the whole world how needy you are, she'll tell just a few friends.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:56 PM
1

I can't remember ever being asked this question. I have an idea what that says about the quality of women that you bed. If they're the type that asks that question, you don't want to answer it, for any of the reasons listed in others' responses.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:47 PM
2

No. The key to happiness lies within you. When you're ready, you gift them.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:40 PM
1

Tell her it's your pickup truck, with a full roof ...you can carry lumber and tools without anything getting wet.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:35 PM
4

Tell each of them that the next time they fail to show up, you drop them. Then drop them. Meanwhile, advertise for a committed (to dancing) partner. Why do you have two of them? Can you drop one and transfer the dances to the other? Do they know about each other? Is it OK with them? Does one think the other will take up the slack?
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:31 PM
2

I was trying to put things into perspective for her,... Why you let yourself get roped into a conversation on that topic is the problem. I agree with others that your opening phrase was tactless, but that's not what caused her to snap and interrupt you. So she wanted to nail you down, and you wanted to placate her without giving her what she wanted, a kind of compromise, from your perspective. Nothing short of nailing you down was gonna make her happy. So why do you try to explain things to wome…
/r/askTRP24/11/16 06:01 AM
2

I pick 1. Stay on campus, eat at the caf. Not that this is the best thing for you, but you can't lean on other people. Why would you be going to the gym five days per week? What kind of program are you on that requires this? It's easy, it's human, to fall off the wagon of good works. So, pick yourself up and recommit yourself to being the best.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 05:39 AM
5

Yes. Lead by example. You can't teach teenagers anything, anyway, they already know everything. You know, 'When I was 16 I thought my dad was an idiot. Now that I'm 30 years old, I look at him and see how much he's learned in the last 14 years.' Really, OP, you're correct, don't preach. If he values your opinion, he'll ask you for it. Think before you respond.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 04:45 AM
2

Head for your nearest sportsman's club; take up trap shooting, skeet, sporting clays, archery, whatever. Also, clubs like that are always looking for volunteers to give time and do some work. Volunteer some time and you'll be bonding with them, like that.
/r/askTRP24/11/16 04:38 AM
1

On another note, part of the trust issue she may have with you may come from the split with your Dad. You went to live with his side of the family. She may expect that you've been 'poisoned' by your Dad's side of the marriage/relationship story and she hasn't been able to tell her side, so you don't have a balanced view, since she can't know what you've been told and what's been kept from you. I can't place the 'lying' part from the slice of her text that you posted.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 07:41 PM
2

That it's not too late.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 07:36 PM
1

Whenever I talk with him in the room I'm always on alert knowing he may speak up and put me down, even if he hasnt done so for a while. You didn't fuxk up; he trained you to stay on the alert to his speaking up and putting you down, it's part of the 'fight or flight' evolutionary reaction to what you perceive as a threat (not necessarily physical, but attacks, nevertheless)- so you stay on the alert. Unless and until you both overtly sign a peace accord, you'll have to train yourself to stop thi…
/r/askTRP23/11/16 07:25 PM
2

Part of my point was, she doesn't want a public display made out of her body. She's reserving that decision for herself; if she wants nude pics posted of her, she'll do it. After all, it's her body, irrespective of her letting you in on it, at least once. That you might think she's a slut, and that she may be a slut, doesn't mean she agrees with you, or sees herself that way.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 05:38 AM
3

M-W-F; A-B-A, B-A-B. . . . "Practial Programming for Strength Training" by Mark Rippetoe. There are subreddits here for this stuff; like https://www.reddit.com/r/Strength_Training101
/r/askTRP23/11/16 05:33 AM
1

Hmmm- let me think. You're going to fuck a random for the first time. She has no idea whether you're going to see each other, again, or after a week, or a year, or two years, and she has no control over what happens to the pics after you get a hold of them, and probably wonders why, as you're going to screw soon and you'll see her naked, do you need pics (they could end up on /r/NSFW or worse), and you don't get it? OK.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 05:19 AM
1

I do have something to show for it: a 4.0 GPA across 3+ years of a STEM major. This is excellent. Why the hell is this so hard to do? It's not hard. You're making it hard on purpose. Walking up to her, asking her if you can talk to her for a second, steering her away from her friends, then asking her out is so much easier than passing a test in one of your classes that it's mind-boggling. Admit it. You think your self-worth is at stake, here? If she says no, will the recorder turn your As into C…
/r/askTRP23/11/16 05:13 AM
1

Why do I feel like this? What does this guy have thats so special that bothers me to such degree? He trained you. It takes conscious effort on your part to break free from his training. ..he suddenly stop. I dunno if it was because I started acting up without caring about his opinion or because he gave up in trying to change me or because he just gave up fighting me. Could be any of those. Could be he's still learning, and learned (from somewhere or some one) that he's a better person for not pu…
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:57 AM
1

Threesome?
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:49 AM
2

...I Used to fall for the Bait but now I ignore it. She hasn't caught on, yet.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:47 AM
2

The peace of mind you seek is best received by paying a decent attorney for it.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:38 AM
1

Ive seen her around my gym with a guy. You own your own gym? Excellent. Kick her BF out. Just kidding. Good work. Live and learn.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:21 AM
1

Would you choose to go on without a parent? No. You're already here, at TRP. Use it. Don't text her or answer her texts, you can't control your frame via texting the way you can during a conversation. If she wants to communicate with you, she can call you, you talk or she leaves a message; if a message, you can call her back when you're ready for her. You don't need to listen to her whine, you can cut that off and change the subject. Obviously, the calls are not going to be all about you, where …
/r/askTRP23/11/16 04:16 AM
2

Congrats! You're erecting a good foundation. And in the future, stay out of your garbage. Just don't go picking through it.
/r/askTRP22/11/16 07:54 PM
5

Am I the only one who doesn't have to go around shitting on people to enjoy the day? Rhetorical question, yes? Yes. Maybe he's part- alpha, not fully developed, probably not working on it, doesn't know when and where to STFU, but everybody's still dancing to his tune and laughing, so it's working for him, isn't it? If it wasn't, people in the group would have buttoned his lip for him before this. Some times people who act this way are actually afraid to stop as they think it will cost them the a…
/r/askTRP22/11/16 07:46 PM
33

Why dont I feel anything when I make girls cry anymore Because you know, now, that the crying will stop as soon as they figure out that crying won't get them what they're after? IDK, just guessing.
/r/askTRP22/11/16 06:21 AM
6

She said "thank you for setting me free and I'm sorry it wasn't fair to you". What a spineless c**t. Good for you, /u/northerntier11.
/r/askTRP22/11/16 06:16 AM
2

Well executed.
/r/askTRP22/11/16 06:14 AM
2

Maybe you've overdosed on RP and think that women are valueless. It's easy to do and if this is you, there are lots of other posts about this, from guys trying to integrate RP into their life. Overdosing is easy enough, what with digesting hypergamy, shit-testing, the cock carousel, hamstering, AWALT, and changes in your approach to frame, game, kino, SMV, and on and on. If true, we'd have more to go on, than just general listlessness. You might need integration exercises. After all, the women d…
/r/askTRP21/11/16 06:54 AM
1

Can my mission be the process? Obviously yes but I am asking your relevant experience to argue if that would be feasible and useful. No. If your mission is the process, and process is becoming, then you must be working on something to become something (e.g., a wealthier person, or a nuclear physicist). So, what is it that you're working on so diligently? So you substitute words and you're right where you started. I'd be incredibly impressed that you're so well developed financially, physically, …
/r/askTRP21/11/16 06:22 AM
2

This happens all the time, here. Look, no one here knows this chick except you. We don't know why she's doing this. Some of us are suggesting that you get to the bottom of this, find out, and report back. If you don't want to smack her in the ass, then next time she reaches for you, pin her hand to your chest at her wrist, draw her in and plant one on her. At the same time, run your other hand down her back to her ass and squeeze one. She could be teasing you to aggressively lead her, or, she co…
/r/askTRP21/11/16 06:09 AM
1

Hahaha- you're a hoarder, like a sheep dog that won't let any of them get away. OK, kidding. Honestly, just keep repeating to yourself "There's more where that came from", as in, POF.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 05:31 AM
1

In order to try I need to know that trying will actually work. I can't think of a kind way to ask you what other guarantees you've negotiated in life, thus far. You could be 6'2", weigh 190 lbs. with big muscles, a big dick, a lot of money, and some social status and still screw it up. There aren't any guarantees. Never surrender. You have no idea what might happen if you try your damnedest. I'm taller than 5'6" and posting, anyway.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 05:18 AM
2

I took this as sarcastic juxtaposition; it's fine.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 05:11 AM
1

She said she wasn't acting intimate because she didn't want to lead me on as I'd expect sex. This floors me. What exactly do you think is left of your relationship? If this was just some girl you hit up you'd have moved on without even bothering to post about it. But because you have 'this past' you think you have some investment at stake. Women change their mind by the day, if not every 4 hours. What she might have said to you in the past because she was feeling all tingly, is the past- it's ov…
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:49 AM
2

I smell a rat, legal or not. I'd move on. 'tight holes daddy' sounds like a sting, or other setup.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:28 AM
1

I think your sample size is too small. You might try being more discriminating. Next time, don't hang around unless she interests you and turns you on. Then, you'll both have fun. You've tried one way, now try the other.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:24 AM
4

Sex pretty much whenever I want What about sex when she wants? Does she initiate? The truth. Maybe she will change once we live together? I don't know her; under the circumstances, I guess 'No'. Or she will put on more weight? Same qualifier; I guess 'Yes'. I often wonder when shit's going to hit the fan. Really? How come? Dude, do not live with her. Keep your separate places. Visit each other's place for long weekends. OTOH, do what you want. What do I know about it?
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:13 AM
1

So immediately wanting to cut her out completely. Good answer. Want to make it clear I will not be giving her any orbiting behaviors. You can't next her and make anything clear to her at the same time; they're mutually exclusive action sets. Question is how do i handle that at work with grace? Grit your teeth and travel the same routes as you always have, no ducking or jiving, no detours. Say hi to the same people, including her (if that's what you've always done); in short, don't purposefully a…
/r/askTRP20/11/16 04:00 AM
1

Even if all you do is learn something, doesn't that make you happier? That you learned something? Does it matter to you to know the truth about things? RP isn't simply theory; it's mind-boggling reprogramming, as you noted. But it's useful, advantageous, on a minute-by-minute basis. When you realize that you've really got your frame in gear, you'll be better off, I'd think. I certainly am. Happier? I probably wouldn't use that word. A strong life's a challenge; meeting challenges and generating …
/r/askTRP19/11/16 05:10 AM
1

some fuckery is afoot Hit me just right...♂
/r/askTRP19/11/16 04:57 AM
0

Drudge? Fox?
/r/askTRP19/11/16 04:48 AM
-2

Explain No. You do it. Think, and learn some things.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 06:23 AM
0

Nay (No). On the road trip, listen to some recorded talks on growing up.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 05:21 AM
1

Would you drop the group? Kick the guys ass? Or keep fighting him until he gives up? Answer is d] none of the above. Why would you throw shit back, in as much as he's not a danger, just an annoyance? What does amused mastery dictate in these circumstances? What is your frame with respect to his presence? Or is there another reason? Are you weak in areas that you should be improving on, and he's pushing those embarrassing buttons?
/r/askTRP18/11/16 05:05 AM
3

You have to start to lead her. Your actions have to rekindle immense amounts of respect for you in her. By asking this question, you know you're way behind. Hit the sidebar, but fast. You're running out of time- if you want to save the relationship. P.S. There aren't any shortcuts- you have to live this.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 04:59 AM
1

...and will throw you under the bus when there is even only a small personal gain involved. Or even just to avoid a workplace confrontation. I get this. Since BP is the norm, they're almost everywhere. I've been lucky to have worked for a couple RP-types, but they represent less than half of the people I've worked for. ...do you have maybe a link to a topic on TRP on that matter? Not directly. But then, RP doesn't give a prescription for every conceivable situation in your life, and it's not mea…
/r/askTRP18/11/16 04:49 AM
1

You've basically done this, already. https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5crafx/i_am_seeing_the_red_pill_in_action_but_i_always/ Hit the sidebar for about 8 months, ask questions to clarify the obtuse, then report back.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 04:35 AM
3

I have no hopes of getting my dream job now. Why? Charges were dropped, there's no record of it, if you don't bring it up (and of course you wouldn't) there should be no issue with respect to job seeking. Your (righteous) anger, and it's effect on your attitude towards seeing new women is another matter. Start with the sidebar reading; also NMMNG and When I Say No, I Feel Guilty; these will get you in touch with what's right with how you feel about all this, and give you some ideas for moving pa…
/r/askTRP18/11/16 04:14 AM
2

bitch gets clingy , bitch gets upset and slams your reputation around the office, Can confirm; multiple times, and I wasn't after any of them. Not all of them will try to submarine you, but desperate ones that feel rejected, will, even if you're just being vaguely friendly/inclusive/treating them like you treat everyone else. If they want you and don't get you, the SHTF.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 04:01 AM
1

I don;t see how become better at life makes girls want you more, theres always those who have all the money, the house, and the car,... Read up on ladder theory; answer to this is in there.
/r/askTRP18/11/16 03:53 AM
1

Really? You want to give her a good-bye fuck? That's really sweet. Don't. You want to be a man about it, tell her in two sentences, in person, that "Relationships need to be good for both parties, and ours isn't. Good-bye, we won't be seeing each other, anymore." Look into her eyes, and say it gently.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 05:56 AM
2

I would try two things: 1] Go get coffee by yourself, at the commons, cafeteria, wherever coffee is sold that will hold a lot of people. Sit by yourself, or if you spot someone from a class, go sit with them. Stay there for a while, doing some light reading and sipping the coffee/whatever. Do this with some regularity; anyone that nods or waves, invite them over, not necessarily to converse, but at least just to share the space. People will get used to seeing you there; anyone that you can go ov…
/r/askTRP17/11/16 05:36 AM
1

IDK, but I wonder if it's simply an amped up version over the years of simply saying goodnight.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 05:20 AM
1

Let me guess- you work in an assisted suicide clinic. Cuz now I wanna go shoot myself. OK, kidding. But I like your post- no kidding. FLOL.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 05:11 AM
2

Nice job here IMO- really. OP, sit on this for a minute. ♂
/r/askTRP17/11/16 04:58 AM
4

It's no different when you're in school; social interactions are optional there, too. You trade a bunch of the same people at school every day for a bunch of the same people at work every day. Why treat the people at work so differently than the people you took classes with? And what /u/McCoop_ said.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 04:54 AM
1

...because I settle, and people tell me all the time. I know I can get it, just dont know where to start. Stop settling.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 04:50 AM
4

GTFO. This isn't the place for your white knighting tradcon shit. You're fairly demonstrative- why don't you tell us, then, the difference between a long-term plate and a long-term relationship. Then you can tell us why there's no place in RP for a LTR. Then you can post that over at Rollo Tomassi's place; put his marriage on trial. Just wonderin'.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 04:36 AM
1

Appreciate the validation- thanks.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 03:36 AM
1

This is an interesting and not implausible take. I think the girl, talking in extremes out of both sides of her mouth when it suits her, and him swallowing all of it, way too dizzy to screw with in the condition OP is in, with her jerking him around, but it's his call. And he might be able to pull it off.
/r/askTRP17/11/16 03:19 AM
2

Compliment them on something real, like an item of clothing, or how they're doing in a class or sport they play. Go sideways from there- and don't be quick to tell them all about what you think of it. Ask them a question, and make a subject out of the answer that they can expound upon. People love to hear themselves talk, and are tickled when another gives them the opportunity. That said, communication is social, and social is critical. On the downside, pay attention to their responses for signs…
/r/askTRP16/11/16 04:18 AM
2

"wasn't comfortable with how rough sex was, even though I really enjoyed it" For better or worse, I try not to spend time trying to decode womanese, I only speak masculine english. If that's really what they said, albeit paraphrased, I'd say they want to do it again, but not exactly that again. Like, can you leave the steamroller at home, next time? I'd need to know more about what you did and what they did, but then, that'd be too much information.
/r/askTRP16/11/16 04:06 AM
1

Time will tell. Do you think she recognized the change in tone (game) from the rapport-building texts to the sarcastic (read 'disappointed') tone of the favorite color comments? OTOH, if she won't even get a cup of coffee with you until she knows you better, how would we think that would happen? And who doesn't she want to see her with you until she knows you better? At what point do you determine, in your own life, that you've switched from inviting someone into your life, to chasing them? Move…
/r/askTRP16/11/16 03:55 AM
2

Plate, or not, I say "Fine." That's it; no additional euphemisms or explanation. The word has an accepted double meaning, it can be OK or it's not OK, but in my life it's not OK. It's so overused that my sense is that it's the word that takes the least amount of effort to come up with for a reply/acknowledgment, and I mean it that way. I move on.
/r/askTRP16/11/16 03:01 AM
3

OP, you need to reformat your post, it's annoyingly difficult to read.
/r/askTRP16/11/16 02:44 AM
1

Any advice on how to tone that shit down? A guy I worked for once told me "Everybody thinks they're the funniest person in the room." It's hard to know when to stop, especially when you're on a roll. Perhaps you could put a simple limit on the zingers, like maybe 2, then just slip it into neutral. I understand that wouldn't have helped you in the aforementioned incident. The best answer is to think before you speak, but of course, if your humor is based on timing, that doesn't work. Maybe you ju…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 05:46 AM
1

Yes [sigh].
/r/askTRP15/11/16 05:39 AM
1

Bring a small notepad to work that fits in your pocket. Keeping score is the only way to defend yourself to the manager, later, if it comes to that. But the tally must be perfect. You know what he's doing while you're doing a tour? When the tally is lopsided in your favor, and he insists that you take yet another group, flash the tally at him- just flash it, don't let him take it in his hands- sit still (try not to shake) and firmly say "Your turn." And don't move. Good luck.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 05:35 AM
5

This is cute.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 05:24 AM
1

You've described what happens, but nothing of the why. My sense is, you need to find out why. ...if I really wanted it I would just do it, but I can't. I think reading to learn why is less expensive, but it can be difficult to impossible to admit things to yourself, in a vacuum, so to speak. Professional help can be embarrassing to some, but the value of having someone who knows what's up to bounce stuff off of can be inestimable. Check into your medical insurance policy and see if some mental h…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 05:14 AM
1

Turning betas into alphas is unnatural. How do you figure? No accounting for social evolution? Literally, if I wrote the guide, would you expect me to be worried about a beginner? The best of a man dies with him, you'll never inherit it. Besides, you can't explain anything to a woman [/s]. OK, the real answer. Guys stick up for guys. We help each other out. Besides that, each of us has a unique twist on our strengths, weaknesses, likes, and dislikes that appeal differently to each really great w…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:52 AM
2

Abraham Lincoln said (paraphrased) "People are as happy as they make their minds up to be." Obviously, we'd like to be happy/content/pick a descriptor without kidding yourself. That said, it's a pretty simple concept. I've worked to get where I am today, so I'm up, I have hope for the future and I'm working on my future, and every minute I spend working on it makes me that much happier and brings me that much closer. Having internalized that it's a life-long pursuit and then you die, makes it mu…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:44 AM
1

...I'm sure she would've enthusiastically agreed if Brad Pitt asked her out. I agree, and you're not Brad Pitt. I'm not, either. I always translate this to: "If I get a better offer, you're toast. Let's see what happens." I'd def plan something else. Don't even text her back to "call it off"; since there's nothing to call off. You win some, you walk away from some.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:35 AM
1

This isn't some men only tree house sub Yes it is. Read the sidebar. Take your own advice.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:30 AM
1

Coming off like a jerk in whose estimation? Certainly you don't think she's going to have an unbiased opinion. After it sinks in she'll likely be pissed that she didn't strike first. Say it in one sentence. I do it in person, away from the crowd, but not so I have to give her a ride home. Don't hang around to "give her emotional support"; you're ending it, right? And you've read enough to know that you couldn't possibly explain your action to her satisfaction. Cut the ties and simply move on. Tr…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:15 AM
1

Try keeping this in mind as you simmer. You can still have LTRs, can still be happily married, raise great (RP-aware) children, and have it all. But you have to do it somewhat differently than you were led to believe, up until you bit the pill. RP sites accentuate some of the "harder" lessons because we need a real jolt to look through "new" eyes as wakethfkupneo posted. The downside is that it's work, it's actual learning, unlike the way you were conditioned as you were raised. The upside is, t…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 03:52 AM
2

Prepend Word.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 03:39 AM
2

This. No way to answer the question without knowing what's to be braced. On your own, ask the doctor who ordered the brace to refer you to a sports medicine clinic/doctor as well as the physical therapist so it's covered by insurance. As an aside, you might be able to do isolation exercises with light tube bands. I mean light bands, lighter than you find in the gym, like bodylastics. Depending on what's braced, maybe chins/pullups, weightless squats. Whatever motion they allow, max out on it. Sp…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 03:29 AM
1

She was going to text you when she was free. Didn't happen. So you start to chase her. Have you asked yourself 'How important am I to this chick who takes 4 days to find her diary to see if she's busy next Friday?' Not an appointment book (which should be on her phone) but a diary. Let me help you with this. She's so buy that she can't remember whether she's got a date next Friday. No, wait- she's waiting to see if someone she really wants to spend time with will ask her out for next Friday; if …
/r/askTRP14/11/16 04:44 AM
1

See the recommended reading at the sidebar at /r/theredpill.
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:58 AM
1

I don't like texting... I usually maintain the rule that we do phone calls. I suck at texting. When it comes to texting, how to maintain boundaries if you cannot outright say it? I don't like her waiting hours to reply, and the worst is when she gives me a "seen" and doesn't reply with even an "ok" when discussing plans. I want her to know that this reserved texting attitude displeases me. I am not another beta monkey... Do you see what you've typed, here? Sure you are. You don't know what you l…
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:54 AM
3

People have time for whatever they want to have time for; they re-prioritize. Find a sparse random girl to spend an hour or two with you on the weekend, after you've finished studying and your business can be put on hold. If you've got all this going for you and promise not to spend your day texting and worrying over them, and respecting the time slot you can reasonably afford them, girls are fun, and no doubt several will be quite willing to hang around. Be real careful about 'yes' and 'no' wit…
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:49 AM
1

Kino. But I think you need to spend time with the reading from the sidebar at /r/theredpill.
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:41 AM
1

Also I had a highly succesful carreer of being a couch patato High applause for honesty, despite the spelling errors. Yes, you can start "right off the bat" if the school will accept you. Make the rounds of the schools in your area. Tell the resident sensei that you don't yet know what sparks you and you'd like permission to watch a class. Also, check out their websites. From your internet reading and watching the classes, pick the style that interests you most- you'll do best if you're in harmo…
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:24 AM
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(As I think about this more, I should have just gone with my friends and should have gone to a different dancer while briefly interacting with her and show that I'm just there to have a good time with my friends). No. You did the right thing by staying away- even she liked that. She texts you three weeks later. So, she'd forgotten you and now remembers, and what's better, might actually have some spare time. I sense only from your post that she thinks that you're "her type" because you're easy, …
/r/askTRP13/11/16 04:05 AM
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I am a 24 year old girl. I am a 24 year old girl in the wrong sub. The End
/r/askTRP13/11/16 03:15 AM
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If you want to train animals, you have to be smarter than they are. I would call them out; it doesn't matter if you're accurate, or not. To wit: comeback to guy A: "If you were as smart as the rest of us, you'd know how dumb you look when you make inane comments about my height." You have to drill this guy with the same theme every time he opens his mouth, until he signals a truce. Stay calm and matter-of-fact, with a light smile. Shrug off, nonchalantly, any response. comeback to guy B: "You kn…
/r/askTRP12/11/16 07:41 AM
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She wants your attention, or she'd have ignored you. What good her attention will do you, no one knows. Meanwhile, stop for five seconds and smile smugly to yourself; you have earned this one. OK, now back to your regularly scheduled life.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:45 AM
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You are what you do. So- practice. Every night review the day with your notes and books in front of you, including your actions, actions avoided, and interactions with others. You'll start to catch on. BTW, practice.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:40 AM
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I don't see a broken frame. I don't see you being the bad guy. She wanted to go out; you told her to have a good time. You'd have broken frame if you knew you should be asleep but instead you went out to 'protect your interests'. My sense is that you don't normally keep her tied up in the cellar. It's not clear to me that whatever's broke that needs 'another shot'. Carry on.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:32 AM
2

Yes. Practice.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:25 AM
2

Seems so. I'll add. The fix is time and that your attention is diverted by new and exciting things, and people.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:23 AM
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Reads like kissing and dry humping are the limits of her comfort level. Go slow and be gentle- several dates wouldn't be too slow.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:21 AM
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She's 17- is she underage in your state with respect to drinking? Maybe she wants to bring her Mom. If you want to go through with this, OK the friend as long as the friend brings a date unless you can 'fix her up' with one of your buddies. Then you all go out and do something legal. In the meantime, I think you should know better than this.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:17 AM
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Get out, go to the places you like to go and look at what guys are wearing. Pick something that someone is wearing that you would feel comfortable wearing. Without being obnoxious, and as part of even a short conversation, you could make a simple compliment (but only one to a guy, one each time out) like "Nice shirt." If he says 'thanks' ask where he bought it. I think without knowing what's going on, fashion-wise, a guy can outdress himself for any occasion.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 06:08 AM
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I'd suggest that you try to "join" a group of males (any size group, like on the 'big bang theory', for instance) so that you can enjoy male friendship, maybe some bonding, get out and do some things without worrying about being the center of attention, but be in on the fun. At the same time, start reading: No More Mr Nice Guy, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, Taming Your Outer Child, The Way Of The Superior Man, and Sheet Music. That you could have some abandonment issues from early childhood would…
/r/askTRP12/11/16 05:50 AM
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This.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 05:30 AM
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Thoughts? I have a few. Unless and until you're certain that she's the 1, keep doing what you're doing. Her insecurity is not your problem. Screwing other women is not "petty shit". Just sayin'. She won't stop until she's sure you're monogamous. Some time thereafter, she's liable to get bored. In the meantime, her hanging around this long says to me that she considers you a fine challenge. There are other good reasons for her concern- diseases, for instance. Never explain anything to a woman. If…
/r/askTRP12/11/16 05:24 AM
1

I think you ask her out, straightaway, for next month- and get her number. Or tell her to take a number, after all, you've got 12 other plates waiting...
/r/askTRP08/11/16 06:19 AM
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I wonder if they generated tingles or repulsion on account of their conscious brainwashing. So do I. Screw them all and report back. One of them stopped talking to me by the way. She's still thinking about it, lol. BTW, RP says STFU. Practice.
/r/askTRP08/11/16 06:14 AM
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...should I still fuck her? NO. Be certain that you're clean. Now go find someone else to spend time with. It was good for all of us that you tipped her off to getting checked out, that's the right thing to do.
/r/askTRP08/11/16 06:10 AM
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Your post reads like you really get off on the satisfaction of helping others, molding and teaching them. That behavior is selfish enough; it's partly why I'm typing this- who would I kid? You could use some practice balancing your want to improve and do things for yourself with your penchant for helping others. You might try the book "I Feel Guilty When I Say No".
/r/askTRP08/11/16 06:04 AM
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What I'm reading (into this) is that you start off flirty and with fun in mind, keeping it light, then after a while and things are going well, and then you feel like 'well, hell, she's an adult' and you begin to get a little more serious and start to talk to her like she's an adult, and then her responses continue to gratify you, and then you IDGAF drop back into your old self and up the intelligence quota and start to press for her approval (the move to beta). IF so, as others posted here, you…
/r/askTRP08/11/16 05:32 AM
2

Her demand is straightforward enough; the manipulation may come through the "therapy". she has become dependent on this therapy and as a result it has become a never-ending mental nourishment in her mind. From what you've laid out my take is that you're parsing this clearly enough. It was a heady decision but I applaud you for it. FWIW and in full disclosure, I made the same 'no, thanks' response as you some years back and wouldn't change my decision if I had (was forced) to do it over again, kn…
/r/askTRP08/11/16 05:15 AM
1

It always happens in front of other people, never when we are alone. Why does he act like this? We don't have enough information; apparently, neither do you. If you want to know why people act the way they do, you need access to their past and analyze the hell out of it, and them. There are things you can do, but, as with everything, you need to be very careful. I once had this same issue as you with a male co-worker. I calmly told him 'Starting now, I'm ignoring you until you start to treat me …
/r/askTRP07/11/16 04:36 PM
1

If you're graduating in December, you should be testing the waters, now, and stay in the loop for spring recruiting. I'm guessing you didn't work any internships. Have you talked to the people in the placement department at your school? Where are your friends going to work? Can they get you an introduction? As you're already in America, I'd think it easier to check things out here and go back to the UK if things don't work out here. If you go back there in January, it may be tougher, to say noth…
/r/askTRP07/11/16 06:08 AM
4

Been here for 11 months and I feel like a member of the community, is that a problem? No, that's not a problem. You're 16 years old, with your own apartment that has a jacuzzi? she wants to wait so she "knows she's not giving up her body to someone who isn't going to be in her life for long", and I completely understand and respect that about her. You understand and respect that about her but you want advice on how you can ignore it all and screw her, anyway?
/r/askTRP07/11/16 05:54 AM
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Ouch. She didn't respond to your text and didn't show up. That's all you need to know about what she thinks. I wouldn't bet that you have anything you should tell her that she cares to hear. More than "sticking to no-contact" you need to move on, mentally, emotionally, and physically. She has. Just leave the facebook/snapchat stuff alone, on both ends; don't delete anything, don't add anything, just leave it all as it is. In short, don't give it any more of your time or thought. International tr…
/r/askTRP07/11/16 05:27 AM
1

"Thanks in advance, boys." Boys? Take a hike.
/r/askTRP07/11/16 04:58 AM
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"So my question is, is it worth it to ever tell a girl off...?" No. You have better things to do than play drama games with her. "... Or should I have just ignored her misbehavior despite being blatantly disrespected?" I don't see that you related any misbehavior or disrespect on her part. You were badgering her. I don't understand this texting back and forth thing. Don't you have important things to do? At the point that you were at, you just ask her out, if she says no or doesn't answer, you m…
/r/askTRP07/11/16 04:33 AM
2

"I've noticed that as soon as I have sex, all of this goes away." Having sex is a great source of value validation. Also, lots of chemical release promoting physical and emotional relaxation. Awareness includes more than just picking up on your slips and falls. Stepping outside yourself to see where you are in your journey is difficult; proper meditation could help, as you note. Many of us are too hard on ourselves, for various reasons, including to consciously note our shortcomings, hopefully m…
/r/askTRP06/11/16 05:00 AM
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OP, there's a ton of good stuff in this (above) post. Kudos for taking the time to post it all up, dude. Monk mode helps keep the heat off you, minimizing failures, while you're sprucing yourself up and internalizing RP.♂
/r/askTRP06/11/16 04:46 AM
1

Reads like she wants you orbiting around her, in case she gets hard up. Friday and Saturday are over; her not texting you before taking a nap means you're not a high priority; not replying to the date setup request is the answer to your request- it's a no. If it were me, I wouldn't go out of my way to see her tomorrow. If you do bump into her, be cordial, but I wouldn't try to set anything up. Trust your gut. If she's into you, she'll start waving big flags, because you're making such a lousy st…
/r/askTRP06/11/16 04:24 AM
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If her seeing you with those guys lowered your value in her eyes, you don't want her. You don't check in with a woman to see if what you do is all right with her. You do what you want to do; it's your frame. If she asks you about your time with them, as a man you won't sluff off those guys as losers, even if she (especially if she) begs you to render a judgment on them, you describe the circumstances at a reasonable level and let it go.
/r/askTRP06/11/16 04:16 AM
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Exactly. We're not bots, we're real people with experience of real relationships- you know nothing about us. Do you suppose that this is the only place the OP has gone for advice, and/or to vent? Maybe he's surveying the landscape, looking for a place to land and rest for a minute. Are you certain that OP cannot discern the difference between good advice and garbage? To answer your question, I think OP can get good advice on this sub by doing just exactly what he's done. He wrote that he's inter…
/r/askTRP06/11/16 04:05 AM
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Your post reads like she's using you to get out and get noticed; meanwhile, she's shitting on you and waiting to see if you notice. My sense is, you're not overreacting. Not that it matters, but it reminds me of the occasional reaction I've had to scenes like you had with being interrupted and ignored while telling a (hopefully interesting) story. I've stood up, said "I'm going to go shoot hoops, if you want a ride home, we go now."
/r/askTRP06/11/16 03:43 AM
2

OP, fuzzyface1980 gave you the answer up above. Start there. I appreciate that you're wound pretty tightly at the moment.
/r/askTRP06/11/16 03:05 AM
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No, he doesn't get it.
/r/askTRP06/11/16 03:03 AM
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Slamming guys you don't know is a tell. If you're on the sauce, stay off the keyboard. Thanks, from another one of the guys you don't know.
/r/askTRP06/11/16 02:58 AM
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This reads like you're invested in being lazy and LTRs are comfortable and much less work, which you like. Reminds me of the women who want a wedding, not a husband. This overinvestment clouds your focus/frame. If there's pain in a breakup, you're short on acceptance of the reality and where you both are in the relationship. I'll buy some wistfulness, though.
/r/askTRP06/11/16 02:49 AM
1

Looks like a basketball to me. Regardless, it was a fine toss.
/r/PussyPassDenied05/11/16 04:16 AM
2

By all means, get out and practice, you know, live. Stop by once in a while to set us straight.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 04:04 AM
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This. Even if you don't have to lie. OP, get your head on straight.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 04:00 AM
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Next her. She's telling you to go away. Why would you play her game? Aren't you too busy?
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:56 AM
1

move on; i.e., next her. Note that your first mistake was asking if you were on for tonight, you should instead have simply given her instructions.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:52 AM
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Frame.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:43 AM
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It avails you of the opportunity to overcome what reticence you might have to speak in front of others. Also, there is time allotted for extemporaneous speaking, like off the top of your head, and critiquing others' efforts, as well as your own. But you learn how to do these things, and as a by-product, it helps you become a better conversationalist.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:37 AM
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I think the concept is simple. If you want to be [an] interesting [person], you have to be interested. So go to the places where others have the same interests as you, and practice talking to them. If no one shares your interests, you're SOL until you decide to be interested in those things that interest the people that you want to talk to. So if you go to a sports bar on Sunday to practice conversing with other sports fans and the football/rugby/soccer/whatever game is on, you should be current…
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:32 AM
1

It's easy to be hard on yourself; you're privy to almost every mistake that you make. Unless you spend a lot of time over at /r/TIFU, you won't normally be privy to the mistakes of all the people around you, because people don't go around announcing their moments of failure, as they see it and judge themselves. So you have a lopsided perspective. Most of us have the same lopsided perspective. You might try stepping outside of yourself and looking at a given situation as if you were an innocent b…
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:15 AM
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Keep reading and thinking; it's a valid question. The Red Pill doesn't concern itself with numerical measurements. There's no minimum or maximum height, penis length or girth, neck size, or 1RM squat weight. RP is an information set that when applied produces conditions intended to maximize a man's time on earth, through his frame, to "be all that he can be". It's not about having the biggest dick in the bar, it's about how you operate with the dick that you have.
/r/askTRP05/11/16 03:03 AM
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