Is It A Shit Test?

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-04-04T11:47:02+00:00

You posted this SAME question yesterday.

Let me guess.

You didn't like the advice you got. You didn't like the answers you got. You are looking for confirmation bias, to hear what you want to hear, instead of actual advice. That way when you finally do get someone tell you advice you want to hear, and you do what you already want to do, you can come blame us here at AskTRP instead of yourself when it blows up in your face.

northern_yeti · 2017-04-04T12:42:58+00:00

/u/RedditAdminsSuck_88 is one hundred percent correct. I'll still give you my two cents.

Pretty sure 99% of girls have their phone on or near them 24/7 so take that for what it is. Nobody is too busy to reply to a text with 'Hi, I'm really busy with work this week. I'll text you on (day of week) and we'll set up a time to get together.'.

What does she do exactly? When she told you she shuts everyone out, how did you respond? How did you respond when talked about the possibility of a more serious future with you? Not trying to be a dick, but how much of the sidebar have you read?

When they go cold on you, you do the same. Mirror their actions and if you've already texted her once without a response, I wouldn't text her again. If she wants to get in touch, she will text you and if she isn't stringing you along, she will. Feels like she's got the upper hand here and that's a very dangerous place to be in. You seem to be becoming less of a challenge. Have you ever heard of the 'cat string theory'? What happens when you stop dangling a string in front of a cat and drop it? The cat is disinterested and walks off to find other string to play with. I don't know this chick, but that's a strong analogy I feel. There's a power play you can employ that can work to put the ball back in your court.

Do you know how to employ a soft next?

Go radio silent like you have and keep it that way for a week more or less. Seriously, go do your own thing. Talk to other girls, work out, anything that you like to do. If she texts you, don't respond lightning fast or seem like you've been waiting on her. In fact, respond that you've got plans to do xyz, but you'd like to meet up later in the week, maybe the following day.

If you don't hear from her in a week, text her something like 'hey stranger! I'm going to XYZ and wanted to invite you to come along with, but your thumbs must be busted from working so hard last week to respond to my texts ;)'

Or... Wait for it... Call her. Still no response? Hard next her. Bye bitch.

Long story short, yes. Shit test. Or shes riding another dick and can't be honest with you about not wanting to ride yours anymore. In either event, move the fuck on and forget her.

Your frame started to crack when you started to think too hard about this and prodded her to hangout when said she was busy with work. Again, too many variables to really give spot on advice.

My best advice is to mirror her actions and see how it pans out. However, I wouldn't tolerate the shit shes pulling personally. I work 50 hours a week taking care of 25+ business accounts maintaining ad campaigns and can still respond to someone I'm interested in. How do you think its gonna pan out when you upgrade her from a plate?

Tread lightly from my perspective. Good chance shes playing games, that shit sucks. If I were you, I wouldn't even bother with LTR'n her unless I made it clear that she can't just ignore me because of work. She'd need to give me some details around when we would talk next and I'd appreciate if she'd give me the common courtesy to touch base every day or two.

You know what men and women do on the shitter? Play with their phones... Ample time to say hi and whatever.

throw162534 · 2017-04-04T14:10:51+00:00

I think you're too invested, and like you said, you have oneitis. If I were you I would soft next her, cut off all contact for at least 3 days and see if she texts. If she does, tell her you're busy (and actually mean it. go out and do something). She's got other options, I can guarantee you that. Don't make her your only one.

Title	Is It A Shit Test?
Author	trpthrowaway1000
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	April 4, 2017 11:39 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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