Swallowed the pill a few months ago, and fully digested it recently. My LTR told me that I had "everything she wanted" in a relationship, but she just wasn't "in love" with me. I made her laugh, bought her presents for her birthday, and did everything I could to make sure the relationship was stable. (Lack of tingles + lack of abundance = Boring/desperate beta.) Had alpha "characteristics" in the beginning which drew her to me, but lost that over time.

Is there hope to even transform the relationship into one where she sees me as the leader? How do I even play this at this point in time?

Ideally, it needs to completely turn around to where she's begging to be with me. I haven't created that dependency yet, and right now, it's a formula for cheating/infidelity.

TL;DR, my questions:

  1. How do you nurture dependence from a girl? Not in the way that she "depends" on you for security/money/kids - but in a way that prolongs the attraction? 2)How do you maintain an interesting conversation? I'm a boring fuck at times and hate even hearing myself talk. Have a slight mumble from childhood and never corrected it.
  2. Her ex is 10x as jacked as me, taller, and more intelligent. Fucked with her head badly, and it still affects her.

For girls I've dated in the past, it always came automatically. They saw me as above them and it came naturally. Current LTR is different. A lot more intelligent, and at least an HB8.

Can you change the impression an LTR has on you once she sees you as beta?