So here's a bit of the background story:

I met her once. She is from a far place but we had a really big chemistry. By that time I had a girlfriend so I decided to not allow things to evolved so I kept some distance.

After breakup with my girlfriend, me and this girl started chatting more often. As mentioned, we are from different places so every weekend we we calling each other on the phone and talking over for hours to do some catch up. I was feeling her into me. This way, I decided to invite her to travel somewhere and so we did. We had sex through all the days we were there and had a great time and then we had to come back.

After that I am aware that I starting for her and showing that. (Now I know that girls are the ones who should seek the relationship). I think that got her scared and she also had future plans in mind that with would not be possible to accomplish in a relationship. Either way, I always felt that somehow she had a thing for me so I decided to meet her where she lives.

When I got so needy that I got rejected completely. (SAD!)

Of course our catch up calls were over by then. I started to read and get some understanding about TRP and developing myself in a better way.

I soft next her and barely got in touch with her, she would take the initiative rarely but not in a way to keep me a orbiter or for validation but really trying to know how I am and maybe showing her that she is still there. (If this makes sense at all). Those texts exchanges would not take long. I was making sure I was not gonna just orbiter her.

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Here's what happened this week:

So after long months of no big contact, this week we exchanged some texts and I proposed to call her to catch up and she said yes.

I waited a couple of days and then I did call her.

The feeling I got straight away and the how the conversation was flowing it was exactly like the old times. Sometimes when you do not talk with someone who you were closer, things get a bit weird but in this case it was like there was no break.

We have talked for almost 2 hours and she would keep going if I did not make it stop.

One of the first things she told me during the call is that she thought about me the day before because of a special song that connect us. During the call she also was referring some of sweet things we had in the past like a sweet like for example: A sweet nickname she would call me in the past.

I managed to stay balanced and did not go too sweet or too sour with her. I made sure I would not show the needy image I have shown before.

Other thing that I also noticed is that she started to shit test me (or I believe it was shit test):

  1. She told me she has tinder but she only uses to go out for coffee or whatever as she is a new place and knows no one.
  2. Told me about a story of a creepy beta guy who was hitting on her.

But during the call I also told her that I was traveling through where she is now and if she would like to meet and catch up. She told me yes but as if we would be as friends. I know that we should be led on by girls words but be assured by her actions and in fact the way she was talking to me, it seemed so positive.

Of course after the call and the following days I did not text her or manage to keep any contact as I do not want to become a possible orbiter. She did not do it also but we never really had a constant chatting ongoing even in the past.

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Do you think this might play in my favor?

Please try to be constructive as I just need some external opinions as most of the times things are hard to evaluate.

Have a great day.