Is there really a way out ?

lionofthejungle · 2016-09-17T20:57:52+00:00

You have a problem escalating sexually, which is a problem many men on here have. Be fun, be bold, and be assertive. These are qualities women like A LOT. You're too "in your head", and what you've done is a bit of a double-edged sword. There are so many guys on here who just READ, READ, and READ, but never apply what they've read.

You need to go out there and practically learn. Nothing will teach you better than experience. Setup dates via text (logistics only). Be direct and brief. Meet the girl. Make her feel comfortable with lighter banter and laughter. Then kiss her mid-date. The rest is pretty much "in the bag" if you ask me.

the_red_monk · 2016-09-18T00:29:47+00:00

Personally I feel like for a lot of new guys monk mode is just another way to procrastinate or avoid the hard work that it takes to actually go out and get rejected. It's the planning and preparedness trap of always being able to be more ready to execute but then never executing. Like paralysis by analysis.

It's hard to even know what you're planning to work on if you're going into monk mode without any real world experience.

I think monk mode is best utilized if you're in a desperate situation and really need all of that time to devote to getting your life back on track or to pick something you need to work on that you've figured out after having had some experience dating or approaching and taking what you've learned and applying it to bettering yourself.

Right now it sounds like your situation isn't desperate and school is the perfect laboratory to test things by actually doing them. What this reads like to me is just procrastination or avoiding the thing that you fear.

I think you're friends are probably right and you're using Monk Mode as a way to rationalize your AA. The only solution is to get out there and start approaching women. Expect to get rejected and realize that rejection is just learning experience. It's the stripes we all have to earn to get better and become men.

Title	Is there really a way out ?
Author	TehJimmyy
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	September 17, 2016 8:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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