So I've been in a LTR with this girl for over 4 years now and noticed she is getting more needy and pushy than before. I only started reading TRP recently so that is why I am here. I have noticed that wants to watch movies more instead of sex. The effort put into sex is noticeably less so I have been pulling away because i am sick of it. She says she is tired a lot but I am working and doing school full time and working out while she goes half time and waits tables. I have slowly been pulling back because if Im not getting sex i'll put that energy to homework or lifting. here is where the shit test starts i believe.

  • Wednesday she invites me over to hangout and watch stranger things which is ok to me. Anyways a whole hour passes and i can tell this isn't going anywhere and she talks about dinner to which i reply I am not hungry and she can tell I am uninterested. I tell her I have homework to do, kiss her good bye and head home.

  • Friday she texts me and tells me to come over after work and says she will be wearing her lingerie when I get there, great I think. So i go home and shower and she texts me that she is eating dinner at work because she doesn't want to cook. I was hanging out with my friend at home so whatever. She says she is waiting for her co-workers to get off to eat with them and says she will be there possibly until 10. She texts me at 10:40 and says she is coming home. I just say ok. At 11 she says "sorry its late, doors unlocked". I was pretty mad but kept calm and said "what?" she precedes to send 4 separate texts all in an hour that go like this:

  1. "oh you're not coming over? its if you don't want to I know I stayed out later than I thought"

  2. "Tomorrow could be better anyway since we can sleep in on Sunday but what ever you want"

  3. "Are you going to reply at all?"

  4. "ok well if your phone is dead or something you could have messaged me on Facebook to let me know but what ever goodnight.

  • I read them all and didn't reply on purpose but i would have told her I fell asleep if she accused me. I am upset that eating with co-workers is more important than me. I am most upset that she thought it was ok to stay as long as she wanted while I waited. I should mention that I have been doing nice things for her and received little back. For example she has been struggling with money so i went the the store and bought food to make dinner for her and had enough for the next few days. I also bought her lingerie because I was tired of sweats and no- makeup bullshit. I have also been giving her massages and making baths for her and shit like that. I have been trying to do better in all aspects of life recently by treating myself better as well as, my body, my friends, my work/school, ext. but I see now she may be taking advantage of it.

  • The next day I texted her and asked what her plans were as there were Halloween parties that night. She said she didn't feel well which is an obvious lie so I said "hope you feel better soon :)" Then she asked me and I said i was hanging out with my friends and old college roommates. I do feel guilt for some reason and I know it is false and will pass. My plan is to ignore her until she apologizes or changes her attitude because she was acting like a brat to me.

  • What do you think I should do here? She has been a pretty good girl but they all like to shit test and I think I am getting more now because I have been reading TRP everyday for about 2 months now. How would go go about passing this shit test?