Is This a Shit Test?

fnordsnord · 2016-06-12T16:02:46+00:00

I get so tired of the phrase "shit test." It's misused so often that it's lost all meaning.

You've handled this wrong and you've pissed her off.

If you had responded to her second text as though nothing was wrong, you would have given her sufficient negative re-enforcement to correct her behavior without giving her grounds to self-justify.

Now you've "over-reacted" and "been a jerk" about something that "wasn't that important."

THEN you compounded the problem by trying to contact her way too many times.

Here's what you SHOULD have done: Withdraw attention. Become "busy." Respond to her second contact attempt as though there were nothing wrong, game as usual.

If you EVER contact a woman and she does not respond, wait at LEAST 20 minutes (up to a day), then contact again. Then go radio silent until she contacts you.

We're going to leave the phrase "shit test" out of it and just say: "Yes, she's not speaking to you because she's pissed and she feels JUSTIFIED in being pissed."

Whether or not she IS justified is irrelevant. SHE thinks she's in the right and is going to behave accordingly.

Your way forward here will depend on your goal. You refer to her as your "gf." Is this an LTR in which you have invested significant time/energy/money? What are your relative SMV's? Are you willing to walk away from this relationship?

Here is where I would start, assuming you want to try to salvage this mess. Your initial concerns about approaching her are correct. You've already tried to initiate contact too much. You approaching her at this point makes you the supplicant.

Wait no less than 24 hours, then contact her via face-time. Once. Do not apologize or explain. Just game her as usual. If she does not take your call, contact her again after 3 days, game as usual. If she STILL does not take your call wait seven days and try a final time. If she's STILL blowing you off, go radio silent and game other women.

While all of this is going on, open other girls. Contact every pretty girl you know, whether she has a boyfriend or not. Especially her friends. Don't ask them out (yet). Just smile, be friendly, and talk about the weather and what they are doing. Under NO circumstances mention your gf. If THEY bring her up, be ambiguous and deflect the question. If they ask directly, it's "We're cool. No, we haven't broken up. Why? Do you know something I don't?" But avoid the subject if you can.

The point of this exercise is mostly to remind your gf that she can be replaced, and probably by someone hotter. Don't worry - she'll know about it without you having to tell her. It's a delicate form of indirect communication. Do NOT say anything to these girls that is "actionable." Don't be SEDUCTIVE. Just be fun, friendly, and positive. You don't want her to think you're cheating or about to cheat. You want her to remember that you can replace her.

The other benefit of this exercise is that if you are unable to recover your gf you will have opened a bunch of hot girls, and have a head start on breaking in the next one, whoever she turns out to be.

Retspihi · 2016-06-12T16:00:33+00:00

Move on.

Title	Is This a Shit Test?
Author	ChewbakkaFlokka
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	June 12, 2016 3:20 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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