Is this friendly teasing or just put downs?

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-01-26T18:48:51+00:00

He is dominating you. Using you as leverage to make himself look better. It's called AMOG. Without more detail, it's hard to say whether he is a narrsacist or he sees value in you and is trying to raise his value by belittling you.

The way to deal with it is to hold frame and not show that it bothers you. But, for your internal mindset and also a better way to handle things going forward I suggest the following...

Use the search bar on TRP to search the following key words:

AMOG

Alpha Male of the Group

Power Talk

Gervais Principle

Also, read "The 48 Laws of Power."

whodat6922 · 2016-01-26T19:28:52+00:00

What I don't get is, why does this bother me?

Our interaction with the rest of the world is entirely dependent on your reputation and how others view you. Him attacking that is him attacking your ability to interact with the world.

I'd have to know a lot more specifics to advise you on how to deal with it. I like stuff along the lines of "Ya know, I haven't met someone so skilled at giving me nicknames since that girl who had a crush on me in the 6th grade."

Rasalom72 · 2016-01-26T19:50:43+00:00

Be direct. Tell him to stop, to his face, in front of witnesses. Tell him it's unprofessional and rude, and you don't appreciate it. Then if it happens again, get HR involved.

That's how the game is played in the work environment. Fuck what other people think... let everyone know that you are not someone to fuck with at work. You might get a reputation as a bitch... but you're there to make money, not friends.

throw_em_all · 2016-01-26T22:29:17+00:00

AMOG, google it, return it tenfold.

Title	Is this friendly teasing or just put downs?
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Comments	4
Date	January 26, 2016 6:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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