I’ve improved enough that’s it’s gotten extremely easy to get a date, but I fail basically 70-80% of time. Starting to feel like shit about myself. How do I fix this issue?

ManthanDhabriya · 2020-06-29T15:07:03+00:00

This may not be the popular opinion on here but here goes nothing:

Stop thinking that it's your fault all the time, there could be factors out of your control. Not that you shouldn't improve your objectively weaker areas but don't be feeling so pathetic about a few chicks turning you down from time to time (especially when you got a decent chick giving you some action on the side).

Take it easy bro.

BluzzKill · 2020-06-29T14:23:20+00:00

Maybe get some ciol hobbies and experiences to talk about? Take a comedy class to loosen up. Drink more.

What's interesting about you?

Psychological_Radish · 2020-06-29T16:02:07+00:00

Alright I think I know what's going on here. Let's walk through this.

I downloaded tinder and gotten some good matches. I’ve gone out with 5-6 women so far in the past two weeks.

Well the good news is that at least you aren't ugly, so clearly the issue is something in your approach.

Your problem is that you aren't being direct enough with these girls. Let's not forget that Tinder was conceived and marketed as a hookup app, not a dating app. But since we live in a Blue Pill society, we hear that you need to take her out on a date and get her comfortable before she will have sex with you.

Obviously that is false. Many Tinder hoes are perfectly happy to invite a hot stranger over to bang the shit out of her. I have done it myself many times. If you want your success rate to be 100%, invite yourself directly over to her place to smoke weed or drink wine or some bullshit. Sure, you'll lose many girls doing this, but the ones who do accept are definitely down to fuck.

Yes, you will meet more girls overall if you do a date first. But you will also have a higher failure rate, because many girls will accept a date even if they aren't that into the guy. Remember, Tinder is a hookup app. The mere act of inviting her out risks putting you into the Beta category, because there so many Chads opening her with "wanna bang?"

Many young girls just want to hookup and have fun, anyway. That's all they know. I once met up with a college girl who had never been on an actual first date.

Watch the documentary Swiped. They interview two roommates, both decent looking dudes. One of them invites a girl out on a date and doesn't get laid. The other guy is the type of guy who just invites girls over directly. The first guy wonders why he can't succeed, and the second guy says something like - I'm paraphrasing - "I feel like you're giving them a different message with your approach."

That's what you're missing here. Yes, maybe there is something in your vibe that telegraphs Beta to these girls, but a large part of your failure is what you're doing before she even lays eyes on you. You apparently 'look like' an Alpha, but the way you go about things is incongruent with what she expects.

FirstName_LastName4 · 2020-06-29T17:03:42+00:00

Whats your mindset when you are going for a date? Are you like focusing on kissing her at the end of the date? Like studying her reactions?

For me what helps me the most on dates is going with the mindset of having a good time regardless of what happens. If im just having fun its easier for me to flirt and escalate because i dont really care if i kiss her or not or if she rejects me, cause im there just to have a good time

Bungeeeeee · 2020-06-29T19:45:32+00:00

Hmm, pretty sure I know your problem: too many distractions. You think too much and your thoughts are sabotaging you. Try to simplify your life and start doing difficult manly things. Make a man out of yourself and then you'll feel like one. You are probably trying the fake it till you make it hypnosis, but it won't work with many distractions. Try to accept the hardship of life, clear your thoughts, drop all the distractions and hit the gym hardcore. When you finally think and feel like an alpha male, get a couple of plates to provide more fun into your life, get your needs satisfied and make the hardship a little more bareable (although you accepted it and wouldn't like it any other way). Then when you are truly rewired, you may play a game or two, but I think you'll rather hop to a meaningful hobby. Learn to think and not to think. Become a focused man immune to distractions with a clear vision and no need to fulfill the emptiness and escape from himself through distractions.

Sigma1Enigma · 2020-06-30T14:56:34+00:00

Go on exciting dates.

Don't try to be a dancing monkey to make her smile.

Count the little wins & be independent of outcome.

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