Keeping it simple

sierratangovictor · 2016-06-26T15:56:34+00:00

he understands but my brain does not operate like everyone else's.

I am an executive officer and I specifically hunt these kind of people. There are many brains that don't work like other people. But not many people can treasure these kind of brains.

So I am able to understand and perceive things quickly, down side is that when it comes to telling someone else.

In light of this statement, to answer the question :

I am wondering if there are exercises I can try? I wonder what exactly you wish to communicate ?

Do you want to communicate something that came out of your mind ? People won't get it.

I think the first exercise you need to perform is observe other people, watch what they are talking about, and try to figure out what they are talking about. Then try to fake it.

Try to fake your dumbness. See if that works.

SovereignWings · 2016-06-25T21:20:04+00:00

Experience beats everything. If you are anxious or clumsy in social situations, you need a lot more practice.

Two things will begin to happen:

1 You will learn basic, repeatable social skills like how to say hello, goodbye, initiate and maintain interesting conversation with a variety of people, etc.

2 Social interactions will lose a lot of their 'intensity' because you have an abundance of them, you are used to them, and it's just a normal day like any other day. More important problems (who am I, what is my mission) will take center stage and how you socialize with people becomes just another form of entertainment and nourishment (like cooking for yourself or reading a book).

P.S.: Protip

90% of daily social interactions, especially at parties, is very superficial. People are interested in feeling good about themselves (cute dress!), feeling good about what they are doing (this DJ is dope as fuck right!?) and achieving their goals.

This is called 'vibing'. People basically sit around and ramp eachother up, have fun, crack jokes, give compliments and tell stories. The point of this ritual is for people to feel good, become socially engaged, and then go about their business. "Serious conversation" has no place in such an environment and is usually a good killer. This is the trap of the intellectual man, because you will instinctively want to talk about serious intellectual shit because that is what interests you.

Look at the people around you next time you go out. Most are barely even behaving like human beings. Most people, most of the time, are more like animals than men. They only understand: eat, sleep, party, fuck.

EntitledShitHead · 2016-06-25T17:30:39+00:00

I have no social skills whatsoever. I normally am with nerds, so I have a hard time even conversing with other men.

This is your first problem: the fact that you believe this. Make an identity where we see yourself as an alpha — jacked, powerful, socially ept, and has a ton of women chasing after himself. If you believe it, you'll become it.

Not for the sake of talking to women, but to be able to not come off as a creep or sound weird.

That's your second problem, you don't have a IDGAF attitude. you're a people pleaser. Why do you care if someone thinks youre a creep? This is your life, and everything you do you are doing it for your own entertainment, not anyone else's. You are going to do anything to maximize your entertainment, even if it makes other uncomfortable.

I have realized my problem is because I have been so used to being alone

You're used to being alone, but it seems that you're not okay with being alone, which is very different. You are yourself, and your time is valuable because it IS YOUR TIME. How you spend your time is dictated by you. Realize that you control your life, and you control the people you let into your life — if they aren't adding value to your life, you next them. If they don't respect you, cut them off. When people are complimenting you, they are really just doing theirself a favor and now you. For the price of that compliment, they get to hang out with you.

I am wondering if there are exercises I can try?

Have you ever taken an acting class? Pretend you are a high-value, alpha suave guy (e.g., James Bonds), and just say things he would say.

ecosci · 2016-06-25T19:51:43+00:00

You have been lied to and think the world is a happy place if a woman is involved be selfish and confident its not a sin and have options it will get rid of anxiety and females will notice and look people in the eye when talking but dont stare always do what you like i dont care if its video games or bike riding be yourself and dont trust what women say always watch her actions.

Title	Keeping it simple
Author	wutangzus2002
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	June 25, 2016 4:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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1 You will learn basic, repeatable social skills like how to say hello, goodbye, initiate and maintain interesting conversation with a variety of people, etc.