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| 1 | Holy shit, does it really take that many cold daytime approaches to get any success? This guy has 300:1 approach lay ratio.Chris / GLL | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Holy shit, does it really take that many cold daytime approaches to get any success? This guy has 300:1 approach lay ratio.He looks plenty strong dunno what you're smoking, but his approach vids are all solo and 1:1 so I agree it's hard to determine if he is actually charismatic and dominant or just big. You make a great point though and reminded me that dominance is about more than topping girls, it's leading other men as well. Hmm. I smell a new challenge. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Dread already needed after 1.5 months?OP should follow our advice as above.. But to play devil's advocate, sometimes that heroin pussy comes around and just makes everything else taste like decaf. Call it oneitis IDGAF but when the smoke-show girls lay it down for you and always seem to want more it's hard to do anything but give them every last drop. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Dread already needed after 1.5 months?Dunno where these other guys are coming from. If a girl gives you any kind of stiff LMR after the first 2-3 lays, you need to ease back and relax. Disengage and start doing something else after 5-10 minutes of cuddling. Maybe try again later. Your main problem though is this bitch sounds like your only source of pussy. Here's a tip, if she is the only one she is not your plate, you are hers. The correct move when they deny you sex is to pull out your phone and call the next girl on your roster w… | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Holy shit, does it really take that many cold daytime approaches to get any success? This guy has 300:1 approach lay ratio.Dude fashion is about looking good for the scene. Depends on where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing. If in doubt take cues from other well-dressed men in the environment and add your own touches to achieve a personal style. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Holy shit, does it really take that many cold daytime approaches to get any success? This guy has 300:1 approach lay ratio.Thing to remember is this dude is spitting game out in LA. Take everything you know about being a loud monkey, grabbing attention, push-pull etc. and dial it to 11. Average and forgettable does not survive in the city of fallen angels. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/16 02:35 PM |
| 3 | How long does it take to see meditation results?Depends on the mind. For new practitioners & people who have never meditated before, I describe it like this. Meditation trains a muscle. That muscle, when flexed, turns down the volume on your internal monologue. If you frequently experience anxiety, distracting thoughts, and voices that you feel like you would rather have control over then be controlled by, meditate. Eventually you will get to a point where you have a strong muscle and can control it at will. Then one day you will be walking a… | /r/askTRP | 10/12/16 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I don't get the obsession with "perfect body girls", I love chubby ones. Anyone care to explain?You aren't alone. IMO don't get stuck in the status ladder of trying to show value through socially "agreed on" hot chicks aka blonde bombshell or whatever. Your value should be coming from something besides your bitches. Hot bitches are just a side effect. I personally like brown girls ALOT for some reason .. black chicks can be hot too depending. And chicks with flat chests or small perky boobs. Something about how young it makes them look. I am also attracted to the stereotypical hot white gi… | /r/askTRP | 10/12/16 05:41 PM |
| 0 | Support Byofriend to become alpha againThis | /r/askTRP | 08/12/16 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Support Byofriend to become alpha againIf he's aware of the problem and doing nothing to fix it that's on him. As others have said, not your job to fix that. If anything maybe be LESS friendly, helpful and supportive. Set boundaries and enforce them. Simple fact is right now it sounds like he is getting away with being a fucking twat and no one in his life, not his parents or even his gf, is willing to show him it's wrong. If there is nothing to lose by slacking off and nothing to gain by working hard of course he's going to default … | /r/askTRP | 08/12/16 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Support Byofriend to become alpha againMaybe it's just me, but if I was with a dope, hot af girl for 3+ years and she approached me directly I would probably respond & attempt to make improvements. Have you talked to him? Remember men deal in rational scenarios. He sounds like he is immature (masculine development is retarded by an easy life) but it may still work. Don't phrase it as an ultimatum, but along the lines of "your seriously slacking and it's a turn off for me.. get your shit together". Worst case scenario you did your bes… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/16 03:43 PM |
| 9 | Girlfriend (18) going on cruise. Should I (20) be worried?Let go of the idea of controlling another human being. You can influence, but not control (excluding violence). Work on your abundance mentality. She is going with her family, not like she setup a cruise with her sluttiest friends and then didn't invite you. Keep your eyes open for changes in behavior, as always. Even the Alpha-est of alphas get cheated on, disrespected and lied to. The key difference is once it comes to their attention, they cut the bitch out without a second thought and usuall… | /r/askTRP | 08/12/16 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Can't get it up for casual sex...This. I started out like OP, and couldn't get aroused for a strange girl even if she was laying naked in my bed. I felt the need to cuddle, get to know her, etc. Sometimes I could fuck in the morning, other times not til the 2nd or 3rd date. Often they would disappear and I'd missed my shot. I think that was why. The anxiety / abandonment part fucked with my head and I needed to believe they would stick around and not disappear as soon as I made one tiny mistake. But. You realize women are like … | /r/askTRP | 07/12/16 08:49 PM |
| 6 | Production vs. Consumption and Stimulation Experiment (Part 1/8: Pornography and Masturbation) [FIELD REPORT]Discretion is subject to some debate. Open relationships & polyamory seem to be more and more common and 'acceptable', which brings some interesting advantages. I'm in an open relationship right now with a girl who has done everything but watch me fuck my other plates. And that she has voiced willingness to do / participate in should I find a willing 3rd wheel. Meanwhile she has supposedly (believably) not taken any new partners, mostly thanks I expect to higher value and dread. There is no drea… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/12/16 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble staying hard/finishingAs someone who is still <10 n-count but giving my newest girls orgasms left and right, SGM is excellent. Download the free PDF. Biggest thing is understanding that women's main arousal switch is psychological, not physical or technical. I was stuck for years certain that I just had bad physical technique. They were fine. I had bad psychological technique. | /r/askTRP | 03/12/16 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Older Bro pulling AMOG shit to try and keep me down.. living together.. suggestions?This | /r/askTRP | 02/12/16 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Older Bro pulling AMOG shit to try and keep me down.. living together.. suggestions?Yes. The pass/fail here and subsequent choice is whether or not to continue living with him when the lease comes up. The party house is great. Being obligated to handle him is not. I think you're right and that I need to make my own thing happen. Living with roomies is cool, I enjoy the company, the built in social proof, etc. Etc. That's why I bought the idea when he sold it to me. Of course it has worked out a little better for him because he prepicked one roommate he knew would always choose … | /r/askTRP | 02/12/16 12:32 AM |
| 1 | #NoNothingNov 2016: Give Up Vices, Forge New Habits.Back in Red baby! I used the app "7 Weeks" to visually track these and many other habits. Highly recommended. No Porn. Over the course of the month I broke my vow 3 times for various bullshit reasons. I am currently on day 13 of a clean streak. Been trying to cut this one out for years, and I am humbled by how easy it is to fall off the wagon. Carrying this challenge forward into December and beyond. No Cigarettes.. 8 days of the month where I smoked. Mostly on weekends. Terrible. Trying again i… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/12/16 06:58 PM |
| 3 | #NoNothingNov 2016: Give Up Vices, Forge New Habits.Vices: Porn Cigarettes TRP (cya in Dec) Action: Practice flow for at least 30 minutes each and every day | /r/TheRedPill | 01/11/16 08:16 PM |
| 2 | What do you tell your female relatives if you refuse to become a beta provider in the future?I've seen alot of very valid arguments for why women are pieces of shit.. but literally inhuman? You're hatred is twisting even basic truths at this point. Go lift and meditate. | /r/askTRP | 01/11/16 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Is there something more WORTHY of my life, more than working hard and achieving my mission and goals?Getting stronger in every possible way.. so much fun. Because I am in love with power. Basically. The acquisition and enjoyment of power is a reward in and of itself. It enables me to do more of the things I want to do with my time, and less of the things I don't want to do. And also makes it easier for me to hold frame and behave the way I want to (King Lion style who gets food brought to him by the lionesses). It protects me from my enemies and empowers myself and my allies. That's as far as I… | /r/askTRP | 01/11/16 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Is there something more WORTHY of my life, more than working hard and achieving my mission and goals?Why? Read the Myth of Sisyphus. It is a book based on an ancient Greek legend where the punished, Sisyphus, is cursed to push a boulder up a hill in Tartarus for all eternity with no rest. Sounds horrible right? The book is basically a philosophical essay on why suicide is a bad idea, an argument against nihilism. But one must imagine Sisyphus happy. He has PURPOSE. He has a CHALLENGE. And, ironically, he must be strong enough to continuously roll a big ass boulder up a big ass hole non-stop wit… | /r/askTRP | 01/11/16 01:30 AM |
| 0 | Machiavellianism you applied in real life that helped you succeedI brought the plate who is now my gf to a festival a couple weeks back. This is significant because of how easy it is to get laid at such Festivals. On arrival my friend (TRP aware) asked "why did you bring a turkey to Thanksgiving?" At the time i wasn't really sure myself, I kind of just made it up as I went along. But it worked out well for me because she is down for 3-somes and did not try and stop me from hitting on other chicks, or mess with my game. She was also super horny for me based on… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Why not fall in love?Love is fine and dandy as long as you obey the rules. Redpill rules. Live in truth, acknowledge reality and don't let your "love" become more important than your frame. Do that and you will notice it is a very different kind of love than normal BP romance shit. She is not on a pedestal. It may not last forever. You keep yourself strong and your eyes and options open so that you can walk at a moments notice. You provide some comfort and romance, but also need dread and game as well or attraction … | /r/askTRP | 31/10/16 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Cats - Pets for females or males too?Might be crazy meta tangent here but.. I like cats because they so often act like women. You gotta game em a bit to make them come love on you. If you just chase them around and demand affection they will run from you. Fast. But dogs are more useful socially because you can train them and take them on your adventures. | /r/askTRP | 30/10/16 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Endurance for a party/night outTop Secret: Going out is not always fun. People do not always vibe together, plans are not always good ones, and even if they are maybe you are not in a place to enjoy it. Do what you can to put yourself in a situation you will actually enjoy. If the plan being suggested sounds lame, suggest a better one. If the people who are going are lame, maybe don't go. At the end of the day it is up to you to make yourself ready to have fun at the right time and right place. Respect your limited time and d… | /r/askTRP | 30/10/16 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Anyone here get rejected by 5's 6's and 7's?Lol I'm keeping that one | /r/askTRP | 30/10/16 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Push Pull and ClosingI'm guilty of not having actually read much on this yet. But I am having tons of fun just practicing the principle. There was an extremely well written thread in the main sub for it. Can't be arsed to link it but basically every now and then you need to just drop rapport / challenge her unexpectedly. Go for guys and regular convos too. So you're hot and heavy but then stop, look at her funny and go "wait so you like Dr. Who? Nerd!" Done well the effect is to tighen your grip on that person's att… | /r/askTRP | 29/10/16 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Those of you dating multiple women (not cheating, just open style) , how do you manage direct questions about what you are doing or where you are located?Womem are hypergamous, men are polygamous. In this way you seeing other women is a zero sum game that makes her want to see other men less and less. Win/win scenario for the dude that pulls it off. | /r/askTRP | 28/10/16 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Those of you dating multiple women (not cheating, just open style) , how do you manage direct questions about what you are doing or where you are located?See now of you don't allow her to see other men, all that is going to happen is she will hide it from you when she ignores your hypocrisy and cheats. I don't want her to see other men. But I do want her to tell me about it if she does or plans to, so I can make a decision accordingly. Besides, women are hypergamous and men are polygamous. As long as you are higher value and she sees you winning with other women, she will only want to be with you and not have that much interest in other dudes. Th… | /r/askTRP | 28/10/16 08:27 PM |
| 11 | Those of you dating multiple women (not cheating, just open style) , how do you manage direct questions about what you are doing or where you are located?Dude knows what's up. The key division appears to be "when I'm with you I'm with you". I'm currently in an Open LTR type thing because I went and told my plate I loved her. Sobshes my GF now BUT she is open to 3somes, knows we aren't exclusive and I've even told her about / shown her a couple of the girls I've been working on. Because they are prettier than her. So far so good. She is respectful and sexual probably in large part due to the dread. Going forward she won't know about anyone until a… | /r/askTRP | 28/10/16 08:04 PM |
| 2 | How to learn to Use People, Say No and be Less NiceThanks for your time man. Sounds like we have very similar moral codes I just need to bring my value up more so that the "handicap" of my principled ways doesn't leave me starving. Women damn sure don't know how to appreciate honorable men, at least not the ones I'm meeting. | /r/askTRP | 27/10/16 07:28 PM |
| 3 | How to learn to Use People, Say No and be Less NiceSo how do you handle girls with boyfriends? Girls who are intoxicated? Married women? Clients or business partners that are just waiting to get fleeced? I'm with you believe it or not, I would prefer to live a principled life and not fuck people over whenever it is in my power to avoid it. But it seems like that closes the door many opportunities, and if it comes down to not screwing people over or not getting what I want.. seems like a doormat beta behavior to lose out on something for the sake… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/16 06:37 PM |
| 1 | How to learn to Use People, Say No and be Less NiceBody fat is high around 15-20%, but I am trying to bulk up. At 160-165 now trying to hit 175 @ 12% bf. What do you mean by "mix it up"? Have you ever worked IT? I've seen alpha dudes in my field but only in more senior positions where they basically dictate the technical policy because only they know wtf is going on. I guess I can just bite the bullet and grond my way there, but even the high level guys are still manager's little bitch boy. The outside world loves fire spinning so I don't know w… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/16 05:18 PM |
| 15 | Game: For Best Results, Don't Be Heavy.How do you reconcile this statement with Feels Before Reals? I'm a laid back have fun kind of dude but it seems like men who make their women feel intense emotional swings come out winning. I mean dread, negs, attention withdrawal, random rewards, etc. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/16 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Time: Is it our most valuable asset? How do TRPer's spend 24 hours?Agreed. Success comes from forming good habits. The fastest way to form good habits is to practice them daily. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/16 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Taking high risk chances in sexual situations?Don't shit where you eat. There are many things more important than pussy. Forget this and what will end up happening is a pussy-fueled bad decision that wrecks some part of your life unnecessarily. | /r/askTRP | 22/10/16 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Girls losing attraction in texting phase..All social interaction is an attention-based economy. For example, after reading your post I said to myself "this guy deserves a real reply". Hence my time. The texting phase is a very, very shallow level of attention. You don't really have an opportunity to create tension, offer value, or game through text except in rare situations with supporting context. That is why the mantra is "text only for logistics". Try to reduce these conversations to yes/no type exchanges and parse your words. If you… | /r/askTRP | 21/10/16 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Sex is great. Is it..?I started doing this unconsciously with my plate. She even noticed and asked if there's anything she could do to help me finish more often. I'm like sure.. you can try this.. But combined with nofap/NoPorn, I now notice obvious mental and physical differences of before and after. Still worth it. I definitely love the ramp up more than the cliff dive though. | /r/askTRP | 21/10/16 10:36 PM |
| 2 | If I want children, should I still not get married?In your opinion is there a way for men in the US to raise a family that does not involve giving all power to the mother/state? | /r/askTRP | 21/10/16 10:01 PM |
| 1 | How to dread girls against each other?No offense but that sounds like terrible advice. More subtlety is required. At most, I was thinking that on my date with HB9 blonde I would involve friends for shenanigans. During shenanigans suggest group photo, grab HB9 and make like a barnacle. Then post to FB with plausible deniability. HB8 will see it because girls spend their lives reading FB statuses, especially of men they are potentially interested in. Bam. Dread. Worst case scenario the blonde is like "oh I see you couldn't resist taki… | /r/askTRP | 21/10/16 03:45 PM |
| 6 | How long did it take you guys to 'make it' after finding TRP?This. The dividing line between my 'work' and my 'play' has become very blurry. I play with my work and work with my play. Anything I apply effort towards is automatically 'fun' to some degree because it brings me value, and through that value I grow, expand and experience. Anything I'm having fun with is equally valuable, because it brings balance and happiness into my reality and through that feeling of relaxation and balance, I refuel myself for more work in the future. It is a virtuous cycle… | /r/askTRP | 19/10/16 07:40 PM |
| 2 | What's the toughest ordeal you've ever been through as a male?My mother died and my house burned down within the span of 6 months. My brother left town and I was left friendless and nearly alone while attending college. I had a GF at the time who I simply hid behind to avoid facing the world. I dropped out of school and did pretty much nothing but play video games, live with my dad, work a shitty job and be with my GF. Why she stayed I do not know. Eventually I moved to my brothers city with her and my dad, got a new better job and an apt. Life got better … | /r/askTRP | 19/10/16 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Is stirring deep emotions good, or are only stirring positive emotions good?Why? | /r/askTRP | 19/10/16 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Is stirring deep emotions good, or are only stirring positive emotions good?Your answer makes sense and applies for people in general. I would wonder, though, how it applies to plates / prospects / LTRs. I have seen very successful, alpha dudes go to surprising lengths to make their females feel like total and utter shit. Sometimes when it is fully warranted, and sometimes just because she made some minor fuckup and he is in a bad mood or something. They always seem to come back and play the VERY SUBMISSIVE strategy to win back the alpha favor. Is that my cup of tea? No… | /r/askTRP | 19/10/16 12:11 AM |
| 5 | What if you aren't intelligent? Advice please?The Way of The Cock, by /u/fuzzyface1980 | /r/askTRP | 13/10/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you shift your purpose from women to simply bettering yourself?Of course your feelings affect your actions. Learn to anticipate this and calibrate as best you can. I'm pretty bad about going out to parties and events when I'm better off staying home for various reasons. Be honest with yourself and do the best you can. You will have off days and on days. Think of it as macro vs micro. Generally, do you feel good about yourself and what your doing? You're on the right track. Big picture. As long as that is true it doesn't matter if you have some shitty days h… | /r/askTRP | 13/10/16 12:28 AM |
| 1 | How do you shift your purpose from women to simply bettering yourself?Big tip #1, what you feel is going to change day to day. But if feelings were the top thing we'd just be women with dicks. Understand that you cannot always control your feelings, but you can ALWAYS control your actions. 2 Once you really get the engine rolling on self improvement, conquering challenges, and loving life, it will be a better feeling for you than any woman can provide. Women are icing on the cake and a good fuck is awesome to be sure, but the feeling of an upward trajectory, of gr… | /r/askTRP | 13/10/16 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else in here feel like if you've gotten with a hot girl and not eaten her out, it isn't as good as it could have been?Nothing tastes better than some fresh out of the shower nova-hot pussy. You ain't weird just don't be weird about it. | /r/askTRP | 13/10/16 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Meal Tickets or Breeding Machines, we're still treated like objectsYou need some sidebar in your life. Women are incapable of loving men in the way that we wish we could be loved. Instead of getting mad that people use you for your valuable attributes, understand that almost all human interactions are transactional in nature. Absolute altruism is incredibly rare and arguably unnatural. Also, just because it's transactional doesn't mean it's bad. I for one have no problems with a hot girl begging for a quick bathroom fuck, that is a transaction where we both get… | /r/askTRP | 11/10/16 03:43 PM |
| 1 | What is the point in having a woman as a partner in life if you can't talk to her about things that matter to you?Most women are instinctively / subconsciously against carrying the "real weight" in a relationship. Many can and will do it, but resentment grows. Attraction dies. Here we tell you how to maintain attraction and a balanced, polarized masculine-feminine dynamic. That way she stays in the suck your dick and don't start drama mode as much as possible. When you say "life-partner", you are imposing a blue pill concept on yourself. Women are not suited for sharing all of your burdens. You are a man, y… | /r/askTRP | 11/10/16 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Will I learn faster hiding my inexperience from others or by admitting it?You'll get there man. But to answer your question, no, there is usually no benefit in telling anyone about your issues. It will only make them think less of you. The exception is if you bond with a masculine friend / mentor and think he can give you valuable advice. Definitely never tell plates or prospects. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/16 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Would you have taken steroids at 21?I really appreciate that, I'll mark you down for talks later if I get more serious about it. Mostly I think I am just a scrub at diet and lifestyle. I drink on weekends, smoke weed 2-3 times a week and every month or two there is some big party where I throw down on harder drugs. This is me exploring the 'party scene', but as you said, I accept the consequences and consider it worthwhile so far. The way you describe energy, strength and dominance that comes along with roids sounds even more wort… | /r/askTRP | 11/10/16 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Can't get casual sex, feel un-motivated to succeed at career,When you really start paying attention, you will begin to notice that all "real knowledge" shares common elements with a variety of ideas and concepts. This is why you can read something on TRP but not internalize the concept until later, when you relate it to something different that you have more familiarity and context with. The underlying truth is the same in principle, but there are as many interpretations and descriptors out there as there are people in the world. We all speak our own uniq… | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 08:16 PM |
| 11 | Can't get casual sex, feel un-motivated to succeed at career,Nothing gave me a boost. There is no "quick fix". Try to understand your own biology here. Your brain does not need a 'good feeling' in order to get things done. This is why older guys on here just say "stop being a pussy". Not a very helpful comment, but it happens to be 100% true. Stop being a pussy. Life is not easy. You are not entitled to anything. There is no magic wand out there to give you a boost and start feeling better about your life. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a… | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 03:05 PM |
| 31 | Can't get casual sex, feel un-motivated to succeed at career,Welcome to the depression phase. I was stuck in a very similar rut for about 6 months after I broke up with my very BP LTR and then hit the dating scene only to realize I had low SMV. Chicks don't care about your job that much. That isn't what's holding you back except in the I literally don't have money to do anything sense. Chicks who do really care about your job are gold diggers, mostly. What you need is confidence, and a strong mental attitude. The only way you will get this is through disc… | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Would you have taken steroids at 21?Why do you think it should be a permanent lifestyle? Is there no safe way to cycle up, make your gains then cycle off without losing all the progress? What do you mean by 3 monthly bloods? Do you go to your dr. for blood work or test it some other way? Does your Dr know you are on roids? I've been trying to make gains for almost two years now with minimal results. Roids are starting to look more and more tempting. | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Would you have taken steroids at 21?Gotta disagree with you there. I'm a skinnyfuck and although girls do like my stomach/hips etc. when I'm lean, my ONLY goal in the gym right now is to gain mass. Big guys get treated better by both men and women. Tall and jacked > tall and fat > tall and skinny > not tall repeat. | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 02:27 AM |
| 4 | Mindset towards sex and partner selection?Listen, you are vastly overestimating the amount of fucks any of these people give when it comes to your reputation. People generally care about themselves, and don't pay as much attention to you as you might like to think (if a narcissist) or might be afraid of (if anxious). Go search the man sub for One Key Step To Not Giving A Fuck. Life is ridiculous. Your problem is not inexperience in bed, it's fear. Unless you resolve the fear & anxiety, you will never gain experience. Without gaining exp… | /r/askTRP | 10/10/16 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Should I wait till I get ripped, to practise game?Sounds like highschool? Even with college, the problem with cold approaching en masse is that you have a limited pool of women. And they all love to talk about whose hot and whose nerdy. Cold approaching functions better in the "real world" where you can just go somewhere new and never have to see the same people again unless you want to. That's why RP suggests moving to a big city. However, that just means you have to modify your approach. Focus on building your social group, bonding with male … | /r/askTRP | 09/10/16 01:40 AM |
| 5 | Over thinking has been a problem for long. Any advice?The trick is to stop thinking about something when additional analysis ceases to provide value. A good analogy for this is the pottery class. A class of students is instructed to make clay pots. Half of the class is told to spend the period making just one pot, but to make it as perfectly as possible. The other half of the class is told to make as many pots as they can, regardless if they are perfect or not. By the end of the class, the students who created multiple pots also ended up creating t… | /r/askTRP | 08/10/16 07:21 PM |
| 2 | How do I find a mentor, and who to trust?Careful. Though you should always be interested in learning from wiser, more successful people, the only mentor you actually need is yourself. Shopping around for a mentor or male father figure to tell you what's right is dangerously close to shopping around for a female to make you feel valuable. In the absence of good teachers who are willing to invest their time in you, teach yourself. Ultimately that should be the end goal of any teacher - to make themselves obsolete. | /r/askTRP | 08/10/16 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Angry over LMR FailSeems like a legit option. I was wondering why none of these guys towed the same line as all the EC posts I saw on the subject. Oh well, spilt milk now, I'll see how it plays. | /r/askTRP | 03/10/16 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Angry over LMR FailThat makes sense. Thx | /r/askTRP | 03/10/16 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Angry over LMR FailThank you. Ok so I basically did that. We were necking, kissing, touching etc and I never once got flustered over it so I think my frame was good. Was actually a really nice experience, even without sex, I love the fuck out of some good cuddling but just got worried I gave it away for free and turned her off. We'll see what happens | /r/askTRP | 03/10/16 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Angry over LMR FailTry to understand that I'm angry at my lack of game awareness, not at getting LMR'd. I have another plate spinning who is submissive and fulfills my needs. Very fun actually and low maintenance. I'm just kicking myself over this one because she's hot and my game leasing up to this point WAS super tight. I was proud of myself. Now I'm feeling like I blew it. There will be more girls. Duh. I can have the other girl on my dick tonight if I felt like it. To play devil's advocate, though, dozens of t… | /r/askTRP | 03/10/16 03:47 PM |
| -1 | Angry over LMR FailMy other plate fucking loves it and I had my hand on this SPECIFIC girls throat not two days ago and she loved it. I was using it as context to help describe the kind of LMR I was hitting. Wasn't trying to tie her up or anything on the first lay. I admit it probably depends on the girl whether they like the choking shit but I repeat, this girl liked it before. | /r/askTRP | 03/10/16 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Sexting as means to attract a male's attention.Depends on context. Got a HB8 who recently texted me an unsolicited tit shot but then flakes on plans to come over. I txt her the next day saying I was disappointed in the flake, what gives. Turns out she had a good reason, and we made new plans. If she flakes on me again though it's a hard next. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/16 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Why is a stupid fucking question100% this. I don't need to know why a magnet works in order to know that it is useful and starting thinking of HOW that can benefit me. We do not have enough time to stop and analyse every tiny detail or chase fairies into the wonderland of philosophy and occult sciences. Analyse what you must, but remember that you will never get that time back. Make sure you are getting something valuable in exchange for your time. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/09/16 05:46 PM |
| 1 | why do women become more attracted to you when you stop trying to attract them aka stop giving a fuck?Simple but elegant theory. | /r/askTRP | 26/09/16 02:11 PM |
| 1 | I know what I need to do to succeed - then why do i keep NOT doing these things?You allow yourself to fail. Don't t me wrong, I'm not perfect. Porn and approaching are currently my biggest problems. But am improving my approach habit literally every day it feels like. And porn, over the last couple months, has lost its joy completely. I'm currently on a decent NoPorn streak and am fairly confident that I will hit 90 days. Time will tell. In the end, my tricks are simple. Make sure you set up your situation so that you have to make a deliberate, conscious choice in order to … | /r/askTRP | 25/09/16 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Does TRP cultivate negativity, doubt and fear?All things end. Your assumption of her eventual disloyalty should not stop you from enjoying what she has to offer in the meantime. One of the big paradigm shifts for me after finding TRP was removing any expectations of permanency or longevity or life ever after with women. But that's OK, because not only do I have a more accurate and useful roadmap of reality, but there will always be another woman next in line to take her place. Sounds like you need to internalize a bit more and find a way to… | /r/askTRP | 22/09/16 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Question on being known as a guy who "meets" many girls.Should you change all of your priorities around in order to make 1 girl happy? Should you take her rejection personally and hold it up as evidence that all of TRP lit speaking on abundance and playing the numbers game isnt really true and doesn't work? Snarky question marks aside, no, you shouldn't. That girl may have rejected you for about a thousand different reasons but you daring to talk to other girls isn't one of them. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Dropping a LTR just before she hits the wall..?I've been where you are now OP. But I'm bored, I want to experience more. This is what it came down to for me. I was with my first GF from 18-21. The next girl from 21-26. At 26 I had a dead bedroom, a boring life, very few friends, but a good job and a loyal GF. I would see women walking down the street and go crazy over them, both because I never really "dated around" and wasn't truly fulfilled at home. But the biggest thing that made me choose to move on was that I just didn't know what was o… | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 12:24 AM |
| 1 | SpeedYou need game and a better understanding of push-pull dynamics. Do some reading, but most of it will come from field experience. Maintain abundance mentality and don't over-compensate in the wrong direction just because one random chick fell off. Use a macro lense and look at overall patterns. I had this girl on Saturday who I was sure was tingling for me. Txt her the next day to invite her out, no response. Big deal. Does that mean I should never text the next day? Not necessarily. Just means N… | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Are alpha and beta concepts that really apply to people in our day and age?It's a marathon, not a sprint. Stay with it. | /r/askTRP | 17/09/16 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Are alpha and beta concepts that really apply to people in our day and age?Alpha and beta are behavioral patterns, not different species. Think long and hard about the men you have seen and spoken to in your life. Have you ever seen someone who just commands respect? A dude whose charming and popular and everyone seems to love him and is interested in what he has to say? That dude is an alpha. They come in many forms and yes, some alphas have beta characteristics or even look pretty normal. But you'll know them when you see them. Easiest thing in the world is identifyi… | /r/askTRP | 17/09/16 12:10 AM |
| 1 | How much tougher does it get to live the alcohol fueled overall party and pure debauchery lifestyle as you get older? How many opportunities are there?My brother is now 36 or 37. We live together in a party house in a major metro in the US. Dude parties 4+ nights week and then takes trips to east Asia to, as he says it, "breed an army to take over the world". Takes a toll on your body but other than that it's easy as pie if you know that you're doing. Plenty of grown ass men in the party scene straight up slaying it. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/16 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Plate asked me if she was a plate.What are you talking about? How can you be a plate? Im not into that weird Japanese shit so don't ask me to sniff your farts or anything else "weird". If she actually used the word plate and you acknowledged it as if you knew what it was, gratz, you basically just told her you read TRP which is a big no-no for a variety of reasons. Update us with how it turns out. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/16 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Why no girl is ever attracted to me?This is the bottom of it all, really. Life is a slope. You either climb forever and see how high you can get before your time is up, or you play it safe and try to lock in whatever you have, and not slip and fall and lose it. Thing is, once you open your eyes and accept yourself as a masculine entity, there is no other way to have things. You either learn, grow and thrive or tread water, stagnate and die. Get busy living or get busy dying. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/16 05:27 PM |
| 1 | How do you even compete with better looking/more alpha guys?Fucking saved. The point of TRP is not to gain the power to make one woman love you the way you really want her to.. that is impossible. Your mommy was the only shot you had at unconditional female love. The point of TRP is to create options. An endless conveyor belt of plates and maybe, some of them are worth LTR | /r/askTRP | 16/09/16 04:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm a Junior in high school, been lurking TRP for about a year. My overprotective controlling single mother and her female roommate constantly try to betafy me and limit my freedom/potential. I'm going crazy. What do I do?Have a plan for what you do when you graduate HS. There are ways to succeed in the world outside of college but generally speaking, you want to fucking go for a lot of reasons. It's the easiest place on Earth to get laid, for one. And as long as you pick a useful major and bother to actually apply yourself, secure internships and build your resume, will work to your advantage in a future career. If you absolutely cannot come up with a solid plan for attending college, my advice would be to try a… | /r/askTRP | 14/09/16 10:22 PM |
| 1 | I'm a Junior in high school, been lurking TRP for about a year. My overprotective controlling single mother and her female roommate constantly try to betafy me and limit my freedom/potential. I'm going crazy. What do I do?Make sure you don't need her to get through college. Hope you have excellent grades or can bullshit your way into some nice scholarships. Otherwise plan to work your way through college, unless you are planning to have her pay for you and keep enforcing stupid "rules" for an additional 4 years. Fact is these women don't know what to do with you because you are acting like a man and trying to improve yourself. You probably make them feel like shit so they don't want you to, even if it's only subc… | /r/askTRP | 14/09/16 09:33 PM |
| 3 | What internal narratives help you get over rejection?Approach rejection is just the tip of the iceberg. Now think about all the girls who are going to cheat, lie, manipulate, spread rumors, and all the rest. The solution to each problem is the same. You internalize your value system and stop associating women with your sense of self worth. The uninitiated mind sees this as circular but it's not. The beta looks at the way women treat him and allows this to play an important role (usually; most important of all) in how he feels about himself. Nothin… | /r/askTRP | 14/09/16 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Got the courage to approach in publicEveryone reacts a bit differently. I get antisocial, thoughtful and extremely lethargic on weed so it's a no go for parties and clubs. Can be OK for chill time but I normally just use it alone, video games or movies on my relax days. Also helps me hit my caloric goals cuz I'm a skinny punk tryna eat 3k a day. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/09/16 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Even unbang-able 2's and 3's are getting multiple cocks.Meh. Poly is just a way of bringing he hypergamous/plate spinning mentality up to the level of open dialogue. Yes the trend is also useful for a bunch of land whales and rejects but I have met a variety of very attractive women and alpha dudes who would describe themselves as poly. It's actually pretty useful from a TRP perspective. Instead of saying "I don't want committment" you just say "I'm poly" and suddenly the dread game is set up and you don't even need to bother explaining why you don't… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/09/16 05:58 PM |
| -1 | For those of us who grew up without fathers, TRP is essential. Thank you.There is literally a sub dedicated to showing your appreciation for TRP. Read the sidebar maybe? While you are technically correct that positive reinforcement is a powerful motivator, this is not the place to seek it out. Men post here for validation constantly and it is a waste of everyone's time. If you have a question, use AskTRP. If you have an experience or theory to share that is meaningful enough to potentially educate & improve your brothers, share it on the main sub. But something as si… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/09/16 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaI know exactly what you mean. I have a routine these days. I go to work, and kill it. I have my meal prep bag and eat all kinds of food during the day. I even brush my teeth and take some fresh air. When work let's out, I drive straight to the gym with my pre-packed gym bag. I lift heavy and I lift volume and I push myself just a little harder every time, within good form. By the time I get home I'm in this high-energy, get shit done state and I don't stop moving. I do laundry or take care of ch… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/09/16 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaAbout an hour after posting this came up from an alpha dude on my FB feed: "Just do whatever the fuck you want. Unapologetically. Do no harm, but take no shit." This concept has been repeated a hundred times on TRP. I take the time to explain in detail because my target audience, analytical betas, benefit from thorough explanation. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaI feel you and agree.. when it comes to my homies, or dudes who are "in" the social group. Just reference my FR for an example how that can go sideways though. Was I supposed to ask the guy I didn't know; is that your girlfriend? Maybe.. Or should I have asked her; do you have a BF aka can I have permission to hit on you? Truth be told though it shouldn't have mattered. Hit on what you want to hit on. All the hot ones usually have boyfriends 98% of the time. If you only hit on girls without boyf… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 10:21 PM |
| 11 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaThat's exactly my point. How is one supposed to accurately make a cost benefit assessment.. in the absence of critical information? In the heat of the moment? Do you default to playing it safe, or take a risk? You are absolutely correct. Ideally, make a socially-calibrated decision that avoids unnecessary blowback. Failing that, however, it is better for you to act and fail than to just do nothing. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaHaha yes I know the liquid well, been trying to learn to survive without it. I also learned the hard way that weed and psychadelics have pretty much the opposite effect and to severely limit their use in social situations. In truth I'd say my approach has been to dive in a little bit at a time.. one or two steps farther than I've ever gone before, then pull back and examine results. A long sequence of shallow firsts, building on top of each other layer by layer. I wonder what miracles I could ac… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 06:24 PM |
| 6 | Why letting what you don't know stop you is Beta, and how to be an ignorant, successful AlphaAccurate. This was probably my biggest hurdle in applying TRP. I have always, always, always been a person who thinks long and hard about decisions before making them. Great for playing video games, getting As in class and reading about philosophy. Really fucking bad for gaming girls and creating tingles. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/16 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Are romantic gestures beta? (Writing poems, etc)I've got a theory I'm baking right now which is basically a cost-benefit statement for beta behaviors. To me, some of the truest expressions of love, emotion and intimacy occur under the flag of 'beta'. Almost like a gesture of mutual respect to your enemy during wartime - like sending the enemy general a rare rose and quoting a passage from a famous philosopher on the grim realities of war. But you can only afford to do this after already establishing a solid, undeniable alpha frame. Alpha come… | /r/askTRP | 09/09/16 02:21 PM |
| 5 | How can I prepare for the scenario where she cheats on me with a better man?Although "Abundance Mentality " is the correct answer from a TRP perspective, I fall more in line with what you say here. Guys come here and get it in their heads that by following TRP they will become more perfect men (true) and that they can consequently avoid ever being cheated on, humiliated or ignored (false). Even dudes who are alpha as fuck get cheated on, lied to and fucked with. The difference comes down to how an alpha and a beta handle the situation. Beta: cries, panics, makes despera… | /r/askTRP | 07/09/16 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Unreliable People & BullshitThis was my assumption as well. Nothing to be gained really from starting a confrontation with someone I don't know very well. If the stakes were higher, obviously the play would be different. Thanks for your input. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/16 07:38 PM |
| 112 | Found this text and am paralyzed. Need adviceHard next no contact. If she lives with you (your post is unclear) then be prepared to pack your shit and move out because she probably won't. Sorry man. Any kind of contact with ex's is a giant red flag. Especially leaving her dogs with him every weekend and texting on the reg. This has basically been happening since you two first met you just didn't want to acknowledge it for what it was - she wanted his committment but couldn't get it, so she got yours instead and kept fucking him on the side… | /r/askTRP | 02/09/16 03:48 PM |
| 1 | PSA on Monk Mode and SocializingSolid post. I was lucky enough to notice the dissent present on TRP when it comes to monk mode, and as a natural introvert it has helped me immensely in the last year to keep socializing and going out but do so in a balanced way that didnt leave me exhausted. What I actually cut out of my life in doing monk mode was video games, television and long useless nights spent hanging with my gf and/or plates. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/16 03:44 PM |
| 7 | LTR told me she wanted to split up with me yesterday. Says she doesn't feel safe with me. Feeling a bit betrayed by TRP.Sounds like she won and you are now officially a beta dancing to the tune of her emotional whims. Have fun with that, let me know if it works out in the long run doc. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/16 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with body dysmorphiaFucking brilliant response. I am genetically quite skinny and even smaller than my dad due to a complete lack of proper nutrition and any kind of sports during childhood (coddled by mommy). Didn't start really paying attention to my diet and fitness until I found TRP and took charge of my life at 26. Of course by then all my growing hormones are basically done. I can be a strong skinny guy but that's about it. Your logic is on point though, glad I found this post. Saving it. | /r/askTRP | 01/09/16 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Action Always Beats Intention - a cheat sheet on game / approachingBeen here a year and I had never seen this post. Very good field reference material for gaming babes. Thanks | /r/TheRedPill | 31/08/16 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Seeking advice on balancing hobbies/working out with mastery of life purposeThis is a silly post. Elite individuals become elite in their chosen skill not by dedicating 99% of their time to the craft, but by managing all of their time and committments and ensuring that their practice is efficient and valuable (as opposed to wasteful and repetitive). Another reason this is silly: No one here can tell you how to manage your time. Set your own priorities. For example, I am not currently taking any martial arts because I am busy working on other goals I consider higher prio… | /r/askTRP | 31/08/16 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Social retard here: I'm advancing too fast: Need help to stop the flakingNo way to tell someone that accurately over the internet. If you have to ask the answer is probably no. But don't stress. As long as you are chill you can flirt and talk to girls all day without getting a bad rep. Just don't be too pushy or a creeper that stalks girls who clearly aren't interested. | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 04:19 PM |
| 11 | Social retard here: I'm advancing too fast: Need help to stop the flakingLol there is no such thing as advancing too fast. Everyone is making it up as they go. That's the point. Confidence is reaching a state where you make decisions based on limited information and can deal with the consequences like a man. This chick sounded interested but you apologized for asking her out. Just be more chill about it next time. Text her in a few days or a week with something low key like coffee on campus. Very brief and simple. For the most part with new chicks keep texting to mos… | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 03:34 PM |
| 1 | 24 years old, depressed for years, and now feel like I'm too old to have the experiences I should have had. Am I?Find some higher quality women. I mean yeah, the chicks I'm talking about still have a pussy and use it like all the rest but they are down to earth and doing something with their lives. Real talk I'll fuck basic plates all day long but the smart girls who are creative and extroverted make me hard as diamonds every time | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 03:28 PM |
| 1 | 24 years old, depressed for years, and now feel like I'm too old to have the experiences I should have had. Am I?Everyone is different. My existential crisis lasted for exactly one weekend and a few tabs of acid. As deep as that pit seemed when I couldn't see the other side, wondering why I should bother doing anything at all, it needed to happen. Everyone has to stare into that abyss sooner or later. And come up with their own answers. Necessary part of being a man.. arguably of being human. | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 02:07 PM |
| 7 | Need help. Plate developed feelings for me, how to I handle itThis. I have a plate right now that dropped the feelings bomb on me last week. I said something like: "Feelings are good.. I can work with feelings". And then clarified that I wasn't interested in being exclusive. No drama. She smiled and hugged me and felt all warm and fuzzy about it. And now I have a happy plate that I'm still not exclusive with.. problems are where exactly? | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 09:33 AM |
| 3 | 24 years old, depressed for years, and now feel like I'm too old to have the experiences I should have had. Am I?This is almost more bullshit than the OP. Take care of yourself, put effort into your appearance and go find someone cute to love on. I see girls of all kinds your age 'living the dream'. And others even younger than you with similar bad attitudes. Try rpwomen | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 09:27 AM |
| 1 | 24 years old, depressed for years, and now feel like I'm too old to have the experiences I should have had. Am I?Hey man I had to unlearn it too. A year and a half ago I had my life on autopilot, GF, job, boring apartment. I did not want anything 'more', I had no ambition or drive just like this guy. Then I found TRP and tore my world apart and started over. Hard? Yes. Worth it? More than I could have ever imagined. It just takes trying. | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 08:23 AM |
| 7 | 24 years old, depressed for years, and now feel like I'm too old to have the experiences I should have had. Am I?It's not too late. I started later than you (around 25-26), 27 now and so very worth it. Become financially independent and develope a better mental attitude. I recommend Alan Watts "Why Life is not A Journey". Read about existentialism. Apply yourself, grow. But also give yourself time and be ok with each step of the journey. | /r/askTRP | 27/08/16 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Is the word on big city plate spinning true?While this is true, the bigger the pond the bigger the sharks. I live in a major US city and you cant really go anywhere here without a dozen Chad's being there to compete with. Such is life, just saying that the rules don't change or magically get better in a bigger city. Top 20% still wins. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/16 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else struggle with treating lower SMV women like pieces of meat?Funny I'm just the opposite. I mean I still think of them as nothing more than plates but my game kicks in fine especially because I give less fucks. With hotter girls I get all deer-eyed and start trying to impress them. Wish I had your problem. Any tips? | /r/askTRP | 26/08/16 09:35 PM |
| 2 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidRereading this today and wanted to finally reply and let you know how good this one is. I spent a lot of time looking at women as puzzles to be solved and fucked.. act right, get reward. This comment went a long way to helping me understand that the FEELS you give them are what matters. Doesn't matter if they could be / would be attracted to you.. if you act indifferent and they write you off as an option you don't count. Thanks bruh | /r/askTRP | 26/08/16 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Too young?Check the laws for your state/country. If she is under the age of consent, and there are no "exceptions", don't smash. Example: in Florida, USA the age of consent is 18 (federal level). But the state had a law permitting close-age relationships, meaning any girl and boy between the ages of 16 and 24 could legally consent to sex. Also, as others have said, save all the evidence you can that she is dtf. Get her to say it in a text message or write you a love note. | /r/askTRP | 26/08/16 02:09 AM |
| 1 | What do the red pill men of this sub do for a living??SysAdmin | /r/askTRP | 26/08/16 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Is there a way to "snap out" of hardcore depression/personal inner crises?+1 here good advice all through the post. Take control of your time and get to the gym. It doesn't matter what you do or if you look stupid, just go and fuck around for about an hour at least 3x a week. Do this until you have a habit (takes about a month). Then get serious - get a trainer, fix your diet, sleep well, avoid weed cigarettes alcohol and other drugs.. watch your body blossom into its true form. I was in deep depression last winter after breaking up with my 5yr sweetheart LTR by choic… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/16 02:38 PM |
| 4 | What is your main hobby? And how do you cultivate it every now and then?I spin fire - contact staff. This is dope as fuck for the rave / festival / hippie scenes I'm currently into, keeps my body moving and limber, and is challenging and mentally rewarding. For me, keeping it going is a matter of forcing myself to practice frequently and take on the challenge of learning new things and blending old techniques. This pays off with skill which makes me feel good about my ability to learn and grow, and I then proceed to show off, have fun, and flow. Helps to have amazin… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/16 02:15 PM |
| 3 | What redpill facts are you still doubting?Pottery analogy time. Something something, class is assigned to make clay pots. Half the class is told to make one perfect pot. The other half is told to make dozens of shitty pots. The people making dozens of pots also end up making one or two pots that is as good or better than the people assigned to make only one. Quantity = quality, sooner or later, because you are presented with more options and thus a higher probability of finding a diamond in the rough. | /r/askTRP | 25/08/16 03:07 AM |
| 2 | What's the most shocking story about a girl you personally know that confirms AWALT?My older brother is pretty alpha most times. He got two girls moved into his apartment about a year back, one that was married to a guy training in / deployed in the army. Not sure he just wasn't around. Anyways, like the first day she's there and they are fucking. Ring on her finger didn't even come off. I'm chilling there in the living room with the girl, husband and my brother one day just watching in silent awe at how loving and caring and affectionate she seems towards him. Knowing full wel… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/16 03:03 AM |
| 2 | When are women actually telling the truth?Because we are not on this Earth to seek women's approval. It was a rare moment of female honesty on her part. She tingles for me, makes a comment about what an asshole I am.. mission accomplished! Until I open my mouth and say "yeah buts it ok because you approve of it, obviously". This took away her good tingly feelings because I supplicated to her, no matter how subtly. Instead of filing it away in her Future Shit Tests cabinet like most women though, she actually gave me some honest feedback… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/16 07:31 PM |
| 1 | So "The Red Pill" movie is debuting soon. Was there any input from TRP mods or endorsed members?Spot on strategic analysis. Bread & Circus of the modern times. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/16 02:49 PM |
| 2 | So "The Red Pill" movie is debuting soon. Was there any input from TRP mods or endorsed members?The promo video narrator specifically calls out "Reddit's TRP message board" as a distilled and remote safe haven for internet hatred and vitriol. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/16 02:41 PM |
| 14 | What have you learnt from natural alpha you encountered in a social environnement?My older brother and new roommate are both natural alphas. My bro is great at opening, DHVs, becoming the center of almost any conversation, keeping people's attention and generally being a loud monkey. He converts this into n-count by zeroing in on chicks who are there to see his social sorcery at work and get tingles. He has taught me that it's okay to be loud, sometimes even obnoxious, as long as you dial it in correctly and have fun. The roommate is a muscular, salt of the earth party boy ty… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/16 02:34 PM |
| 4 | When are women actually telling the truth?Mostly just pay attention to what they do, not what they say. Sometimes though they can say the darnedest shit. I had a plate playfully call me a "conceited asshole" at one point after I did something that made her tingle. I said "yeah but you love it". She kinda paused for a second and then said "it doesn't matter if I love it". Goddamn girl. Blow a siren on that truth train next time so I can make sure the tracks are clear. | /r/askTRP | 24/08/16 02:24 PM |
| 3 | The mindset of very hot girlsThere is a fine line between setting boundaries and being butthurt / affected. The only way to gauge where that line falls is experience.. and lots of it. Because OP's girls' behavior was covert IE she has plausible deniability "oh haha I was just having fun what do you mean I wasn't paying enough attention you? Aw poor baby" it can be difficult to lock down the behavior. The correct response is dread or the removal of your attention and time. Directly confronting her gives her exactly what she … | /r/askTRP | 23/08/16 02:25 PM |
| 3 | How is it bad to discuss TRP in real life when a lot of men out their would probably agree with these principles/side bar?Mainly because you can suffer greatly because of it. Public association with The Red Pill is akin to identifying yourself as a raging misogynist shitlord who wants to rape and abuse women. Your social group will ostracize the shit out of you and make it hard for you to ever show your face. You could even lose your job under certain circumstances. To borrow a quote from our flagship symbol: "You have to understand, some people just aren't ready to be unplugged. They are so hopelessly immerged in … | /r/askTRP | 23/08/16 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Question to those serial monogamists who were able to change their mindset.Should probably start doing that myself. The plate in question triggered all of my bad scarcity behavior (hottest girl ive fucked so far to date) though so.. yeah failed frame on the one. Here's a follow-up regarding the way you handle this. Stoicism / IDGAF seems to suggest that you should just ignore or A&A such a shit test about other dudes. I mean like in my case, yeah I got shit tested but the girl was still fucking me and doing what she was supposed to as a plate. The counter-argument you … | /r/askTRP | 22/08/16 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Question to those serial monogamists who were able to change their mindset.Thanks for the detailed reply. Beta Fucks doesn't exactly sound like an awesome goal but I agree with you and I've been there and probably will be there again. Becoming the best I can be, learning how to shock & awe women and balancing all that with ego and stoicism is a journey indeed. The idea of having sex but no committment with a variety of hot plates is absolutely validating, especially when they are dating other guys who I know are likely not redpilled and beta as fuck regardless of what … | /r/askTRP | 22/08/16 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Question to those serial monogamists who were able to change their mindset.This is interesting to me because I am doing the same thing now, but at the end of the day the girls are still fucking other dudes. The only difference is the absence of a label or contract - or even, an implied contract that it is ok to fuck other people. So the "cheating" aspect is removed, they aren't betraying your trust because you never gave them that trust to begin with. And they aren't disrespecting you unless you act like a doormat orbiter about it (since you never set the boundary of b… | /r/askTRP | 22/08/16 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Anger, self pity and a change in paradigms. Help?I don't really feel angry anymore, towards women or anyone. But I get you on feeling "late to the party". One of my largest sources of stress and anxiety, and therefore an obstacle to my growth and happiness, is feeling like I have to catch up.. make up for something.. or else I won't have enough time to achieve my goals. Be patient. Rome was not built in a day. As long as you are steadily and consistently striving to improve yourself, you will get there. Never stop. Slow down if you have to. Fu… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/16 11:55 PM |
| 4 | 99% of your problems posted here can be solved by reading the main sub and sidebarYou are right and you are wrong. This child-sub would not exist if the mods over at TRP thought it doesn't add anything of value. People misuse it, sure, but others create and exchange real value here. Fact is, just reading something doesn't always communicate the message. People on the side of ignorance often fail to understand and internalize concepts, sometimes because they are lazy, sometimes just because you have to see it for yourself. Taking field experience and bringing it here, asking q… | /r/askTRP | 20/08/16 11:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you manage being excited on approach with showing signs of nervesIt will pass with time. The "downside" of learning game and the true nature of women is that, eventually, they no longer surprise or excite/terrify you quite the same way. Don't get me wrong, it can still be very exciting, especially if she's hot or has a great personality. But the feeling you are aiming for is Interest. Not excitement, not omg our babies would be beautiful tell me your whole life story... not needy.. please smile at me and laugh at my jokes. Just interested, flirty, amused but … | /r/askTRP | 19/08/16 12:31 AM |
| 2 | How to enjoy progress and accomplishments?Third time taking the pill? So you have been slacking off and then screwing yourself with short, intense bursts of effort than then burn you out. You look at the results of this broken model and say "well this isn't working, I'll never make it!" Here's a hint. Consistency is key. Put in a reasonably high amount of effort towards all of your goals, and challenge yourself to be accountable, but we are all human. You can't spend 8 hrs a day 7 days a week in the gym and expect to get jacked in tan i… | /r/askTRP | 18/08/16 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Mass approaching - pointless?Correct. It is a permanent attitude - always approach, flirt and talk to people. The thing to avoid is going out at 2pm on Tuesdays with a piece of paper and a pencil and 10 approaches to check off. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/16 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Unusual Question: Recommended Red Pill Songs?Lol I spent about 15 minutes writing it out and failing to format it on my phone, glad someone found it useful. Would have published the Playlist from Spotify but that shares your real name so fuck all of that. | /r/askTRP | 16/08/16 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Midget here, TRP destroyed whatever blue hope i had. Though it has made me stronger it has made me depressed.Your #1 priority is to cultivate a strong mental attitude. Focus on emotional stability, self-acceptance, self-expression, and loving the man you see in the mirror. Do whatever is necessary to be able to look at yourself and feel pride. For me, that involves trying my best, working hard, investing intelligently (interests and people not just money) then rewarding myself with some R&R and meditation. You have a tough road to hoe. Women are shallow, fickle bitches to begin with. They don't need mu… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/16 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Unusual Question: Recommended Red Pill Songs?I've been collecting redpill music for more than a year now and my playlist has added significant value to my life. I use it to work out, to pump myself up before parties and outings, and to vent my unholy rage at the world when nothing else is working. Most of it is about motivation, power, and not wasting your time. Some is about the true nature of men and women. 7 Years - Lukas Graham Alive & Amplified - The Mooney Suzuki All Mixed Up - 311 Beam Me Up - Radio Edit, Cazette Best Day Of My Life… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Girls who have never had an orgasmI've been with girls who have never orgasmed, I've been a girls first orgasm, been with girls who I can't bring to orgasm and plating a girl right now who squirts and comes multiple times every single time we have sex. They are as colorful as the rainbow - this is why you hear people saying to focus on yourself and not stress over whether she orgasms. Do what you can but focus on yourself. She may not be that into you, she might be asexual or distracted, she might rail herself with a 16" vibrato… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/16 02:30 PM |
| 1 | How long do you wait to text a new girl?If she's interested in you it doesn't really matter when you text (or call, which is different and useful). As long as it's not weeks later because then she has forgotten you even if she was interested. Keep the text brief, lower caps, use as few words as possible and be casual. Something like "hey whats up". Have a plan in mind for inviting her out to something, again casual. She doesn't get to meet any of your friends or come to any cool parties until after she has proven she isn't a flake and… | /r/askTRP | 16/08/16 02:14 PM |
| 3 | You Are Not A Special CaseThis. I know some high SMV alpha mother fuckers, and they still get cheated on, lied to, disrespected, have their time wasted, etc. The essential difference between them and Billy-Beta is not that women never fuck with them.. it's that they just next that cunt and move on to the next girl. Very frequently that same night or weekend. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/16 03:31 PM |
| 1 | How do I get good at Linkedin?Try this: link | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Dating a girl much smarter than you?Enjoy it but be wary of ninja-level mind fuckery, shit testing and deception depending on her morals and personality. Her having more booksmarts than you isn't a big deal - her being more social, more confident, more connected, higher status, and setting frame with plans, ideas and strategies is called dominance. Personally I get an earth-shattering boner over women who are both attractive and very intelligent, but they are also often extremely hypergamous and manipulative. Be honest with yourse… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 04:48 PM |
| 1 | How do you manage your expectations in relation to time? IE urgency without anxiety.Enjoying myself when I go out is my default mode. I very rarely go out planning to game women, it's just something I do and something that happens when I go out, not some kind of special mission. In fact if anything I ignore or hesitate on alot of opportunities for the sake of enjoying myself, which is a bit like sticking to my comfort zone. Finding the right balance is an ongoing process. I meditate but maybe less often than I should. Success always inspires me to greater efforts, and I often o… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | How do you manage your expectations in relation to time? IE urgency without anxiety.Thanks. That one has been sitting on my shelf for a bit, time to read it. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you manage your expectations in relation to time? IE urgency without anxiety.Thanks man. I think I actually do need to practice game/approach more than I have been, especially since now I can do it without really risking my emotional state as I have experienced before. But you are 100% right. There is a balance to be struck and putting too much pressure on myself over it is counter-productive. I absolutely see the men both above and below me but, like a driver on the track, I only care about how to move forward, the guys behind me don't provide any sort of ego boost or v… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/16 07:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you manage your expectations in relation to time? IE urgency without anxiety.This question applies to everything and life not just women. I'm a flow artist (fire spinning), lift, am working to make the next leap in my career and go 100% remote, I'm practicing my social skills on all varieties of people and am trying to become a host/value creator/leader, etc. Women are simply one facet of the overall question which is how to be productive, aggressive and efficient with your time AND maintain real, meaningful peace of mind, healthy optimism, amused mastery etc. It's just … | /r/askTRP | 11/08/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Getting A DogA good friend of mine has a cute little Chihuahua/Jack Russell Terrier mix. Maybe about 12 lbs at 7 months old. Adorable, high energy, and portable. He takes it literally everywhere. Into a coffee shop draped across his shoulders, to house parties, to festivals where there are no dogs allowed, etc. The puppy is a fucking rock star and the best wingman I've ever seen first hand, especially since he gets taken to more places than a larger dog could easily be taken to. Small dogs are also less hass… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/16 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Guide to Life: #1 Multivitamins & MoreYou can survive on surprisingly little. And, as you said, the Inuit have done this for thousands of years and are both culturally and physiologically adjusted to that diet. Doesn't make it ideal. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/16 01:49 PM |
| 12 | Guide to Life: #1 Multivitamins & MoreI would love to see a post authored by a knowledgeable member of TRP regarding supplements. Anecdotal accounts and links to bioscience bodybuilding articles however are not much help. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/16 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Is Everything We Do Geared Towards Many Sexual Opportunities?It's a fiction book so it's not really meant to be any kind of example on real life. But it ends up being that way anyways. He does a great job of writing science fiction with humans as the core focus of the narrative - cultures and ideas, people who are selectively bred and trained to think with the efficiency of machines (as computers & AI were destroyed for being a threat to human survival aka skynet). The Litany Against Fear is something I recite to myself whenever I need to. Look it up, pow… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/16 08:02 PM |
| 1 | [UPDATE] I don't get 'game'. It doesn't make sense to meAmused Mastery is really about you doing what you find entertaining. Not because you are trying to entertain other people, that's just a side effect. But rather, you know life is ridiculous anyways, and best lived with some fun, so you do whatever strikes you as fun or funny in the moment. Dance weird. Make a stupid face. Tell a joke. Break rapport - tell someone you hate them and never want to see them again.. then hug the shit out of them and tell them you're sorry and you love them and never … | /r/askTRP | 10/08/16 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Is Everything We Do Geared Towards Many Sexual Opportunities?The first chapter of Frank Herbert's Dune (great book, read it) tackles this question fairly well. Most people go through life controlled by their basic, primal instincts. Eat, sleep, fuck. The lower part of Maslow's pyramid. To be Human is to rise above these base urges - to be able to feel, think and act independently of your lizard brain programming. Not fapping to porn just because you can is an example. Turning down fire-hot heroin pussy from a HB9 because she's also a rancid bitch who is t… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/16 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Revelation: I'm starting to realize that treating women like crap is the key to increase your value to them. Am I seeing this right?/thread | /r/askTRP | 08/08/16 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Dancing/Grinding at the clubEven more fun is a girl walking up and grinding her ass on your dick before even speaking to you. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/16 11:01 PM |
| 36 | Ive fucked up - I let a woman see my feelings. What's my next play?Major gray area IMO on TRP is whether or not to pursue love. You vetted this girl, she earned her chance. If her reaction to you opening up is to flake and be shitty, guess what, she isn't what you thought she was. I'd give her some time though. She might have expected you to maintain status quo instead of returning the sentiment. "Once they know they can own you they don't want you anymore", it's shitty but so many women are like that these days. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/16 05:41 PM |
| 5 | Do not underestimate the benefit of an amazing social life, especially if you are a younger guy no longer in school.Once you reach "comfortable middle class" the question of whether or not to push forward in money ventures comes down to your personal values and goals. The only reason I have a goal to make more money right now is to escape the rat race entirely. 40+/hrs a week spent in a cubicle over the next 30 years adds up to a lot of time. If I an work hard for a couple years now, and cut that down to working maybe 10-20 hours a week or working 100% remotely, what I get back on that investment is TIME. I d… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/16 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Do not underestimate the benefit of an amazing social life, especially if you are a younger guy no longer in school.I feel you on this one, but that means you are doing it wrong. Socializing becomes a fun, liberating and growing experience once you get the basics down. Having a social hobby and a close inner circle of friends/roommates helps a ton. But the main point is once you get your skills sharp, you can go out and succeed at your goals (making friends, getting #s, making business contacts) and social success is always fun. Especially if I am getting a lot of new firsts and pushing myself to try new shit… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/08/16 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel as not responding is seen as being butt hurt?Agreed. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/16 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Do you feel as not responding is seen as being butt hurt?I have accepted invitations from plates and girls with success. The thing about entering a girls frame is that it can & should quickly become your frame once you are face to face. Failure of her to enter your frame in your direct presence is either disrespect or disinterest. OP handled it with abundance mentality but is internalizing the rejection of the other girl. Solution: give less fucks. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/16 09:05 PM |
| 1 | FR, first time approaching girls, feedback needed.Should be stickied somewhere. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/16 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Do you feel as not responding is seen as being butt hurt?You're over-thinking it. She invites you out. You enter her frame, a gesture of good faith. She ignores you for another man and only comes to you after she gets ditched. She sees your post with the other girl and feels like she missed out. Bitches as usual. She wasted your time. Hard next. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/16 07:47 PM |
| 8 | How am I supposed to be a man if my happiness depends on women?Answer: You can't. Your happiness should depend on your relationship with yourself. Respecting yourself, being accountable to yourself. If you don't have any passions/hobbies/a mission in life, then you need to explore, experiment, and INVEST in things that seem interesting. Only after significant investment can you really feel a sense of passion about something. It's not guaranteed of course.. invest = passion. It's a combination of (Invest)(Personal Preference)(Changing Values Over Time)=Passi… | /r/askTRP | 06/08/16 03:58 PM |
| 2 | How to stop caring about plates?Agree with the other posters. I enjoy sex more when there is at least some degree of emotional connection, even if the sex is raw, rough and she leaves five minutes after. The main thing is not to be a doormat about it. If a plate brings you a problem or complaint, evaluate the situation and whether or not is is worth your time to try and help her, hear her out, etc. If you are busy or just want to avoid the appearance of being beta, ignore her and brush it off. If the plate breaks it breaks. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/16 08:30 PM |
| 1 | How to become the 10%?Those guys are good on paper but don't actually possess "decent social skills". If they did they would be pulling girls no problem. This is a mental problem / self-limiting belief cycle. It comes from doubting oneself and hesitation in the field. Only the top 5% on up can afford to literally just stand there / sit there / make zero moves because women will approach them anyways. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/16 07:08 PM |
| 1 | I can't get laidIt's only weird if you don't follow the golden rule. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/16 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Two greatest lessons... Getting your girl taken away from you vs Taking the girl, what are your thoughts?Abundance Mentality is the most important lesson in game. Any event which contributes to it is therefore valid. Taking a girl off a guy you thought was higher SMV than you Pulling a girl you thought you weren't good enough for Pulling a girl from a place/situation that you shouldn't have been able to do.. at church in front of her parents, your hair stylist, a random telemarketer A girl going from bitch mode to fully submissive I haven't done all of these things, just a few. But yeah each time i… | /r/askTRP | 02/08/16 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Total Noobie trying to move forward. Why should I let go of porn?Said it before and I'll say it again. Porn will rob you of your ability to perform and enjoy real sex. Nothing feels worse than having a hot girl who really, really wants to fuck you, but you're dick is a limp noodle / you can't cum because last night you got high and yanked it to porn until your hand got tired. | /r/askTRP | 02/08/16 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Finally seduced girl into my bed, now I miss her and want to be with herBasic oneitis. Prescription is to fuck other women. I met a HB8 (hottest girl ive ever fucked) recently at a festival. She followed me home and we spent about 2 weeks together. A "very long first date" / playing house and acting like GF/BF led to some quick oneitis. It also shattered my frame because she was not LTR material but I instinctively acted like she was my GF and that's no good. She left for a month and visited again for about 2 weeks, much better frame the second time around. I was mo… | /r/askTRP | 02/08/16 06:26 PM |
| 4 | competitivenessI played video games like StarCraft, EvE, Ultima Online and DarkFall "competitively". And countless others. You made a good choice by walking away from it, IMO. Spend your time investing in a hobby that builds actual value. Do it competitively, if that is really what drives you. But playing video games / card games / etc. rarely builds value of any kind. It's a time waster, and time is too precious. | /r/askTRP | 02/08/16 03:57 AM |
| 0 | What is a sentiment that is often advocated in TRP that you oppose?Meditation is a tool to clear the mind of debris - wasteful thoughts and inaction. If your mind is perpetually clear, and you can act consistently with vision, intelligence and initiative, then don't meditate. If that sounds like something you want more of, meditate. Simple. Calling it retarded is like looking at a bodybuilder and saying that his muscles are retarded and useless, because we live in a world with guns and cranes. But we both know his muscles are far from useless. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/16 07:03 PM |
| 1 | What is a sentiment that is often advocated in TRP that you oppose?Yeah this is kind of a given. "Poly" is such an ambiguous term it can mean fucking anything so it is still good for spinning the hamster's wheel. I think the condemnation is directed towards betas / men who are in open relationships but are functionally getting cucked, either because they feel "loyal" to their oneitis who isn't loyal to them, or because they are of such low value they can't attract other women to make the poly label actually valid. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/16 06:58 PM |
| 2 | I choke with attractive girls.Decisiveness vs Analysis runs on a spectrum, I think. The ideal balancing point is somewhere in the middle. Being able to quickly and efficiently analyze a choice or concept, and then act without hesitation or getting stuck in analysis paralysis. The alternate extreme is no better. Acting without thinking, living without examining oneself and one's life. How would any of us even be here if we were simply acting and not thinking all the time? It is the Question that drives us. Like a splinter in … | /r/askTRP | 01/08/16 03:16 PM |
| 1 | I choke with attractive girls.For the sake of any other introvert you decide to advise.. "Stop being a pussy" is technically correct but also so oversimplified as to be useless to anyone. To someone like me, there is a strong, built-in compulsion to understand "why" before we are inclined to "apply and believe". Just picking up a tool or idea and swinging it around to see if it's useful isnt natural to us, first we stare at the tool on the ground and ask who built it, why they left it here, what will it cost me to use, shoul… | /r/askTRP | 01/08/16 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I choke with attractive girls.Yes it is. Taken me a long time to realize I'm at the edge of a cliff named Unknown, and the only way forward is to conquer Fear. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/16 02:39 PM |
| 5 | Ok fags let's talk about no fap and what our experiences areI have a bad habit with porn. It's not even the act of orgasm from masturbation, the damage comes from overstimulation and bad conditioning of my sexual reward circuit. I get harder faster from a 2d image than from a real live girl naked grinding on my cock. Inability to finish, inability to achieve full erection, inability to stay erect. I had a 30-day clean streak about a month ago and felt so much better. But getting high and fapping is pretty much a go-to for running from tough emotions. I n… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/16 06:37 PM |
| 3 | I choke with attractive girls.INTJ reporting in. It is extremely difficult for me to overcome the "perception vs reality" barrier when it comes to believing I am better than the HB8+s. This is due largely to past experiences of rejection, failure and mediocrity in highschool and college years. I am clawing my way up the foodchain, but as an analytical person I don't really have "just push the believe button" as an option. I work on data. As much I wish to just act irrationally confident, my brain knows better. But when progr… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/16 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do you lift?I had chronic back pain at the age of 24. Significant enough to warrant pain management and an MRI. Today my back is only getting stronger and stronger. I can do more, stay out later, fuck longer, etc. This is 100% from lifting, core conditioning, and body awareness (posture) which results from learning my body and training it. A recent plate commented that "it's the tight cut that looks sexy why are you trying to build muscle?" "Stronger is better." "But.. why? I don't get it." Picked her up an… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/16 02:38 AM |
| 10 | Why the fuck do I feel guilty?I feel you on this one man. Most recently, my issue is hanging out with plates but continuing to work the crowd / generate interest. My instincts scream at me to "be polite and kind" to the girl I'm chilling with but all I want to do is flirt with the hottie over here. It's a gray area that will require some fine tuning. You aren't doing anything wrong. There is no "right or wrong", remember? Sexual strategy is amoral. Decide what is right for you. I lean towards open disclosure and honesty, but… | /r/askTRP | 29/07/16 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Best way to follow up IOIs if not done immediately?This was my instinct as well. It costs me nothing to shit out a FB message but it indicates to her she's been on my mind ever since the party, I can't wait to follow up, etc. The only reason it was even a question is because of the chance I never run into her again - what's to lose? Even a shit play is still a play. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/16 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Spinning long distance plateTagging, I have a similar situation. Plate lives 9 hrs away but has come to see me twice now, for a couple weeks each time. Her pussy is like heroin but I do a little better holding frame with each iteration. I can't give you much in the way of real world experience but here's my assessment: Find a way to keep her thinking about you.. leave her with a gift/object she will use frequently and associates to you Demonstrate good frame by texting only infrequently and not being too quick on replies, … | /r/askTRP | 27/07/16 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Working in TechThere is a Director at the tech company I work for who is a tall, attractive, English, muscular & well dressed former rugby Captain. He is beta as fuck in the office. Overly nice. You can tell it's an act meant to make less attractive men feel more at ease around him, and keep women from trying too hard to jump on his dick (which still happens). I watched a female manager ask him out for lunch and he was just like "no" and walked away. She hid the butthurt well. Point is, dress like a wolf in sh… | /r/askTRP | 25/07/16 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Frame is king, but how is it communicated?Frame is defense. It is you being stoic and not giving a fuck. It is communicated by your lack of need - lack of outcome attachment. "Hey you're cute we should do things.." "Lol no way id never fuck you" "Kk" (giving zero actual fucks) | /r/askTRP | 24/07/16 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaShe was talking shit to my roommates of all people, especially the female. Maybe she thought girl code would protect her conversation or something but that one has my back as we live together and she does pretty good about putting the house & housemates first. I invited her out to a weekend cabin Party (which I'm taking a little break from now) where she knew I had already invited another girl. But I was beta about it. Said I wanted her to go more, put the ball in her court, and gave her way too… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/07/16 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaI agree with the essence of your argument but let's face facts. Women are drama factories. A few girls are exceptions to this but I'm talking about a PLATE not an LTR. Are you of such incredible value that you really expect flawless behavior from only plates? Or is there some 'wiggle' because you DGAF and are just having fun? I consider it, at least from my current reference frame, to be a gray area. If 99% of women are likely to have some level of drama at any given time X, do you value her com… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/07/16 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaThanks man. I'm hard on myself a lot because I have a lot of catching up to do, but these last few months have been spectacular and I can't help but feel like I've made real progress. I really appreciate your feedback. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/07/16 02:02 PM |
| 13 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaThis is the "big fish little pond" mentality in reverse. I feel the same way. I live in a major US metro and the competition is.. pretty fierce. You go to any party or club around here and there are tons of could-be-model type guys, biggie businessmen, and hardcore alphas. But so what? That's reality. Living here will force me to grow strong in order to survive and earn my place on the pecking order. Running away to some podunk town where I can piss in the wind and score tail is not going to inc… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/16 04:29 PM |
| 10 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaI mean I've grown exponentially in a year's time but I doubt if bitches notice/care. They want the finished product right? So even if I did grow quite a bit after engaging a "higher value plate", would she notice? I assume my ranking would stay the same as when I met her and she did the initial alpha or not evaluation. I'm kind of with you it seems like a losing battle. Might be fine for a mere plate but only if I am willing to tolerate higher than normal ratios of drama. In my scenario, one of … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/16 03:25 PM |
| 27 | Your Sensitive Conditioning Should Makes You Want To Throw Up: It Was The Bait For The Birth of The BetaSolid advice here, and it begs a question. Do young men / alpha-in-training type guys have any GOOD reason to associate with women who have more power than them? I recently ended a thing with a HB8 who basically talked shit about me, subtly tried to make plans out from underneath plans I had invited her to, and other shitty behaviors. Either my frame was blown and I didn't realize it or she was just always more powerful and knew it. By contrast my other (now only) plate is less attractive but fu… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/16 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Hottest chick of my life FR - plus sex questions and plate theory questionsSGM = Sex God Method But if you're a virgin tbh there is nothing that will save you other than raw experience. Sounds like you have good instincts so follow this rule of thumb: Have sex for YOU. Don't worry about whether she likes it or not. Whether she comes or not. You need her wet so worry about that but otherwise, being selfish and findig what you enjoy is your best bet. The reasoning behind this is pretty interesting. Girls actually like it more because they don't want to be the center of a… | /r/askTRP | 22/07/16 02:25 AM |
| 2 | Let natural body odor build up to increase attraction?Take a fucking shower, put on deodorant and buy a decent cologne. What I WILL DO, however, is leave some pussy juice on me if I just got laid and I'm about to go out on the prowl or over to another chicks place. I like to think they can smell it, consciously or not, and it builds some dread. But even if that's bullshit, I wear it like fucking armor on my frame, gives me confidence when I get a good whiff of it. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/16 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Do high value men depend on low value women?I read a pretty promising post about "uncool nerdy librarian" type girls. Fortunately for me i think I might even be a 'type' for such women, and know a few places to go hunting for them. Time to get to work. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/16 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Do high value men depend on low value women?A key that can open many locks is a valuable key. A lock that can be opened by many keys isn't very valuable to anyone. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/16 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Heard her having sex with another guyNot sure if I actually buy into "game without ego" or just a better, more distributed version of ego which is not as heavily reliant on the behaviors of one woman IE oneitis. In OP's shoes the only way id be willing to fuck that girl after such a scenario is if I was already getting it from one or two other plates, and therefore didn't give a fuck who her first choice was because even if it wasn't me I'll be just fine. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/16 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?Not counting on it. Guess we'll see | /r/askTRP | 21/07/16 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Can't tell if I'm being manipulated or being insecure with my more attractive and more popular GFDamn, stop wasting your time. You seem young, I barely fuckin remember the names of the girls I was with when I was 19. Looking back, I wish I worked on myself and said fuck them. Everyone at that age thinks shit is so god damn important. Damn that's a good one. I'm 27 / late bloomer but that paragraph right there makes perfect sense. Five minutes from now or five years from now, that bitch will earn a dismissal. When that happens she becomes nothing to you. So instead of trying so damn hard to … | /r/askTRP | 21/07/16 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?Thanks for the read. I think my frame was pretty weak (pedestalized her / fed her ego too much) hence her drama which, while low-level and "worth it" for just chilling around the house and fucking and occasionally going out, would definitely not have been fun at this big party where drama would have been very bad. Sounds like I have no good options unless she texts me first. Been a full 24-hours now with not a peep so I doubt if she'll be reaching out to me. Pity. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?I don't know I feel like that's a gray area; if I had cancelled on the other girl and committed to taking the HB8 thatd an even bigger declaration of how highly I value her over everything.. changing my plans before she even commits to actually doing them with me, giving her all the power. Bear in mind she already said she was going but those words meant nothing after a day or two. I was aware and accepting of the fact that certain variables in this scenario could end up with me going alone. I'm… | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?I assume that if she doesn't text first I should maintain radio silence? Because otherwise that's ME surrending and chasing right? I was never 100% sure if this chick actually liked me or as just acting and stuck around for other unexplained reasons. I want to believe the former. She seemed butthurt whennshe left but she may have just been mad that things didn't go according to her plans, not that I didn't want her or whatever. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?I thought about that a bit. Probably should have banged her first but I expected her to feel put down so I didn't want to make it "worse" by using her when I know full well I was about to drop a bomb. There was always the scenario in the back of my mind that had her chasing me afterwards so I wanted to make that as easy as possible. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Broken Plate; text or radio silence?The HB8 girl as always "on my radar" for promoting to the party. I like her more for a variety of reasons but did not want to be worried about her less desirable behaviors, so I kept an eye on her to see if she'd behave herself well enough for me to want to take her. When I felt satisfied she had earned it, I invited her. Probably too early though. I should have waited until right before the event, and then just told her "I'm doing this and you're coming" etc. Instead I tried and somewhat succes… | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Can a 17 year old reap the benefits of being alpha/taking the red pill?Best time of your life to have found this community, I envy you for that. Realize that you don't just "take the pill" and change a few things and voilà you're done. TRP is a lifelong journey of self improvement, building your power, exploring your dreams and ambitions, etc. The best way to hold frame & conquer your ego regarding women is to make something else in your life more important than they are. Explore hobbies and interests that you think are cool, invest heavily in them, and eventually … | /r/askTRP | 20/07/16 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever gotten over a case of oneitis?Build value in your life. Lift heavy. Make some male friends. Get a hobby. Do these things and new women will present themselves to you. After you get some new women and perspective, the pain will fade. You will remember her but come to realize you are on the right path and the only thing to do is keep walking, growing, and exploring life without her. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Sleep is for the weak?Yeah it's the thirst I think. Glad that it's subtle I guess it makes them feel sexy. This is the first time I've had two plates concurrently before so.. I'm kind of fucking my brains out. Hurts performance too, hard to nut 3x a day for 2 weeks straight. Got a great BJ under my desk last night from a super hottie who said shed never be getting on her knees til she did.. no nut. I feel bad about it because it's like I'm letting them down or something they love it so much when you finish for them. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Sleep is for the weak?I have a tendency to fuck a girl all night long, get maybe 1-2 hrs of sleep and feel like shit for days. As much as I love a good fuckathon I think I gotta stop doing it during weekdays. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Cancelling plans on a girl to take better girl instead.. tell truth or lie?They would not be there except by my invitation | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 02:42 AM |
| 1 | 19 Y/O & Bi-curious, should I experiment?Most of the advice on this sub is geared towards heterosexual men seeking success with women, but a fair bit of the underpinning of social dynamics and power is universal. You can be an alpha bisexual man as long as YOU are psychologically capable of it without letting yourself think you're a bitch or somehow lesser than other men because you take it in the ass. Just realize you are adding a layer of complexity into your life system and reducing your overall pool of peers to reference and get ad… | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 01:36 AM |
| 5 | "You'd get laid a lot more if you were nicer""You'd get laid if you were my type" ROFL.. gem. Gonna have to borrow it, no royalties. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Cancelling plans on a girl to take better girl instead.. tell truth or lie?Thanks for your response. Does the slap-in-the-face approach really work I guess was the 9-word summary of my post. I have never tried it before so I don't know. Does she adore me that much? Dunno it seems that way but it might be my ego getting inflated by some action with the other girl. Guess ill find out when I go through with it. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/16 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Beyond passive and aggressive: ASSERTIVENESS for MenThis is one of the best posts I've ever seen on the sub in over a year of reading. The skillful balance of asserting your needs and goals while taking other people into consideration is the definition of leadership. Because the best way to get what you want out of people is to make them want it. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/07/16 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeThanks man, I appreciate your feedback. I will tag you in the upcoming post if that's cool. It's been fun growth experience for me overall. Firstly, to be able to believe this super hot girl actually likes me, respects me, desires me.. and doesn't have some ulterior motive. Second, to be able to want her as badly as I do, but be comfortable risking her approval and attention in order to set my boundaries, respect myself, and expect to get treated right. Knowing full well that to do so I tacitly … | /r/askTRP | 18/07/16 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeSo far she has respected it, but we've only been out in public space once since then. There is a better test coming up this weekend if I decide to bring her to a certain party, that will be the real proving ground. I'm processing my thoughts into a post about it as it involves cancelling plans with a less favorable plate, either by telling her the truth or lying about it that I'd rather take this girl instead. She's been "that good" other than this one mixup, and seems sincere, and is way hotter… | /r/askTRP | 18/07/16 04:15 PM |
| 1 | How does one finds his passion?I went through this exact question very recently, and feel like I found a satisfactory answer. My story in a nutshell: Find TRP 1 yr ago, break off super beta LTR, improve/suffer a lot, don't get laid for months.. get angry, improve more, suffer more, still barely get laid. Then finally success. Beautiful, authentic success. And after gorging myself on that success for a couple weeks, I noticed this deep feeling of nihilism and hollowness. Was that it? Have I been suffering all this time.. just … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/07/16 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Where do you draw the line between showing affection and being thirsty?Agreed. If you are following the girl around like a lost puppy begging for pets and cuddles and kisses, you are a thirsty bitch. That said, if she is following you around nuzzling her nose into your cock, fondling your balls, nibbling your neck/shoulder and then you give her a shoulder massage or something, then good. Cuddles are boss.. spoonin leads to forkin mah brothas | /r/askTRP | 18/07/16 12:51 AM |
| 0 | Does the amount of Facebook profile picture likes correspond with SMV?The only reason I use FB is for event planning and the occasion borrow-a-truck post. Likes do not correspond to real SMV in any way, including for females IMO. I know a guy who is an amateur DJ around local clubs that parties all week and takes ton of photos that hd posts to Facebook. He always looks great in these photos, has a good time, has cool people and girls around him in the pictures, and gets hundreds of likes. He has something like 40k unique friends across his various social media acc… | /r/askTRP | 17/07/16 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeSo far (day 3) she has been very respectful regarding phone usage. She has been on it and on her tablet but only when we aren't doing shit and not in a way that I consider to be dismissive or rude like she was before. She did, however, bail on me at a dance club last night for 30+ minutes. I eventually got fed up with waiting for her to come back and texted her, she came within 5-10 minutes of that text. I used basically your lines to establish the same boundary.. I brought you up here to hang o… | /r/askTRP | 17/07/16 01:10 AM |
| 4 | How long it takes to leave fucked up phase while lifting?You are whining alot. If you are weak, the only way to get strong is to keep going, lifting near your max, eating well and sleeping well. Over time, if you make a sincere effort, your will improve and so will your strength. Once the habit is planted deep in your soul, it will feel weird NOT to go to the gym. | /r/askTRP | 16/07/16 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeShe's been surprisingly good about the phone use so far... might have something to do with the fact that my roommates made it blindingly obvious I had just gotten done enjoying a long night with another girl by the time this one showed up Funny tho, the other plate has been complaining about her back whenever we get done fucking xD | /r/askTRP | 15/07/16 07:44 PM |
| 6 | After taking the RedPill, how did you perceive those around you?My brother. He is older and a 'natural', just two years ago I looked down my nose at him for being an asshole, being mean to girls, raising his voice at them, fucking lots of random women, etc. I was nuts deep in a 5+ yr LTR and considered him incapable of that kind of "meaningful" relationship. Which.. he might very well be. But that is besides the point. TRP gave me a reason to bond with my older brother, a way to understand him, and appreciate his approach to life as a valid option. Also lot … | /r/askTRP | 15/07/16 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Confidence being shirtlessIt's /r/skincareaddiction If it is changeable, you still have to go through the mental work necessary to accept yourself while you are in the process of fixing it. Such that it is not an anchor to weigh you down. I need to gain 30lbs of muscle, and drop 7-8% bf.. but I don't beat myself up over it every day. I just go to the gym, eat my food, do my job, and then say to myself "did what I could" whenever I have doubts about not being ripped enough. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Confidence being shirtless/r/skincare addiction and learning to accept what you cannot change. My wrists are 6". I look scrawny as fuck, though lifting is slowly improving that situation. I actually GAIN quite a bit of confidence in any situation where I can take my shirt off. Hot dance clubs make it easy. Clothes on I look like a skinny nerd, clothes off girls can see my abs and muscle. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeIt makes her less prone to game and dread and also means she has a better grasp of how to fuck with my (and other's) emotions. It is relevant to Arch's statement about being her top dog because if anything, this chick has psycho / Mach tendencies, and is better at it than I am. Know thy enemy | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeSame chick. If you feel like I'm wasting your time, stop replying. I dont argue that I'm alpha just trying to do the best I can with what I have. My only goal is to fuck a plate without breaking frame. Not sure why that's such a bad thing. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeNormally I would agree with you, but in this case I'm pretty comfortable telling her to just pack her shit and fuck off if the vibe isn't there. She hasn't even got here yet and the frame has wobbled because she made plans without me. Should be gud | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeThanks for your reply. She's a HB8 with a solid head on her shoulders, I'm not her top dog. More of a work in progress alpha-in-training. I consider the scenario an opportunity to test myself more than anything else. Edit: My housemate invited her, not the other way around. It's own problem. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeProbably because I have a dope pad, plenty of cool people to hang out with, and it's cheaper than a hotel I get access to her pussy at the cost of massive shit testing Being social aka being out at a party or event with her where i expect not to be ignored like some beta bux loser She's playing me. I'm interested to see if I an fix that with some frame, she was attracted to me at least at some point. Maybe not anymore I'm unsure. No big loss if I cut her loose. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeFavorite answer so far, I'll let you know how it goes. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeSounds like a vote to flat out ignore it, which is what I was leaning towards if you actually read the whole post. My desire to fuck her is less than my desire to hold frame and respect myself. I consider fragrantly disrespectful behavior to be unacceptable and a turn off.. so how exactly would telling her to stop & being willing to walk away be the same as being a slave to my cock and scarcity? I'm interested how you would handle this not how much of a bitch you think an internet stranger might… | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeHeard. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeThis has the same effect as snatching her phone without seeming quite as "affected". I like it. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeI invoke /u/archwinger this is relevant to your post about betas & boundaries in the main sub. This is not an LTR or even a plate I particularly care about as I expect our future contact after this weekend to be minimal. On the one hand I might be completely willing to walk away and kick her out if she is disrespectful about her phone usage. Might even feel good and feed my ego a bit. On the other, it's hot pussy and at most I have to deal with it for a weekend. The worst part would actually be … | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Girl whose on her phone all the timeShes visiting from out of town and staying at my place for the weekend. While your solution is an answer to holding frame, it would also potentially equate to kicking her ass out early for being a bitch about the phone stuff. Might be worth it now that I think about it.. valid option I suppose | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Status: How does the "cool kids" and "who's popular" game work once you're out of school?Not seeing a solid answer to your actual question yet so here goes. "Cool" is the same as "in crowd" and the in crowd is all about exclusive access. VIP parties. Vacation rentals. Private orgies that only the prettiest and coolest get invited to. Adult men frequently so this kind of thing through business networking, which is deeply associated with the Vegas night club style of schmoozing and boozing. Some younger or not so young guys I've seen do it through straight up partying hardcore, best d… | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 02:01 PM |
| 3 | Netflix 'n' chill with plates - I talk too much?This right here. She is in your frame bro - do whatever you enjoy most. I love snuggling my plates before and after a good fuck. I talk and joke and tell stories. I almost always have them spend the night. Is it hurting my game? I don't give a fuck it's what I enjoy. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 01:39 PM |
| 1 | "Working the room properly" or how to behave at an event where you don't know anybodyReally great post. Make it pretty and put it on the main sub. I'm gonna try applying these concepts tonight. My nutshell version for quick reference: Icebreaking with new people.. be friendly & interested in others, call them to action (compliance test & favors) and appeal to their emotion (identify as a member of their team, agree with their perspectives and be empathetic towards their thoughts and feelings). Use plausible deniability e.g. leading questions and dialogue all the way through, thi… | /r/askTRP | 13/07/16 10:53 PM |
| 1 | "Working the room properly" or how to behave at an event where you don't know anybodyYou know I think it took this post for me to fully realize that providing value (even without a guarantee of ROI) is not beta.. but alpha. What's beta is CONTINUING TO PROVIDE VALUE FOR FREE. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/16 10:53 PM |
| 21 | Biology of women not wanting a man to care.Search the main sub for the "motorcycle" analogy. In brief, if you spend too much time gawking over your passenger how are you supposed to pay attention to the road? Women want to go along for the ride not be your destination. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/16 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Its not even about how buff you are...Correct. Ish. Being buff builds confidence. Confidence fuels game. Confidence + Game = winning. | /r/askTRP | 13/07/16 08:28 PM |
| 3 | What's the worst thing a girl has done to you, and how did you come back from it?That's pretty brutal man. Makes you question reality. My first love/LTR/v-card girl was also a fucking coward, except instead of ghosting me she just started cheating and let me figure things out until I realized what was up and ended it. Here's a quote I've been finding pretty goddamn useful as of late: "If you are willing to look at another person's behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then … | /r/askTRP | 12/07/16 07:57 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm orbiting, need a second opinionThis is fucking brilliant and I had never thought of it like this. All it takes for her is to wiggle the bait a little bit and wham! There I am trying to bite the worm as if I had done something special. You are 100% right, talk is cheap. I've got this HB8 txting me once a week or so right now I'm pretty sure just to see if I'm still paying attention and want her around. To which the answer is yes.. but I'm not going to respond to a goddamn thing from here on out unless it's confirmation of logi… | /r/askTRP | 12/07/16 04:57 PM |
| 3 | If TRP is a sexual strategy, and it takes us on this epic journey of self improvement, self determination ect. then aren't the wants and desires of women actually good?In making yourself desirable to women, you are achieving a lot of other worthy goals. Financial success, social confidence, fitness, etc. But don't put the cart before the horse. You aren't doing those things just because that's what women are attracted to.. and if you are, it's going to hurt you sooner rather than later. But in a way yes I we hat you mean. Women want and desire powerful, successful men, and it is good for us to become powerful, successful men.. but for our own sakes, not just t… | /r/askTRP | 12/07/16 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Date Night: Best Films to get Women Horny?Bitches love seeing themselves get fucked. I have serious thoughts about installing a cieling mirror over my bed. | /r/askTRP | 12/07/16 12:55 AM |
| 13 | Should I tell my parents about my vasectomy?Don't tell ANYONE. Getting a vasectomy is meant to protect you from sperm jackers and oops kids. There is no real benefit in telling anyone you've had it done, and it's your business, not your parents. Furthermore, women LOVE the idea of getting knocked up by an alpha. Read Sex God Method. Pregnancy game is a thing. Making them think you have lost all control and just HAD to bust a nut inside them.. turn on. Making them think you trust them enough to let them maybe get pregnant... turn on. Telli… | /r/askTRP | 11/07/16 07:41 PM |
| 1 | On Providing Social Value (and how to hold frame when you can't)I think it stems from an overall lack of social confidence. I've grown quite a bit over the last year, but was homeschooled through 90% of gradeschool and was a complete shut in vidya nerd during college. I have successful and unsuccessful social interactions. When I am "successful" and feel good about myself, I am relatively high energy, always doing something or talking to someone, taking an active interest in people and never feel bored. When unsuccessful, I notice a pattern where I don't hav… | /r/askTRP | 11/07/16 02:30 PM |
| 1 | The Journey is the Shortcut: Why success with women comes naturally when a man is already $uccessfulI have seen & met far too many highly successful alpha males who are not financially well-off (or concerned about being so) to agree with you. You are over-prioritizing financial success as an end all be all metric. Possibly because you are personally successful there and not in other areas, or because you have not seen noteworthy examples of high value alphas who are not interested in money. Simply stated: it is possible to generate great wealth and not be alpha. It is also possible to be very … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/16 02:22 PM |
| 26 | The Journey is the Shortcut: Why success with women comes naturally when a man is already $uccessfulYou are half right. To paraphrase some pop media, I borrow from our dear friend Frank Underwood: "Money is the McMansion in Beverly Hills that starts falling apart after 10 years. Power is the old stone building that lasts for centuries. I can never forgive someone who gets the two confused." Powerful men will always be able to create wealth. And, like the attention and compliance of beautiful women, wealth is an indicator of status. It is not, however, more important than "being alpha". Simply … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/16 04:17 AM |
| 5 | I'm a newbie trying to swallow the red pill. How are you supposed to build attraction with women if not through familiarity?I quit WoW to find harder 'drugs'. I started playing games like EvE, Darkfall, Ultima Online where hardcore full loot was a thing. Those games were (and are) more interesting because they are more real, more human. You get to see people at their worst and best, then kill them. I quit gaming as my main goal in life after TRP. It is an incompatible behavior with building value as a man. Takes too much time, with no payoff. The only thing we will never get more of is time. Think of everything you h… | /r/askTRP | 10/07/16 04:49 AM |
| 9 | I'm a newbie trying to swallow the red pill. How are you supposed to build attraction with women if not through familiarity?What if all of my interests make me seem beta? I like chess, programming, and weightlifting. These are all hobbies that women can not relate to or would find boring, but they mean a lot to me. Do I have to just grind my teeth and find some kind of social or outdoorsy hobby? Fuck no you don't and here's why. Chess, Programming and Weightlifting are *alpha as fuck* hobbies. Own those interests, they are good ones. Be accountable to yourself about them. Get your ass in the fucking gym. Learn that n… | /r/askTRP | 10/07/16 02:31 AM |
| 2 | A lesson on feminine social powerTell him that you needed her attention for a work related activity, but she had earphones in so you tapped her on the shoulder. Act completely confused at any mention of wrongdoing or harassment. Huh? You're joking right? Good luck | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 01:47 AM |
| 1 | A lesson on feminine social powerBest thing to do here is act like it was never a big deal. Brush it under the fucking rug. Amused Mastery. "Chill out". "Whoa there sister, must've been a good song!" Anything like that. People key off your behavior and body language. If you act like you did something really wrong, because the girl flipped out over nothing, then people will assume you did something really wrong instead of it being nothing. If you act like it was nothing, because it was, it is harder for people to latch on to the… | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 01:11 AM |
| 2 | How to overcome the feeling that I've never been loved just for who I amIt's also not inherently bad / amoral / meaningless to exchange value with people. In fact some of the most meaningful, powerful relationships you will ever experience in life are one's where you are exchanging value with another person. Consider the Mentor and Pupil. The Pupil, obviously, derives value from the experience of his Mentor, learns at an accelerated pace, and can thrive under the focused ministrations of a veteran in his chosen craft. The Mentor, likewise, derives value from the exp… | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 12:57 AM |
| 4 | Guys who lift, at what BF% did you start to see substantial weight loss in your stomach and face?Depends on the person but 10-12% is the typical 'cut' look. You can look fit with 12-16%, but that's getting outside of 6-pack range. Less than 10% is almost strictly temporary and only for bodybuilding competitions aka Magic Mike body that lasts a few days for a specific purpose. | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 12:23 AM |
| 3 | When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.Monogamous, romantic love. Trust. Comfort. Security. Attraction was always there for both parties but it became a matter of confusion and resentment in the bedroom. She was trying pretty hard, and I think it was genuine on her part, but it had become impossible to restore the basic fire of raw sexual passion because of the sheer level of security I provided to her and the complete incompetence I displayed trying to rectify the situation. Plus I had terribly low value and wasn't working to improv… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:55 PM |
| 13 | How to overcome the feeling that I've never been loved just for who I amThis is talked about at length in the sidebar. Women are incapable of giving you the kind of love you expect. The k ly woman who ever could love you that way is your mom, I'd you were lucky. The thing to do here is understand that all human interaction outside of your nuclear family is, to some degree, transactional. Briffault's law applies to women, and for other men it's not really all that different. People associate with each other because they get something out of it. Now that doesn't mean … | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:36 PM |
| 2 | I refuse to use friend based social media (eg. Instagram, Facebook). Am I shooting myself in the foot?This is the whole reason I'm on FB. It is a giant social calendar. Gone are the days of calling, texting or sending written invitations or even emails. Now people just puke out a FB event and you can either be invited or see friends who were and invite yourself. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:26 PM |
| 3 | When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.I loved my GF right up to the moment I broke her heart. And still do in a way. But it wasn't enough for me to forgo the path of growth, challenge and exploration I am on now which necessitates freedom & lack of commitment. I know for a fact she also loved me, she sent me a 4-notebook thick journal 6 months after our breakup. We were together 5 almost 6 years. The sex, however, was hilariously bad. I take full responsibility for that today because I had no understanding of dominance, push-pull, a… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Can't get over an oneitis?In my experience this isn't always true. The best way to get over a woman is to meet a better woman. Meeting some random plate that is less attractive or interesting won't always help. Vice versa, fucking that bombshell for a while makes it SO much easier to hold frame on lower quality girls. | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 08:36 PM |
| 6 | When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.Yep. And reading accounts by other men who are (by comparison) incredibly successful telling you that pussy isn't important won't help. Especially if you aren't getting ANY pussy at all, or strictly low quality. I have only just begun my journey. This time last year I as n-2. Now I'm at n-6. I've fucked hotter and uglier women than the GF I broke up with. From the very beginning I knew what this road was going to lead me to. I like LTRs. Sex and emotional connection are more meaningful to me in … | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 08:31 PM |
| 17 | When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.With respect, I have to disagree. N-count is not a good measure of self worth that much I agree with. But for young men / betas in recovery, racking up those lays goes a LONG way towards demystifying sex, unpedestalizing pussy and showing you that it just doesn't matter that much. In this sense getting more n-count I feel is very important. Above and beyond raw numbers, as well, is getting laid with higher quality girls, which also begins to demonstrate that no they are not special heavenly godd… | /r/askTRP | 08/07/16 07:04 PM |
| 6 | "There is nothing I can say to you that will magically make you not a bitch" -GayLubeOilThis. One of my biggest "ah-hah" moments with TRP is that.. no it's not really that confusing or complex. But it is definitely really fucking hard. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/16 09:19 PM |
| 6 | She saw my condomsI lift. I eat. I sleep. I repeat. Shit takes time brah. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/16 04:17 PM |
| 3 | She saw my condomsOh but for the days where I can pull not ugly chicks on Tinder. Sounds like life on EZ mode. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/16 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Do you find that women pursue you more and flake less after having sex with them?Yep this is one that dawned on me a while ago after some experiences at a house party. I very often will engage, flirt and approach all kinds of women just for practice. I realized that after a certain point once you have their attention and interest, they very much expect you to be ready to fuck. If you aren't able to follow it up or were disingenuous about your intentions, you will disappoint them. That by itself may not seem like a big problem but you might be exhausting otherwise good option… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/16 03:54 PM |
| 1 | 11 Lessons I've learned from all my past failures (For younger Guys especially)Easily one of the best Lessons Learned I've read so far. "Don't try so hard and take everything so seriously all the time." Fuck if that isn't the truth. It's suffocating to me, I can only imagine how it feels to others around me. Gotta work on it. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/16 02:30 AM |
| 11 | Should I share body transformation pics on social media ? Skinny to rippedPost your new shredded pics? Definitely. Show your progress and struggles? Nah. Remember, you were 'always' this ripped and alpha. You didn't have to try hard to get there. Guys who try hard are losers. Make all of your progress seem effortless. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 08:26 PM |
| 19 | I feel I am investing too much in this girl even though this girl is investing as well - thoughts?Lol chill out man. She bought the coffee the 2nd time around of her own free will, and has promised to buy the food on your 2nd date. In that case you have the option of taking her by the store for groceries so that the food you are cooking was paid for by her. It is also an excellent sign of investment on her part that she is the one driving (75 minutes) to come and see you instead of vice versa. That is investing time and brings her much more solidly into your frame. When she comes over, cook,… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Machiavellianism vs. Authenticity?Sounds about right. From my perspective though the only reason I've made any kind of progress either with girls or social skills in general is by reading, applying deliberate changes to my behavior, and slowly over time gaining enough experience to build up my instincts. Not giving a fuck with zero knowledge and poor instincts? Tough ride. Not giving a fuck with basic tools & decent instincts, could be fun. Not giving a fuck with sharp skills and reliable instincts, where I am striving to be. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 03:09 PM |
| 1 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlThey were never "her" friends. We all met at the same time at the festival, in fact I met them first and introduced her. They are still here and are my new roommates. She fucked off back to her home state and has been gone about 3 weeks now. She was supposed to come back this week but didn't. Not really surprised. She still has shit at my house, and had texted me sporadically. So it's possible she still comes back but I'm not worried about it either way. Already found a new plate who, while not … | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlROFL no I never lit my dick on fire. I might still try it though, probably with a different girl where it is MY idea and therefore MY frame. And yeah I was fucking in over my head. After some reading I've concluded that the HB8 was likely a BPD / Lucifer's Daughter type and I got fucking schooled. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 01:52 AM |
| 2 | to easily attachedCorrect. Spin plates. Also understand that you can't always control your thoughts and feelings, but you can always control your actions. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/16 05:37 PM |
| 14 | I didn't get any responses at r/suicidewatch I'm 19 and need helpLol good luck with that attitude | /r/askTRP | 01/07/16 04:03 PM |
| 18 | I didn't get any responses at r/suicidewatch I'm 19 and need helpStop making fucking excuses about your diet. Stop eating McDonalds ever that shit is poison. Pack a bagged lunch with you if the coworkers are unwilling to go somewhere more healthy in the lunch hour. If cooking real food takes up too much time (I feel you on this one), schedule meal prep days. I cook prepared meals 2 days a week. I cook on Wednesdays and Sundays. Takes me about 2.5 hrs to get the groceries and cook the food. I cook enough to have 8-10 solid meals that I can microwave or eat col… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/16 03:10 PM |
| 11 | Late bloomers who are now doing well, does your past still bug you sometimes?I had only slept with 2 women by the time I turned 26. It bothered me so much that, in combination with discovering TRP and realizing I was a beta bitch with a high likelihood of getting cucked (if I hadn't been already) that I broke up with a 5 Yr LTR. I'm 27 now and at N-7. The important part for me though is not how many women I've slept with, but the massive, incredible difference in my own behavior and the way I look at sex and women. My most recent lay does not shit test. She is super swee… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/16 03:02 PM |
| 14 | I didn't get any responses at r/suicidewatch I'm 19 and need helpIf you don't eat healthy then you are eating unhealthy. Acknowledge that don't hamster it. Sounds like your job is very active, that's good. If that's true you shouldn't be ugly. If you are lifting furniture all day every day for work and still fat, fucking fix your diet, man. Most of the guys I see doing that job are ripped and muscular, not fat. There is no such thing as an "ugly, ripped muscular dude". Just being ripped instantly makes you attractive, maybe not Brad Pitt attractive but better… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/16 02:34 PM |
| 22 | I didn't get any responses at r/suicidewatch I'm 19 and need helpReal advice, as requested, that I can personally attest helped me escape suicidal depression: Lift Get more sunshine Take vitamins, eat healthy, drink water Avoid weed and alcohol Stop pornography and video games, also stop bingeing pretty much any and all entertainment media (movies, shows). A little bit is OK but not much. The point here is for you to live in the REAL WORLD as much as possible, and not hide yourself in a fantasy world based around video games, novels and TV shows. Find a hobby… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/16 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Girl suggested where to go, I had other planThis is a good answer. I would never accept a first date / rendezvous when they plan it, unless you are just alpha as fuck and will automatically adopt the frame once you get there. If you have already fucked her and established her as a plate, consider her plans like a manager looking over suggestions made by an employee. Praise good suggestions and implement them as you see fit. If on the other hand she is acting bossy or masculine about it, "we are doing xyz tomorrow at 5" and expecting you t… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Meditate your way to an impeccable frameI describe meditation to my friends as a muscle. Meditating on a specific topic, idea or experience is no different than just taking time to sit down and think about it. They are pretty much the same and you can either learn something or not. The true benefit of meditation is not in taking time to think about things, people do that already. The 'Meditation Muscle', on the other hand, is very unique. Imagine your brain as a stereo, with our thoughts, ideas and experiences being the music. Dependi… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/06/16 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?I'm way more into Burns and Flow than the Rave scene. The former two communities are intrinsically linked and actually have quite a rich and faceted culture. But it is still rampant with drugs, degenerates and unhealthy social mores. Definitely a scene where you have to pick the good fruit from the bad. | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Failed LMR/Dry Humping?You've got it mate. That's what drives them wild, the idea that you are losing control, going caveman, and you are just going to take what you want. To them they made you go crazy with lust or something. Thats why they will tease the shit out of you with dry humping, handjobs etc but then wait and wait and wait and eventually get turned off if you don't dominate them. Your answer to the #1 question is acceptable IMO. It doesn't matter what you say because it doesn't matter what she thinks. Ideal… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?I never had the chance to party like this while in school, so that's why I'm into it. I definitely see a lot of downside to the substance abuse though. And without being on the 'party wagon' so to speak, the scene and people can be boring. I used to blame myself for feeling like that. I'm bored and no one is talking to me, I must be boring, I should do drugs and have fun like everyone else. I know better than that now, I just need to develop some healthier friends and circles. | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Help - What Would You Do?First off you didn't make it a big point that you thought she was pregnant with YOUR kid. If that's what you are trying to say. Chances are 99% it was her fiance's, unless you nutted in her multiple times after that first hookup. It sucks. I'm not saying it doesn't. You probably asked yourself questions like, would we have been together if she didn't die. Was it mine. What would I have named the child. You don't know if it was yours. Acknowledge that uncertainty. Don't see here claiming you lost… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 03:21 AM |
| 6 | Failed LMR/Dry Humping?1 If anyone ever asks you if you are a God, the answer is.. yes. If a girl ever asks you if you are a player, have a girlfriend, or are fucking anyone else the answer is.. yes. 2 Half-naked girls dry humping you are ready to fuck. Any lack of fucking is on you. Remember, women do not like making decisions. She doesn't want to have to make a choice here - if she chooses to fuck you on the first or second date, she's a slut. If, however, she is dry humping this kinda hot dude who "just so happens"… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/16 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?Thanks for the lengthy response. I consider myself a recovering social retard, not a kind word but it's accurate. The burn community, flow community, and music/rave scenes were the first and most robust social communities I've discovered so far. I appreciate you taking the time to talk about one of the other options out there. You're right, I should broaden my horizons and put some effort into finding new hunting grounds. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 11:59 PM |
| 2 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?Thanks brother. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?I'm 27. My peers all party, that is my social scene right now. I'm curious, where and how do you socialize? How do you meet friends and women? How old are they, what kind of lives are they leading? What do you tend to do with such people? Young party kids don't have much going for them in the life or success departments generally, but they do know how to party and I I meet tons of girls (sluts mostly. Plates.) I wouldn't mind meeting more successful and healthy people, that would probably go alo… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?Heard. It's a catch-22 for me. Drugs have absolutely helped my development as a person and as a man. Access to the scene, seeing the good the bad and the ugly, taking drugs with girls, etc. All an experience, not one I regret. The problem now is that I'm socially successful enough to have near constant access to whatever I could want and usually for free. People will just hand me shit and if I'm 'vibing' with my friends or a girl, and they are onboard, I usually jump on the party wagon. Above al… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Why do they tolerate being a plate?Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Guys who are 35+, what do you wish you could go back and tell your 25yo self?So true it hurts right now. I rationalize that I am a low-frequency offender, I don't do drugs nearly as often as my peers, and try to make sure I'm "getting" something out of of it in terms of self-awareness and emotional growth instead of just rage party. But the smoking and the alcohol. Yeah. Vape, cigarettes, weed, hard to avoid. And being a teetotaller is boring as fuck at parties. I can't be arsed to socialize at parties when completely sober, it's just boring. I have to be doing something… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Plate shit test "I am seeing someone else, we are going out tomorrow"She's a plate if OP had another girl around that is also a plate. If this is the only girl he's fucking right now he is most definitely her plate, not the other way around. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/16 08:49 PM |
| 1 | How to keep this plate spinning while another girl is in town visitingTrue, if I didn't have Ashley around id probably be all up in her business trying to get as much sex as I can. This might help make me look less desperate and available. Still gonna text her even though I cant meet up with her, don't want her to think she disappointed me. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 04:29 PM |
| 1 | How to keep this plate spinning while another girl is in town visitingI already fucked Ashley for like 3 weeks straight but she lives out of state. She is coming back to visit for another week or two, and although I fully intend to infer/subtextually communicate that there is another girl I'm fucking, I doubt she would appreciate getting it ribbed in her face. Princess type. Plus she's way hotter so out of the two options I'll be fucking Ashley every day, but I want to see the other girl again after Ashley leaves. It would be better if I had fucked the other chick… | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 04:17 PM |
| 1 | How to keep this plate spinning while another girl is in town visitingShoulda done exactly what you said but 24-48 hours ago. Ashley will be here by the time I get off work or close enough that j probably can't squeeze the other girl in tonight. Probably just gonna txt her, let her know I enjoyed things but I'm slammed all week and I'll hit her up later. Thx brother. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Help - What Would You Do?Your need for absolute honesty and emotional vulnerability is beta. You have your reasons for not drinking. No, every woman you date does not need to know the real story. If you get over it and stop acting like it's some big evil secret, they won't give a single fuck. Just say "I don't drink because I don't want to". Done. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Does this situation reveal people perceive me as a provider ?Yeah no you're reading way too much into it. I'm speaking from USA/Western cultural perspectives, so if you are dealing with something else then maybe. But sounds like she just wanted to flirt and/or wanted that D. Either way, Protip for you.. it doesn't matter what they think. Am I Alpha to her? Am I Beta to her? Why do you care? What she thinks of you is irrelevant. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 12:22 AM |
| 9 | Trusting your gut.You asked. This is the answer. If you don't like living in the real world, go the fuck back to sleep. | /r/askTRP | 28/06/16 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Trusting your gut.First off, your GF is gaslighting you. This is what that means: You share an insecurity. She laughs it off / says your crazy. You then start to associate your 'gut' feeling with paranoia and insecurity. The cycle repeats and gets worse. Instead of sharing your insecurities like a goddamn sorority girl in the Pillow Fort of Feelings, bury that shit behind a veneer of stoicism. Don't let her see it. Then, when your gut is eating away at you and you feel like you need to do something, VERIFY. You d… | /r/askTRP | 27/06/16 10:41 PM |
| 1 | How to fully embrace TRP?You are what you habitually do. A paradigm shift feels strange at first but then, like a new car or apartment, becomes part of you. The more you do it the more natural it becomes. This is actually how learning works for everything - awareness, practice, naturalization, mastery. "Learn your instrument. Learn the music. Then forget all that crap and just play." | /r/askTRP | 27/06/16 04:43 AM |
| 2 | What's the best "Philosophy" or "Way of Life" to employ to achieve your goals and dreams, yet at the same time be in a state of "internal fulfillment"?Become passionate about your work, whatever that is. Your goals are both the origin, destination and journey. Fall in love with the journey. I will catch myself in the middle of some horrible mistake, frame break, etc. and smile and be genuinely happy even though I just totally fucked up. Why? I'm on the right path. Doesn't matter if I stumble, what matters is continuing the climb and not quitting. If you fall in love with your work, your work becomes passionate. The effort becomes fun, the chal… | /r/askTRP | 27/06/16 04:37 AM |
| 1 | How does being overly analytical effect becoming RP and what can you do about it?The only thing worse than acting without thinking is thinking without acting. Find a sensible balance between decisiveness and analysis based on context. Having vision to predict and plan ahead means that you can act decisively in the moment AND with good analytic backing. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/16 11:55 PM |
| 2 | I can't avoid treating women who toy with me harshly. Would you guys do the same?Accurate fucking username. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/16 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Avoid external validation and still desire women, could someone explain this to me please?Keeping company with women and receiving validation from women are different concepts. By having a woman in your company that is already by default validation, but the trick is not caring/not letting it affect you positively or negatively. That is stoicism. Example: HB7 girl is attracted to me, asks me to teach her some shit with a contact staff, I get her number. I enjoy this females company later on, we fuck, cuddle, joke, smoke, etc. She leaves. My life is no different before her and after he… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/16 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Keeping it simpleExperience beats everything. If you are anxious or clumsy in social situations, you need a lot more practice. Two things will begin to happen: 1 You will learn basic, repeatable social skills like how to say hello, goodbye, initiate and maintain interesting conversation with a variety of people, etc. 2 Social interactions will lose a lot of their 'intensity' because you have an abundance of them, you are used to them, and it's just a normal day like any other day. More important problems (who am… | /r/askTRP | 25/06/16 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to beta backslide if you've really taken the red pill?I was never "burned" like a lot of men here who came to TRP. My catalyst was a dead bedroom and approach anxiety, knowing both were wrong and indications of weakness drove me to finding TRP and applying it. I broke up with DBr girl and resolved my anxiety over time. But I will still totally fucking backslide under certain circumstances. My frame with girls is getting better all the time but if the girl is a smoke-show and especially if she is smart I just start getting emotional, needy, jealous … | /r/askTRP | 25/06/16 02:24 AM |
| 27 | Why you should be an experienceEgo is a big fucking deal in this community and for men in general. Disentangling your sense of self worth from pussy is Primary Objective #1. I've made progress by building my sense of worth in other places. Male friends, hobbies, lifting, anything I can look at and go 'i crushed that thing, therefore I am awesome'. We have an instinct to want to go out and smash girls and then say 'i am awesome' for doing it.. which can work if you are already living in abundance, but it's still not good for y… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/16 09:11 PM |
| 1 | What the Hook-up Culture Has Done to WomenThat actually makes a lot of sense. Just in our modern world, it now takes more than mere survival to remain competitive. Survival is easy. The winners must induce growth and avoid stagnation. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/16 03:10 PM |
| 1 | What the Hook-up Culture Has Done to WomenLOL I had never thought of it like that. Actually wasn't she always supposed to marry Leto? She just chose to have a son when she was supposed to have a daughter, so the Kwisatz Haderach became male instead of female. 'For Love' I believe, because she actually loved Leto and he wanted a boy. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/16 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Half way through 2016, how's your progress?Positives: Been in the gym practically non-stop 3-days a week since September, definitely stronger and more cut but not as much bulk as I want Social game & circles have improved dramatically from being that awkward barely talks wall-flower to frequently being the center of attention and influence, but also comfortable when I'm not the center of attention Haircut, wardrobe, grooming and hygiene rituals have all improved quite noticeably Posture, tone of voice, speed of replies (2-second rule) an… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/16 08:08 PM |
| 1 | What the Hook-up Culture Has Done to WomenThis is an interesting theory but there is one important point to consider: that even after thousands of years of this accelerated evolution, 60-80% of men are still suboptimal every generation. Even though they are supposedly mostly the children of the last generations top 20%. So either the standard of performance is changing so fast that evolution has no chance to catch up (eg modern industrialized life), or there is missing math. I choose option A. We consider ourselves civilized, but the an… | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/16 02:37 PM |
| 9 | What the Hook-up Culture Has Done to WomenPut your hand in the box, Paul. Don't take it out. If you do I will fucking kill you. There, now I know you're human. Now I know that you are capable of more than eat, sleep, fuck. You are one of the few. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/16 02:32 PM |
| 10 | Sexual Dynamics Are Like a Motorcycle RideSimple, precise, and totally fucking 100% true. Good job man. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/06/16 11:44 PM |
| 3 | My first LTR/marriage was a petite, intelligent HB8 blonde. Now that I am single again, I cant even get ugly chubby girls on tinder, what gives?Monk Mode isn't about just never going out, it's about making healthy choices with your body and time IMHO. I get more 'product' out of carefully selecting a few choice social activities than trying to do all of the things and work on goals too. Product being social connections, good times, and pussy. So change your ratio. You need to lift well, eat well, sleep well, and avoid drugs including alcohol weed and possibly even caffeine. Maybe look at Adderall or modafinil if you have energy issues. … | /r/askTRP | 21/06/16 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Hippies, Festivals and Burns.. your thoughts?Thanks for your reply. I'm curious what part of the country you're in, if you're East Coast there's a chance we've been to some of the same events. It is just my perspective that these events run with "open hypergamy". Your description doesn't sound off base either, with the exception that most couples I see are poly which is basically just another way of saying the girl is going to fuck any chad she feels like fucking and the guy can deal with it or leave. Some of those couples the dude actuall… | /r/askTRP | 21/06/16 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Stuck/confused with escalation & progressEscalating is a sweet science of finding the perfect temperature. Not too hot, not too cold - just right. This changes based on context. If you are ridiculously attractive to her and are in a situation with effortless logistics, you might escalate right into her pussy within a few minutes of meeting her. It happens. Here's what has helped me so far: 1 It is better for you to be too aggressive than too timid. If you are stuck and don't know what else to do, just escalate. This will sometimes fail… | /r/askTRP | 21/06/16 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Hippies, Festivals and Burns.. your thoughts?I admit that the thought of "degenerates" ran through my head more than once, long before I ever made this post. But I'm not sure if that is really true or if normal human behavior is just more 'naked' in this environment. For example, I have the same thoughts whenever I go into a club or bar, and plenty of house parties trigger the same nerves. Loud noises, pretty lights, drugs, and rampant self-annihilation. So tell me this: Where does one go to find healthy, drug-free, exercise-loving, sane w… | /r/askTRP | 20/06/16 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Hippies, Festivals and Burns.. your thoughts?Can't say I'm surprised by the general response here, but I'm only really interested in the opinion's of people who have at least been there before. I love it too - LTRs be damned, it's still a lot of fun and has been a growth experience overall. I've run into my share of females who pronounce various 'cooties' right before we woulda done the nasty, but no more than the average I see from the bar & club scene. Fixing that is pretty simple - don't fuck girls who tell you they are dirty, and alway… | /r/askTRP | 20/06/16 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Is highlighting your hair considered as fucking gay?You'll hear mixed answers about this one. I've seen fully grown, well dressed, attractive men with highlights. But they ade also the Ken Doll types who seem to focus immense energies on their appearance, which is a sort of trap. Being well groomed and well dressed is important but I prefer to err on the side of simplicity, efficiency, and masculinity. A plain white tee and some jeans with a masculine haircut and nice watch & shoes. Not a 4-toned pompadour cut with a tailored three piece suit and… | /r/askTRP | 20/06/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | I need sex to feel respect.Not OP but curious. I also notice a potentially unhealthy dependency on women's physical attention.. not just sex but cuddling, kissing, PDA and etc. I was stuck on porn for about 14-15 years straight. I haven't fapped to porn in about 30 days and intend to keep it that way. Still masterbate somewhat frequently. | /r/askTRP | 20/06/16 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Is my LTR cheating on me?The joke in and of itself doesn't mean they are fucking IMO. It's the fact that the coworker is there in her space in an obvious non-professional relationship, and is openly disrespectful towards OP. Even if they haven't fucked, they will soon under such circumstances. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Is my LTR cheating on me?The rule is trust but verify, not blindly assume she's a unicorn until you walk in on her getting railed by the rugby team. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Is my LTR cheating on me?You have some serious thinking to do about your reasons behind wanting kids. AKA live your fucking life for you, not for anyone else. Don't pop out fuck trophies just to make your parents happy you'll hate yourself for it and the kids will suffer accordingly. As to the rest, you will never 'know' 100%. The best you can do js keep your eyes open and verify when the opportunity presents itself. The male coworker being in her apt and making that joke is red flags all over the place. If you don't ev… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/16 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How to?: long distance plateYes just to clarify I'm talking strictly about plate status in this post. Ideally she would visit from time to time or we go to certain festivals events together in absentia of other girls and plans. I might be willing to do something like golden ratio ans visit her once for every two trips she comes to see me, but the whole time I would be continuing to approach and see other girls. IDGAF about all the red flags because it's just for fun. | /r/askTRP | 15/06/16 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Progressive Promotion: How Dating Down will aid you in becoming, slowly but surely, a Red Pill manBicycling. Acro-yoga. Dancing. Board gaming. Photography. Singing. Writing. Wherever you see art and expression, from DJs to poets to graffiti artists, there is a hobby behind it. There is a "scene" behind it comprised of fellow practitioners and the venue's and people they frequent. The simple trick about a hobby is it gives you a reason to meet people. Through those people you find more people, places and events. Not only does this grant you access and experience, but the practice of the hobby… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/06/16 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Progressive Promotion: How Dating Down will aid you in becoming, slowly but surely, a Red Pill manI spin fire props. This is an amazingly popular and useful hobby that's all around music festivals, burning man's, regular events around town & tons of house parties and flow jams. It's also a form of moving meditation that keeps our body active, limber and our minds clean. Dance/swing/ballroom has a similarly deep culture. Ideally what you want is a hobby that you would be happy practicing alone, but also happens to provide social opportunities and benefits. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/06/16 10:23 PM |
| 1 | TRP, I need a darker pillGervais Principle made me painfully aware of the fact that I am a "beta" of the workplace, just like TRP made me painfully aware that I was/am beta in relationships with women. I know which one is more important to me. | /r/askTRP | 14/06/16 03:40 PM |
| 1 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlThanks. I've been doing #1 quite well, so well in fact my other goals and habits in life have fallen behind. If anything I think I need to dial back the "entertainer" vibe and focus on myself. If she gets bored oh well. 2 is absolutely 100% necessary and correct. I've got one girl whose trying to see me I plan on txting back soon. I need to keep meeting more. What makes it hard is this de-facto cohabitation with the chick I barely know but thought I really, really wanted to live with. Now I'm no… | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 10:58 PM |
| 1 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlI hear you. She is no good for an LTR, I wish she was, she could potentially be to someone else but to me all she is is a walking frame-destroyer. I don't have the experience or lifestyle built up yet to handle a girl like her and keep her properly cemented in the captain-first mate dynamic. She is acting like it for now, doing laundry and handing out BJs and such, but I can tell it's just the salea pitch. She is also shit testy as fuck when it comes to sex, my frame and my ego and is laughing a… | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 10:54 PM |
| 1 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlI fucked her within the first 24 hours. We had a whole night of fooling around and then the next morning went on to full sex. But I still think your right. Everyone is saying to dump this chick and move on, not a single voice of dissent. Pretty clear message. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 10:51 PM |
| 2 | How to Be More Chill & Less Needy with Higher Value GirlThere's a summary at the top of the post dude.. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 05:39 PM |
| 2 | How to be critical without beating myself upYeah it comes with time. You are still attaching your ego to sex. I do it too but it's slowly getting better. One day you will just look at sex being sex 98% of the time. The other 2% if you are lucky will be about emotional connection with a worthy plate / LTR. Nowhere in there should sex be about how much of a man you are or are not. It is mostly irrelevant to the parts of you that define masculinity - a fun distraction but not a place to prove your worth and value. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 01:33 AM |
| 2 | How to be critical without beating myself upLive in truth, but otherwise be compassionate and generous to yourself. What this means for me: Catching myself when I have a negative thought loop (oh man I fucked that up I'm retarded..), acknowledge the mistake but then move on. +Meditating regularly, not because the act itself does much for me but because the "muscle" of being able to clear your mind of noise is HOW I m able to stop negative thought loops as above Noticing, acknowledging and appreciating when I do things right. (Man I knocke… | /r/askTRP | 13/06/16 12:46 AM |
| 1 | How good is what I have going at the moment - and relationship defies TRP?Her being a legitimate virgin is the biggest greenlight you could ever find in a girl for LTR & marriage. But don't get married. The reasoning is not only to protect your current and future assets, but to retain a semblance of balance in the relationship. You say you have more of the power than she does, because she loves you but you could walk away without much heartache. This is good. It is the underpinning of captain and first mate dynamics. Marry her, and that goes out the window. You have n… | /r/askTRP | 12/06/16 09:19 PM |
| 3 | When it's been a long day and you just don't feel like banging?Self-care is basically what TRP is all about. Don't push yourself to perform for her like some kind of circus dick. Fuck when you want to fuck, sleep when you want to sleep. She should be happy to be there with you either way. As a footnote I fucking LOVE morning sex.. that's when a man's testosterone and energy are naturally at their highest point if the day, you are well rested and relaxed, etc. One of my best sexual experiences of all time was sleeping over at a gf's spot, not having sex the … | /r/askTRP | 11/06/16 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Being called "Conceited" by girls. When I think I know I am just confident.A new girl I'm seeing nailed this one on the head for me. Her: "you know you're a bit of a conceited asshole" Me: "haha yeah you love it tho" Her: "it doesn't matter if I love it" I was like.. goddamn, she's totally right. I should be who I am and not even give a fuck whether she likes it. Coincidentally she does love my ego/confidence but she is totally right that it shouldn't matter to me. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/16 06:54 PM |
| 1 | New to redpill; did my beta past cost me a HB9.5?You spent the night with this girl twice and didn't escalate to fucking. I get the concept of feeling tired/sick, we new up-and-coming guys have a habit of pushing ourselves hard to make progress. Listen well - taking care of yourself and being well rested and healthy is paramount. Don't force yourself to go out when you feel like shit. Not only will you probably not enjoy it, but like this scenario even if you make great progress with a hot bitch you will feel weak and not ready for the sex par… | /r/askTRP | 11/06/16 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Why do you keep going ?This is a question of Ambition & Will. The people who really have life figured out don't draw much distinction between work, love and play. They do what they love passionately and relentlessly. In this life you will reap what you sow. Plan ahead, invest strategically, be disciplined and consistent and you will reach your goals and create value. Fail to do these things and all you end up as is a walking bag of wants and desires that will generally be unfulfilled because you are not do I ng what i… | /r/askTRP | 10/06/16 04:36 PM |
| -7 | [FR] Verbal consent & permission; things you don't need. Aka how I fucked a girl who said no but meant yes.It's about calibration. I specified in my post that you can't just go 0 to 100. No, you shouldn't just "go for it" in he absence of other signs of evidence that she wants you to. The intent of the post was to communicate and reinforce how seeking verbal consent can be a closed loop of beta frustration. But yeah I get it. Big gamble small payoff. Thanks. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/16 05:54 AM |
| -2 | [FR] Verbal consent & permission; things you don't need. Aka how I fucked a girl who said no but meant yes.Lol I don't know whether to feel good or bad about your description of things. Here's a kicker for you though: she and a bunch of mutual friends/acquaintances followed me all the way back to my place from the Festival (3.5hrs) and we've been partying ever since. I'm not stupid, I know she's been around, but fuck is she compliant, sexy, submissive, etc. She did my laundry and folded that shit without being asked and about 20 other things. The window of time she sees of my life looks and is alpha … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/16 12:16 AM |
| -2 | [FR] Verbal consent & permission; things you don't need. Aka how I fucked a girl who said no but meant yes.Yeah man it's such a mindfuck. First time I've ever done anything like that. Added together I was in bed with this girl a couple hours fooling around, and probably could have done this as early as a few minutes in. I'm super happy she stuck around long enough & was into me enough that I had time to spare until I found my balls and went for it. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/16 10:16 PM |
| -15 | [FR] Verbal consent & permission; things you don't need. Aka how I fucked a girl who said no but meant yes.The spontaneous moment kinda excluded a condom. I know, dumb, but I was pretty sure if I took the time to bust out a condom, get hard, make sure she's still wet, etc. would have put a damper on it. Just 'going for it' and taking all control away from her is exactly what she wanted. Gotta admit, I wouldn't go back and change a thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/06/16 10:13 PM |
| 2 | How do you build self esteem / confidence?Wayves gave you a great post. The only the I would add is to be compassionate with your thoughts when you are alone. I know from personal experience how easy it is to fall into the trap of self-hate, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, paranoia, etc. Whenever you are working hard towards a goal you are always going to be interested in seeing that goal reached, and disappointed if you don't. That's OK. But realize that it is just one of many emotions. Tell yourself over and over again - this too sha… | /r/askTRP | 21/05/16 06:29 PM |
| 2 | For people who are going towards successI read TRP pretty much daily, mostly when taking shits or eating IE nothing else productive to be doing. It has limited ROI but I do like finding little jewel posts and would never have seen half of them if I hadn't been randomly browsing that day. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/16 06:18 PM |
| 1 | The Market for Lemons vs. Online DatingI don't really think it's that simple though. Natural selection works on a massive scale with statistics into the millions and billions of permutations / births / deaths and other selective pressures. Now don't get me wrong. If you don't want kids, don't breed. They are a massive investment and I didn't even really begin to understand HOW massive until I was well into my 20s, dealing with the world as an adult and realizing that time runs out very quickly. On the other hand, "I feel ugly" is a p… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/16 11:26 PM |
| 1 | The Market for Lemons vs. Online DatingThis is a fascinating perspective to hear from. I certainly hope you can divorce your concept of self from this concept of genetic value. I got an earful of that logic months ago when posting about why I still want to have children (aka legacy) as if that somehow actually mattered to my personal existence. Instead it is just serving a social and biological imperative. More mouths to feed + more labor = more social output. If they are mostly only bred from the top 40%, all the better. Not sure if… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/05/16 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Potential Plate Has HerpesThey both told me right before sex was about to happen. The last girl as I said I was drunk, horny and made a bad call. This girl told me prior to sex and I just ended up fingering her / playing with her tits for a while before cooling it off. I've kept her on a string since then trying to decide what to do with her. At this point I gotta bite the bullet and next her. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/16 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Potential Plate Has HerpesHeard. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/16 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Potential Plate Has HerpesThe only way I'm willing to consider escorts is to go with the rated girls who are $300-500/hr, both for sake of quality and more importantly I figure they have less sex with trashy people. Not necessarily less sex altogether, just less trashy clients. Do you actually believe fucking an escort in that range is safer than this? I'm with your logic but I need to get over this obsession with sex. The only way I really see to do that is to start actually fucking. Maybe I should just fuck a fat chick… | /r/askTRP | 17/05/16 03:38 AM |
| 1 | What to do when a girl 'loses interest' and dread game doesn't work?I got you this time: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4i59qc/what_the_fuck_am_i_doing_wrong_ive_grown_so_much/ Get in the habit of searching people's post history tho, especially ECs. Quality comes from experience and alot of questions have already been answered. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/16 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Women noticing you?Rule #1: The absence of a red light is a green light. Don't wait for IOIs or that "enthusiastic consent" bullshit. Approach and escalate until you find a red light or you are balls deep in her pussy/ass/mouth. (Don't rush it this is a metaphor not a step by step guide) Rule #2: Eye contact is king IMO. Dating and socializing is an attention based economy. If she is listening to what you say, looking at you alot, and generally seems to give a fuck what you are doing without you having to try too … | /r/askTRP | 14/05/16 07:18 PM |
| 2 | What to do when a girl 'loses interest' and dread game doesn't work?I had this explained pretty well to me by /u/Whisper in response to a recent post. Your pursuit of any one girl may not be oneitis, but your thirst to win presents itself this way to the rest of the world. Only you know your intent - the world perceives your action and attitude. In my case, my thirst to win was causing me to rush things, act needy, seem desperate, etc. Even though I wasn't worried / attached to an outcome from any single girl, I was VERY attached to my outcome with girls in gene… | /r/askTRP | 14/05/16 07:08 PM |
| 8 | Vasalgel Donation PledgeI donated $50 to their campaign months ago. Godspeed. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/16 03:06 AM |
| 11 | "Miss me yet?"Meh | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 07:02 PM |
| 6 | Today I met a true Alpha. I understand now.It's a tool in the box. Being jacked & Redpill is about 100x more dangerous than just being jacked. That's like having a lambo but not knowing how to shift gears. Perception is 9/10ths of reality. If you look in the mirror and see "jacked alpha", you are more likely to think and behave in a way congruent with that. If you look in he mirror and see " tryhard bitch" then you are doing it wrong. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/05/16 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Still have some doubt about TRP? Read the raw keylogs from my cheating ex-girlfriend following the moments after we broke up.Thanks. I sometimes open these threads specifically to remind myself why I should never seek anything more than plates. This was a good dose of the old TRP. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/05/16 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Approaching alone, without a wingmanGoodLookingLoser has an approach anxiety program that I found useful. Starts you off with mundane non-sexually approaches and then ramps up. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Possible to get rid of baby face or is it genetic?This. I can walk into a crowd of high-school aged kids and not get any weird looks. I'm 27. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 04:16 PM |
| 2 | 26, Trouble with self esteem/self worthHey OP, You sound alot like me. My SMV is decent but for various reasons Im very bipolar with confidence. Here's a tip: don't over think it. Use the mental muscles you build during meditation to clear your mind. You are spending too much time thinking about this because to you it is rare - and that's a natural way to feel, but you need to control yourself. Try to view this date only as practice. It is just one in a long string of opportunities coming your way to get some field experience and gro… | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 02:58 PM |
| 4 | 26, Trouble with self esteem/self worth"One key step to not giving a fuck" is the post you are looking for. Life is ridiculous. It does not always have meaning or a clear causality. Don't waste time trying to I interpret, explain and understand everything - it's called analysis paralysis. | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 02:52 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI never saw your comment initially but I'm glad to have caught it on the reread. Doing something I wouldn't otherwise do except for pussy = automatic outcome attachment. Makes total sense. Therefore, only do things I would be doing anyways with or without pussy. That used to be video games hardcore. Now I have been lucky enough to find and love a few others, like lifting and flow arts. Those both happen to be very good for pussy in their own way but it is not the primary purpose for those behavi… | /r/askTRP | 12/05/16 01:35 AM |
| 1 | I only feel happy after grinding it out with work and feeling emptied out. Rest of the time I am miserable. Any one else feel this way?That flow state you are talking about is the high of stretching your limits, growing, learning. This isn't a bad thing - the only bad thing about your situation is the inconsistency of it. Bring more balance into your life. It is OK, even beneficial, to schedule time for focused Relaxation aka massage, or one night where you let yourself stay in, watch TV, smoke some weed and read a book or whatever. These periods of focused downtime are super valuable to someone who is constantly driving, growi… | /r/askTRP | 11/05/16 03:32 PM |
| 2 | How do you produce when you keep encountering failure?Fail fast. Fail cheap. Fail often. If you aren't failing it's because you aren't doing anything hard. | /r/askTRP | 10/05/16 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Almost a year into TRP and my life has barely gotten better: ready to give up and black pillIf I had to pin it on any one thing it was an honest belief that I was higher value than she is, and I knew it and she knew it. I found myself mentally categorizing her as "never, ever ever anything more than a plate or ONS". Just because she is weird in a bad way, gets naked at parties all the time and rubs up on basically anything in arms reach. Hb5 maybe 6 with makeup. We also had a bit of history, took her out on one date many months ago, got her to my bed and topleas but was LMR'd and she l… | /r/askTRP | 10/05/16 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Almost a year into TRP and my life has barely gotten better: ready to give up and black pillTrust me bro, I know. I fucked off to the waterline (lake) and cleaned off my bits and as I was standing there a question crossed my mind. Am I more of a man because I just got a BJ? Or did I get a BJ because I was more of a man? I was happy with it but not 'oh my god my whole life is going to change now!' Which I have felt before after successes with women. The answer is obvious even to me. I'm a man because of what I'm doing. How I conduct myself. What i choose to be and how I choose to act. I… | /r/askTRP | 09/05/16 10:09 PM |
| 4 | Almost a year into TRP and my life has barely gotten better: ready to give up and black pillI'm going to tell you exactly what all the ECs and vets told me in my last post (with similar problems). Two days after reading the advice in that post I got the best BJ of my life so far from a girl I probably won't even call back. Getting sex is not what makes me a man - being a powerful, self-contained person is what makes me a man that happens to get sex. You sound desperate as fuck. Understand that there is an important difference between Want and Need. You do not Need sex. You Want sex. In… | /r/askTRP | 09/05/16 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Almost a year into TRP and my life has barely gotten better: ready to give up and black pillDoesn't really sound like he wants to be MGTOW, but rather has resigned himself to it under the false belief that he can do no better. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/16 04:16 PM |
| 1 | ExhaustedBear in mind that extreme insecurity about mate competition and cheating is the behavior of a guilty conscience. I'd bet $100 this chick is sleeping around while you're out on deployment or whatever. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/16 12:58 AM |
| 1 | While I'm happy the rose colored glasses are off, I can't really help but feel jaded.LTR prospects will always seem shitty unless you establish masculine polarity in the relationship. That means being the prize, having alternative options such as side bitches or even just knowing that you can get laid elsewhere if necessary. Basically you keep your hands up. LTR does not mean stop playing the game, it means you play the game with one girl for a while instead of many. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/16 11:40 PM |
| 1 | While I'm happy the rose colored glasses are off, I can't really help but feel jaded.I wish more people got this. RP is in fact simple - but that does not mean it is easy. Go climb this mountain. It requires you to have good shoes, good balance, be hydrated and stay focused. Simple math, hard execution. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/16 11:37 PM |
| 9 | How does an amazing social life look like when you're an adult?Options. Should I go to the island on the lake tonight with 20 people? Should I go to the club with my EDM fam? Should I txt that new plate to come over before of after or just let her bake? Do I even feel like going out at all I'm fucking tired from working all week, I know there will be tons more parties next week from Monday thru Sunday. I can't go to everything or I'll just die. Unless I take some drugs. But that's not really healthy, either, so no thank you to the bags full of Molly, shroom… | /r/askTRP | 08/05/16 11:33 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidThis is a good counterpoint to Whisper's post, although he did not advocate simply waiting around and meditating. My takeaway from all of this is to keep approaching, initiating, etc, but to try and do it in a way that shows how I genuinely don't need the pussy. I am interested, not desperate. Finding the right attitude and then getting some action should have me set off in the right direction. Thanks for your post. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/16 03:07 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI found this "venting" (even I called it an emo shitpost in my edit) very fucking productive. I have real wisdom here to refer back on. Yes I happen to feel better because it got some attention, but the real grisle is going to be picking back over these replies for weeks and months to come and reminding myself to just relax and find some Zen. This is one of the few safe places for men to vent and talk about men's real problems in the world. We don't get much opportunity to do it anywhere else. I… | /r/askTRP | 07/05/16 06:00 AM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidDidn't even know that was a movie I thought it was just some dude named Steve with a few words of wisdom. I'll check it out. Thanks brother | /r/askTRP | 07/05/16 05:52 AM |
| 2 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidWow. You fucking nailed it. You have content here for a post on the main sub should you wish it. Sometimes it just takes repeating the same concept, but with a different voice, at the right time and right place. I've read this post a hundred times but it took you writing it to make sense. Thank you. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/16 05:48 AM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidLol upvote for the relevant username. I'm dealing with some acid issues that weren't around before because I'm trying to inhale 3000 Cals/day and it's hard work. I physically struggle to eat that much raw food and usually break it up into 5 or more small meals over the day + snacks. Drop a few drinks on top of that and it's kind of rough. I'll take your advice into consideration, maybe that I need to wave off the fun foods a bit during my party phase and be more conscientious about what I eat. | /r/askTRP | 07/05/16 05:42 AM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI care quite alot what advice I get out of the community. It is the one source of truth I've found in a world full of BP bullshit. Still, it's in its infancy and is more of a street smarts knowledge exchange than a science. Alot of opinions are conflicting, and even if some core concepts like Hypergamy are widely agreed upon, it can be hard to establish context with a person over the Internet. That's why masculine, successful male friends are so important. The community is about sexual strategy.… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 08:41 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidBro I fucking hope so. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 08:36 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI appreciate your reply. I live in a major metro area so the night club scene really is just a sea of 6 ft. plus dudes in blazers with spiked up hair and that's exactly what the girls go for. I've tried to game in those scenes and it's just not good for me (right now). Maybe later in life when I have fixed a few problems and have a better/more authentic vibe I can succeed there. Bars are OK, but alot of the same thing still happens. I definitely need to read and implement more on Game. I have be… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 07:02 PM |
| 3 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidGod damnit thank you brother. I needed to hear that. I don't know how long it will take and it is a dark road sometimes, but I don't want to stop any time soon. I'll ask a few successful make friends what they think. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 06:33 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI just started a new routine SL 5x5 with a trainer & meal prep & 3000+ Cals a day. I'm hoping I can hit 185/12% within the year. I can get numbers easy but rarely follow-up dates. I sometimes go for a same night close but usually not. Much more often I will go for first-night investment... Aka making out, fingering, necking, having her follow me around, etc. Then I setup a date or hangout and try to f-close on that date. I lose a lot of girls in txt game. They will respond and txt back but rarel… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 06:27 PM |
| 2 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidIt's a catch-22. If I am aggressive and proactive, I get told I need to chill and just relax and enjoy myself. If I'm chill and carefree but still not getting play, I get told to approach more, be more sexual, be more dominant, etc. This implies to me that there is a balance point to be found. It's hard to communicate all the necessary context to you over a few paragraphs, but I have a hard time believing I'm just "too much" and "too loud". This post was full of righteous anger after another nig… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 06:06 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI've heard this before and there is a problem with it. Every time I just relax and don't "focus on women", I get ignored. Forever. For as long as I continue to act chill. I only get play when I do something and initiate something, which is the masculine role (to initiate, to penetrate). Just sitting around acting cool gets me nowhere fast. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 06:00 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI am still building relationships with myself in various ways. I am trying to replace the angst I have over women with the success and value and meaning I derive from my various hobbies and friendships. It's a slow process. But not getting laid... AT ALL... Becomes ridiculously frustrating. I'm not sure what my next move is. I think I may try a legit monk mode for a month or two and just stop caring about girls. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:58 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI am actually less afraid and more confident. One of the thoughts going through my head today was just going out on an approach streak and blasting through as many as I reasonably can because k give Zero Fucks. Not sure it would actually help me but I might feel better about it. I meditate, but not daily. I'll try more. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:56 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI am responsible as fuck, but the problem is this. It's hard to figure out the right balance between "proactive, aggressive, sexual" and "chill, relaxed, carefree guy" for someone who just. Isnt. Getting. Laid. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:54 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidThis is a solid response, thank you. I would say my look is below average (too skinny) but I have a decent personality and game, it's just uncalibrated and unrefined. I find myself doing best in small groups where I can have a conversation, like house parties, camping festivals, chill-er underground rave scenes, etc Clubs are horrible for me because I'm not 6'4" and jacked. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:51 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI am told that I am attractive but I don't really buy it. I'm a skinny 5'10" white dude, 165lb aylt 16% bf. Clean shaven with a masculine haircut. I have no Tats or jewelry, not very "edgy" in fact I think I look pretty young and boyish but it's been slowly getting better as I add muscle and dial in my dress sense. Could definitely use improvement. I meet all kinds of girls, and what is driving me really, TRULY crazy is that I'm getting solid IOIs almost every time I go out. What I seem to be mi… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:46 PM |
| 2 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidYeah except I don't act thirsty. I've had enough field experience to know what it is like - pushing too hard too fast, kino but no confidence behind it, joking and playing but being needy about response laughter and validation. I don't do any of that shit. In fact if anything I drop bombs from a distance (psychologically) and always assume it's just good old fashioned fun. I twist things sexual when the opportunity presents but I'm not in a hurry about it. I don't act "needy" even though I am on… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 02:43 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck am I doing wrong.. I've grown so much and still don't get laidI'm 5'10", not alpha stud height by any means but I don't think that's my problem | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Trouble escalating because of lack of experience?I weigh 165lb at 5'10 about 18% bf. It's still too skinny. Eat more, lift more. You want to be about 190-200 with 10%bf at 6'. Also, monk mode isnt universally thought of as a good thing. People use it as an excuse to not approach, ot escalate, etc. Only do it for brief periods (a couple months maybe three) to create good life habits. But always be working on your social skills, your game, your sexual jokes & language, approaching, etc. Specifically, if you are getting IOIs and not progressing y… | /r/askTRP | 06/05/16 05:41 AM |
| 10 | How to set the plate dynamic from day one - The Early Frame AnnouncementThe very best way I ever had this described from an old school bboy friend/mentor: You want to look easy to hang out with & fun to fuck | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/16 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Is it confidence or just experience?I keep hearing this over and over again. I've got BJJ dojos all over the place to pick from. I need to stop making excuses and start going. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/16 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Is it confidence or just experience?This is so true but so hard sometimes. I've grown by leaps and bounds over the version of myself 9 months ago, but I still have a very long way to go. I'm reminded of that every time I see an alpha pulling girls or spitting game like i want to be. Every time I get turned down or maybe'd by a hot girl I'm trying to game. I think the important takeaway here is investing more of my esteem & confidence building into habits like lifting, dressing well, socializing well, etc. and a deemphasis on women… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/16 01:38 AM |
| 5 | You can't get every girl, and thinking it's possible only further hurts your chances.Escalating until you get that redlight actually feels really good. I mean yeah a yes would be better, but nutting up and batting for the fences is the important part and it feels so damn good to walk away knowing you didn't leave behind a question mark. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/16 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Should I still try to bang my new roomie?Yeah you're right.. But fuck it. I consider myself warned. If any amusingly comical drama comes out of it, I'll be sure to update you so that you can have a good laugh. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Curiosity question on trust"How does one verify if a girl is cheating excluding options A, B and C that can verify if she is cheating." Option A: you go and chaperone. Not ideal because as you said your friend lacks abundance and this won't help. It's also still mate guarding, and she is likely to either cheat anyways withoit you knowing or just wait and cheat later if she is so inclined. It also adds some risk to your friendship because if she's really smart and vicious she could try and or lie about fucking you. Option … | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Curiosity question on trustWomen are masters at this kind of deception. Looking for "weird behavior" when she gets back might work, but just as likely he would never know. Girls also lie for cheating girlfriends all the time because they either are or want to be cheating and need the same protection. Here's the rule of thumb; trust, but verify. You have the first part ready to go. Tell your friend to trust her and let her go on this trip; not because she is loyal and worth trusting, but because he rightly has other priori… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Why am I leaving meat on the table? How can I fix it?This actually makes tons of sense. It's a challenge for her (and a reward if she "earns it" by being sexy enough), plus you basically go all the way so there is no loss of progress. I mean PIV is PIV but yeah, this totally works I'll try and use this next time. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Why am I leaving meat on the table? How can I fix it?I lift heavy shit, get good sleep most nights, take some supplements that hopefully help my T levels (825 as of recently) and eat fairly healthy. I'm still struggling to shake porn unfortunately which is probably my biggest problem with bedroom performance, right behind general inexperience. I often feel like it's a catch-22 when I go out and party hard af a club, festival or even house - by the time everyone is lit and the girls are ready to fuck I'm at less than full strength. Redbull, adderal… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Forget "IOI's", the only way to know if a girl is attracted to you is to keep escalating.A perfect and simple way to summarize this post, I plan to memorise it and hopefully benefit from it. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/05/16 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Should I still try to bang my new roomie?Hard to say, it's a nice place but I'm perfectly willing to move as needed to avoid drama. Again though this seems relatively low risk. I would be extremely surprised if she sought out committment, which (if theoretically given) is the only place drama of significance should come from. But the puss would be super nice to tap, she's hot af, and more importantly there is good tension and chemistry, and I think I could learn alot about busting a nut without getting all sappy about it through her. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Should I still try to bang my new roomie?P.S. This morning I was woken up earlier than expected by a cleaning service for the new place. She made a comment about how I should have just crawled in her bed instead of waking up. Nothing as extravagant as a robe-drop or surprise dick sucking, but not a bad sign either. I wasnt sure she'd even acknowledge what happened out at the festival. Risk vs reward, hard to communicate all the context but I'm thinking I'll go for it soon and see what's up. Would be great to have an in-house fallback g… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Should I still try to bang my new roomie?Thanks man, I always appreciate your advice. I definitely concur that flirting & grinding etc. is just part of the game, I i just need to learn not to read into it or have any expectations from it & that it is in fact fairly meaningless to girls. She seems low drama, cool girl, nothing that close to LTR status but could be a fun plate. I think the 2nd issue clouding this one incident though is that I'm approaching my 1yr mark for TRP and have not made the kind of progress I wished for. My confid… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Low testosterone numbersWhat results have you seen from this change? More energy, sex drive, confidence, etc.? I clocked in at 825 (27) a few months ago but I'm already lifting, taking zinc, Vitamin D and L-carnitine so not sure what my number was before those supplements and changes. Diet is still 30%/protein/30%fat/40% carbs, have read alot of mixed material about keto diets and testosterone, many saying that carbs are absolutely required for test production and especially glycogen distribution to the muscles. | /r/askTRP | 27/04/16 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Women’s morphing need for male investment. - DalrockYou seem to have failed to understand my post. "Surround myself with others who respect me" sounds great in a sentence typed in Reddit. In reality, what you are referring to is Abundance Mentality. Being able to discard bad apples and actually find good apples by sorting through the bushels full of bullshit in the modern world. This requires high value and skill to generate options. This doesn't just apply to women; but to every single person in your life. Sex has a role to play in my self worth… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/16 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Women’s morphing need for male investment. - DalrockThat may be what you're life is about, but that's not what my life is about, at least for now. If that was my primary goal I already had that girl. My goal right now in regards to women is to self-actualize, prove to my hindbrain that I can get a date and get laid when I want to and therefore don't need to be afraid of women who might lie, cheat, etc. As for family, not even sure if I want kids at all, let alone right now. I need to become a person who I can respect and admire first before I go … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/16 11:16 PM |
| 5 | Girl I fucked on the first date is pissed at me for seeing other girls?I don't get this. OP doesn't need to explain or clarify anything. It's not like they had a long conversation about their future together in the back of his car. Let the girl be the one who brings up any questions of commitment and meaning. Any assumptions they make above and beyond the implied "fun to fuck" level of investment is entirely on them, and you should let it ride, because all it will do is generate dread, Preselection, and envy/jealousy on their part. Now if you are deliberately peppe… | /r/askTRP | 26/04/16 02:41 PM |
| 2 | On Female Consequences and Ditching Your Revenge Porn FantasiesThat's pretty interesting about Sparta, got any links? | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/16 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Describe a friend that gets laid a lot?My friend isn't particularly good looking, below average probably. He's about 5'8 but ~230 when lean, very broad and stocky but certainly not ripped. Has great game and Machiavellianism, often absorbs everyone into his conversation and sets the tone, charismatic and assertive. He's plating a hb9 right now and gets laid regular with 7s and up. Has a great job but is bad with money and overspends frequently on friends and partying. Overall a great guy to learn some game from, not so much the life … | /r/askTRP | 25/04/16 05:19 AM |
| 3 | I am weak as fuck: How do you gain self-confidence?"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Lao Tzu | /r/askTRP | 24/04/16 09:52 PM |
| 1 | a DIP in SMVMaybe lay off the weed for a while. When used habitually weed can bring you down, it is a depressant after all. The desireable effects are great to chill with every now and then, but to live in that state of mind permanently makes things difficult. All things in moderation. And as others have said - cut out porn, less alcohol, get out in nature and sunlight, start exercising. The trick to self worth is actually investing in yourself. It's like magic.. you suddenly start to feel like you are wort… | /r/askTRP | 24/04/16 04:49 PM |
| 2 | How do you get over being rejected by the popular kids in your school years and missing out on the parties, fun, and young wild sex?I had the same "issue" when reading TRP, the advice seemed generic and unhelpful. Right? But you just aren't trying hard enough. The fact is, no person on the internet can interpret your past for you. No one here can micromanage your life and future in some kind of tailor made TRP-compliant step by step life plan. That's all a pipe dream, you expecting it or even wanting it is an excuse you are using to let yourself off the hook. The truth is this. TRP actually isn't complicated. It is very simp… | /r/askTRP | 24/04/16 02:19 PM |
| 1 | How do you get over being rejected by the popular kids in your school years and missing out on the parties, fun, and young wild sex?I lol'd | /r/askTRP | 24/04/16 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Women’s morphing need for male investment. - DalrockAfter breaking out of my 5.5 year monogamous relationship to "go become RP" my first fuckbuddy was a hot 21-yearold single mom. I knew going into it exactly what she really wanted, but I played ball because, well, hot pussy. She was all about it when I was talking my usual nice guy routine (couldn't stop myself at first), but when I course-corrected and explained how I would never be a part of the kid's life.. poof she's gone. Completely predictable. If I run into that situation again, knowing w… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/04/16 03:23 AM |
| 3 | I hate festivals/clubs/typical youth parties and shit like that. Am I just being a bitch because I can't socialize or can I work TRP along with my personal preferences?Spending time trying to actively improve your social skills is what improves your social skills. It doesn't really matter where. You can do this at a concert just as easily as you can working at Starbucks. I'm in an opposite mindset to you right now. 'Underground' warehouse raves, music festivals, house parties & hippy communes are my gig right now because they are so easy to penetrate and meet people, including tons of hot (but admittedly trashy) girls. I gain tons of experience from these even… | /r/askTRP | 24/04/16 01:47 AM |
| 2 | I'm very possessive, how do I get over it?Interesting and useful. Too many guys here trying to say you should never compare yourself to others - but I often find myself comparing against high value men and wishing I had what they had. Now I realize I have to work for it, duh, nothing is free. It seems like Envy is also closely tied with Ambition. How else would you know what it is you want to accomplish and achieve if others had not set an example for you? There are exceptions I guess for truly original pursuits, but mostly it's all bee… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/16 08:01 PM |
| 1 | A Quick Diagnostic to Your Dating/Sexual FailuresAccurate and succint. I self diagnosed myself as having a game problem weeks ago because of the exact pattern you describe here. Thanks | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/16 03:13 AM |
| 2 | A Quick Diagnostic to Your Dating/Sexual FailuresMajor point there. It's a trap for ignorance, sometimes it is hard to self-evaluate because we lack perspective. Even if we do call out a shortcoming in behavior or attitude, the solution to it is not always apparent either. Much easier to say my biceps need to be bigger and/or I need better clothes. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/16 03:04 AM |
| 1 | HuntThis is also the concept of "Zen". Relaxation at the highest point of tension, and an absence of distracting thoughts. No mind. No interference. No doubt. Just focus. You hold the arrow at the point of highest tension "until it is ready to loose", not because you decided to shooylt or you are trying to hit the target. When the 'arrow' is ready. Imagine that. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/16 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Dick HealthThanks for your reply. Advice like this is in short supply, usually it's just "use a condom hurrdurr" and "don't have sex with promiscuous women" BP trance-talk. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/16 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Comparing myself to my friends, is it wrong?Yep, you can learn and get some field experience through him. It's not a 1:1 deal because what works for a 6'5" Adonis probably won't work for you, but you can still find value there, plus I'm sure he can help you bridge into many interesting social circles. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/16 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Comparing myself to my friends, is it wrong?Yep, you can learn and get some field experience through him. It's not a 1:1 deal because what works for a 6'5" Adonis probably won't work for you, but you can still find value there, plus I'm sure he can help you bridge into many interesting social circles. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/16 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Can someone like me become alpha?Flow arts & fire prop manipulation has done exactly this for me. Never before have I had access to as diverse a group of people, with so many overlaps, so much opportunity, etc. And the hobby itself is rewarding physically and mentally. This is great advice. | /r/askTRP | 19/04/16 07:46 PM |
| 5 | Can someone like me become alpha?You lack positive social experiences and opportunities. That's all. I came from a similar background and still hold the same question, but things are getting better. This is functionally no different than asking "can I become a master at basket weaving". Well, sure you can, Skippy. You have hands don't you? And eyes and ears. What is stopping you? A ton of bad experiences have a tendency to make people (self included) feel like there is something " wrong" with them. That they are defective or so… | /r/askTRP | 19/04/16 07:44 PM |
| 0 | did you need TRP to remind you that you need to work on yourself physically and mentally?Personally I did, yes. Before TRP I had what I thought was a happy relationship with a nice, honest, loyal girl. I was with her 5.5 years and planning to marry eventually. But something was wrong. For the longest time I couldn't put my finger on it. As Morpheus explained to Neo, it was like a "splinter in my mind". I found TRP after dredging the bog of the internet looking for a solution to my dead bedroom. To date, she had not cheated on me (so far as I am aware) but we had both become exceedin… | /r/askTRP | 19/04/16 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Dick HealthASAP after banging a ONS or any chick that could be fucking other guys, douse you dick, balls and crotch in hydrogen peroxide. Let it sit for a few minutes. Have fun with that. Also why the fuck would you be banging a girl that is so gross you need to use hydrogen peroxide afterward? Can you please expand on this? Is hydrogen peroxide unlikely to provide any protection/benefit after potential exposures to bacterial or viral STDs? In today's world I just assume all women are fucking some other gu… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/16 06:50 PM |
| 1 | How to get out of the anger phase?I chose to walk away from my 6 year LTR. Even as the one who pulled the trigger, I still feel angry and depressed some days, but it is getting better, bit by bit. Time is not what heals you. Improving yourself, taking responsibility, going after what you want and experiencing success. Those things heal you. Time is just the way you measure how long it takes to get the ball rolling. There is no going back. There is no un-taking TRP. There is no re-winding your relationship with this chad-chasing … | /r/askTRP | 13/04/16 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Does RP Ideology include girls who are just friends?That's up to you. Game is game - you can use it anywhere and on anyone, not just women. Of course it may follow different rules. But game is just a tool. The question you should be asking is, if I were to use text game on such a friend, what is the intended goal? Replying too quickly to anyone implies that you aren't busy and are always available. Do what you will with that information. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/16 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Does RP Ideology include girls who are just friends?Why are you asking our permission? This "ideology" as you describe it is only a tool. Not a set of commandments you are required to live by. You are not required, nor should you be interested in fucking every woman you interact with. Many women can be pleasant to be around without the need to stick your dick in one of their orifices. They can also be useful - by introducing you to friends whose orifices you actually want, among other things. The only thing you want to make sure you aren't doing … | /r/askTRP | 12/04/16 03:52 AM |
| 11 | Where can I get a brutal evaluation of my physical SMV to make more conscious decisions?Check out /r/Rateme . Use an anonymous account, delete all traces after your done getting what you need. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/16 01:08 AM |
| -2 | "To be clear we're not fucking tonight"Pretty simple, say 'kk' and then don't hang out with her. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/16 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Anyone overcome "grass is always greener" thinking?Go take a shit ton of shrooms, stand in a bathroom with a grim reaper whispering into your ear while you read a blurry, swirling copy of Desiderata. It's like Death told me to shut the fuck up and enjoy life before he came to kill my ass. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/16 08:15 PM |
| 2 | You're not the coolest cat in town, and the sooner you accept that, the easier everything becomesYou know, you have an interesting way of tackling this problem and I'm surprised you didn't get more upvotes. Hypergamy is inevitable. Any girl will be "available" to the right Chad. Whether she is out actively looking or she just trips and falls on some dick doesn't really matter. I think the rub here is BP men's deeply entrenched concept of romanticism. The idea that they are disposable and interchangeable is therefore abhorrent. But from a RP lense, women and men are both fungible assets. Any… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/16 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Girl A gives a BJ but then pushes off for work. Girl B is overtly sexual and initiates texting, but flakes.You're a champ dude, I'll wing it from here and let ya'll know how things go down after the weekend. | /r/askTRP | 02/04/16 12:58 AM |
| 5 | High SMV man have..."Be your own brand of alpha" | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Girl A gives a BJ but then pushes off for work. Girl B is overtly sexual and initiates texting, but flakes.A) Good call sounds like a plan B) She actually texted me again today asking for lunch. Here's that short convo, at this point it's all strung out and fucked so I'm just like w/e. I probably fucked up at the end but with her showing so much interest and me being bored of logistics bullshit I felt like going ham and just telling her what to do. No response so far (but none expected either, I'll txt her Sunday and be like "its time") Her: "Peace! Wanna do lunch today?" 9:57am Me: "Sure but I've go… | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Girl A gives a BJ but then pushes off for work. Girl B is overtly sexual and initiates texting, but flakes.Texted girl B the very same night so not sure how I waited too long. Thanks though. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 03:26 AM |
| 3 | Girl A gives a BJ but then pushes off for work. Girl B is overtly sexual and initiates texting, but flakes.Downvoted for failing to micromanage a stranger's life over the internet. Seriously though, thanks for the advice. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Girl A gives a BJ but then pushes off for work. Girl B is overtly sexual and initiates texting, but flakes.I was legitimately busy Wednesday night, and she texted me. I was quite surprised she failed to respond because of the hugely direct IOIs she had given me, and believe me, I'm caring less and less about each flake as time goes by but this one stumps me. Still, your advice is worth trying. I might fire a "hey come over" text somewhere along the way before I drop it totally. Not like I'm losing anything, feeds her validation machine but wuteva. Regarding girl A how to play it? I'm thinking just ru… | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 03:11 AM |
| 2 | For how long did you approach before getting any success?If you only just started approaching 2-3 weeks ago, settle in, especially if you've never had any action at all in your whole life. I've been doing this shit about 8 months now. My "success" includes one FWB that lasted a couple weeks, a BJ, dozens of numbers and almost-happeneds, and a single date. But who knows, I might just be pussy retarded. You may clean house in the next month or two. Point is, stop worrying about how long it will take. Ain't like you are going to stop if it takes too long… | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Best venues for a Lone Wolf approach?Wow, so simple and yet so obviously workable. I've bludgeoned my way into new scenes just by showing up enough that people begin to recognize me and I have an in, but this approach is much more calibrated and efficient thanks. | /r/askTRP | 31/03/16 04:28 AM |
| 10 | Important update from the Vasalgel teamI made my donation as soon as I learned of this company. A fully reversible, non-surgical non-hormonal male birth control alternative? Fuck. Yes. I can't wait to sip on the delicious tears of feminism and Oops! liars. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/16 02:38 PM |
| 111 | Important update from the Vasalgel teamI made my donation as soon as I learned of this company. A fully reversible, non-surgical non-hormonal male birth control alternative? Fuck. Yes. I can't wait to sip on the delicious tears of feminism and Oops! liars. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/16 02:38 PM |
| 6 | You Fail To Realize There Are Many Games Taking PlaceYes it is. Terrifying. Exhilarating. Your individual mind has the power to manifest a reality around you - or destroy it. Now pair that with the fact that most people have little to zero control over their thoughts and emotions, and spend their lives consuming in the hopes that someone else will grant them happiness, and you have our world today. People need to meditate and try psychedelics. For real. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/03/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | The Natural End-Point for TRP Is: LTR's over hook-ups, and a return to 50s era sexual mores (with pre-nups and no Christianity this time)Has it really changed that much? I'm 27 but I've been living under a rock for 10+ years (actually a few skirts but no more). What do you credit with the increased barrier to entry? Smartphone & social media? | /r/TheRedPill | 28/03/16 03:42 PM |
| 1 | The Natural End-Point for TRP Is: LTR's over hook-ups, and a return to 50s era sexual mores (with pre-nups and no Christianity this time)Reading comments like this and descriptions of biological sexual selectivity always manages to make my life seem small. It's like, great, the future of the species depends on females not choosing sub-optimal males to breed with. Now I'm a dick for going to the gym because I wasn't born 6'4" blonde and beautiful. But then, why was I born at all, with millions of years of this evolutionary force behind me? I come from a 2-marriage family. My sibling is 9.5 years older than I am from a different fa… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/03/16 03:26 PM |
| 2 | I can't really enjoy plate sex.I would amend your comment to say; it's an absolutely terrible idea to allow your emotional state to be dependent in any way on ANYONE. Can't even count on your fucking family. Shit is sad but true. | /r/askTRP | 27/03/16 04:50 AM |
| 2 | I can't really enjoy plate sex.Can you expand on this? I can see how the desire to have emotional attachment, and a live-in girlfriend you can constantly lean on and share with, might be seen as needy, weak or lacking independence. Is that what you are saying? | /r/askTRP | 27/03/16 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Loser! - Why late bloomers still retain those negative feelings even after they start doing well in the game, and majority of it has nothing to do with women or sex.Go to erowid.com and do some reading. Basically, yes. Whenever serotonin gets squirted in your brain (natural process), it creates some free radicals (oxidative particles). These particles, if left unchecked, will stick around and damage the cells in your serotonin channels like air & water will rust a metal pipe. Not the same chemical process but a good analogy. Your body naturally clears out these free radicals over time, using anti-oxidants. The problem is that molly causes a massive serotoni… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/16 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Clubbing Game?Great answer and I've never seen a breakdown for club game so simple or on point. @OP It's also worth noting that clubs are not always the best way to go. It's easy because you know the girls are there, but that's about where the advantages stop. Try to get yourself involved in the pre-party / after-party scene with promoters and staff. The attractive girls have a tendency to show up with their social circle, maybe after having pre-gamed at the house, and then party at the club with no real inte… | /r/askTRP | 25/03/16 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Loser! - Why late bloomers still retain those negative feelings even after they start doing well in the game, and majority of it has nothing to do with women or sex.I'm interested why you think MDMA is safe. Shrooms and acid sure I love me some psychedelics because, thoigh challenging, they reveal your inner strength and make you face down those demons. But all the research I've done on Molly indicates that long term or regular use (over 70 doses) creates irreversible damage to the serotonin pathways of the brain through oxidative stress. This "might" be counter-acted somewhat by taking a shit ton of anti-oxidant supplements before a roll, but to me that is… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/03/16 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Leaving submissive girl to growSo you mean to deliberately sabotage your tangible abundance in order to learn how to what.. Tough it out? There are better ways to build your mental discipline. From a growth perspective, if you can "get away with" gaming other girls and keeping this one, it is superior both for your current state of abundance and future growth curve. You are better positioned to learn the ins and outs of gaming women as you are now vs being alone. Alone, depending on your SMV and the true measure of your curre… | /r/askTRP | 23/03/16 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Leaving submissive girl to growWhat's this bullshit here? "Learn to game without real abundance". That's called being a beta. Learning game requires real abundance or at least the ability to choose to act as if there was abundance, even when there's not. You don't sound like you're here for advice. You sound like you want people to validate your decision so you can dump your GF and go 'learn game'. So, go fucking do it. I think that's your best plan and nothing could possibly go wrong. | /r/askTRP | 23/03/16 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Leaving submissive girl to growIf you think ditching this girl will magically give you motivation, think again. The power of Preselection is currently in your favor. The power of Well-Sexed is in your favor. If you aren't actually just bored, and your primary goal is really growth IE ability to lay other chicks at will, there is nothing in your current situation stopping you. Are you worried about backlash? Is she dug in deep to your family / social circle? Make new friends. Go places without her. Keep her around and don't op… | /r/askTRP | 22/03/16 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Nervousness around womenMy favorite lesson from TRP so far: Other people are human too. They are just as imperfect as you are. The more you realize this, the calmer and more confident you become. Beating your anxiety is a process. You need to expose yourself to social situations frequently, but in a methodical, progressive manner that lets you control and balance your growth without feeling overwhelmed. Going solo-dolo to a nightclub and trying to cold approach 20 girls is not the way to beat social anxiety (that's ste… | /r/askTRP | 18/03/16 04:02 AM |
| 5 | Nervousness around womenLazy answer. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/16 03:56 AM |
| 1 | You've got a personal female fan club. Find them. Forget everyone else.Wow this post is solid fucking gold. It's like you looked at my life with a microscope and then shelled it out just for me. I have noticed over the last couple months I have plenty of low-average to just plain low value girls in my fanclub and had no idea what to do with them. Until now I've just been ignoring them or at best taking to them casually when bored to alleviate gaps of silence between other people. But now? Games on suddenly I see a reason to further my interactions with them, learn … | /r/TheRedPill | 17/03/16 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Tune-up Tuesday is back! What is your #1 issue you need help with the most?Practice, practice, practice. I went through what you're experiencing where you feel like if you "can't be beta anymore" then you don't know wtf else you're supposed to do so you end up being isolated and quiet. This gets better with time. You basically dumped out the beta toolkit and need to start building a new alpha toolkit one piece at a time. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/03/16 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Tune-up Tuesday is back! What is your #1 issue you need help with the most?I'm still struggling with this myself but try to break this problem up. 1 Masterbation itself is not really a problem as long as it's not excessive (different for each person but probably only 1-2 times a week). 2 Porn however is the enemy and fucks with your brain chemistry. Cut it out completely. If you aren't horny enough to masterbate without using porn, just skip it. In my experience it's my phone that is the trigger. Ban internet from your bedroom. I only go into my room to sleep, change, … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/03/16 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Tune-up Tuesday is back! What is your #1 issue you need help with the most?I'm still not confident while around actually attractive women (hb7 and up). I'll talk to them and even approach them, but usually clench up, don't tease them the right way, and am generally just less comfortable because I don't feel good enough & dont internally believe they would ever give me a shot. This isn't helped by the fact that I'm great around less attractive girls but think that I'm too good for them, don't feel attracted to them, and feel awkward being seen with them in a "dating" co… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/03/16 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Raising SMV and learning more skills, can't see how that will lead to more confidence and better game.The thing about self improvement and taking care of yourself is that you end up feeling like you're worth a damn. At some point the switch just flips and you go from "I'm just a low value beta scrub" to "I'm working hard, making progress, seeing results and yknow what that's alpha as fuck so I'm going to cut myself some slack and have fun too". You go to the gym not just for looks and strength but to physically feel better, fitness improves your biology and neurochemistry. It improves your testo… | /r/askTRP | 14/03/16 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Getting better but still not getting laidIt's on my reading list. I tease plenty but I'm usually more comfortable around the girls I'm not attracted to - duh right? Not as much pressure. I'll work on this. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/16 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Getting better but still not getting laidThat's fair comment, I tend to be more aggressive in night clubs with kino because I know it blends very easily into dancing and that just fits the vibe. Most other times I'm a bit more reserved but it depends on the situation, when it feels natural to kino I go with it. I'll pay attention to the timing thing though. About the touch being creepy I suppose that's possible, I don't have that "100% obviously alpha look" and don't always travel with social proof so I'm sure that calculation is runni… | /r/askTRP | 14/03/16 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Getting better but still not getting laidI go to a mix of house parties, clubs, bars, etc. I usually only have the "approach attitude" when barhopping or in certain clubs, otherwise it's all social game and less aggressive flirting. Good stuff though, I've found balance to be extremely important and I'm definitely glad to hear some confirmation that I don't always need to be "approaching" in every situation. | /r/askTRP | 14/03/16 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Feeling shitty after nights outIt's all the same really, I'm doing both when I go out. But my night certainly isn't ruined if I don't take a girl home, because I try to leave it all out in the field & I'm having a good time and meeting other people regardless. The only times I feel bad are when I act like a pussy and come up with excuses to not approach and run game. Getting rejected is no longer a problem, just part of the business of going for what I want. | /r/askTRP | 13/03/16 09:45 PM |
| 8 | Feeling shitty after nights outYep I know the feel. Once I'm done for the night and on the way home it's often the thought: "another night empty handed" or something equally shitty. I think part of this is the dichotomy of getting psyched up / mentally prepared for socializing and approaching/flirting/escalating. The extreme high of stimulation received from clubbing, dancing, drinking, everybody wanting to be on the goodfeels train, etc. Then you go home and you're alone. Again. Just keep at it though. I almost never feel sh… | /r/askTRP | 13/03/16 08:12 PM |
| 10 | Is balance the secret of picking up?Balance isn't just the key to picking up. Balance is the key to life. Reward vs. Punishment. Dominance vs. Submission. Masculine vs. Feminine. Yin vs. Yang. Relaxation vs. Productivity. All should exist in a certain balance to achieve best effect. Most men cannot realistically be 100% dominant in all situations - in fact knowing your place and when to shut up and learn something from an elder is incredibly 'alpha'. Being an aggressive student that demands explanation and knowledge, while at the … | /r/askTRP | 11/03/16 03:51 AM |
| 6 | The Path Of Becoming A Man Is A Boring OneIs this different from the Book of Five Rings? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/03/16 11:24 PM |
| 26 | being alpha to women is exhausting. how long did it take for you guys to make it feel natural?I don't see the point in everyone saying to simply stop thinking about pussy. Don't worry about pussy. Pussy isn't that important. Everyone here is looking to improve their sexual strategy. That is the entire point of the sub. The problem-state isn't thinking about pussy or caring about pussy, it's caring about pussy to the exclusion of all other areas of your life. The difference may be semantics to you, but it was a mental hurdle for me when I first started so that's why I'm posting. One of th… | /r/askTRP | 08/03/16 02:23 AM |
| 2 | being alpha to women is exhausting. how long did it take for you guys to make it feel natural?When you become really good at something, you are more able to freely enjoy it. New skills often follow this pattern: Discovery > Honeymoon period > Disenchantment > Discipline/Work > Mastery Of course "being alpha" isn't really a skill so much as a vast array of multiple skills and disciplines coming together. Depending on where you start out, the summit can be very, very far away. This and this alone is the source of my personal fear & anxiety about leading a RP lifestyle and becoming alpha. D… | /r/askTRP | 08/03/16 02:12 AM |
| -1 | Grad student but mostly all of the hot girls at the university are in undergrad and in sororities. Any advice or am I in a very rough situation?Become a drug dealer. Grad student Breaking Bad. That's a serious option, btw, although I know it's not necessarily the most desirable one. I myself am unwilling to become an agent in the drug culture because I feel like slinging dope for social status / access / easy cash, though effective, is insanely short-sighted and risks all future career opportunity if you bite a felony. Help dumb jocks and dumb sorostitutes study for their exams. Free tutoring for sexy retards. As a grad student don't yo… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/16 11:52 PM |
| 8 | I was assaulted in an unprovoked attack last night.Calling the cops is usually a bad idea because even if they arrest someone, it is usually both people involved aka "mutual assault". Being an adult probably means knowing how to defuse that situation without violence. Irrational men typically have someone else who holds their leash. Find that person and yank on it, or knock the fucker out when he steps across that line. As soon as you were hit/struck/bruised you had open cause to lay him out. If they call the cops afterwards guess what, mutual a… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/16 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone here lost weight then started going to a gym, solely to attract/get women ?I had two reasons to start lifting. 1 To save my life. Literally. I had crippling back pain until I began to exercise and train my core. Body & Mind. 2 Bitches love abs | /r/askTRP | 06/03/16 04:30 AM |
| 5 | 6 easy habits that help you grow as a man. (PART 1)Hot showers and baths trigger oxytocin (pleasure). Similar to snuggling a girl or wrapping up in a warm blanket for the night. It is an unnecessary sensation when starting your say. It also vaporizes and steams the water, causing more water to be absorbed into your lungs. Bad shit lives in your municipal water supply like radon, etc. Even when taking hot showers I leave the curtain open to cut down my exposure. Cold showers supposedly increase your willpower, definitely wake you up, and may incr… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/16 07:12 PM |
| 2 | How to cope with feeling of wasting your prime years?Not OP but this is often a point of concern/anxiety for me. I'm 27 but look pretty young & am naturally skinny. Been lifting for a while, put on some muscle and will keep adding more, but I will ALWAYS be kinda skinny compared to the average dude. I can probably have a V-taper one day but shoulders still relatively narrow compared to average, and the skinniest wrists you've ever seen brah. On the bright side I'm hoping my "golden years" between 25-35 stetch a little longer than normal because I … | /r/askTRP | 04/03/16 05:46 PM |
| 5 | Going out soloQuit bitching and go out. It's not ideal but it is better than sitting at home. If you act right noone else will know you are alone anyways - "hey I've got to get back to my friends but give me your # we'll talk later". Plus no one you care about is there to observe your behavior. This is actually incredibly liberating because you can just do whatever you want at any point in time without other people having a chance to judge you or make you think twice. You shouldn't give a fuck anyways but it'… | /r/askTRP | 04/03/16 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Approach AnxietyGood looking loser.com has an approach anxiety program, give it a try. But really the best answer is to just approach. You will feel awkward at first but as you do it more and more it becomes less and less of a problem, until eventually you can hit on Mother Superior in Sunday Mass without breaking a sweat. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/16 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Framing question, met a new girl but sort of blew her off for lunch, she might come to a party I'm going toAnd by the way, holy fuck, what a relief that is. I don't have to game women? I mean I get it, I still kinda do, but not in the approval seeking/convince them to fuck me kind of way. Just in the be my awesome badass self kind of way. Man that's like a weight lifted off my shoulders! | /r/askTRP | 28/02/16 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Framing question, met a new girl but sort of blew her off for lunch, she might come to a party I'm going toThank you so much for coming back in these replies. That makes so much sense it hurts. Literally within 24 hours of this thread I was reading on how the best lays/gfs are women you don't need to game, and that fits perfectly with your advice. You're absolutely right. She's either into me or she isn't. | /r/askTRP | 28/02/16 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Framing question, met a new girl but sort of blew her off for lunch, she might come to a party I'm going toOK. At the end of the day, I feel like your advice was just a long-winded version of "be more alpha/be more attractive". The reason I get pissed off at these kind of replies is because they are not useful. There is alot of distance to cover between being socially & sexually inexperienced and being confident, unapologetically direct and actually having true abundance/IDGAF mentality. So far, in my experience, I make that gap smaller by going out, getting field experience, examining that experienc… | /r/askTRP | 28/02/16 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Framing question, met a new girl but sort of blew her off for lunch, she might come to a party I'm going toI ask these questions for a reason - to learn. There is nothing wrong with that. The fact is I could not interpret this situation confidently on my own, and I'm comfortable admitting that because that is THE ENTIRE FUCKING POINT OF THIS SUB. "Just hit on everything blindly and don't worry about asking questions" is stupid advice. How would I learn anything at all if I don't bother to analyse what went right and wrong with my field experience? Also understand "why I care so much". It's not for he… | /r/askTRP | 28/02/16 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Resources for advanced male grooming? (looking for new ideas) e.g. reducing/covering black bags under eyes/looking tired/being ill, skin tone, orabrush (I'm already using it), nails shaping, colognes etc.I use MadHippie Vitamin C serum for under eye bags, tightens up the skin. I only use it once a day but I'm sure you could do twice if necessary. Unfortunately, dark circles are hereditary and I don't think there is much to do. Always moisturize a few minutes after using the serum as it dries out your skin quite a bit. I use cetaphil moisturizing cream. BTW both products were selected after digging on /r/skincareaddiction. Use a paraben free shampoo/conditioner combo, only shampoo once or twice a… | /r/askTRP | 25/02/16 02:18 AM |
| 3 | How do I cultivate discipline?Discipline is a muscle. It gets stronger when you use it. Also, you will be doing yourself a huge favor if you drop the negative self-deprecation. Stop talking to yourself like you're a bitch and you're one step closer to not feeling like one. | /r/askTRP | 24/02/16 12:43 AM |
| 2 | HaircutYou're better off hitting /r/malehairadvice and other guides | /r/askTRP | 24/02/16 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Social HobbiesI've tabled my efforts in ballroom dancing lessons for now because.. yeah, I was pretty much only doing it for girls. I might come back to it one day because I remember it being pretty fun, but for now I'm so busy with other stuff that I can't really take time to appreciate the scene for what it is. | /r/askTRP | 24/02/16 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Old oneitis flat out admitted she wants me to be her beta bitch while she was drunk.This is a pitfall I too face - I'm often so worried about making sure the girl perceives me as alpha, or at least "not beta" that I behave unnaturally or get extra quiet when I don't have anything "alpha" to say. Don't get stuck in that rut. Ultimately the most alpha way to behave is selfishly, and by not worrying how they perceive you. This is a big mental hurdle to get over so don't worry if it takes you some time, I'm still working on it though I've gotten a bit better recently. Point is, fuc… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/16 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Old oneitis flat out admitted she wants me to be her beta bitch while she was drunk.This is a pitfall I too face - I'm often so worried about making sure the girl perceives me as alpha, or at least "not beta" that I behave unnaturally or get extra quiet when I don't have anything "alpha" to say. Don't get stuck in that rut. Ultimately the most alpha way to behave is selfishly, and by not worrying how they perceive you. This is a big mental hurdle to get over so don't worry if it takes you some time, I'm still working on it though I've gotten a bit better recently. Point is, fuc… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/16 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Can You Help Me With My Biggest Problem? (hint: it’s not women)There is no such thing as motivation. Cut that word out of your mind. The word you want is Discipline. Go lift. Lifting builds strength, confidence, aesthetics and above all.. Discipline. It is the most important muscle of all. Do not try and use drugs to fix this problem. I've tried lots of drugs and my philosophy is this; they are good for getting persecptive, but are not a long term solution to your problems. If a drug helps you identify what you should be doing, great, but the objective shou… | /r/askTRP | 19/02/16 06:56 PM |
| 3 | The skill of approachingTake a look at Good Looking Losers guide to Approach Anxiety. Step by step program. | /r/askTRP | 17/02/16 01:08 AM |
| 1 | What is your favorite quote?Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny. -Aristotle Pairs well with the Alan Watts quote elsewhere in this thread. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/16 10:55 AM |
| 1 | How to understand Dark Triad bf?I have a friend who dates a girl several points down, has hollywood-esque looks, works as a pro graphics designer / photographer and is quite popular, though he does not demonstrate any dark triad qualities. When asked why he's not with a more attractive girl (which he could easily get), he explains that he likes being "the cute one" in the relationship. It makes things easier for him in all aspects. My advice: Focus on keeping the drama to a minimum & maintain his sexual interest. | /r/askTRP | 16/02/16 10:51 AM |
| 1 | I have lost my killer instinct and can't seal the deal on dates. Advice?You say you're a virgin but have no problems talking to/creating Attraction with girls. This is good, your SMV is clearly high enough you just need to get over your personal hangups. In my experience after reading TRP I was super worried about "being alpha" in the girls eyes, up to be point where I would sabotage good/potentially good interactions if I thought I wasn't being "alpha enough" to impress her. Obvious flawed logic is obvious. Focus on being aggressive, not smooth. Being smooth doesn'… | /r/askTRP | 16/02/16 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Why is online dating not working anymore?Touché | /r/askTRP | 16/02/16 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Why is online dating not working anymore?Nice informative comment, so what are these two rules? | /r/askTRP | 15/02/16 10:02 PM |
| 6 | Those who went from emotionally fragile to strong, how did you do it?I'm still very early in my journey, but I have definitely "levelled up" from when i started when it comes to idgaf and Emotional strength. I attribute this mostly to self-trust IE I did my best, this is the best choice i can think of using current information. It's OK to make mistakes bro, you'll still be able to thrive even when things aren't perfect (life is chaos nothing is perfect). The beauty of idgaf is that you accept all of life, good bad and ugly, and it does not crack your frame becaus… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/16 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Do you really just approach?Yes and no. TRP has two main things it is trying to teach you. 1 Self-Improvement (raise your SMV) 2 Game (use your SMV in the best possible ways) Cold approach requires high SMV and game. However, it is totally worth doing for defeating approach anxiety if nothing else. I'd suggest looking up Good Looking Losers approach anxiety program. I'm about to start it myself but it gives concrete, step-by-step challenges to warm you up and make sure you are matching your current skill level/confidence l… | /r/askTRP | 13/02/16 12:19 AM |
| 3 | 29 and single my whole lifeThis is vague and needy at best. Read the sidebar in the main sub and begin focusing on Self-Improvement and Self-Love. Meditate. Lift. Eat well. Sleep enough. Take care of your studies but it sounds like you don't get out much so I'd suggest finding a social hobby and using it to hang out with people until you develop some better social skills. A funny thing happens when you prioritize taking care of your body and mind - subconsciously you start to realize you're worth a damn. Good luck | /r/askTRP | 13/02/16 12:15 AM |
| 2 | the passive alphaIt probably has something to do with the lack of desire to self-improve, I.e. an internal judgment on their part about your lifestyle that they then project onto the women you end up with. But honestly, fuck them. You sound alpha as fuck and although I couldn't be happy doing what you do, if you really are, keep doing it and fuck the rest. | /r/askTRP | 12/02/16 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Dopamine, discipline and pussyWow this makes too much sense. "Look you caught a rabbit in your trap! Here have some dopamine, making traps is good for you, feel good about making traps." Vs. "Omg that tranny midget is so hawt.. Have all my dopamine." The next day. "That cute girl is looking at me but.. Meh, I don't really care. Not worth the effort." | /r/TheRedPill | 12/02/16 08:15 PM |
| 12 | Dopamine, discipline and pussyWow this makes too much sense. "Look you caught a rabbit in your trap! Here have some dopamine, making traps is good for you, feel good about making traps." Vs. "Omg that tranny midget is so hawt.. Have all my dopamine." The next day. "That cute girl is looking at me but.. Meh, I don't really care. Not worth the effort." | /r/TheRedPill | 12/02/16 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Best way to eat little, but with a high concentration of caloriesLiquid bro. I pack in 1800 calories at breakfast. 1.5 cup milk, almonds, protein powder, bananna, oats, peanut butter, flax or macadamia oil, some ice for coldness. Blend and go. | /r/askTRP | 12/02/16 05:02 AM |
| 4 | Penis implant and enlargement surgeryI was going to post about the bathmate. I just started using it in addition to Jelqing and Stretching, which I would advise anyone do for at least a couple years before considering something as drastic as surgery. How long did it take you to reach 6.75"? @OP 1. Sounds like you might need to meditate and/or seek professional therapy. Not saying that to put you down, but seriously, this is an issue you need to get your head right about before you hurt yourself. Do basic, non-invasive penile enhanc… | /r/askTRP | 12/02/16 04:49 AM |
| 8 | Social Anxiety and Low Self-Esteem, I feel like I will never improve.Alright bro, so you're in a dark place. Congratulations, this is what life feels like when you are isolated. The good news is that the suffering you are doing now is necessary. All boys must be hardened through suffering and effort before they can be men. I say this as a person who RECENTLY began this transition much later in life. I am now 27, and just 2-3 months ago felt like you. You are not supposed to be comfortable right now. If you were comfortable you would die isolated and alone. Use yo… | /r/askTRP | 11/02/16 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Beta cant find courage...helpFirst off, this is completely natural. Stop talking to yourself with language like "THIS IS THE MOST BETA THING EVAR". The roots of confidence are self-trust. Accept that it is 100% normal for you to feel this way, because its something new and exciting that you've never done before. Your emotions are haywire because your hindbrain wants this really, really bad and your forebrain has no experience to fall back on regarding execution - you are in unknown territory. The fact is, this feeling is A … | /r/askTRP | 10/02/16 10:29 PM |
| 1 | What does she mean by this ?Correct answer here. The rule of thumb is that if the girl brings up sex (even in a neutral way like here) it was on her mind and in a good way. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/16 03:13 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the sad realities of the red pill?I don't get the "fake alphas" comment. Isn't every AFC and previously BP beta here trying to become a "fake alpha" by following TRP principles? Except here the knowledge exists to become a genuine alpha, not just some PUA poser who memorizes a few canned routines and acts cool until the real power arrives. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/16 03:09 PM |
| 3 | The first time I had sex with this girl I couldn't keep it erect and the night ended quite awkwardly. Didn't know what to say so I left. I am seeing her again soon; should I address the issue when I meet her or just let it be?Take a look at Sex God Method. This is a common problem with new girls and guys with limited experience (myself included); focus on Relaxation and don't try to force it right there or else you'll just add pressure and never get anywhere. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/16 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Is the quantity of beta-bux workaholics rising?This is an interesting statement, because I've always found the "80/20" rule a bit bullshit. It's not like you are comparing yourself to the billions of men in India, China and Africa because.. the women around the US, UK & Europe don't have access / interest in those men, so they don't count! Go out to a nightclub or rave, what do you see? Bet more than half the guys are "20%ers" if you were talking about a police lineup for that county, but in the context of a nightclub women are still picking… | /r/askTRP | 09/02/16 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Can you follow "MGTOW" when you have zero experience with women?Stop acting like you know what you're talking about. This is not Buddhism, it is not a "philosophy", the side bar is not the bible. This is a place for men to anonymously exchange information on sexual strategy. You are a student, not a disciple. AWALT is a warning phrase designed to teach you one thing - every woman " can" be a lying slut just like every gun "could" be loaded. Good women are out there and you can still have healthy, rewarding relationships with them... If you have the right exp… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 07:10 PM |
| 9 | Temptation.Why are you asking us for approval? If you want to fuck around, do it. If you don't, don't. Sounds like you might need to take some time to think about your relationship and what you want out of it. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 04:36 PM |
| 5 | Can you follow "MGTOW" when you have zero experience with women?1 Why are you seeking our approval? This is your decision. You should be seeking information, not approval over your decision. This is a place of knowledge not a place where people hold your hand. 2 You have essentially been MGTOW your whole life and never knew it. 3 "Healthy & Wise", I assume by this you are asking if it's reasonable for you to believe in TRP teachings regarding women's behavior and hypergamy even when you haven't seen it for yourself. The only thing I can say is that if the kn… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 04:19 PM |
| 8 | How to handle a situation I'll find myself in tonight.First off, congratulations, you have one of the ultimate wingman weapons of all time (a lesbian bff). If these two girls are even marginally attractive and you can get them laughing pretty easily and engaged light, friends-only kino (punching shoulder, playful shoving, throwing your arm around a shoulder) then your social proof is gonna go through the roof. The point is to be seen "having fun" with these two attractive women, other people watching won't know it's not sexual in nature and voila, … | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Anybody here with body dismorphia?I don't see your post as a "yes and no", just a " yes but its not perfect on the other side". What you describe is an ideal power dynamic for spinning plates, which is what a vast majority of RP dogma is geared towards empowering men to do. Oh I'm sorry, its hard for girls to not feel automatic dread in a relationship with you because girls constantly shower you with unsolicited attention? Hard life brah. Also; I have a hard time believing you couldn't alter your behavior and look in such a way … | /r/askTRP | 04/02/16 07:07 PM |
| 3 | How to be a that fun guy, and alpha/stoic at the same timePragmaticRedTruth has the more important answer pinned already. But here's something to bear in mind: Being outgoing and fun is only "beta" if you are supplicating. What I mean by that is you are attempting to entertain people around you in order to try and win their approval, e.g. to make them like you. This is wrong. Being outgoing and fun is "alpha" when you are doing it to amuse yourself. The goal is not to win anyone over, but simply to entertain yourself and have a good time. If they don't… | /r/askTRP | 04/02/16 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Anybody here with body dismorphia?This is a really solid point, but I find the social momentum behind the "halo effect" impossible to rationalize or escape. Beautiful people are literally perceived to be more valuable to society than non-beautiful people. This applies even in the extreme; if a woman is presented with two men who are both rich, she will choose the one who is rich AND attractive. In all cases, other attributes being equal, physical attractiveness wins out. It also independently carries more "weight" than any other… | /r/askTRP | 04/02/16 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Anybody here with body dismorphia?One of my favorite extractions from Chris over at Good Looking Loser: Being insecure isn't so bad. Use it as a driver for your motivation to improve and succeed. | /r/askTRP | 04/02/16 02:08 AM |
| 2 | According to AWALT, under the right circumstances, this can happen?Upvote purely for wtfness.. thought I was desensitized to this shit by now but fuck. That's just fucking sad. | /r/askTRP | 26/01/16 11:42 PM |
| 1 | How do YOU approach a skill?Heart, Discipline, Experience. Heart: come to learn, challenge yourself, be eager to crash and learn. Discipline: read, take notes, make approaches, use flash cards for concept memorization. Be consistent. Experience: The great equalizer. With repetition of effort, your new skills become easy and mundane, even automatic. This is how all learning works and how 'naturals' are able to pull it off without needing to pull up AskTRP to figure out how to respond tona shit test. They just do it, because… | /r/askTRP | 26/01/16 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Increasing self esteem/inner gameIve been suffering depression over the last few months and putting too much pressure on myself to lose my virginity My SMV isn't massively low, I've never been particularly blue pill, my frame has always been good, I stand up for myself in all situations and only do what's best for me These statements are not congruent. You need to be honest with yourself about your problems and weaknesses, that is step #1. Step #2 is realizing that these problems won't kill you and in fact most of them are fixa… | /r/askTRP | 25/01/16 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Fatherly Guidance Series: On PlanningNo idea if you're still following the users who have replied to this post, but if you are, I would appreciate your help in being accountable and consistent with this goal. FITNESS: Top goal, easily. Long term I want to put on 15-20 lbs of lean muscle, and then shred out for summer into my first 6-pack. That's not very doable in 6 months though, so let's get real. 24 weeks = 12-24 lbs, assuming I can gain at least 0.5lbs per week, at least some of which is likely to be fat. Let's plan for 50/50, … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/16 02:33 AM |
| 7 | How do you answer when asked "what do you do?"IT Engineer here, both boring to talk about (unless they are techie themselves) and instant ticket to betabuxvillle. Why fight an uphill battle with some girl whose trying to push you into a "boyfriend material" box? | /r/askTRP | 21/01/16 10:34 PM |
| 2 | How do you answer when asked "what do you do?"I caught this one once from a fatty/post-waller I wasn't even talking to (she jumped in to 'save' her hotter friend from me): "How much do you make?" "Lol.. How much do you weigh?" She took it like a champ and answered with her bodyweight, a believable 230, but I didn't care by then. Not saying its the best answer but I got a laugh out of it. | /r/askTRP | 21/01/16 10:28 PM |
| 6 | How can I spot an IOI.If a "new girl" (in a club, on a train, on the sidewalk, etc.) holds strong eye contact for ~2 seconds or more, or if she holds eye contact and then shyly looks down. If a girl bumps into you and hangs around in your 'personal area', which would be anywhere within 5 ft of you depending on the atmosphere. Sometimes she may simply place herself within 10 feet of you, expecting you to notice her. She is playing with her hair, adjusting her clothing, or generally being self-conscious while interacti… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 01:51 AM |
| 10 | I want the brutal honest truth about a vasectomy"Pregnancy fantasy" aka Sex God Method. I discussed this directly with and old plate and it's just playing on basic human instinct, both for the male and female. At the end of the day all lizard brain cares about is nutting inside a fertile female. All the fertile female cares about is getting the nut from an attractive, high value male. Deny them that and sex becomes less emotional, more technical. Give it to them in the right way at the right time and they go fucking bonkers. I've considered a… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/16 07:22 PM |
| 1 | genuinely wanting to do something VS ¨what is right¨?Be yourself, but be someone worth being. I think the point here is that being true to your identity/frame is more important than "doing it right" so that you can achieve a "result". You must become your own brand of alpha, and that does not mean acing every interaction with 100% technically correct RP vetted scripts. It means understanding the system for what it is on an intuitive level, and making sure that your behavior is congruent with: your goals + objective truths. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/16 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Practical tips for confidence and less awkwardnessRead "How to Be Happy" on IllimitableMen .com Consider joining something like Toastmasters Take up a masculine hobby or sport like boxing, rugby, martial arts or shooting. Anything that is challenging and gives you a sense of accomplishment & manliness. | /r/askTRP | 15/01/16 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Guy dances up on the girl you're with at a club. What do you do?Surprised your comment was so buried on this thread. Defense of territory is masculine and attractive. I remember a night in VIP where I simply informed any strangers (mostly men, a few women) that they were not going to drop their drinks on my table as if it was a trashcan. 100% compliance, and alot of these dudes outweighed me by ~50lbs or more and 4-6 inches, and after having done this to a half dozen people over the course of an hour, I was getting random IOIs from around the room that weren… | /r/askTRP | 13/01/16 04:32 PM |
| 4 | How do you actually overcome the hatred of sports, other than "get yo ass off the couch and lift"I was 100% like this in my gaming, very competitive. It filled the niche I think most teenage guys need, which is to shit talk, be competitive, and establish a pecking order. Only difference was instead of doing this in real life with real benefits, I did it in a bullshit fake world with bullshit fake rewards. @OP Where is this "hatred" coming from? From personal experience I hated the jocks throughout highschool, but that was out of a sense of inferiority and fear more than anything else. If I … | /r/askTRP | 13/01/16 04:24 PM |
| 2 | How do I take profile pictures for online dating?A friend I know habitually takes tons of crowd/scene pics whenever he is out and about. He will literally grab random girls and pull them in for a "selfi" or group shot. Invariably, a few of these turn out good and he has dozens of pics of just him and random hot chicks out at cool events. Rinse and repeat. | /r/askTRP | 13/01/16 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Paralyzed when trying to gameSounds like you aren't comfortable in your own skin. Trick is, I've seen plenty of ugly/fat dudes who are and still slay because they are confident and social. I know you have too. Don't wait around for "permission" to be like that aka you won't feel good about yourself until you lose that 20lbs. Learn to accept yourself as you are, warts and all, while continuing to keep your eye on the ball and always be growing. As for building physical comfort around women, take some kind of dance class. You… | /r/askTRP | 13/01/16 03:12 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to bulking, is it fine to only focus on your protein and calorie goals?The important part is to pay close attention to your body and pain signalling. For me, I would experience mild pain during or right after a set, but could easily push through and complete the lift with what I thought was good form. However, days later I would be aching so bad that I couldn't sit still at dinner or at my desk, and had trouble falling asleep. Bear in mind that I work a desk job and bad bad mechanics from that contributing as well (now fixed wih an ergonomic standing desk and bette… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 06:10 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to bulking, is it fine to only focus on your protein and calorie goals?I stopped squatting and deadlifting. I got a personal trainer and went into physical therapy for ~months. Worked my core like a madman, worked on my back chain, and slowly progressed back into doing squats and deadlifts under he supervision of an experienced trainer. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 05:56 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to bulking, is it fine to only focus on your protein and calorie goals?Your training appointment will likely reveal that you have a weak core, tight hamstrings, poor hip mobility and other issues. Like you I started SL 5x5, ignored core training and ended up with mechanical back pain. It got pretty bad (had an MRI) before I realized I was doing it to myself. When in doubt, don't work through pain. DOMS is very identifiable and easily distinguished from the 'wrong' kind of pain. But if you can't tell the difference, you don't need to be guessing. Post form videos, g… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 05:50 PM |
| 3 | New plate, continue to spin or let it drop?I watched a close friend go through something similar recently. Pretty simple equation really. Is her sex worth the drama? If yes then proceed as you already are. Sounds like you aren't at risk of falling for her bullshit so as long as she plays along then I say go for it. If its too much work then cut out. What you do NOT do is what my friend attempted - pretend like you can change her into some kind of drama free hb9 unicorn if you just "amp up your game" somehow. That's fairyland. Act accordi… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 02:16 AM |
| 1 | How to handle "potentials" who brush you off (friends, girls, etc.)What's your opinion if I fail to make any friends or meaningful connections at such a hobby-based group? I've got one in mind. I'm perfectly welcome, people are chill, and I can have an OK time, but sometimes I get the impression that I'm just the dopey guy off in the corner noone wants to talk to. Better to move on to a different group at that point? It's a good group for the hobby, which I'd like to continue practicing, but I somewhat feel like it'd be uphill trying to make anything new happen… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 01:42 AM |
| 2 | How to handle "potentials" who brush you off (friends, girls, etc.)Yeah I get it - don't chase. This question is more about how to act around people that I'm still going to be around because we're attending the same events and parties. I've caught myself being cagey about it a few times so I figure it would be good to have a concrete answer going forward. | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 01:30 AM |
| 1 | How to handle "potentials" who brush you off (friends, girls, etc.)A rare opinion on TRP to "take it easy", but one I've found to be true. Problem is I don't have too many of those people in my life right now, and it gets to be a bit of a crutch either way. I'm at a point where I'm considering more dramatic options. I was at a hostel recently and the staff there get all the social interaction anyone could ever dream of, plus the staff automatically become their own " in crowd". Volunteering for a local art club, or fuck, even a job like bartending. But I have a… | /r/askTRP | 12/01/16 01:28 AM |
| 4 | How do i get out of the habit of isolating myself and start going out to do things i want to do, but am afraid to do?You just have to brace yourself and do it man. At first it will seem scary and you will feel all bottled up, like you can't afford to make any mistakes. But over time you will realize that any mistakes you make don't really matter - and as long as you keep going, your comfort will build and you will feel a sense of freedom that comes after crossing that barrier. | /r/askTRP | 11/01/16 05:41 PM |
| 3 | How do I stop beating myself up over mistakes?Search for a post on the main sub: "One key step to not giving a fuck". Realize that 99.9% of people don't care enough to scrutinize every detail of your behavior, and even if they did, no one is perfect. Stop acting like every little action matters. Also read: Zen Archery. You may need to finish the book before you understand, but your goal is not to " hit the target". Your goal is to "hit yourself". To achieve state in your own frame, and from within that frame to operate out of want/interest/… | /r/askTRP | 11/01/16 01:56 PM |
| 3 | Why can't I do it?Discipline is a muscle. This is one of the biggest reasons TRP commands you to lift. Get in the gym 3x a week, full stop. If you have the money, hire a personal trainer. I find this helps keep me accountable in showing up because if I don't I waste money and lose the trainers respect. After a few months, it will be a habit and you will feel bad about missing even one day (although it happens). You then take this discipline and apply it everywhere else in life its needed - socializing, studying, … | /r/askTRP | 10/01/16 05:24 PM |
| 5 | I am a 19 year old man and my family has literally emasculated me for my whole life. I would appreciate any advice for how to deal with my feminist family.Think as you like, but behave like others. Your winter break is a small time period compared to your overall semester. Play the character that makes your parents continue supporting your education - a few weeks of misery is worth tuition and a potential future career that involves something more than flipping burgers. At school, enjoy the freedom and take your studies seriously. Get internships and apply for grants, scholarships, join a fraternity, etc. If you want to do something your parents w… | /r/askTRP | 08/01/16 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Considering everything I read. What is the the hardest thing I will be learning.Do a search on the main sub for OmLala, find his Shit Test posts, learn, enjoy. | /r/askTRP | 08/01/16 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?Yeah OK I see it now - I'm thinking about this from an outcome dependent perspective, trying to ensure the best chance for success. When what I should be doing is screening her as early as possible to make sure I either get what i want (sexual frame) or waste zero time. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?I can see your point, especially since she called me a friend in the txt. Even so, wouldn't this escalation/framing be better off done in person once she's (theoretically) at my apt cooking dinner? | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?Definitely see why that response is better, thanks for taking the time to spell it out for me. I often get stuck trying to find a balance between holding frame and making an overture, especially since texting is time sensitive. Just gonna need a ton more practice I suppose. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?I feel like this is more of a "fallback test" than a branchswing. But that may just be my shit confidence. I seriously doubt she is looking at me as an alpha fucks to keep around while she moves in with this other guy. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 05:07 PM |
| -2 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?I dunno, to me this sounds tryhard. If she comes over she knows we are fucking, or if she plays coy I have zero qualms about telling her to leave. Refer to "Generalizing your way into her panties" post on the main sub. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Ex-Plate texted "hey, how are you"? Did I handle this right?Ok, I see your point here. So cut out the "wasn't expecting..." part and keep the "why hit me up"? Or is there a better response altogether you can think of / provide as an alternative? I realize alot of this is context dependent, but do what you can. | /r/askTRP | 06/01/16 04:32 PM |
| 3 | Prone to negative thoughts? Acknowledge, Learn And Move On (ALAMO)I'm still drudging through the waters of anxiety and depression as I attempt to improve my value and accept myself, but THIS ONE THING has been a massive change for me. Up until a few weeks ago I would always talk at myself in my head or in the mirror, and the language would end up being condescending or negative... "you took a whole year to hit goal xyz", "you need to work alot harder", "will you ever make it?" Even though the core truth is still that I need to work harder and give less fucks, … | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 11:32 PM |
| 1 | 30 Day Challenge - Small Talk Part 2: Women BoogalooAh, I missed that part. Makes sense. Still, practice is practice, and it costs you nothing. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 09:43 PM |
| 2 | 30 Day Challenge - Small Talk Part 2: Women BoogalooIt's not really that hard. Talk to cashiers, receptionists, whatever, and just try to steer the conversation away from "all business". Talk about your day, ask about her new years eve and whether she had fun, etc. Talk to men and women who you don't feel attracted to, I'm counting those minutes against my goal because I'm aiming to become more socially competent in general not just chatting up girls. But don't use that as an excuse. Warm up with the easy challenges, and when the opportunity come… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 07:58 PM |
| 3 | 30 Day Challenge - Small Talk Part 2: Women BoogalooThis is a perfect challenge for me this month really. I've been avoiding small talk because I feel like its useless and boring but the more I do it the better I get, and the better I get the more comfortable I am opening strangers in general. I am actually more comfortable in the middle of conversations (mid-level investment from my "marks") and often comfortably and effectively lead with stories, remarks and questions. But for some reason I always feel needy striking uo conversation with a stra… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 07:50 PM |
| 6 | 30 Day Challenge - Small Talk Part 2: Women BoogalooThanks for your comment. I'm trying damn hard go learn to be more outgoing, gregarious and socially competent but it goes against alot of my natural instincts and its been a very slow process. Progress is progress though, and posts like yours encourage me to keep grinding. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 06:08 PM |
| 0 | Daddy's Home - The Betas Will Fall by the Wayside"Sharing territory" with a perceived alpha allows room for the argument that you are now alpha yourself. I say that because I share a bit of the same problem, whether it's sexual or not. "Sharing" leadership of a group establishes status which is anchored with the other leaders, which can be good for someone starting out, even though leading a group on your own/de-facto is more preferable. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Fatherly Guidance Series: On NetworkingCould you please offer some more detailed reasoning for why you believe this to be true? When attending parties or casual/public functions, it's one thing to be introduced to people through the friend who invited and vouched you into their circle. It seems odd to me however to seek out the host/organizer for the sole purpose of an introduction to other people you don't already know. They might be willing to do it, but any "vouching" that occurs here is extremely superficial at best, and might ev… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/01/16 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Cock Carousel and the beta bux boyfriendObviously low N-count goes a long way towards a woman's desirability, for the reasons you listed and more. This is one thing I may actually be able to look forward to since I pass as rather young for my age so I'm hoping to game the 16-20something crowd for years to come without being 'creepy old'. 26 now but I could say I'm 18 and have it fly if I felt the inclination. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/15 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Cock Carousel and the beta bux boyfriendThe truthiness is strong. Thanks. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/12/15 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Cock Carousel and the beta bux boyfriendThe fuck is a Skittles Guy? Taste the Rainbow I'm assuming? | /r/TheRedPill | 28/12/15 03:28 PM |
| 9 | Cock Carousel and the beta bux boyfriendSomething important to remember about this polarity is that even if you don't ascribe to it - e.g. "I'm just amoral TRP, not a 'bad boy'.." Other people will categorize you according to appearances. Even the woman/interviewer in this dateline story drew the same comparison. If you present as a Nice Guy and then somehow have game, you are going to be fighting an uphill battle for building genuine attraction. The same is also true in reverse and ive seen the whining from Bad Boys just as frequentl… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/12/15 03:26 PM |
| 1 | How to get rid of physical awkwardness?Consider taking a dance class, like Swing or Salsa. This allows you to out your hands on and lead women in a socially approved way and will probably go a long way towards helping any issues you have. For similar reasons, any contact sport or martial art may also help. | /r/askTRP | 28/12/15 03:42 AM |
| 6 | How do you adapt an entitled personality?It's a muscle, just like anything else. Looking people in the eye can be seen as threatening or a challenge so the BP world tells you to be polite and not stare. Then you graduate to small talk, cracking jokes, and giving hi-fives to strangers. Somewhere in there you drop your ego and become one with The Game. You get the idea. | /r/askTRP | 25/12/15 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Fuck buddy tells me she fucked a hung black guy - shit testCan't help you with an A&A, but I had this happen from a recent plate while she was laying in my bed naked. Internally it bothered me that she'd be bringing up her ex-BF's dick, which of course, has to be bigger than mine. But I just ignored it and moved on, couldn't tell / didn't care if it showed that it bothered me, still fucked, etc. I think the worst response of all is to show that you are affected and/or ask them not to talk about that kind of shit anymore, because then they know they hit … | /r/askTRP | 24/12/15 02:11 AM |
| 4 | Tried to handle a shit test, how could I have done better?This "not nice" language comes up when they have categorized you as a provider (beta). It's a bad kind of shit test because there are fewer options for a pass. I run into this occasionally because I know enough not to act like a total 100% BP bitch, but am still very much an alpha-in-training and often give off the wrong vibe, then try to course-correct, but it's too late. You started out ok (dismissive, playful, amused mastery) and then got serious, which is a fail. I might have tried something… | /r/askTRP | 24/12/15 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Personal trainer?Disclaimer: I work a desk job and was never fit to begin with. I started on StrongLifts 5x5 almost immediately after finding TRP. First and most important step, right? Start lifting. A few months later I was in agonizing pain almost every day, couldn't stay out late at parties or clubs, sometimes couldn't sleep it got so bad. I had injections done, went to a pain doctor practically begging for narcotics, did a nerve study and even an MRI. In short, I fucked myself up by neglecting core training,… | /r/askTRP | 23/12/15 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Just can't bring myself to approaching womenThis is rock solid advice. I just came back from about 3hrs at the mall where I could not bring myself to approach a single girl, just because I felt like chatting up a random girl who was either A) busy or B) alone/waiting would be like some kind of creepy PUA ambush. I've made this trip to the mall 4-5 times over the last couple months and its emotionally exhausting to go, not approach a single girl and go home. Any other advice like this you can offer which is like "babysteps" for building up… | /r/askTRP | 23/12/15 11:20 PM |
| 2 | PSA: If you're new here, social media is a poison for you.Wow. Thank you. This makes alot of fucking sense. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/12/15 04:37 PM |
| 5 | Dooble's guide to taking women off of a pedestal. Part 2: Femininity is just deficient masculinity.Agreed. I thought part 1 was direct, logical and extremely helpful. This post is well intentioned but lacks any of the same grit. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/12/15 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Desperate for Confidence. Seems so easy and yet so hard...Pick a hobby that provides you with regular social exposure. Dance is a good one, because it will force you to interact with the great white buffalo of your fear until you realize it's just not that bad. The list is really endless though: Paintball, Flowarts, runners club, Hiking club, Yoga club / coed fitness groups Situations like this are great intros to being social, because the only thing you need to bring is your ass, maybe a small fee and you have instant "social cause" to be there by sha… | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Considering a Vasectomy.. but I may want kids one day.I'll take a look at the sub, thanks for the recommendation. Understand I'm coming at this with the objective of controlling my life - the risk of getting some plate pregnant because I haven't been able to effectively use condoms is pretty real. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the customs from UK take care of that problem. From what I've read alot of success is being had in reversal surgeries, and though it's not cheap its basically just a down payment on raising kids. Plus there is always fr… | /r/askTRP | 11/12/15 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Should i always be closing?This was a tough one for me until I found a great analogy from shooting; closing with women is like squeezing a trigger. The squeeze is slow, even and consistent. You jerk it too hard, it'll come off desperate and rushed. You wait too long, she'll get bored, lose interest or think you are a loser. I think this phrase is better overall: "Always be escalating". | /r/askTRP | 11/12/15 02:26 AM |
| 5 | I talk and think like a bitch. I have an inferiority complex, and when I bring it to the surface I go full anti-social. I want to learn how to deal with this.Did you even read his post? Jesus christ. So your social skills are inferior. I've been there. You know how I finally started to get better? A shitty, awkward meetup.com group that got me socializing with other rejects. Go do something about it. | /r/askTRP | 11/12/15 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Tips on the transition from college to working life? What are some things you wish you had done?Get a social hobby. I fell into the 9-5 life and let my existing bad habits consume my free time (girlfriend and video games 90% of the time, and a few parties thrown in). Dancing, Soccer, Runners Club, whatever. Just make sure it gets your ass out of the house and socializing with people at least once a week. This will go a long way to curbing any cabin fever you may build up from the change to the way your free time works. | /r/askTRP | 10/12/15 02:54 AM |
| 1 | How to move on from getting numbersIt's a long climb. When I first started out I was CONVINCED that if I worked hard enough, efficiently enough, I could be slaying pussy in a couple months. The reality is that learning RP and committing to good habits is just the first of many steps. Depending on where your SMV is currently, it may take months, even years for you to see real dividends. The guys who post in the main thread about finding TRP and banging 9s after a month or two already had high SMV, they just didn't have a roadmap t… | /r/askTRP | 10/12/15 02:49 AM |
| 2 | "I love you", it's coming....This isn't much of a question. When people ask for advice, the advice needs to be specific. We can't tell you what to want, we can only give you advice on how to achieve something that you have already decided to want. Do you want to love this girl? Do you want her to continue "loving" you, without needing to officially reciprocate? Do you want her to back off so you can keep things casual? These are questions that you need to answer. Personally, I am also terrified of loving a woman knowing wha… | /r/askTRP | 10/12/15 02:39 AM |
| 2 | Brothers, need some tough love.Sounds like you work hard to build value, but remember to do things that you enjoy and engage in focused relaxation. Nothing is more rewarding to me sometimes than smoking a bowl and watching a movie 10pm-midnight after a week's worth of good deeds. Get a massage, hang out with friends, spend time in nature. Are you engaging in any hobbies? A good social hobby like dancing might do well to both entertain you and provide value over time. Regarding ED/PE, this is almost always mental. I have even … | /r/askTRP | 10/12/15 02:29 AM |
| -3 | Living Alone Now. Anyone had Paranoia because of this? Making me super anxious and beta compared to previously.Get a dog if you're able to and it fits your lifestyle. And a gun. There is no better security system than an alert, loyal dog who can recognize the difference between your footsteps and the mailman's from 30 yards off the front door. But it's normal. I felt that way too and just got used to it - don't want a new dog right now. I do sleep with a gun on my nightstand though and have learned to dislike the fact that my apt is terrace level. | /r/askTRP | 06/12/15 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Urgently need advice on networking/relarionships/trustAre they competitors? If they are as good of friends as you say then it shouldn't be a problem. Being interested in your own success shouldn't offend anyone, and if it does, those people are not really your friend to begin with. Just make sure your mentor knows that you are still interested in working on projects with him as well, if it is mutually beneficial to you both. | /r/askTRP | 01/12/15 03:59 PM |
| 3 | I've Swallowed TRP, Been Reading Alot And Trying To Socialise But Everytime I Do I End Up Back Into Some Of My BP Ways.My experience was that finally, after reading the entire sidebar, reading tons of FRs and posts, and watching a shit ton of videos, my world had become clearer. I could see things more for the way they are after a night's introspection, or maybe if I referred back to some notes and said hey, now I get why she said that, that was a shit test, I should have said xyz. For more complex observations I reach out to my trusted male peers or even TRP, and then take notes, and have a better understanding… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/15 02:34 PM |
| 3 | I've Swallowed TRP, Been Reading Alot And Trying To Socialise But Everytime I Do I End Up Back Into Some Of My BP Ways.I upvoted you but this really depends on OP's mindset and what lifestyle he is used to. As an introvert I found it counter-productive to force myself into social situations when I wasn't feeling "up for it". It caused me to be irritable, withdrawn, and disappointed. On the flip side, keeping my options for socialization open and only going to the events I'm genuinely excited about and ready for (e.g. life/work/health ready) lets me enjoy those events alot more and have more positive experiences … | /r/askTRP | 01/12/15 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexI get it. You are right (all of you are). I'm pulling back, started yesterday when I claimed to be bored and went home without her. She'll be at a party with mutual friends tonight but I'm not going home with her. If she pushes me for validation/comfort whatever, I'll just say I'm busy with work. I'm going to conveniently forget the stupid shit I've said about liking her, and treat this strictly as FWB. If she doesn't like being a friend and getting fucked then oh well, on to the next. Thanks fo… | /r/askTRP | 01/12/15 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexI know you're right, and maybe I am the one getting spun, but look at this from my perspective. She is sexual and submissive as fuck. Ive never had that experience before and want as much "practice" treating her like a slut as i can get before the plate drops. The kid is in another state and she has no pending plans to have him around. Yeah, I would be a fucking moron to get hooked with her. I get it. But every day with her so far I'm telling her more what to do, how to do it, than any previous … | /r/askTRP | 30/11/15 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexMy apologies - "previously" all of my experience was serial monogamy exactly as you described. I would never LTR this girl. I just want to make good use of the shop time and have fun doing it. | /r/askTRP | 29/11/15 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexShe had bruises and shit, but that's sorta besides the point. I have some pretty deep performance anxiety tho so I guess that's the concern with making sure she really orgasms. Might take a vibrator to her and see what she does and if its "the same". Promising though to be reminded that not all girls are the same - if she's honestly that easy to get off then i wont complain lol | /r/askTRP | 28/11/15 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexI don't ask her, she is telling me 'omg I came so much there must be come all over you' but I'm skeptical. I've both seen and delivered good, hard orgasms before and they are rather hard to miss. Your advice is rock solid though and makes alot of sense. She is submissive too I'm just not used to treating a woman like a slut. Does one "ask" for anal under such circumstances? Just tell her that I'm going for it? Can't imagine I'd have any problems making her feel like a slut with a little buttseck… | /r/askTRP | 28/11/15 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Landed my First Plate, but want advice for sexChill your nuts, the kid is out of state, she ain't hitting me up for cash and she sucks a mean D. Her pussy ain't busted. | /r/askTRP | 28/11/15 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Is it really considered a hobby if I have to force myself to do it?When I was big into gaming I played two types of games. Shit like Shadowbane, Dark Fall, StarCraft and EvE Online fed my competitive side. I got good and crushed noobs. Games like Baldurs Gate, Dragon Age, Skyrim, etc. were all about immersion, getting high and escaping reality. My favorite games were both immersive and competitive. And then, one day, I realized the truth (pre-TRP even). The best video game in the world with richest graphics, most awesome storyline and acting, most competitive a… | /r/askTRP | 28/11/15 04:32 PM |
| 4 | How to be more open and fun? (18)That's pretty much why people drink, kid. Pay attention at parties and you'll notice things loosen up and start getting fun after everybody has had a round or two of alcohol put in em. Learn to.open everyone, even strangers in public, with casual conversation. Do your part to keep the dialogue flowing by asking easy questions you know they can and will want to answer (man that's a cool hat! Where'd you get it from?) Take a genuine interest in people, learn about them, listen to their stories. Ev… | /r/askTRP | 28/11/15 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?Thanks for this. Ironically, I sound alot like the guy in your first couple paragraphs. Corporate job, reasonable social exposure, quasi-alpha workplace behavior, good gym habit, some kind of style (lazier here than other areas), string of monogamous GFs. All of these areas can be improved so much though. I told one of my best "alpha friends" that it feels like I was climbing what I thought was the mountain, and when I got to the top, I realized it was just a plateau in the foothills. I looked u… | /r/askTRP | 27/11/15 11:33 PM |
| 3 | I'm always comparing myself to other guysIt's a hard path bro. This is your harrowing. Redpill reality would shrivel the sack of tons of men the world probably thinks of as "macho" and "alpha". Like Neo, you are on your hands and knees, dizzy, sick, saying.. I don't believe it. It's not real. I don't believe it. Puke. And that is why you fail. It is why I fail. It is why anyone fails. Change begins inside you. You have to decide, once and forever, that post-TRP the only option is to fight up to the 20% or die trying. It doesn't matter … | /r/askTRP | 26/11/15 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?Yeah that's the hardest part right? I've had pussy up on a pedestal my whole life. Now I'm trying to become more successful at life and women, but I'm being told... Don't focus on women?! But I'm trying to be more successful with them! NMMNG has been pretty helpful so far. It makes sense to me, logically, to stop worrying about women so much. I just need to internalize it more. | /r/askTRP | 26/11/15 04:40 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being scared of rejection?What if you have a poor social circle / or just aren't very good at making friends? I interact with people alright, but I have general social anxiety and inexperience compounding the problems of cold approach and women. No "close friends" or "regular bros" I really hang out with. The groups I do hang out with are a bunch of acquaintances at public events, or grab bag parties where I don't get much attention or respect thrown my way. I have no one to hang out with besides these regular venues. | /r/askTRP | 22/11/15 12:11 AM |
| 3 | The Question.Lol that last sentence made me bust out laughing. These have been the hardest months of my life, and I've had very little success so far to "build" my confidence on. I have this logical, intellectual awareness that if I could get out of my own way and start to behave confidently, and approach and game larger numbers of women in that mindset, I would do just fine. But actually doing a thing and just knowing you should do it can be worlds apart. One is knowing the truth, the other is internalizing… | /r/askTRP | 21/11/15 01:45 AM |
| 8 | The Question.Ask not for a lighter load, but for broader shoulders. Value is not something you build in a day, a week, a month, or even a year. It is something you build over your lifetime. If you just swallowed the pill and are just starting to consciously build your value as a man, settle in. It's a tall motherfucking mountain and the only way to get to the top is one step at a time. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Such a thing as too much kino? Or kino without correct escalation behind it? aka "Nice Guy kino"Sounds about right. John has a knack for getting all the girls. I'm around him just to learn. Tough though - very hard to gauge whether I should approach girls I meet through him because it always seems like a setup to look low value. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?Not sure I'll give the same courtesy to the next girl - Preselection is too powerful to surrender under normal circumstances. The whole wedding ring on the finger & get hit on theory. I'm still on the climb up with very limited social and sexual experience, being a single male of the lower 80% suuuuucks. She deserved a clean break though because she never actually did me wrong (that I'm aware of or suspect). Was just a matter of needing to grow outside the bounds of that one relationship. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?I did the right thing. With her, I was a beta-bitch living happily in my safe monogamous little bubble.. except that I was secretly terrified she would cheat on me with the first 'alpha' that crossed her path. After reading TRP, I also realized she was an alpha-widow. Ex cheated on her all over the place and she put up with it for months/years, then finally broke it off and in the pit of her despair, found a skinny little white knight (our protagonist; SovereignWings) to save her and make her fe… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?I think this is a natural step in the process. For me, the choice was marriage to a girl with subpar sex (but other great relationship qualities), or this. I chose this because I had never before been "Tested", nor sought to find the limits of my potential. Sidebar-ists will tell you that we are in the Anger phase. Really, I'm in the everything but denial phase. I'm angry, mostly at myself. I'm depressed due to lack of success and quantifiable progress. I accept the fact that yes, this is the wa… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 08:10 PM |
| 8 | Did any of you fail TRP in the long run?I feel like I am "failing". Found TRP last year, dumped my LTR to "grow and become RP" and about the only things I've significantly changed so far is to better understand how fucking incompetent I am at social engineering/Machiavellianism/game. And I am a bit bigger from lifting, maybe 10lbs. I look good in the mirror but my confidence has never been lower. In the four months since I broke it off with my GF I've been on exactly one date (who promptly escaped into the arms of an alpha without any… | /r/askTRP | 20/11/15 03:35 PM |
| 5 | The Three Types of StrengthMeditation is how you come to understand your emotions, and through understanding them, grow stronger. Spirituality is merely one aspect of your emotional construct. He meant two hours a day all-together; on physical, mental, and emotional strength. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/15 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Take control of your healthThey make more money by keeping you on the hook. I've dealt - am dealing with - chronic lower back pain for over three years. I'm on anti-inflammatories, nerve relaxers (antiseizure med), nsaid patches, had injections, etc. The amount of money the pain docs get off of giving you an injection is retarded. I'll never have another, fucking useless. Know what has finally started to work? Big surprise. Lift. Core. Stretch. More core. I lifted incorrectly starting out, neglected my core, and got worse… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/15 03:58 AM |
| 6 | Female prosecutor found having sex with a criminalThis is a good point, and the same kind of logic trap is easy to fall into all across the sidebar. "Women ain't nothin but bitches and sluts" in the same breath as "why ain't I gettin' laid yet?" Basically what you said is the difference between reading an idea and internalizing it. The two are not one and the same. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/11/15 03:53 AM |
| 1 | A shitty FR and What went wrong?Thanks. That's the kind of answer I was looking for, and makes sense. | /r/askTRP | 09/11/15 10:02 PM |
| 0 | A shitty FR and What went wrong?Was drunk, tired, and ain't been laid in 4 months. But you're right. I shouldn't have wanted to. This is more an academic question that may allow me to pass LMR and avoid failing shit tests in similar scenarios. | /r/askTRP | 09/11/15 06:41 PM |
| 1 | This ain't a fuckin Ferrari dealership! (And probably never will be?)This is a good point and often a source of anxiety/concern for me, because I usually feel like the only things I am doing right are keeping my job, lifting, and eating more clean. Those aren't bad things but I have made shitty progress in the cold approach, game, and social circle categories. I'll check out your link. I'm already reading How to Win Friends and Influence People. Any other good material you might be able to point me at regarding social anxiety/social game problems? | /r/askTRP | 09/11/15 05:49 PM |
| 1 | This ain't a fuckin Ferrari dealership! (And probably never will be?)So I wanted to follow up on this - because it sounds like one of the most actionable places I can try to make improvement. I've been reading up and down RP about building confidence, keeping myself busy, etc. But part of my problem is I feel practically autistic when it comes to making friends. I don't know how to treat people who I want to be around more often. Usually I end up asking to hang out with these people, and they ignore me. Even when they don't, I'll be the one who asks to hang out 2… | /r/askTRP | 09/11/15 05:46 PM |
| 1 | This ain't a fuckin Ferrari dealership! (And probably never will be?)Riiiight? There is one dude in my office who is a hardcore liftbro with mad firearms but tiny wrists like mine. I hit him up for advice now and then bug mostly just SEEING him, knowing that once long ago he was skinny af, gives me some hope. Also he seems to wear Gshocks. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/15 04:48 AM |
| 1 | This ain't a fuckin Ferrari dealership! (And probably never will be?)Thanks man. I'm all natural and would never go on gear, most I could ever consider is medically supervised test or hgh. Too many ways to go wrong (RIP Zyzz). But the rest is solid. I have a BAMF trainer who has shown me in the last month that I was lifting incorrectly for the last year, leading to chronic pain, mediocre gains, etc. I'm also at a steady caloric excess for the first time in my life (3200/day) at 195g protein intake currently 150lbs. The personal anecdote absolutely helps. I mean, … | /r/askTRP | 04/11/15 11:38 PM |
| 1 | This ain't a fuckin Ferrari dealership! (And probably never will be?)This is much better than the go lift hurr durr eat more hurr durr platitudes. Wiki actually lists him at 6.5" and I think mine are 5.5-6 but still. Maybe one day Zyzz will smile upon me with aesthetics. | /r/askTRP | 04/11/15 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Ideal Living Situation for a Growth / Social Development LifestyleThanks. | /r/askTRP | 03/11/15 04:32 AM |
| 3 | 18 years of lack of friendshipsThose people don't matter. Your job from this day forward is to care more about yourself than about those people. Will you be annoying, child-like and autistic? Probably. But everyone sucks when they first start out. I'm no casa nova, but I've come a tremendously long way socially, personally and romantically over the last 3 years. The process of improving yourself IS the reward. Do it for yourself, fill up your time with productive shit, and learn to believe in yourself and stop taking every li… | /r/askTRP | 28/10/15 02:21 AM |
| 3 | 18 years of lack of friendshipsRead How to Make Friends & Influence People, Dale Carnegie Open everyone. Let people in on your "inner dialogue". Think someone's shoes look funny? Say it but in a polite/non insulting way. Let them in on your inner thoughts and be comfortable in the knowledge that you aren't going to get laughed down. Ignored? Maybe. Not everyone has time for small talk, but that's ok. You'll go about your day and make some random comment about the next person's shoes and it won't matter. It's all just a blip. … | /r/askTRP | 27/10/15 08:38 PM |
| 5 | How to not feel mentally wrecked (anxiety, dread, depression) after swallowing TRP? Specifically about self-improvement?I have a hard time reconciling loving and accepting oneself with the self improvement goals I have set out. You are already awesome; you are just becoming a little more awesome every day. All hail RSDTyler: 3 P's of Neediness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUNQ4Jfpj7o In brief: Learn how to focus on the present, without dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. This is like a muscle, the more you use it the better you'll become. Focus on creating a positive, value-adding lifestyle that… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/15 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Not HappyI'm in much the same place as you. Here are a few suggestions that have worked for me: Find a hobby that encourages social contact (soccer, paintball, flowart, dancing, etc.) and BECOME A CONTRIBUTOR TO YOUR SCENE. Don't just go there to hit in chicks and half ass your skill - become part of the landscape. The idea is that you use this hobby as a superficial excuse to meet people, both guys and girls, and then bridge out into parties, trips, lunches, and other shit. Make contacts and invite them… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/15 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Social Anxiety Holding Me BackEver jump into a cold pool or lake? You tense up and get anxious right before the plunge. But once you're in, it's not so bad. That's social anxiety. When that feeling creeps up, just realize you are in fact headed in the right direction (social exposure/progress) and take the plunge. Eventually you will learn that no, in fact, it will not kill you. You will not be ostracized from the non-existent caveman tribe your hindbrain thinks you still live in. In fact, your life will only get better the … | /r/askTRP | 28/09/15 04:15 AM |
| 3 | How To Be "Alpha" In The Male Social HierarchyI'm becoming more influential and aggressive in conversations as I read and practice RP; ran into this situation just last night without really realizing what I was doing wrong. I thought the guy just had it in for me, but he was the higher value in that situation (passing out tons of drugs, elder/grandpa member of the scene, venerated-supercool guy) and I would keep "interrupting" him because I wanted to actually engage some of his points instead of just listening to him ramble. I got the drift… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/09/15 02:50 AM |
| 7 | Jealous because your buddy pulled and you not!GO FUCKING LIFT AND IMPROVE YOURSELF. Be happy for other men's successes and you will stop dwelling on your own insecurities. There is a certain member of my wider friend circle who is a Chad Thundercock. HB6-9s will actively open him in clubs without him having to lift a finger. There was a lengthy discussion about his favorite sexual moment, where a girl did a line of coke off his 9" cock (believable). Thing is, I feel like it's useful to me hanging out with him. It's psychologically beneficia… | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 09:26 AM |
| 2 | How do you have fun at parties?Every person has value. It took me a while, but I realized eventually even boring, "unattractive" and uninteresting people can be used. Those people often know other people. They will be very appreciative of your attention because you are higher SMV. Once you realize this, you can make friends with lower SMV people and then meet their circle of friends, which might include people and hotties you are actually interested in. | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 09:15 AM |
| 1 | How do you have fun at parties?First off, go to fun parties. Watch this video and focus in on the macro/micro process of obtaining "state". This is a theory where you find what makes parties fun for you, and what triggers your ability to have fun by achieving state. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUNQ4Jfpj7o For me, "having fun" includes opening new people, talking to them, learning about their stories, then interacting, joking, teasing, fucking with them, etc. This create rapport and builds social value because I am very, v… | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 09:11 AM |
| 1 | An approach a day, keeps the beta away.See mine is some sinister shit. I lift, I feel OK, maybe push through the mildest of pains, and then 24-48 hours later it goes FUCK YOURSELF INTO A DITCH MOTHERFUCKER. Docs for days and always consuming literature about posture, core training, shoes to wear, exercises to do. Fun stuff. But if its fixable I'll fix it, and then shits goin down | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/15 08:14 PM |
| 7 | As you hit 30, you really start to understand the true meaning of 'the wall'.Wow dude. This shit is golden. It should be sidebar material. Just this passage alone makes so much fucking sense about why women are so catty and shitty to each other: This is why an exchange of compliments between two women is much more ridiculous than between two men. Further, while a man will, as a rule, address others, even those inferior to himself, with a certain feeling of consideration and humanity, it is unbearable to see how proudly and disdainfully a lady of rank will, for the most p… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/15 03:44 PM |
| 3 | As you hit 30, you really start to understand the true meaning of 'the wall'.No, and they generally stop receiving alimony at all if they marry or cohabitate with a new man (and it is brought to the court's attention.) | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/15 03:13 PM |
| 1 | An approach a day, keeps the beta away.Does your training create pain? Are you in treatment with a physician or PT? I'd love to be squatting but I have low back disc herniations to work through and have been told numerous times that if training creates pain its bad (duh). I still go workout, but my main efforts are core strength, stability training and flexibility/ROM. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/15 03:06 PM |
| 1 | This might sound dumb, but how can you think less about women and more about your own future ?If you think being financially independent will make women come flocking to you, think again. Advertising your money as a method of attracting women is also a good way to become betabux. Single mommy for days but they ain't there for you buddy. Read the sidebar. Cold approach. Practice social circle game. Get a hobby that involves you with other people (paintball, basketball, flow arts, dancing, etc.) The point is it gets you interacting with people in a socially reinforced environment. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/15 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Text Game Analysis / Soft Next ApplicationThis feels like the correct answer to me. I've got nothing against running Snapchat game in the long-term I just didn't want to do it "special" just for her. Sends the wrong message especially if my pics are weak (still learning how to run social media game & take decent pictures). Think I'm gonna put this one down as a learning experience and move along. Reaching out to her in any way at this point feels too desperate. If she wants to hang out she can txt me. If not, her loss. | /r/askTRP | 11/09/15 01:44 AM |
| 3 | I look terrible in pictures.I've got the same problem. I look decent enough in the mirror, and seem to get good reactions from girls when out in the field as for my looks, but I always think I take horribad pictures. See if this helps, and others like it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe3oJnFtA_k | /r/askTRP | 10/09/15 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Pissed Off (Going Clean)I've tried alot of substances, but most of them only once. I walked away from each experience realizing that the only person holding me back from having a great time, mingling and approaching with confidence, was myself. That is a goldmine for someone who simply lacked awareness of their own potential as I did. Those people didn't know I was fucked up when I rolled into their lives and had such an awesome time. They just saw me, being outgoing and having fun. But I still agree with OPs point. Ab… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/08/15 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSYou are now followed. I'm not sure if you were smoking meth last night or are just a naturally evocative writer, because you talk a huge game and it seems crazy to me (from my perspective). But I can see that the ideas themselves are rooted in simple truths. Again, thanks for your help. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSIt's easier to impress with status the younger and less worldly the woman is. AKA the most desirable kind of woman. I guess you've just helped me identify which of the 3 attributes I most need to expand on. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSI'll take it from your comment that you are not a man. I don't need to explain any of this to you, but since you are here and posting in a TRP subreddit, lets see how far down the rabbit hole you're willing to go. If she's happy, you're fine Wrong. A woman's happiness is not the source of my value or confidence. My value and confidence comes from competence and repeated successes in many areas of life, such as fitness, friendship, career, sports AND women. Furthermore, a woman's happiness is inc… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSLOL your vernacular for this shit is on point. Thanks man. I've kicked around the comedy club idea and will add karaoke to the list. Any tips for throwing parties out of a boring apartment in the suburbs? Signed my lease before finding TRP and its not up til march. Should I focus on destination events like camping, tubing, road tripping to nearby cities, etc.? | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSConfidence is built. I'm starting to realize I'm not as bad off as I had feared, and that has brought me miles ahead if where I used to be, but I'm not actualized with it yet. I am still experimenting with my limits and pushing comfort zones and very much enjoying the results so far but it is all very new to me so I have not internalized abundance and value. My confidence so far is very situational (dance clubs are a good vibe for me) and swings up and down depending on my successes or failures.… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSThanks for your replies here. I'm saving it all for reference. It makes a lot of sense, but you are also speaking from a position of top 20% value. I don't have that yet, I'm in the process of building my way towards it. I can't kick any HB9s out of bed and hand them my Uber affiliate card until I actually get HB9s to start realizing I exist, get them to engage with me and then get them into bed in the first place. Your shit makes sense, there is just alot of information between where I am now a… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSI am more financially successful than most of my immediate friends, and any of my direct peers among those friends. There are people I know who make more, but they tend to be 10 to 20 years older than I am, so I figure I have catching up to do before I hit the peak in my career. Am I not displaying this value in the right way to people? I tend to be rather humble about it other than being pretty blasè about spending money, but I'm not signalling with any conspicuous purchases or luxury items eit… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Comparing myself to Chads & how to balance value in the Holy Trinity of LMSIf I'm not mistaken, the "how can I get laid" is the bargaining phase, which comes after the anger phase. Don't get me wrong, I realize that I need to work on myself, for myself, and for noone else. But obviously as men we must also take active roles in opening opportunities and pursuing options for sex - not like the girls will walk up and do it for you (usually). So how do you reconcile this? Are you suggesting I should just build value and never lift a finger to pursue women until they are be… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Where can I learn game?There is an adage I've seen on the main sub many times. PUA teaches you how to spit out canned lines. TRP teaches you how to build your own value and figure it out for yourself, which ideally means you always come off as authentic. Kind of obvious which one you should aim for. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/15 07:57 AM |
| 1 | Requesting feedback on my current situationI'm in a similar position. I even live with my father (although he's a pilot and gone 80% of the time). I am going through all of the same growing pains - in highschool and college I was a void of presence and game, and now I have to learn it all from scratch with TRP and its various resources as my only guide. What I've learned so far? Just go do it. I find myself spitting out portions of RP knowledge without really thinking about it. When you approach a girl you will instinctively draw upon yo… | /r/askTRP | 01/08/15 07:54 AM |
| 8 | What does asktrp do for a living?SysAdmin. I push buttons and solve logical puzzles that have finite and specific answers, which is actually kind of refreshing because most things in life are not so structured. I took 3 years of freshman-sophomore level STEM courses in college with the idea of being a doctor until I realized it would take 14+ years to become fully "educated". Dropped out, started in techsupport, worked my way up. The only ceiling is the one I create. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/15 07:47 AM |
| 5 | What are some 'Green flags' you have seen in women you've dated, LTR's, etc?Girl let me know she had HPV before the first time we had sex and was real torn up over it. I took a week or so to think about it and consult my doctor, but I always appreciated her honesty and the fact that she was willing torisk letting me reject her in order to share the truth. Ended up LTRing her. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/15 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Broke Off 6 Year LTR / Reeling on Hardcore Oneitis, Could use AdviceYes I dumped her for a reason, but the voice of doubt is coming from that place of "was it for a good enough reason? Is sex really all that important? She loved you!" That's the demon I'm fighting right now, which was planted deep in my brain decades ago when I was raised single-mother style. Regarding the numbers, do you really think it's that important for me to start right away? Not sure how I would handle rejection right now. I'm thinking monk mode for a few months of focused cognitive repai… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Broke Off 6 Year LTR / Reeling on Hardcore Oneitis, Could use AdviceThanks for your post. You are probably 100% right - I still have all kinds of mental folding and pruning to do before I begin to genuinely believe in abundance mentality. I realize how important it is to develop but I'm just not "there yet" because I've only ever dated two women, both in extremely long term relationships. You also make a good point about my emotions catching up later once I do start to believe in abundance. That's a very logical statement, outlining the incongruity between my de… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 01:39 AM |
| 1 | The Rules of TinderIf I could upvote you more I would. The "eye contact" rule is amazingly subtle and powerful; and I've been needing a better source of haircuts.. off to find a gay hairdresser! | /r/TheRedPill | 11/07/15 04:14 PM |
| 4 | How does a Red Pill Man act as a novice?I work in I.T. There are many levels of expertise layered into the industry. And no matter what you know, there is always someone who knows more. Alot of knowledge can be self-taught, but when it comes to experience and application its quickest to learn through someone who is already good at it. Identify who those people are for your chosen skill. Introduce yourself, see if you can learn anything from them directly or if they are willing to teach you. I've had alot of mentors and many pupils. Ev… | /r/askTRP | 19/06/15 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be Alpha without a Thundercock?Test to see if I'm allowed to reply. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 08:08 PM |
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