TL;DR

Made girl cagey & self conscious when she declared she had HSV1, chased her, brought her back into bed. Then she said she didn't want to fuck more than one dude at a time, despite being naked in my bed 30s away from fucking. Failed shit tests?

I met a girl at a gathering of mutual friends and acquaintances (no close friends of mine in this group). In hindsight, from the very first moment she saw me, she was sending signals that she was into me. IOI/eye contact, was finding ways to be in my path or around me, waiting for me to initiate, etc.

That day I was too busy macking on other girls and having a good time to really do anything with her, other than get her name and apply a bit of light teasing in a brief 1-2 minute conversation. The next week I mostly ignored her, even though I could tell she was still trying to put herself in my way.

Eventually, I wound up at a new acquaintance/friend's house without realizing she lived there. The IOIs came hard and fast. I was feeling stupid that night so before I left, I made a pitstop by her bedroom door to ask if I could come inside and lay down. Rejected. TBH I figured that would be the end of it, but she stalked a few pictures on facebook, sent me some messages, and eventually I asked her out last week.

We went out this past Saturday and had what I figured was an overall good date. IOIs were still there, but the conversation lulled for the first hour, and then picked back up after a few drinks and a venue change. I took her to my favorite local pub, got a little social proof from the regulars and bartenders, and had a pretty interesting interaction with a HB7-8 indian girl who was way too drunk. Bear in mind the girl I was on a date with is maybe a HB5.

Her car was parked at my apartment, so after the bar we drove home about 1-2 o'clock, good and liquored up and still having fun with eachother. I threw my arm around her and brought her inside (didn't ask "do you want to come in?", just did it). Once inside I let my dog out for a minute, then walked her straight into the bedroom, undressed her and chucked her on the bed.

Now this is probably where I fucked up.

Girl asks: "Do you do this kind of stuff alot?"

RPToolbox: "Don't answer that question, or if you do, make it seem like the answer is yes."

Me: "Lol what do you mean by alot? What do you think we're about to do?" (teasing tone)

Girl: "Well, I just need to know you know what you're getting into. I have cooties. HSV1."

Me: "Uhh, what's that, like cold sores? Everyone has that."

I could tell she was stressin' it though, so I dialed back. I laid down on the bed with her, pulled her into my man nook, said thanks for having the balls to say something and don't worry about it. I held her for about 5-10 minutes until things got too conversational, then I put my finger on her lips and told her to just be quiet and relax.

She got super cagey from this point on. After I told her to be quiet, she got up, got dressed and started to walk out. I followed. At the door I said you don't have to leave and rubbed on her shoulder a bit for comfort. You're welcome to stay, but, if you still want to go, here's some directions. I only made the offer once, and she dwelled on it for a minute, then said it would be nice to stay over.

She came back to the bedroom. She undressed again, hopped back in bed, and we spooned for about another 5 minutes before I escalated with touch. She seemed into the process and let me do whatever I want, but when it came time to take the panties off she held them on. Didn't say stop, mind you, just held them on. I teased her about it and then just did some other shit, spanked her, pulled on her pierced nipples, etc. At one point I tried to take her panties off again, same story, she kept them on.

Eventually I rolled her up on top of me, and she started kissing my chest, my neck, etc, but then just sort of stopped. I could tell this wasn't getting anywhere so I pointed out the obvious - she felt uncomfortable. That did the trick. She rolled off me and sat there for a minute, and then said something about how she doesn't like to cross swords (aka was fucking another guy on the reg but still went out on a date with me).

I didn't know quite how to react and muttered something like "I understand," then she asked if I still wanted her to stay the night so we could "cuddle". I said "that depends, do I need to spell it out for you?". She took the hint and left.

As I write this I'm sure I could have handled it better, and since this is my first "1st date" in about 6 years and the first time I have EVER gotten a girl in bed on the first date I'm feeling pretty ok about how things went down. But I'm still confused about the panties situation. The fuck are you supposed to do if a girl just stops you from taking her panties off? Why are you stopping me? Don't you want this? I know the term for this is LMR and I'll be doing some more reading on it today.

I felt like it was a Fuck or Walk moment, and she ended up walking probably because I made her self-conscious about the HSV1 and then went full beta retard about her mentioning the other guy. Not that I'm super sad I didn't fuck a girl I knew was dirty by that point, but still. Let me know what you gents think.