Dread already needed after 1.5 months?

midnightrequest · 2016-12-11T15:28:59+00:00

Two possibilities come to mind. It's either a shit test like you've mentioned (and it probably is if you're lifting and decently good at holding frame) in which case you should just work her relentlessly for sex and fuck her more dominantly. Don't take no for an answer, keep touching, kissing, playing etc.

Or she is trying to betafy you and control you through the use of sex in which case you should apply dread and maybe soft next.

I can't determine which is the case from your post, so just my 2 cents.

CommodoreSillyPants · 2016-12-11T15:14:42+00:00

You need to work on your abundance mentality. Youl don't fully understand trp well enough to commit yet. Go find 2 or 3 other girls for the 5 other days in the week.

Thizzlebot · 2016-12-11T18:01:47+00:00

You should always be using dread, you are supposed to ramp it up when things aren't going the way you like.

raisins3142 · 2016-12-11T18:10:04+00:00

Has this girl had a lot more sex than you have?

If so, then the premature ejaculation could be off putting. Why would she want to have sex if it doesn't last long enough for her to even start getting into it let alone orgasm?

If she was attracted to you and you were dicking her down, then after only 1.5 months this likely would not be an issue.

That's me being blunt to point out what I guess is the actual underlying dynamic.

I would pull away a bit and make her chase you. If she doesn't then you have your answer.

As far as how to get over premature ejaculation, you'll have to get answers from others or look up your own resources. I'm lucky that stress/nerves always delayed my orgasm.

jimmiepop · 2016-12-11T22:47:21+00:00

Jesus Fuck, what is wrong with you people?!?

One other problem is that I ejaculated prematurely nearly everytime I put on a condom and she doesn't seem to like receiving oral.

She doesn't want to fuck because you suck in bed and failed to make that pussy sing. Your job is to MAKE. THAT PUSSY. SING. You already know this.

I do fully realize I am not a competent lover yet.

Keep your focus on the objective you have already identified - becoming a ~~competent~~ great lover. Get some priligy (dapoxetine sodium - single dose ssri for PE; jcm-rx.es), read the Sex God Method, and get the fuck to WORK. Making the pussy sing solves 80% of female problems; sets the stage for solving the another 15%; and the last 5% are not worth solving. It is also the backbone of truly great game.

And ignore all the nonsense.

It's ... a shit test

she is trying to betafy you

work on your abundance mentality

 My personal favorite! Cause if you can't fuck one girl right, fuck three!

focus less on sex

 Also genius! You suck in bed soooooo, stop fucking!

You should always be using dread

 Oh, she's got the dread, bitch. She's dreading fucking OP.

You make that bitch cum every time you fuck her, preferably multiple times, and she's yours.

loveydovey2121 · 2016-12-11T16:46:46+00:00

You need to establish that you are the gatekeeper to sex ASAP. You guys fuck when you want to fuck. You know what turns her on, do those things. Do them until she can't resist you.

SovereignWings · 2016-12-11T17:11:14+00:00

Dunno where these other guys are coming from.

If a girl gives you any kind of stiff LMR after the first 2-3 lays, you need to ease back and relax. Disengage and start doing something else after 5-10 minutes of cuddling. Maybe try again later.

Your main problem though is this bitch sounds like your only source of pussy. Here's a tip, if she is the only one she is not your plate, you are hers. The correct move when they deny you sex is to pull out your phone and call the next girl on your roster who won't.

Also, don't see new girls more than once a week as a rule. This is to establish dread and maintain attraction. If s girl fucks you 5 times and then you don't call her on Friday/Saturday to hang, she will assume you are fucking someone else. And that's exactly what you want her to assume.

Seeing her 2+ times a week and always wanting sex makes you seem too available, and desperate. Game is all about making her want sex as much or more than you do. Part of that is teasing, dread, and holding back when you could fuck but she doesn't want it enough to be worth it. This is all learned through experience and you will get better over time.

Regarding your situation, here is my specific advice:

Think horizontally not vertically. Game new women and get another plate. Spend a minimal amount of effort to keep this girl spinning, and if she gives you sub par sex, then your needs are not being met and you should soft next.

mushroommountains · 2016-12-11T21:26:15+00:00

If she only fucks you twice a week that's a problem. The premature ejaculation could cause her to not want to fuck you, do kegels and practice masturbating for longer and longer. More importantly don't LTR a girl that only fucks you twice a week

oldredder · 2016-12-14T10:14:25+00:00

Some women need to be managed with Dread Game (tm) every day.

A woman not interested in sex is just pretending to be attracted to you for some other reason. Women actually interested in sex will beg 3 times a day for it.

One other problem is that I ejaculated prematurely nearly everytime I put on a condom and she doesn't seem to like receiving oral.

Failure. It's over. Women DO NOT LIKE a man who can't last. I'd have to guess the minimum would be 25 minutes as a "barely pass" but usually I go for like 3 hours. I have had 2 times ever in my life shooting off early and the one time I just didn't care about the bitch and otherwise had fucked her for many hours at a time so I just didn't keep trying. The other one it was a one-off but plenty of times fucked her for hours at a time before and after and she loved having her pussy licked so I did that a lot and got plenty of BJ's too so it was really good for a while.

Title	Dread already needed after 1.5 months?
Author	w435132sdgret
Upvotes	11
Comments	23
Date	December 11, 2016 3:09 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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