Looking for some proper advice here..

IsaacJRLi · 2018-12-21T23:40:31+00:00

Yet i still only attract the same typecast of people as before - the smart geeky type, which i know I am aswell.

This is the result of your frame. It's up to you if you think it's a good/ bad thing.

Eventually i barely get messaged by people, or invited in Friday nights. Often get called a cynic.

Continue to engage and work on conversation with people. You'll find that as you get better, they invest in you and perhaps invite you to events/ parties etc.

Have read the sidebar and so many different books and articles, and its all getting frustrating and lonely..

Take it slow... I read it too and it could make anyone angry. But, taking it in chunks and seeing it in reality will ease it up.

I hate whining guys but i could really use some proper advice right now..

It's quite understandle as we are in a thread that exposes the reality of social dynamics.

Take time. Work on you. Be patient with yourself and others!

TheRedPillMonkey · 2018-12-22T00:23:23+00:00

Whining = complaining about something you have control over. You're here asking for advice. That's not whining.

Been in your shoes. My advice: hang a hard left and do something way the fuck out of your comfort zone. Engage in a hobby you never thought you would. Go work as a bartender at night. That kid you grew up with who is in a different friend group? Yeah, go chill with those guys for awhile.

I'm an introvert at heart, and the nature of us is we analyze everything. At one time, I learned that the deepest analysis you can so isn't worth shit if you don't have the experiences, and that life is equally about dealing with things on the fly, as it is analyzing things from afar.

So go identify something totally atypical for yourself, and give it hell.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-12-22T03:54:54+00:00

Take a basic acting class. Teaches you to stop paying attention to the specifics of language.

Either way I still don't know how to properly talk with them.

Anything you actually say < your timing, phrasing, and tone of voice < your overall frame and attitude.

What you say in particular doesn't matter very much. Focus on an Amused Mastery frame.

Read: "Women: the most responsible teenager in the house."

Most women your age, deep down still see themselves as awkward 11 year olds getting their first period. Their emotions haven't made it much farther than that point. They suffer from a deep sense of role confusion.

Are you worried about what an 11 year old kid thinks of you? Are you worried about what to say to them?

You say whatever the fuck you want, you tell them what you want them to do for you. You get them to qualify themselves to you. What is a kid going to do to you, call you names? Say "no"?

Women are just nervous, awkward, bratty teenagers inside. They hate having to act like responsible adults that other people expect them to be.

Women don't care whether you actually know what you're talking about. They just care if you act like the boss, a fun boss hopefully that likes to have a good time.

I look good . Am smart

Sounds like you don't believe it. You don't see yourself as the boss in your own life.

Title	Looking for some proper advice here..
Author	ShirDesEnzer
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	December 21, 2018 11:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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