met with some very close friends today and I lost frame every time I was shit tested. I was always qualifying myself. In my BP days I wouldnt have thought about it as much but as I improve myself I get really irritated after I come home. Few examples from today

1) went out with some friends and didnt invite the group of friends I went out with today. these guys were like, "thanks for the invite" very sarcastically. Instead of holding frame I started qualifying.

2) One of my friends told me to get the bill in a slightly commanding tone. I responded by asking why he doesnt call for it. He literally yelled saying I was closer to the waiter. To be honest he had a point and maybe I was looking too much into it? But after that I was complient with basically everything he asked me to do

Most of these guys have been my friends for more than 7 years and we have all helped each other multiple times. I wont break it off with them but what would be the best way to regain frame?