After a meditation session I came to a realization that, mostly with women once I start to invest a little more, I don't know how to contain myself when I know that I'm right. I feel like a pussy when I sit there and ignore bcuz there's a voice in my head screaming "You're RIGHT! She's speaking nonsense! Why are you letting this chick think otherwise and rub it in your face like this?" The crazy thing is, I know the why. I know that it's a fools errand to try to convince a woman that her feelings are wrong while she's feeling them. It's an urge that I get, and there's that ONE THING that I feel the need to clarify or dismiss or whatever, and before you know it we're back arguing about everything.

During arguments in my LTR, which always start off as me being calm and collected and her complaining about something that she feels entitled to (i.e. me making her wait 45 min because i'm the one giving her a ride and can't just drop everything and go), or catching an attitude with me for bringing something that she did to her attention to let her know to cut it out, or if I mention aaaaaaanything that I'm not satisfied with in the relationship she goes batshit lol I'm able to view it as entertaining because of the reasoning and everything, but she spews bullshit. A bunch of hypocritical statements, contradicting herself, and flipping things on me. I notice when she does these things so they don't "work" in the way they're supposed to work. I end up calling her out on what she does in the present moment and nothing gets accomplished because it starts an hour long back and forth where she formulates some bullshit and i have to call her out each time in an attempt to bring focus to the conversation. If I succeed, it ends in apology and good behavior on her part bcuz by that point I'm fed up with her. If I fail, it ends with her actually believing that all of the bullshit that she formulated during the conversation is true and that world is crashing down on her lol I leave when I fail and it turns into madness on my cell phone (that I don't respond to until it cools down).

I ranted a little, but it's my understanding that you do not argue with women, I understand why, and I understand that your LTR shouldn't be an exception to the rule.

-How do I state boundaries if it's always met with her being defensive and combative?

-Would ignoring her (in the same space) while she argues really work? -If YES, do you really ignore EVERYTHING? Including disrespectful words or those times when it seems like her understanding a situation better would end all of it?

-Is it ever worth it to explain your point to her if it seems she's not understanding?

She goes ape shit when I walk out lol so I save that for when it gets to the point where I'm not coming back that day so I'm not sitting there dealing with it. But for clarification, we don't live together. I ONLY go to hers, if we argue and I try to walk away on bad terms she completely flips the script and goes batshit crazy for about 10 maybe 15 minutes with words,actions,etc (one time she stood in front of my car so I couldn't pull off/one time she took my car key and hid it), realizes that it's not helping and then she goes to the "I'm so sorry, let me make it up to you just please don't leave" script. It's repetitive and doesn't go off script too much, so with that being the case, I've played with it and tested different reactions on my part. Working on being less reactive to shit like this, can't find the winning formula tho. Grinds my gears.