LTR cheated by me

effyouasshole · 2019-05-09T17:32:13+00:00

What the hell i do now?

Is excessive drinking a pattern with you? If so, you need to quit entirely. Regain control of yourself.

In the meantime, keep your mouth shut. Unless you're an idiot.

StellarMemez · 2019-05-09T18:00:43+00:00

One part of me wants to confess all

The idea that telling the truth is a morally good and rewarding thing, in and of itself, is a blue pill idea (kind of dark unfortunately).

Recognize this, and understand that you will logically be worse off for telling her.

Also consider the stories you read here, about all the saps who found out their girlfriend did what you did, but did it on purpose and kept it as a dirty secret, banging the chad repeatedly and treating their boy like crap until they got caught. These bitches don't have this part:

One part of me wants to confess all

So having it yourself is a disadvantage and a blue pulled trait. It complies with their imperative; you want to sacrifice yourself while they take whatever they want without remorse. AWALT.

Keep it to yourself if you want to keep your girl. Consider her lucky to have you exclusively.

[deleted] · 2019-05-09T17:40:19+00:00

Lesson learned. Learn from your mistakes, don't put yourself in that situation again if you don't want to feel guilty anymore. Proceed as if nothing happened.

isthisalreadyused · 2019-05-09T18:22:18+00:00

Just don't tell her. Stop getting that drunk as well

batmangetsblumps · 2019-05-09T21:49:21+00:00

It's only a mistake if you do it twice. Telling her is only hurting you and her. Don't do it again. The bad feelings you have now fade away with time.

civilizedfrog · 2019-05-09T18:01:10+00:00

Ignorance is bliss, my friend. Don't tell her.

Bruchibre · 2019-05-10T07:00:35+00:00

Dude you didn't even bang her. Keep it secret, forget about it. Never confess even under torture. If you feel bad about it it's your punishment, deal with it. Millions if guys cheat their LTRs every day.

bruiser18 · 2019-05-11T17:27:27+00:00

I don’t see the problem here.

[deleted] · 2019-05-09T23:18:04+00:00

Once is a mistake twice is a choice.

Burton969696 · 2019-05-09T23:32:56+00:00

I think I’d rather be the guy to own up to everything. Sure you can just keep it to yourself if you want and maybe she won’t ever find out, but that’s if you can live with that. I’d rather be the bigger person. Yeah maybe if the roles were reversed she wouldn’t do me any justice by telling me, but I can’t control her actions, only my own. You know you fucked up, and you can either wallow in self pity or fix yourself. Don’t get sloppy drunk anymore and if you value something, don’t put yourself in situations where you’ll fuck yourself over due to lack of self control.

FlyGuwop · 2019-05-09T16:59:00+00:00

SPIN. MORE. PLATES.

rcwhitaker · 2019-05-09T17:14:18+00:00

I'm a big tell the truth guy. Now doing so will put serious strain on your relationship and probably never really go away, may break the relationship altogether. With that said, the awfulness of the experience will likely prompt you to not make such an error again, i.e. not getting plastered drunk to the point of making such bad decisions.

Title	LTR cheated by me
Author	Dronitto
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	May 9, 2019 4:56 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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