I am new to having a relationship and I would like to try it out and see what it's like and how different it is to spinning plates. How do I voice that I dislike something she does without sounding like a bitch? Withdrawing attention seems like a good idea but would she get the memo? For example she said if I picked her up at the bar she would come back early (or else after 10pm) (We live close and my pillow is at her house) but I told her to just come back. I called her and asked if she was drunk and she said no but this behaviour is something I don't really like.

2 questions: 1. How do I voice my dislikes? 2. Am I being too much of a control freak? I utilised RP on this test-drive (dread, hamstering, etc) but I'm still pretty new to how much commitment I should give to the point that It won't hurt me badly when we break up.