Marriage? Need advice

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-07-08T15:28:41+00:00

FINALLY!

I’ve been at MRP for over a year while my BP marriage went to shit with a branch swinging wife. I’m spending more time here as I embrace my new freedom, with resources all my own.

I’m 56. Married 23 years total to two women.

Here is my RP perspective on marriage.

I will be gentle...

WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU??!!

Have you read The Rational Male?

No? Obviously not.

Nothing gets easier, or better, with marriage.

Absolutely NOTHING.

You lose freedom, sex, autonomy, sex, money, sex, competition anxiety...it ALL goes down hill.

Sources:

r/affair, r/divorce, r/deadbedrooms, r/MRP

Why? Because most of you wannabe motherfuckers think marriage is the finish line. You think you’ve made it and after a couple kids, you retire to the couch with a pint (or four) and some football.

Guess what? She does, too.

5-7 years in, you’re thinking, “This kinda sucks, but I don’t want to get divorce-raped, take 40% of my shit, and have her fuck another man in my bed while she raises my children to hate me.” (Thank you u/VasiliyZaitzev)

5-7 years in she’s thinking, “Fuck, I am so sick of his shit. He’s fat, worthless, does nothing but watch football and drink beer and use it as an excuse to watch the kids. I can do better.”

And one day, you notice your wife looks better, lost weight, better dress, higher heels, and...fuck...is she going out now for the third time this week with her “girlfriends?”

And then, she can and DOES do better.

Ask me how I know. (I bet you can guess)

I was the typical BP male.

My soon-to-be ex-wife is a living, textbook example of female solipsism and hypergamy.

Now, there is only ONE FUCKING REASON to get married.

For the sex? FUCK no; pardon the pun.

For the constant company? Dogs are cheaper, easier to train, and more loyal.

For the money? Your LTR/wife, win, lose, or draw, will cost you more than all of your houses and cars.

Then WHY get married?

Children.

But WHY children?

For your legacy?

No.

If your last name isn’t Rockefeller or Vanderbilt, YOU DON’T HAVE A FUCKING LEGACY!

Right now, you can name your parents, and probably all four grandparents; but how many of your eight GREAT grandparents can you name?

BOOM MOTHERFUCKER!!

The memory of you is gone by the third generation and your genetic material is diluted to <12%.

So WHY CHILDREN?

Because when you are old, THEY are the ones who will take care of you, and love you with their genetic material, 50% of which came from you, as long as you raised them right.

Have you read The Rational Male?

“But, but Matrix, what about the wife?”

Yeah, what about her?

When you’re 85 and she’s 82, what fucking good is she? Companionship? Buy a fucking dog. Reasons aforementioned.

In the meantime, if YOU aren’t taking care of HER sorry, useless, dry old hole, it’s because she predeceased you.

Fuck.

Read The Rational Male, right fucking now.

And if you’ve already read it, you’ve slept since then, so READ IT AGAIN!

A marriage CAN work, as long as YOU DO THE WORK, the RP work.

Marriage is not the finish line, it’s the...

FUCKING STARTING LINE!!

The first day of marriage is your baseline. Slip below it and your marriage starts to end. Continually rise above, get fitter, make more money, become and remain her best option, maintain competition anxiety, and you have a fucking CHANCE of going the distance. But if you fail, or she simply changes HER mind, you will continue to GET FUCKED WITHOUT GETTING LAID.

Have you read The Rational Male?

I did.

6 times.

AFTER wasting 23 years of my life, losing $1.3million, and burying one of my children that died in my first wife’s custody.

Smart people learn from their own mistakes.

Wise people learn from OTHER’S mistakes.

But don’t take my word for it.

Read The Rational Male, and head on over to MRP and find out why marriage is TRP on hard mode.

Rant over.

Rapante · 2018-07-08T10:33:00+00:00

Your only real power is the one to walk away at any time. You don't actually need to do it, the implied threat of it is usually enough to keep her in line. When you marry, you sort of lose that. There is not much you can do when she behaves badly.

You gave some other good reasons why it would be a bad idea in your particular case. What exactly would you gain?

CaptDeadlift · 2018-07-08T10:38:10+00:00

I feel like marriage has no real value because a shit relationship is going to remain shit regardless and a good one will remain good even after.

Usually the argument most people say is that women take a risk by not marrying and while that is true ( the wall) , men take a risk for marrying.

Imo if you have a good relationship going there is absolutely no point in marriage.

Another argument for pro marriage is that its harder to check out of a marriage but to me that just screams scarcity mentality.

'Yeah my wife did bad to me but what if I don't find a woman as good as my wife'

I am still young ( 20) and women dgaf about marriage right now but later on they will definitely find it a dealbreaker.

If I were to marry someone that would happen with a 22-24 year old when I am in my mid to late 30s lol.

People include the benefits regarding laws but for a man the negatives easily outweigh the positives unlike for a woman who is most likely win from a marriage.

Later I will definitely want to have kids but it will be on a no marriage and got plenty of friends who turned out great people coming from a non married family.

Morphs_ · 2018-07-08T13:24:30+00:00

Last year I've been to London and my god, the women there. Could've hit it off with this Polish/Egpytian chick if BP me back then wasn't in an LTR, oh well. Anyway, you've living right in the honey pot.

Also, see this video about age and SMV. You are about to hit your prime age in life. You'll be able to plate a complete harem of dick-wanting chicks. Go out and lift, become amazing and your life will be amazing. You don't even realize the potential.

I still want to have sex with other women.

This is what always happened to me in LTRs. Eventually the hunter would take over. All this LTR stuff is fine and easy, but eventually boring. I want to hunt and ravage women. I find that a much better destiny than being a "good boy" who does what the rest wants. Also, I've never felt like a woman was "the one" for me. With my RP experience this year, I've learned the LTRs make sexual attraction fade. It turns you into "life partners" or "roommates". Over time, it drains away all the passion.

Clearly you're still in that mindstate, thinking this:

I just think that starting a family is the right thing to do.

There is no right way. Only your way. What way makes you most happy? Have you ever experienced true abundance? Having 2-3 girls text you for dick at the same time? Your current scarcity mindset holds you in place, and you don't feel happy there. You don't owe the world a family.

But then won't I be lonely when I'm 50, 60? Should I be settling down now that I'm 30? I mean, most of my friends have.

This is an honest and good question, to which I don't know the answer. But then again, maybe that answer doesn't need to be there already. I know guys who get kids in their 40s-50s with a young chick. It all depends on how you live. There are also posts of guys in their 50s explaining what their life is like having multiple young plates/gfs.

This path is for the bold, but its rewards are great. I notice how some recently married friends respond when I tell about my adventures. They know they'll never be experiencing any of this and it seems to bother them. Some hamster away some shit about true connection, but that honestly is something you need to fulfill in yourself IMO. With all said and done, this year I realize that it seems like the grass is greener on my side.

TheIcePill · 2018-07-08T10:35:26+00:00

There is this One girl..

nummas · 2018-07-08T12:03:44+00:00

Hight risk and pretty much fuck all reward. You literally gain nothing. Let me know something good you can only get by getting married.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-07-08T13:54:48+00:00

> I just wanted to get the thoughts of TRP on marriage.

It's a shit deal.

> I would say I do 80% of the housework, the cleaning, the tidying, the washing etc. And I feel like I'm not the most important person in her life, when she should be making time for me.

So you're the "wife".

Also, Dump.That.Bitch.

>And then I have this niggling feeling that I still want to have sex with other women.

That 'niggling feeling' is what's left of your balls, trying to save you.

>I mean, in London there is so much to choose from, I just think I'm missing out. I love chasing women and I'm unsure whether this feeling should have left because I've been in a relationship for 3 years.

Evidently, she missed some of your bits when she had you gelded.

>But then won't I be lonely when I'm 50, 60?

"But...but...but I'm AFRAID!!!"

Stop being a pussy. Never, ever make decisions out of fear. The "lonely old man" bit is a myth. Besides, there's nothing to stop your wife from turning you into a 'lonely old man' by divorce raping your ass later, although, as I understand it, the UK has more sane divorce law than the US does.

>Should I be settling down now that I'm 30? I mean, most of my friends have.

Why? They gave up. They stopped competing. If they get fat an anesthetize themselves with lager and sportsball, should you do that, too?

>Would really appreciate some insight, cheers

Look, I'm 50. I maintain sexual relationships with multiple women who are, with one exception, under 25. I am not "lonely" at all. It's not necessarily the easy path, there are women who, if I said, "Hey, let's get married" they would reply "How about tomorrow?" When someone says, "But what about when you're 60?" I say, "Ten years ago, you'd have said, 'but when about when you're 50?' should I have run out and wifed up some tatted, cankled bar skank?" It turns out 50 is AWESOME. You have to stay on your game: keep fit, make yourself exceptional in one or more ways, and rock out with your cock out.

Title	Marriage? Need advice
Author	scriptjava42
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Date	July 8, 2018 10:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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