What do I mean by this?

Women's language is covert. Men's overt. Women's way of survival is by being. Men's by doing.

Thus, she doesn't know how it is to do stuff to be known (masculinity), she only knows you have to.. Just be (femininity). And this failure of knowledge (only knowing from her side) is the so-called solipsism (her in the centre of her own universe etc).

She wants to know you. She wants you. But, when YOU DO stuff for her, she cannot translate this as being you. She only translates it as bribery (at most). Vice-versa, she wants to be qualified for what she is, not what she does. Or, if you do qualify her for what she does, complete the sentence with "because it makes you look / appear / be more...". It works wonders.

I think women, subconsciously, somehow know they when you do, it's within a mission and towards a goal. And she doesn't need it to be your goal. She may want it, but she truly doesn't need it She wants to be herself. She NEEDS to be herself. To relax with the alpha SHE DESERVES.

TO DESERVE = To work for = To do for = goal

She wants TO DO stuff for you. She inherently, somehow, knows that, by doing stuff, it's for something or someone important. Something you need or, at least, want.

If she just is and you just are and you both do some stuff to explore each other, good. It can lead to sex / fuck buddies or even some type of LTR. But the best type of dynamic is where she does stuff for you and she gets her appreciation for who she is, expressed through doing, and where you simply are your (true and best) self with her and are appreciated by what you actually do, expressed through who you are.

Get it? She does stuff for you NOW, in hope you notice HER. You are your best self NOW, displaying what YOU CAN DO.

Cause feminine is about the present (live the moment, go with the flow) and masculine is about potency (what you can do if, control).

And, from this, I think (and it's a personal remark) a lot of good quality game can come.

Example: Her investing = greater expectations (potency is visible - doing: IS), but her falling in love (potency mesmerizes - being: TO MESMERIZE) IS A Your investing = lowered expectations (already being there - being), but her falling out of love (you already do a lot - doing)

So.. Doing in the now and being in the near future. Coming from the woman = love Coming from the man = disgust (check Briffault's Law)

So.. Should you not invest? No. Invest only to display future potential. If your investment gives more hope, do it. But just for her to open up to your potency (femininity opens up to masculinity - so.. masculinity in the 'being', femininity in the 'doing'). When she does, make her invest and revert the dynamic BACK TO its natural course.

Conclusion:

DO stuff for you first. DO stuff for her, only to show more potency (giving hope), only after she deserves it and this after she does some too. When she does stuff, find her self within what she does. She doesn't care that much about WHAT you do, she just wants to connect.

BE yourself, your true best self, with her. Then, when she opens up, test her opening and put her to work. Towards you, of course. Then, notice her self hidden or displayed through her actions towards you. She doesn't want to open you, she just wants you. Your truest you. Your masculin CORE.

Don't do for her. Don't open up, don't close down, don't change for her, don't put up walls, don't qualify, don't do. Your doing is your expression as a man, but she wants to see it at your own volition, when she doesn't even expect it. For the rest, she wants your being. Your way to be.

Don't be reactive. Be proactive. It's what she wants. And, much more important, it's what you truly want, at your core. Without sometimes knowing it, maybe.

She wants to contribute. Test her, then let her. Then attempt for more.

Caveat: I'm talking Alpha Fucks. I'm talking both interaction and relationship. I'm talking Beta Bucks doesn't exist in the above context. If you want to take care, protect and have a relationship / companionship with a woman, do it cause you want to, not cause you need to. And not cause she mentions it. Even if she does, AT LEAST save some time (for self awareness to kick in) and make it APPEAR TO BE like you already thought about it, but WANTED TO SEE IT FROM HER FIRST and other stuff from her as well (her opening up to you and you checking her).

You already knew you have to put them to work. I do hope some of you know understand why.