Hi, a little story about what happened to me last week when I tried to apply the MM "Models" method by polarizing. And why I am grinding my teeth.

Set up a date with this girl that was kinda elusive, but I managed to get her out for a second date last week.

We had met each other about 6 months ago and had a one night stand. I liked her so I hit her up last month again after a large period of no contact.

So we meet at this lounge bar, drinks, kino, touching and kissing. It's all good up until this point.

Sidenote: As I have been trying to shed my PUA-ways the last couple of years, and after reading "Models" it all made a lot of sense to me, I decided to try and be done with the gimmicks and be grounded in my own desires and beliefs.

So at a certain point she asks me:"Would you be hurt if I would not contact you anymore?". Lovely shittest, yes.

Now, this is NLP-territory. The word "hurt" can have different meaning depending on who uses it.

Anyway, I decided to just...Mark Manson it. "Yeah" I say matter of factly.

She goes :"Oh for real? That fast??"

Crap, this is not good. Must maintain composure.

"Yeah" after a couple of seconds.

All this done very laid back. No love declarations, no sappiness in any way, shape or form, and after this small episode it's not like she wanted to bail or anything. Not outwardly anyway. We kissed some more, take a small walk on the beach, she takes my hand, we kiss some more.

We walk up to where her car is parked. I wish her goodnight and tell her to drive safe. Isolation that evening was out of the questions because reasons.

Anyway, you guessed it: zero effort to contact me from her part.

Now, I took this risk, but I wanted to tell the regulars about it: maybe I misunderstood something about MM. Maybe it was beautifully executed and I managed to weed out a potential time waster. Maybe the lack of contact is a test on her part (doubt it tbh).

MM writes that the change can be brutal. I am grinding my teeth because I know this was going to be a done deal and I took a chance that went against everything I learned about women.

Two questions:

Was this textbook "models" methodology? It smells of Beta.

Also,

Do I contact this girl in a couple of days and be totally chill? I have been thinking a lot about congruence. Me not losing my marbles over her while at the same time expressing the interest I did as above...doesn't seem a very common occurence.

She will most likely not answer or blow me off anyway, but still, your thoughts please?

Thanks in advance.