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I'm 18M, recently lost my virginity and i have 2 FWB relationships now (plates).
In total, i've had sex 3 times and it's going to be a lot more next week.
My first time, i didn't expect a lot. I thought i would cum in 10 seconds. I ended up hard-fucking 30 minutes straight without feeling anything, the last 5 minutes i started to feel something and finished with an orgasm that didn't even feel that good. For the first 20 minutes, i couldn't even feel my dick being hard inside. (it was though). Eventually i went to check on my penis, and after pulling out it went semi-hard immediately. I kept losing my erection after that a couple times.
Note: she was wet as hell, after some googling that could have been a factor.
Now since i didn't feel anything, you might think my penis is too small to hit her walls. It's not even small; ~about 6.3 by 4.9 inch, which, in the Netherlands, is average and she was not a big girl. I also use the XL durex condoms, which are 57mm in width, so that could not have been a factor.
First time, kinda bad, so i went on no fap for 4 days and fucked a different girl. Again really wet and this one did give me a blowjob. I thought that the no foreplay of my first girl made a difference. Couldn't feel a thing during 2 minutes of the bj and then finished with an orgasm that felt 10 times worse than masturbation. After that, i got it hard after 10 minutes and started fucking her. Didn't feel a thing and lost my erection after like 10 minutes. Couldn't get it full hard after.
I am circumsized, and my head is almost completely insensitive, it's the shaft that feels the best. This for sure is playing a factor.
What can i do to get more pleasure from sex? I am going to combine both, getting a bj for like 1 minute and then fucking her. That will work for sure. But why do i keep losing my erection? And why do i feel almost no pleasure from this?
TLDR: didn't feel anything during my first 3 sex experiences until the last minutes and keep losing my erection after a while all the time. What can i do to make sex more pleasureable for myself, which is also better for the girl?
[–]GameThe1 points [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Dude the head is where you should enjoy it not the shaft.. is it insensitive when u jerk off? İf yes, u might consider seeing a doctor
[–]Throwawayjohnsmith131 points [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
No it's not insensitive when u jerk off, because you move the skin on the head and back. With sex that doesn't happen. Also, my head is not covered by any skin, so it's a lot more insensitive as it's always in the open. Showering for example first hurt like hell, now i don't feel shit anymore.
[–]juaracam 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]GameThe1 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Man i think shaft of your dick is thicker than the head so the ‘tight’ part is your shaft therefore making it feel like that. Were you drunk at any times of those times you had sex?
İt should pass by time i guess and when jerking off dont play with the skin instead use lube and move your hand up and down w/o the skin.
[–]Throwawayjohnsmith131 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
And i wasn't drunk, just tired which might have played a factor as well.
[–]GameThe1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Man you are just not happy banging or you are over thinking, drink 2 glasses of wine next time and im sure it will be okay and try to use extra thin condoms
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[–]Throwawayjohnsmith131 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
But what about the erectionloss and not feeling a thing at all? Those are worse than the orgasm being kinda bad.
[–]TheBrokenRuler 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]OxfordCommasRGud1 points [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Do you mean 4.9” circumference or width? If circumference then I’m bigger and I use normal Durex. If width then as long as the condom is tight on your dick (a bit of an effort to pull down) then that’s fine - you just don’t want it like a carrier bag.
BJs (as you said) should increase blood flow to your dick which will increase sensitivity. Also, try out different positions, angles and stroke depths - mix it all up so it’s good for both of you.
Could be a lack of sensitivity, the type of sex you’re doing not being exciting enough for you or just a mental block in not actually being able to relax and enjoy the feeling.
[–]Throwawayjohnsmith131 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
4,9 inch circumference. I don't exactly know my size, but the XL ones are perfect tight when i'm full erect (don't really go full erect when having sex, which is the first big problem). The normal ones are tight as hell and if i pull them all the way down, they go up automatically.
I did full pound missionary with both girls for like 20 minutes. The first girl wanted to get on top, but i did not feel anything - back to missionary. The second girl i did doggy with, but after pulling out, my dick went semi hard and couldnt really get it anymore.
It might be a mental block and nerves are a factor for sure. None of the girls i've slept with clicked personality-wise.
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