I've met up with this girl around 8 times. I started off taking her on dates and on the third date we had sex (I actually wanted to take her on dates, didn't pay for her on the first date). Each subsequent date we would end up back at her or my place to have sex. I've met her friends and she's met some of mine. This is a girl that I really like and see as long term material. I'm very impressed with her because I took her out to dinner once, but I had forgotten the restaurant didn't take credit/debit cards. She paid for the meal with cash without hesitation. I started off texting her only to meet up but now we text about once a day. I feel like I'm in a very grey area because we haven't talked about exclusivity. I'm not clear where she stands and it's probable she might think our exclusivity is implied. She lives 2 hours away so I only see her about once every two weeks.

However, I have a very reliable plate that I specifically use for sex who lives about 10 minutes away. I have other girls in my area who I'm talking to and can possibly meet up with as well. I absolutely have no feelings for them. How do I figure out where this first girl stands without necessarily becoming exclusive? If she really wants exclusivity, I think I might cave because I do enjoy our time together. The other girls I see are just for fooling around. Are there signs I should look out for to see if she's seeking commitment? I feel like I'm getting the best of both worlds: dating a girl-next-door type and banging sluts. Should I just ride this out while it lasts?

I just want to know when I should stop seeing other girls so I don't mess things up with the first girl. I feel uncomfortable in this position because I'm always doubting myself. The funny thing is that after swallowing the red pill, it has become really difficult to consider a relationship.