It's been almost 6 months since I accepted TRP. Overall I'm a lot happier in my LTR than before. Most of the time I just handle shit tests by ignoring it. However, yesterday we went out and the server asked us a question about something we ordered. I asked her what she thought, and she start shit testing about how why I needed to ask her, etc. Seemed like a normal shit test.

I just told her I just wanted to know her preference, and continued acting like it was no big deal. It didn't really work, and I really couldn't get to change her mood. I tried doing everything I normally do, but nothing worked this time. Once, we got back I just basically continued saying I'm not gonna apologize because I didn't do anything wrong. But she was just fixated that I asked her because I have no confidence since "I can't make a decision" etc. Anyhow it ended with her throwing shit and getting more mad, but I stayed calm and maintained framed.

I usually just ignore and stop giving attention, until she apologized but it just never happened this time. In the end I told her we should take a break and she start sobbing etc. I'm so fucking confused about what to do. Was this honesty my mistake? Did I somehow fuck up this shit test? This is the first time maintaining frame didn't work for me. I have no idea what to do now.